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Rejoices


“I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t notice the obvious.

Then I found that it’s not their eyesight, but their prejudices, that clouds their vision.”

Thank you, Pankaj, for this insightful post. You hit the nail on the head. Prejudices blind us to everything good within us and outside us. Blinding prejudices. Hate inspiring prejudices. Arrogant prejudices. Obsessive prejudices.

They dehumanize people and make them forget who they are. God decided to make this fantastic specimen, the human being, and then played mischief. He gave him an ego as a huge obstacle which would actually make the human feel good on the surface, so much so that it would ultimately camouflage the real pitfalls.

On the other hand, the soul which humans are meant to seek was embedded within each human but man would seek only what he can see outside of him with his eyes. The inner eye was disabled by the ego.

…and so, man is overpowered and misled constantly by his own sense of self importance and a lack of cognizance and understanding of his inner world. He revels in artificial light and rejoices in the myth that it is real light.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Challenges


I always say expectations, like comparisons, can turn out to be odious. But my experience has shown that presumptions are a shade worse because they anticipate an experience that may or may not happen.

So, what happens here? Suppose there is something I need to do. That action will definitely have a consequence like all actions do. But, because I might be having several mindsets or belief systems, I start to imagine the consequences of that act before the act itself is done. Actually, the consequence may have played out very differently in reality. But I don’t give it a chance. I want just the desired result of that act.

This is a typical case of wanting to control your environment. And playing out the consequences in your mind gives you some comfort, perhaps, that you will manage to achieve somewhat the desired result. A probability only. Not a certainty.

So many times, I have heard the line “if I do this that will happen.” “And happen for sure” is added. An over-the-top reaction of this kind may demonstrate an innate fear. Fear of something being taken away from you or letting things go from your hands into an unknown and non confirmative space which you are uncomfortable with. . People who steer actions with careful rigidity might be prone to such thought processes.

Actually, these are blocks which prevent expansive experiences. Like, I take a flight everywhere and hence, miss out on the beautiful countryside which I would have experienced had I motored up to my destination. But because I don’t know the roads and might have an accident, it is safe to take a flight.

So, I am already anticipating an accident that may or may not happen. Presumption that an aircraft is safer!! I have no way of knowing it IS safe, before I fly out. A presumption again!

Friends, we really miss out on so much of life by controlling our environment. And if we have family around us, we end up doing the same to them as well. I understand that everyone wants to be safe and away from harm. But to close yourself on the basis of presumptions is also not a healthy trait or practice.

Later, as adults, you see people who grow up in such conditions shrinking their minds to respond more rigidly than freely. Challenges are very essential for out -of -the – box thinking and living.

So, try new environments even for your children. Challenge them and observe their responses. Life is the biggest teacher. If you grow, the environment and people around you also grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I have realized how many little things we take for granted. Is there a guarantee we will wake up the next morning? Do we know for sure that our day is going to unfold as planned? Are we sure that the domestic staff will turn up tomorrow? Is it possible that you have an urgent meeting and the vehicle stops half way? To mention just a few.

Gratitude, therefore, is most important. The person who cleans your restrooms and your home. The one who drives your car, cooks your food. A friend who sits up with you when you are sick. Anyone passing you on the road who smiles at you or saves you from a near accident. Or blesses you without even knowing you….

The bottom line is, NO ONE HAS TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU…and if they do it, regardless of their motives, we have to thank them as messengers of God. The universe works relentlessly and lovingly. We need to understand the significance and read the language minute to minute.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we speak of dharma, we generally get a mixed bag definition: rituals, duties, religion etc. And the result is confusion. Because dharma is not any one of these. If anything divides human beings, it absolutely cannot be dharma.

The core of dharma in its true sense lies in each one of us.

HONESTY: we might get cynical here because we see very little honesty today. And yet, it is our core because, when thinking about it, who can accept and actually like dishonesty? Which means honesty IS our core.

WORK/ ACTIVITY: Movement and change are two constants. Activity is our second core. We need to give it direction but all humans have act ..that is, keep moving . It is inevitable.

CLEANLINESS: an inevitable measure of dharma. To clean not only the body but the thoughts, the mind and emotions, ego as well as our environment.

KINDNESS: to care selflessly. Help people in need without wanting to be on page 3. On human, compassionate grounds.

Irrespective of your religion, any other identities you might have, all the four points mentioned constitute your inner core as a human being. And if all of us started understanding and practicing this form of dharma, there would come a time when all humans of whichever religion, caste, creed would happily and harmoniously share space, love and peaceful progress.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There are many religions and sects and several texts which teach human beings how to live with each other and how to also evolve spiritually while performing our daily karma.

But what gets internalized is basically what some religious heads interpret from these texts and unfortunately, add their own bit to keep their place in the hierarchical order , thus , often losing the thought processes of the writers and the authenticity of the text.

The end result is groups, blind following, and rigid mindsets and therefore, limited minds and a huge amount of intolerance for anyone who does not believe in your belief systems….a potentially ignitable situation at the best of times and the worst of times.

If every human being was taught instead, to read the texts and gain the knowledge written with the pure, undiluted intentions of those writers, this world would learn to follow the universal laws and treat each other with love, respect and understanding.

It is never too late to incorporate such studies within the academic curriculum. There will most certainly be astounding results. We have forgotten our “gurukuls”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Live and let live! That would be so, so wonderful, right? No interference. No desire to control or clip wings. No poking the nose in other people’s affairs. Maintaining a little space within the closeness. Letting the final decision be taken by the person concerned. Agree to disagree in an amicable manner sometimes. Encourage and support independent points of view. But continuing to care and respect all the way…

Sometimes, people can walk along the same path but at their own pace. And that is so wonderful. No need to compete and to overtake anyone.

Walking the path with a spring in your stride, hugging nature, singing a happy song, a lilt in your voice, oblivious of any dissenting or disapproving looks, living your life with wisdom, divine grace and love in your heart.

 WAY TO GO, FOLKS

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Honesty


In Hindi, there is a saying, “jhooth ki umar bahut chhoti hoti hai”. And I have seen this coming true around me. Growing up, lying used to be tantamount to a small crime in my parents’ home. The philosophy was that if you let small lies pass, they may turn into bigger ones later.

 Today, no one lies. It is called diplomacy. You just say what the other person wants to hear. Never mind if it is not the truth. Truth is trivial if it causes conflicts. Who wants to hear it? And this is how one builds up relationships.

 The opacity that has set in because of such attitudes has gone a long way in corroding the fabric of transparency and honesty. I don’t know how one can justify these patterns in society if one wants to genuinely change the social order.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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