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I marvel at people who just take things for granted. Because what you really take completely for granted is the most fragile. Yes, LIFE!

Is there any guarantee that we will even wake up in the morning? Every day, we hear of sudden health issues, some discovered too late even because, before manifesting, they were festering within.

One would imagine that after witnessing one or two such cases, people would become more sensitive to those around them and aware of the fact that they can be lost to them anytime.

And yet, this awareness is very slow to come in, if at all. It is very essential to spend as much time with each other and build up strong and loving memories to last and transfer to each succeeding generation. We survive only on good memories, and we have to create them ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

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Who is the enemy? Over a lifetime, we develop enmity with a few people extreme word and also a deeper form of dislike. We often remark,” With such friends, you don’t need enemies”. And you begin to stay away from these few people, get restless when you see them or have to be within their vicinity.

But, who is the real enemy here? The actual enemy is within. It is that negative patch of dislike that WE harbor for someone. And because we have not been able to cleanse it, it reflects in the others. Just as, if you hate your face in the mirror and try to hit it, it is your hand that will bleed. And once you heal your hand, the mirror reflection will also show a healed hand.

Hence, don’t look for external enemies. The enemy within you is your memory reactions. That’s all. Good to

Just let go of those memories or transmute them into happy energy.

Surekha Kothari

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Disentanglement vs detachment:

In these modern times, the one person who makes practical sense in terms of interpreting old values seems to be Sadguru. The important point to note is that everything comes back to each succeeding generation in a new package, with a certain twist.

One day, I was having a discussion on attachment with my guru and telling him how I wished to be detached like sadhus like him are. And he had smiled and said,” even sadhus have attachments. I was a little thrown by that statement, purely because of my own mindset which I had cultivated by reading old texts and listening to many lectures of spiritual orators. Sometimes, introspection on some statements can fall short and belief systems formed by half knowledge.

Sadguru explains very convincingly that if you think detachment is what you are here for, you can find ways of dying right now, because you are not here to learn detachment. If you are not attached, how would you experience life, the purpose for which you were born? The reason we suffer is not due to attachment but the mind getting entangled with people, situations, and emotions.

When that happens, you cannot extricate yourself from the experience whereas the idea is to experience and move on.

We can even call it living each moment completely. And living IN the moment each minute and moving ahead with a clean slate each time and from each experience. Somewhat like the magic white board which turns white every time, after being written on in many different colors.

Surekha Kothari

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Today, a lot of families are scattered all over the world and due to sheer logistics, distances do not always foster closeness. Inevitably, a certain formality creeps in sometimes. We get used to living without proximity with them.

But, the flip side is true also, and ties are fostered in many ways. True, that little change in personality can be a revelation when you meet family members after sometime. But by the same token, changes in us must also be embraced and adapted too. We often forget that this IS two way traffic.

Nevertheless, generally, it has become easier to keep connected today, what with Skype, Face Time, whatsapp calls etc. But, as they say, if hearts don’t connect, all this connectivity is only designed towards wanting to keep in touch from afar at a comfortable distance.

Surekha Kothari

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We know that we live in a world of dualities. So, some good , some not so good. Then, we learn that we should not look at the not so good as not so good. Everything is to be accepted . Change what you can and let go of what can’t be.

And then starts our work. On ourselves, folks. Not on others.

Likes waves hitting the shore and thrashing anything that is within it, we get carried by wave upon wave through the ocean of life. Not being uplifted, now hurled, now thrashed. But moving with the wave nonetheless. And moving sometimes alone and sometimes being thrown together with some souls whose journey is with us at that moment. But definitely “alone” as the persistent state.

Wisdom : learning to enjoy and making the most of the uplifted state. And trying to keep a balance when hurled and thrashed. To know that we will be uplifted again. And again and again if we lighten our burdens simultaneously….until, one day, we will learn how to ride the crest of the wave.

Surekha Kothari

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One should really learn to appreciate the souls around us. In times of crisis, help comes through unexpected quarters and through close bonds. God loves energy being channeled. It is so amazing to feel that. And when problems come, solutions are found and things are sorted.

It is awareness, openness to the Divine energy that works. And you attract good people in your life. Yes, karmic blocks are inevitable. Some curses do work but can be transcended through triggering the Divine will and illumination.

Surekha Kothari

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It is the nature of humans to oscillate between happiness and stress. We speak of increasing hours of happiness through external sources and resources when actually, isn’t it really a state of mind? Ah! The MIND! The monkey that jumps from tree to tree! With a super speed unmatched by anything else in the human being, to steady it is a challenge.

But the question is how to make happiness a state of mind? We try to keep away from people and situations that affect us adversely in order to get happiness. Which means, we ARE affected and are in denial? Pushing away issues under the carpet may give us a superficial impression of happiness but there are definitely unhealed issues festering within.

As we know, many of us kill the child within us at some point. Believe me, if you don’t carry the forgetting and loving innocence of that child as an adult, all you will do is live your life cloaking your real emotions, hiding hurt from the world and blaming something or someone most times and also trying to become successful so that THAT becomes your benchmark for happiness. Hmmm! Let’s not forget that THAT is an external benchmark designed to ARRIVE at happiness. Whereas, happiness is not something to be arrived at.

Actually, without the shining light of simplicity, innocence and forgiving, can there be real happiness? I have yet to see it.

Surekha Kothari

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Sometimes, when you think deeply about the theory of karma, it seems to clash with the theory that the universe is turning in its own way and by its own rules. And everything is like pieces in a kaleidoscope. Each time you move it, the pieces form a brilliant new design, very attractive and beautiful to look at. Some look at the shapes, some at the colors but the whole design is very pleasing.

Life is just like that but for many, it becomes dull, colorless, boring, depressing etc. There is no doubt that if life moves like that, then we are the ones who don’t see the colors. Our vision is defective. We may call it a karmic defect, for past memories cloud the capacity for clear vision.

But who sees or does not see? NOT the body. Not the soul. It is our thoughts, emotions and ego. We are “chidananda roop, shivoham Shivoham.”

So, if there is no thought, there is no emotion and no desire, therefore no ego. That’s when the kaleidoscope makes absolute sense.

Surekha Kothari

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It has been well established that we have the capacity to heal ourselves and don’t have to live with pain. One of the worst is emotional pain, the pain of feeling hurt, rejection, being discriminated against, humiliation to name a few. And this happens because we give too much energy to these emotions. Our attention gets focused on just one point, our feelings.

Have you tried to focus at an object near you for a few seconds ? It builds up pressure. And then, when you look away into the expanse of vision before you, you feel relief. Similarly, if you look at the vastness before you, the emotions become very minuscule and manageable.

The heart is connected to this world and the other world to heal

these emotions by yourself, and you can, you need to meditate on the heart chakra, sending it love, sending love to the whole creation and visualising love coming your way from the whole creation. This is a powerful healing meditation. In a few weeks, there would be both inner and external changes to n time and with daily practice. The pain will recede for one, and a happier state of mind sets in worth trying.

Surekha Kothari

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Overactive and emotionally disturbed ! Yes, the two can go hand in hand sometimes. If someone faces injustice, abuse and lack of love , emotional disturbance is a given. The point is, how to survive this feeling of being victimised for no fault of yours ? Simple ! The first choice is, DON’T accept victim-hood. I do not know if anyone who has not had people who have tried to break them down.

While some lacking courage might succumb, the fact is, to succumb to any form of injustice is as much a crime as practising it. On the other hand, those who have a distinctly defiant streak may go the other way by becoming so busy and active that they don’t focus on their emotions. But that is also a denial of a kind because whatever else you do, emotions ride with you. That is the issue.

So, being aware of this, it is better to accept and run through all the emotions one by one till they get exhausted and dissolved. Running away from them is not a permanent solution at all.

Surekha Kothari

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