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It is so strange that although the body and mind are connected, very often, they feel disconnect also. The mind rules the body but the body language is unaware that the mind is speaking through it. It is largely the mind that affects the body.

When we talk of a twisted mind, we are also seeing a visible effect on the body through the facial expressions. Likewise, we fail to hide our joy that the mind is generating.

There are books and books on mind control, but few on body control unless you look and yoga and exercise. But even so, yoga is also done for mind control apart from muscle control and toning.

So, the awareness that the mind body complex is interdependent and not separated is the right awareness for the right balance.


Surekha Kothari

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When we speak of dharma, we generally get a mixed bag definition: rituals, duties, religion etc. And the result is confusion. Because dharma is not any one of these. If anything divides human beings, it absolutely cannot be dharma.

The core of dharma in its true sense lies in each one of us.

HONESTY: we might get cynical here because we see very little honesty today. And yet, it is our core because, when thinking about it, who can accept and actually like dishonesty? Which means honesty IS our core.

WORK/ ACTIVITY: Movement and change are two constants. Activity is our second core. We need to give it direction but all humans have act ..that is, keep moving . It is inevitable.

CLEANLINESS: an inevitable measure of dharma. To clean not only the body but the thoughts, the mind and emotions, ego as well as our environment.

KINDNESS: to care selflessly. Help people in need without wanting to be on page 3. On human, compassionate grounds.

Irrespective of your religion, any other identities you might have, all the four points mentioned constitute your inner core as a human being. And if all of us started understanding and practicing this form of dharma, there would come a time when all humans of whichever religion, caste, creed would happily and harmoniously share space, love and peaceful progress.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Defining limits! A very difficult exercise for many. Specially to know when to stop. To know when you are encroaching on someone else’s space. To know when you begin to cross the line and begin to intrude or encroach onto someone else’s life.

Human psychology is complex to say the least. I realize that some very deep rooted insecurities make people cross limits, to grab something they believe will make them feel better. But that is far from what might happen in the long run.

Ultimately, you might succeed in controlling people for a while but once people set limits and demonstrate the need for space, crossing this might prove to be a bad choice.

They say, if you love someone, set them free. But if you end up controlling them, you show you don’t love OR respect them. It only demonstrates a gnawing personal need.

Taking the space that is yours and then, with dignity, moves away. This speaks of a beautiful energy that is in harmony with itself.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Karma


Karma simplified! The easiest way to define karma is “what goes around comes around”. But is it so easy? That is only a part of it. Let us be aware of the collective nature of karma besides individual ones.

The popular saying, “a father’s sins come onto the children” is not meant lightly. One person’s actions can involve many people around them. Like the AGHORA book on karma talks about an example of racing where so many people’s karma is joined together…the jockey, the bookie, the people who bet etc.

Can you imagine the level of awareness and wisdom one has to develop to experience the old karma while refraining from performing new harmful ones?

We often feel so much intensity of emotion that actions are rooted in feelings, sometimes imbalanced ones.

Let us examine our thoughts very minutely to control karmic fallouts in our current lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Memoirs are what memories create. Some happiness, some tears, some agony. As we grow older, we seem to start dwelling on the past very naturally. I always used to wonder why the older generation talks so much about their past. I guess, when we are younger, there is so much to look forward to. Our energy levels are high and life seems to stretch in front of our line of vision as having many goals to look forward to. Towards the evening of our lives, a saturation point is reached for many people. Some others retire from their workplace because they have to. Some pass on their work to the next generation. Some opt to resign and take life easy after many years of hard work.

For all of these people, there seem to be many experiences in the past to talk about. There is a lot of learning there for those who listen. But, to handle a phase of inactivity or less activity can get very difficult as well. Not everyone can accept this phase graciously.

Our sense of self esteem depends hugely on how occupied we are, and, more important, how this places us in the eyes of the world. When our identity comes from the approval of others, anonymity can be very unsettling. If life can be viewed as a series of phases, it would be easier to accept changes, both within ourselves and the external set of circumstances.

What is really the issue here is that there is little to look forward to. There are no new goals for many. Actually, the world has opened up so many opportunities that we can learn something new every day. Recently, I saw a computer class with seventy year old individuals and I was thrilled! When so many new vistas open up the Mind, and we have the child within us alive and motivated enough to keep learning, the present and future become so exciting that the past ceases to be a compulsive memory and remains dormant within us, to be brought up at will when lessons from it need to be remembered.

The productive use of each present moment is the key to living rather than existing on past memories just because we don’t see anything before us that would adorn our present and future.

Surekha Kothari

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Just as a play or movie unfolds scene by scene, so, too, life unfolds in phases. The students of today will qualify as adult, working members of society tomorrow. What we are today will shape our next phase. It is, therefore, very important to know what our “dharma’ or body of duties is during the student stage.

In the old Vedic times, when the “Guru Shishya Parampara” existed, students were taught everything that a youngster needed to know by way of   social, economic and political knowledge, along with the etiquette of living within a family and social system, behavioral patterns, and, above all, respect and love for all. The Guru’s “Ashram” was a complete school. As a result, the student moved into the next phase of householder and earning member of the family naturally and easily. This was possible because every student conformed to a well balanced, comprehensive and wholesome system of teaching imparted by the Guru or teacher with utmost honesty and sincerity. The system was also designed to integrate and connect people as individuals, families and societies so that a common value system of mutual love and respect created a peaceful and harmonious environment and a working atmosphere of mutual  trust. The honing of emotional intelligence through understanding, acceptance and sacrifice based on compassion became the common foundation of all human behavior.

Today, those values are not taught in educational institutions. The accent is more on material success. We need to bring back our timeless but fast disappearing rich culture and traditions which we have not been able to transfer to our succeeding generations. This is where our uniqueness lies, however modern we become in other ways.

Surekha Kothari

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Very early in life, we were taught that patience is one of the most coveted qualities and is a part of learned behavior. I have learnt that it is in proportion with our needs and their fulfillment. The law of demand and supply is directly proportionate to our levels of patience. It is a need of a baby to be fed instantaneously when it is hungry. These are called “demand feeds” because patience is an unknown word to the little baby. But as age advances, the natural needs change into wants, a scenario where patience AND ethics take a back seat many a time.

“I can’t wait “is a common phrase heard everywhere, whether it pertains to a simple need like “needing” to go for a movie, or, a more compelling one like “needing” to become a multi millionaire. Both are wants, not needs. At some point, most of us start using the words “want” and “need “ as synonyms, though they are far from being synonyms. “I “want” this because it is my “need”, is a common place feeling. Our mind cannot separate the two because our needs become wants over a period of time. What we want is not necessarily what we need. Our needs are basic to our survival while on this earth, whereas our wants are inspired by a desire for excesses, extras, and greed for “just a little more”. The latter are imbalances of ego driven insecurities and desires within us. When our wants start multiplying, it means we are indulging ourselves and craving for more than what is needed to sustain us through life.

When it is a question of wanting, we are like instant coffee. Everything must be achieved NOW. I used to teach vocal music to a few students who wanted to perform after doing four or five classes when we had practiced for years to reach a common minimum standard. It is understandable that getting an endorsement or approval from others is great feeling. But those who have their goal defined and the determination and perseverance to achieve it with patience are more likely to have the depth of knowledge to be successful. Patience is a long path to amazing rewards. “Too much too soon” does not define wisdom. I guess, the satisfaction of a need is its own reward but the satisfaction of a want breeds more and more “wanting” to which the satiation levels are not well defined or guaranteed.

At the same time, we also need to ask ourselves how much we need in order to be happy. Not much really! If we didn’t seek our identities in the eyes of other people, we would lead a much more stress free life and also be satisfied with what we have. Our “wants” are perhaps more for social recognition than anything else. Many of us have more than we need and some have much more than they will ever need.

Philosophers and Thinkers have always emphasized the concept of “simple living and high thinking” for a good reason. The more we get involved with comparisons of material gains and walk into the race for “one upmanship”, the more our wants increase, gradually becoming out of control. The imbalance thus caused shifts the focus from what we are here to achieve as spiritual beings to illusory gains in a temporary world, a world which we are actually just passing through in our journey. For a very short lived satisfaction, therefore, are we digressing from our evolutionary path?

The time for introspection is now.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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