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We are very quick to brand life as unfair when things don’t go our way. As if life were a person giving us a hard time! Sounds funny, right? But we do this all the time. And then people get linked to the unfairness of life.

When something good happens, we take it as entitlement and forget it so quickly. We always feel we deserve the best of everything and not a moment of the opposite.

But who said so? Who developed a foolproof package to be delivered to the “deserving?” No answer! Whatever good that comes our way as freebies or good luck is a bonus for the hard work we may have put in. Nothing is a coincidence.

But what we call “adverse” is also what we deserve at that moment. Surprise tests! As we had in school, we always had to be prepared.

Hmmm. Time to draw parallels in our lives!

Surekha Kothari

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We generally live in a hypocritical society. In families too, there are different behavioral patterns demanded of different people. No one yardstick. I have heard this line ad nauseum since childhood.” You do the right thing. Never mind what others do”. Really! It sounds like a wonderful line but can be a terrible line as well.

What is expected behavior from an elder child of the family or an imported family member like a daughter in law is different from that of the younger people. Much leeway is given to the latter. Why? I have never understood this. What is good for one should be taught to or expected from the others too.

Over a period of time then, what happens is that responsibility falls only on the person doing the “right” thing , willingly or out of force and expected. And the others are super quick in taking the advantage. I have often said that injustice done over and over again to the “right” doer will reach a crescendo one day and that day, there is a possibility of a volcano eruption. All the rules will get destroyed in the lava of bottled up anger.

I would not advocate this system itself, because the ultimate results are drastic and painful. Indian parents are famous for installing this system and igniting many issues. Different rules for girls and boys, different rules for the daughters and daughters in law, different rules for the older and younger. And so on.

 So many reactions due to so much suppression of the spirit bordering on injustice among family members. And then they cry about families breaking up! You dare not speak up even if someone is being the cause of division of the family. “Do the right thing”. KEEP QUIET and LET IT BE. Wow! What a destructive mantra, right? You only have to see the results to know this.

Frankness and straightforwardness should pay if we are not complicated and do things in the right spirit, with the right intentions and good will and without silly rules that divide more than unite people.

And I do feel injustice MUST be expressed to stop the tyranny of the perpetrators. The popular theory of mother in law and daughter in law , warring family members, the tendencies of usurpation of finance and power etc. are already spelling a death knell for families and in turn, societies. The tragedy is: no one cares anymore and no one stops to think. And I think all this has happened because individuals have not been given their due, their freedom of spirit and equal respect to be they and interact with others on their own steam.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The current debate…conversions! We are so hung up on religious identities and intolerance of other religions that there are dedicated groups actively engaged in conversions. To what gain? Power? Controlling minds?

Isn’t it strange that no one thinks of conversion of their thoughts, destructive emotions, speech and actions? Even if we gloss over the conversion part, I don’t understand what kind of believers of a religion would want to convert others. Because enlightened people would live and let live.

Recently, there has been a picture of a temple in Dubai making rounds on whatsapp which shows a Hindu priest conducting a pooja and a Sheikh holding the pooja tray next to him. How beautiful and truly spiritual is this!

Conversions are so superficial. The soul has no religion. We just need reasons to ignite fires to control the masses. If you really mean business, why don’t you convert yourself, first from prejudices and hatred and second, from any kind of emotional negativity?

If this happens, conversions will be a thing of the past.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The fragility of life! The desire to live and the illusion of being immortal keep us going. When there is a death, it only comes to the next door neighbor. Such is our mental makeup.

But life is fragile and a shock could be awaiting us round the corner. So, never take your health for granted as you grow older. Now a day, things just fester inside and by the time we can take stock, things are way worse than we dreamt.

I see people shying away from seeing doctors, fearful of what they might diagnose. We talk about “mind over matter” so easily but when it comes to us that are not always easy.

Just as being forewarned is being forearmed, being careful and balanced in everything would be wisdom.

And even then, we have to pass on when our time is up. Someone said live everyday as if it were your last. That everyday would be the best day every day. A great attitude even to nullify many a karma….

Wishing us all the dawn of this attitude…


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Surviving without our loved ones is so difficult! The loss creates a permanent void. You live. You work from day to day…you lead a so called “normal” life. But every now and then, your heart becomes heavy and you feel like you are someone else. You feel as if a limb has been cut off and you are trying to compensate for the huge handicap….

Such is attachment. Such is love. Sermonizing about detachment is wisdom. But being human has its limitations. You cannot detach your emotions from the memory of your loved ones completely…at least most of us cannot.

It is the first death anniversary of someone I love unconditionally and miss very much. God bless all those who love with all of their being, for such a loss is indescribable and irreparable.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Once you establish the connection between the body, mind and soul, you should be able to have a multi pronged approach towards analysis, whether of events or you yourself. All the content is to be examined in detail by examining the quality of the layers surrounding it.

The ramifications of any event necessitates the use of a microscope under which the specimens would be our thoughts, emotions, how we feel about things, our comfort quotient etc. With people, too, this method should be employed. Only then can we remove the unwanted layers and preserve the important ones and thus, preserve the meaningful in all of the thoughts emotions, actions and attitudes.

I am convinced that this exercise would make it possible to connect all positive and good vibrations with each other, in body, mind and soul while doing away with all of the vibrations that have been colored by our own inconsistent and imbalanced perceptions, led by our ignorance. And also, thus, leading us away from our ability to discern, feel, recognize the right from the wrong and from establishing the connectivity of the body, mind, soul with all creation and the Universe.

In the Universe, we practice what is universal. And what is universal is that everything is interconnected. Any tendency of separatism can only give grief.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The primitive man used to live in jungles, surrounded by nature lived to fulfill the basic challenges of the acquisition of food, clothing and shelter. Today also, the modern man lives in jungles, except for the fact that these are concrete jungles, where breath is slightly choked and challenges ensconced in fear, stress, desperation and roller coaster rides to nowhere.

Those who have had an occasion to live amidst nature or continue to do so even now co exist joyfully as they are meant to do. Man has many lessons to learn from proximity to nature. On the other hand, those who have boxed themselves in the thick walls of expensive concrete may have boxed themselves enough within thick, impenetrable walls so that neither the experience of fresh breeze carrying the aroma of sweet smelling flowers nor the chirpy songs of the birds, not even the frolic of clouds in the sky can enter. To be away from nature is unnatural. It is true that staying away from nature hardens the human heart. Nature is the greatest leveler for the ego of the human being.

I am humbled by the trees! They stand unflinchingly tall in the scorching sun to allow men to rest under their shade. When they are laden with fruit, they bend over towards the earth as if bowing to it in gratitude. I learn to re invent myself each time I sit by a river. I watch it undulating, flowing steadily towards the ocean, its source. I see it weaving its way around boulders, finding new pathways, tireless, undeterred and determined.

I look at the vast expanse of the sky which integrates and shelters all Creation like a benevolent parent, loving and kind and I think to myself, “this is what we should learn from the sky: to integrate and accept one and all as different forms of the same Divine Energy.” As the seasons come and go, giving us warmth, rain, coolness and challenging our tolerance and adaptability, so too, life comes in similar phases, daring us to rise to every occasion and come through with flying colors.

Then, of course, there is the ocean. I cannot find a better example of the working of the human mind than the ocean. The restlessness of the conscious mind is so beautifully represented in the waves crashing against the shores and receding into the ocean as compared to the stillness of the depth of the ocean, as is the sub conscious mind which can be accessed only by diving through the surface layers of the waves. Therein, deep within the self, deep as the ocean, dwell peace and oneness.

So also, the mountains, the hills, the valleys, the grasslands and all other forms of Nature are teachers of the highest order of God, following the universal laws to perfection while, sadly, man disregards every spiritual law of co existence with Nature as he continues to live each day with a greater sense of self absorption and an unbecoming callousness .

If truth be told, every awakening dawn brings a new hope for the day as the sun shines its pure golden light upon the earth and each day, dusk merges into the darkness of the night, taking with it the day’s experiences and lessons, and, above all, a hope that tomorrow will be better than today has been in every way. Man, with all his intelligence, fails to recognize his troubles in life as being the result of a lack of this very awareness.

“Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts. There is something infinitely healing in the repeated refrains of nature — the assurance that dawn comes after night, and spring after winter.”
Rachel Carson, Silent Spring

Surekha Kothari

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