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Have you noticed that when you plan and work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions. It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense experiences or little irritants throughout life?

But then, you have to find justifications to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:

That life happens when we are busy planning it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, you feel all your supports caving in. That you are standing in the scorching sun with not a trace of any shade around you, as in the burning sands of a desert. This is pretty much the reality of many who have chronic back problems, especially the lower back. Feeling a total lack of support.

Actually, it is a dark perception that emanates from within the complexity of the mind. We shun and we are shunned. And isolation is the result. More important, there is a cloud over the universal and Divine support which is always there for the asking, but not automatic.

Affirmations make a world of difference. A wonderful affirmation for this condition would be:

The Divine Spirit supports me completely and structures my life.

I am blessed, safe, loved and totally supported. For a minimum of 21 consecutive days without a break.

The mind begins to calm down and reconnects with the Divine energy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Our spiritual evolution takes place slowly, often unobtrusively only because we don’t recognize it at first. Like birth pangs, it comes in periodic convulsions, leaving us empty and exhausted. But regular bouts over a period of time start to withdraw us bit by bit from the world, through what we often call disillusionment, a subtle corrosion of our involvement in it. I have come to the conclusion that this has to ultimately happen to every soul, a kind of saturation point reached, if you will. The tipping point comes after which the real evolution starts, with a gradual detachment, a good way to live out karma.

Like a friend said recently, you don’t have to let the fire that purifies you, singe or burn you, because that is not wisdom. You have to start closing chapters that you write sooner or later. But close you must.

And before you close the final chapter of your life, you owe yourself peace and an eye towards your real home.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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What do I gain or lose is a prime question in relationships today. It often takes a long time for people to understand people, even if they have lived in close proximity. In fact, especially when they have lived in close proximity, whatever the name of the relationship. Either the understanding is lacking or the population around makes minced meat of the equation, In ANY relationship.

So much wear and tear happens within our emotions and expectations that we don’t see a lot of things with clarity. And, ultimately, we start feeling that we are gaining only headaches and depressions and losing our health and peace of mind. And then the inevitable happens…distances.

One of the big challenges is when there is a communication cripple confronting you who is impossible and too complicated to read unless you are a clairvoyant… And YOU are intrinsically a demonstrative and spontaneous person who subsequently , is forced to start closing up and getting all bottled up because their words are hitting a wall and coming back to hit them. It is an unnerving feeling and one that closes channels like nothing else does.

Under no circumstances can shrink or twisting personalities against your will contribute to your well being. So, the cognizance of gains and losses may be replaced by the questions of how meeting points may be arrived at, if both can will this as the course of action, of course. Between the two sides of the distance pole lies the meeting point and the way towards reducing that distance starts with the capturing of the mischievous little devil called ” ego” and blindness towards those who are mischief makers because, after all, you love them, don’t you ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Punishments


Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through each minute until we hear an “operation successful” verdict. It seems as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.

Punishments to kids are designed also for propelling them towards learning. Children often say, “You are so cruel”. We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we do. But they perceive it in a different way.

It is not only to others but on ourselves, too, that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn’t come easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt….apt supporting thoughts. Indulge yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic “knives” . They “bleed” you but ultimately help you and give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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