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An action that is respected is that which is performed with grace. Its value is enhanced manifold. As long as there is life, give and take is an inevitable part of it. What is important is that grace is not only in giving but also in taking. There are people who keep giving but refuse to accept. That energy becomes one sided. There are also people who give very condescendingly and from a space of ego driven “charity”. No grace there.

I know someone whose charities came to light after he passed on, to the amazement of his own family. Today, we need to advertise in the papers and media that we donated an x amount to an x charity. No grace there.

Let the giving be between you and God and treat specially those you give to , with utmost kindness and respect , almost as if It is YOUR need to give and not theirs to take, because it is not easy for everyone to accept while being made to feel small.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The more successful and sought after you become, the more humble you must be. This is called “digesting” your success. With this comes congeniality and genuine praise from people.

It’s like a beautiful person who is completely unaware of her beauty. She is loved for being just herself. When arrogance sets in, even a beautiful or successful person begins to seem unattractive and often, starts to lose friendships both inside and outside the family. Losing sight of the niceness of those around you and whatever they have sacrificed or done for you is a trait that comes in with the ego that develops with success. Do not succumb because soon, even your success will begin to feel a little hollow.

This is the mantra for living. Be humble, because anything can be taken away: success, beauty, anything. What remains with you is you humility, genuineness and consideration for others. It is not everyone that can remain with feet on the ground whatever status they acquire. Absolutely essential to introspect and mend your ways, as you leave others to mend theirs.

A tree laden with fruits bends its branches more than one that does not bear fruit. So, with success should come the humility.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Unobtrusively, we start to become what our thoughts are made up of. At first, we are taught to think like our parents. We imbibe our environment. Everyday actions we see around us speak of the thoughts that inspired the actions. And we emulate and emulate.

Later, when we see ourselves from the eyes of others, we realize that we must look onwards into our thought patterns which are seen by people in our speech and action. You cannot separate the people from their thoughts.

Depressing thoughts! Thoughts of envy and sadness or happy thoughts, thoughts of love and goodness. Every thought will manifest if given importance.

We foster the thought and then it festers. That’s it! Many such festering thoughts create who we are.

So, think before you think! Meditate on what you think before you give the thoughts the pride of place within your mind, because they may enslave you. And what will that make you? A slave to your thoughts instead of the master who has command over them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you noticed that when you plan and work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions. It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense experiences or little irritants throughout life?

But then, you have to find justifications to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:

That life happens when we are busy planning it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, you feel all your supports caving in. That you are standing in the scorching sun with not a trace of any shade around you, as in the burning sands of a desert. This is pretty much the reality of many who have chronic back problems, especially the lower back. Feeling a total lack of support.

Actually, it is a dark perception that emanates from within the complexity of the mind. We shun and we are shunned. And isolation is the result. More important, there is a cloud over the universal and Divine support which is always there for the asking, but not automatic.

Affirmations make a world of difference. A wonderful affirmation for this condition would be:

The Divine Spirit supports me completely and structures my life.

I am blessed, safe, loved and totally supported. For a minimum of 21 consecutive days without a break.

The mind begins to calm down and reconnects with the Divine energy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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