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Unbridled ego


An unbridled ego, when unleashed among friends, family or acquaintances can be extremely damaging! It just destroys all value systems within such people.

Despite atrocities and destruction, goodness still prevails, though hanging by a slender thread, or the world would have come to an end. 

The most difficult thing to do is to withdraw our inner self when required. Because this is what a wise person does. It is not only about what to do but what not to do as well.

Actually, the unrefined ego makes choices that are harmful and can have a very isolating influence. It disrupts the flow in relationships and will always attract people who are not necessarily there to extend friendship. The ego bypasses straightforward people in a heart beat . All it wants is to be fed with praise, however false. So, ego driven people have no need for sincerity in relationships. They simply don’t dwell there.

The time now is a difficult one and we make it more so, due to our ignorance of the basic principles to adopt, especially when in society.

The calibre of influencers will help the transition into infusing more balanced parameters into people along with the wisdom that precedes this.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It’s time to heal ourselves. How much conflict do we want? Aren’t we tired? Of all the negativity, all the gnawing desires of more and more and more. Insatiable wants!

It’s time to heal. Empty out our hearts of all we have bottled up and release it all to the winds. Let’s breathe easier. Let’s love more. Forget and forgive hate, envy, cravings … and be at peace with ourselves.

What is it that we search? It is all within us.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Judge


The problem in relationships is that we judge our intentions but judge only the actions of others. And since we don’t have a clue about their intentions, we try to interpret their actions. By the way, we go very wrong in this exercise many a time.

How do we really know what someone is going through when they act? It is so possible that the action came from a troubled mind and had nothing to do with any intention to hurt or upset which we promptly DID get… upset! Why? Because we are unable to fathom people’s intentions and so, mis judge them.

So, rather than misjudge, do you know what we can do? Just give them the benefit of doubt. Why muddy your mind unnecessarily without possessing any data on others and with only the overt action to go by and to understand from?

We would not want people to do that to us. So, keep single standards and do as you would like others do unto you.

Life is cool. Two steps only…

Benefit of doubt

Move on. Good thoughts to sleep on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For a developing country, honing attitudes is the major requirement.

Professionalism in anything we take up is of prime importance. We have this tendency of taking advantage of anything and everything people want to get done through us. Taking advantage of people’s needs is an undesirable attitude. Making people chase you after they trust you and pay you for a legitimate deal which you take your time over accomplishing.  False promises and every procrastination that goes with it. Our intentions are dubious.

I have never understood this. Because the more genuine and efficient you are, the more good will you build up and the more work you get. What sense does it make to let people leave you with bad experiences, never to return?

We need dharma back in our lives. Honesty, simplicity, cleans mind and hearts, and empathy, all of which are necessary for a professional attitude and to sustain business and relationships.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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As you grow older, you realise that your accent is more and more on your health, physical, mental and above all, spiritual. Of course, attachments keep you engaged somewhat but mature thinking should keep us focused on the fact that we are closing in on the end of our journey sooner now, whenever time is up.

Becoming hard and non emotional is a tall order. Pain and suffering makes us human, though weak , too, hopefully, only momentarily. There are so many ways to look at everything. Whatever suits us becomes our path.

But, wisdom lies in not forgetting the basics of love and caring. Truth , simplicity and compassion never had substitutes. Our journey should not deviate from these principles because they are a part of our soul consciousness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Giving benefit of doubt is the cleverest self preservation policy. You want peace? Just give benefit of doubt.

Something important gets left out because of someone else? Just give benefit of doubt.

If your work doesn’t get done because the staff member was on the phone, please give benefit of doubt.

Do we see what’s going on? Anyone who is in demand can afford to shirk responsibility and because of our need of them, we compromise and keep compromising through … yes… benefit of doubt.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Loved ones weaken your strength sometimes.  How much of that feeling is love and how much attachment is vital to your well being. “Moha” which is attachment is considered a human affliction because it borders on ignorance of our spirituality. Attachment is limited to our time on the earth and makes us needy and dependent. On people, on material Possessions etc.  Even on getting love and attention. Crutches!

It pays to get stronger with every realization of being attached or it will keep us rooted while others move on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There is a big difference in wanting privacy and secrecy. Very often, I find that people use these as synonyms. But to me, the former is a genuine right and the latter a need for people who are hiding things from others from themselves, too.

When you see people hiding things, whether their personal life or anything else, it is because they know they are not doing the right thing. They are generally also in denial, or defiant and show a “don’t care” attitude because they are hiding from themselves. Not acknowledging the actual truth to them.

If truth be told, we would not find ourselves hiding or lying unless we knew what we were indulging in is wrong. And we can always argue about what is wrong and what is right, but we know, don’t we? That’s why we hide it in our dark spaces where we hope, no one will look. But we can. Only, Living with us is not strength with people generally. We get preoccupied with focusing on the lives of others only because we feel good only by pointing at the negatives of others.

It is quite amazing how life starts to sparkle if we can just give up thoughts and actions which will, we know for a fact, chase our peace and happiness away. But if we didn’t create some problems for ourselves, how would we go through life day after day, right? Why be simple when we love being complicated food for thought for those who learnt to simplify life and lead a decently honest existence.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I have learnt that not everyone who is knowledgeable is a good teacher. You have to have the knack of breaking it down to basics to make it acceptable, understood and palatable. I think the one effective way to teach is after you have experienced life and had a chance to introspect, analyze and then come to some valid conclusions about how life works.

Books can never substitute for experiences.

As for living life, the best attitude is that of a child who finds a miracle in everything.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Peaceful life


Life carries with it a lot of role plays. Many relationships if you would care to have them. So many names and tags! By virtue of birth or a choice of people you want to be around.

But I see many are trapped in those relationships Compulsions, not choices. Somewhere along the way, there was love and then there was none. Things change. People change and move on. New ones enter your life. Each one fulfils you in some way, if you don’t hanker for any special considerations.

Life can be simple if you truly let go. One day, we will all leave this world. So much misery; so much disease; so much agony for what?

Simplify your lives the only answer to a peaceful life. Let life seek you out instead of the other way round.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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