Ever since I was old enough to understand the feeling of restlessness, injustice, of being hurt , depressed and unhappy, I went into an analysis of WHY I should be feeling so low ! Were the stars in my eyes blocking my vision ? Was I misunderstanding people , after all ? My biggest strength was people . I loved them to distraction . So, was I missing something here ?Apparently ! The thorn here was” to distraction”….a perfect imbalance, as I learnt later.
You cannot blame someone who grows up within a family set up where love is endless for looking at life with rose tinted glasses. Even today, when I listen to “Endless Love”, I have tears in my eyes. So, for such people, the popular phrase “growing up” is fraught with a fair amount of misery and disillusionment. The gradual discovery of people falling from the proverbial pedestal can be quite unsettling, believe me. It certainly tends to make a dent in the postulate; the generalization that all human beings are wonderful and perfect.
Thus, while stumbling through event after event as I added years and experiences to me life, I also discovered a definite pattern in my relationships. I met people, developed an attachment to them in my inimitable style that was so natural within me , and , later, discovered that each one had “feet of clay”. Of course, I was not to know at the time that these patterns were repeating deliberately so that I may learn from them, and until I learnt from them, they would keep confronting me .
If one gropes in the darkness hard enough and long enough for the light switch on the wall, one does find it eventually. And the room is illuminated so that one may see everything clearly. I started groping to find the switch a few years ago. Eureka ! I can now sing gleefully, “I think I’ve got it ! I think I’ve got it !”
Imagine the plight of human beings ! They come down on the physical plane from a perfect source into an imperfect world, only to find that their ultimate goal is to rediscover and return to that very source. To make matters more complicated, they are also participating in a hurdle race , with obstacles such as ego, conditioning, fears, complexes, prejudices and biases in their way, disabling them in many ways. Of course, there is a way out of these, the way of free will which may choose to be free of all the obstacles….OR , MAY NOT. So, this is not so easy as it is counteracted by all the various temptations and promises of pleasure and happiness. Although these are, to the thinkers, temporary sources of happiness, at best, not every human being is a thinker in the right direction. Everyone is searching for permanence and some are misguided into holding onto to the temporary as permanent.
Now, in this context, don’t our hurts , our pain seem miniscule ? I want to explain that we are all energy in motion. The whole creation is energy in motion. Therefore, everything is ever changeable. By the same principle, WE are also changing each second, physically, mentally and emotionally. Our attempt , therefore, in holding on to what is surely and certainly slipping away is , indeed, a futile one. Karmically, we have only the power of “now” in our hands and even that becomes the past and slips away in a heartbeat.
Let us also not forget that there are many shades of our present character and personality that emanate out of our past lives , the memories of which we carry with us life after life. No wonder it is not only difficult but impossible to understand a human being completely.Since we are all in this situation together, united in our diversities, the best we can do is understand ourselves and make the required changes within us , which will automatically change the space around us into a positive or negative one, depending on the quality of changes we have made within us.
Actually, life is simple if we adhere to the universal laws which negate personal egos, greed, imbalances of any sort, and encourage compassion, human equality , integrity and living in harmony with fellow beings and nature.
In today’s world, material gains and greed have translated into magnified egos and desires which have led to a corrosion of human relationships. Instead of loving people and using material things, we love material things and use people. The word “sacrifice” is no longer valid within a relationship context , though people will sacrifice a living being for their material possessions.
The good news is that universal laws are universally and eternally valid. Happy beginnings shall be made by rediscovering them. I mentioned earlier that we are energy in motion. Movement ensures freedom of space and evolution is possible only because of this space. Hence, in this journey of evolution, each one of us is alone. The challenge is to replace the negative with the positive initially, and then to rise above dualities to encompass the larger good.
Our challenge on a day-to-day basis is to counteract hurt and pain with compassion and forgiveness, keep faith that there is a bigger and more permanent success than what human beings term as “success” in this world. It is important to be spiritually rich than materially rich, balance out our needs which are commensurate with the laws of the universe. If we look at people as struggling to overcome the huge boulder like obstacles , we will realize that our expectations of them are, for them, a distraction at best, a distraction that they often resent and are in no mood to satisfy. The perfect cure for this is to ask ourselves who WE are without these expectations. Will unfulfilled expectations kill us ? Is it some insecurity in us which expects from another ? Does this imply that we have to work on ourselves to become whole and complete ?
Once we cease to base our happiness on external factors including people, we are actually standing at the door of happiness and looking within. If every drop in the ocean is clean, the ocean will be squeaky clean. We are the “drop” that needs cleaning. I have heard many people say, “why should I be the only one when others are not doing it ?” For the simple reason that you are responsible only for your own soul and emulating the less awakened is going to take you much longer to evolve.
Let us stop toeing lines and chalk out our own unique path of evolution and ascension, daring to be different while seeking an awareness of who we are and what is the true nature of the world. The higher path, the higher truth is always more difficult to access. To discover the fountain of happiness within each one of us is a wonderful starting point.
Happy beginnings towards Happy Beginnings !
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