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Changes


Amidst all the change and transition that is happening, I am not surprised that those who have reached the pits of degeneration are gasping for breath and struggling to avoid getting completely choked by their own misdeeds. Evidently, they had been so drunk on their power since so many years that they had forgotten that there is nothing like permanence. It would be amusing if it were not so tragic to see some senior politicians who lay out a trap for others, getting caught in its them.

When will this stop? We are paying a price for the “free for all” environment that the people of this country have become used to. Now, when the degeneration is being curbed and reversed, and they are being reined in, they cry foul.

We must examine the intention behind the rules that are being resented.

In childhood, we were not allowed to do certain things. When we became adults, many went a little haywire and some more than just a little.

At any age, a crisis situation must be averted even if it requires drastic and unpalatable changes. If we had not done that under the leadership of Mahatma Gandhi, we would still have been a British colony. (But we have a short memory.) Of course, we would not have had a neighbor like Pakistan either.

So, what should our priority be? No contest here. It should be a spirit of nationalism and secularism, tolerance and peaceful existence with an equal opportunity for all. But between this goal and the current reality, there lies a great chasm that has to be filled with an indomitable, persistent will to work hard and achieve this goal. Can it happen in a day, a month or a year even? Not if we blame and criticize instead of contributing to the momentum of the visualized growth. We are so pathetic that we don’t even know how lucky we are that there is a dependable leader today. And there is hope. You can see this at every rally, the latest being Surat. Has the whole country gone crazy then, to support him? No. Not at all.

If the media was not so busy turning everything into a debate and controversy, we would be able to see the ground reality. As someone said, the PM is a visionary but the people around him should have faith and help in manifesting that vision. If India was minus the irresponsible and dangerous opposition leaders, evolution would move at breakneck speed. I guess, the “kundali” (astrological chart) of India must already be showing the impending ineffectiveness and the symbolic self immolation of this type of politician. These people are and will keep digging their own graves while India will move forward despite the formidable challenges of today.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Vicious cycle


Many people tell me they have moved on. The tones of their statements hit me sometimes. They don’t realize it but often, these statements are laced with a defiance that hides deep hurts. Their eyes, too, fail to support their speech. Some others say it very proudly, hoping to fool others and somewhere, deep down, even themselves.

Is it so easy to move on? If it is, then how come everywhere and every day, we witness breaking bonds, relationships fraying around the edges, warring families …and the like? Should these not heal if we have really moved on?

Actually, we have not really moved on. Rather, we have let the energies of people move in. Simultaneously, we have literally donated our energies to people. So, naturally, we don’t feel well within. But as usual, we have to show bravado outside. So, we do just that. And we cannot feel peace and harmony under these circumstances.

So, it is becomes yet another vicious cycle. At some point, you have to break the cycle by just telling yourself that you will throw away all that does not work for you and start afresh.

I hear people saying, “But now I am too old to start afresh.” Really ? Is that a reason or an excuse? Think it through! The feeling of being old again hides very, very old “scar” tissues which get thicker and thicker because you let them.

Hmmm….hard work releasing old pains, right? And yet, there is no choice and no other way to reclaim your invaluable soul.

Therefore, let’s wake up NOW, from whichever stage and state we happen to be in.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Rejoices


“I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t notice the obvious.

Then I found that it’s not their eyesight, but their prejudices, that clouds their vision.”

Thank you, Pankaj, for this insightful post. You hit the nail on the head. Prejudices blind us to everything good within us and outside us. Blinding prejudices. Hate inspiring prejudices. Arrogant prejudices. Obsessive prejudices.

They dehumanize people and make them forget who they are. God decided to make this fantastic specimen, the human being, and then played mischief. He gave him an ego as a huge obstacle which would actually make the human feel good on the surface, so much so that it would ultimately camouflage the real pitfalls.

On the other hand, the soul which humans are meant to seek was embedded within each human but man would seek only what he can see outside of him with his eyes. The inner eye was disabled by the ego.

…and so, man is overpowered and misled constantly by his own sense of self importance and a lack of cognizance and understanding of his inner world. He revels in artificial light and rejoices in the myth that it is real light.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Challenges


I always say expectations, like comparisons, can turn out to be odious. But my experience has shown that presumptions are a shade worse because they anticipate an experience that may or may not happen.

So, what happens here? Suppose there is something I need to do. That action will definitely have a consequence like all actions do. But, because I might be having several mindsets or belief systems, I start to imagine the consequences of that act before the act itself is done. Actually, the consequence may have played out very differently in reality. But I don’t give it a chance. I want just the desired result of that act.

This is a typical case of wanting to control your environment. And playing out the consequences in your mind gives you some comfort, perhaps, that you will manage to achieve somewhat the desired result. A probability only. Not a certainty.

So many times, I have heard the line “if I do this that will happen.” “And happen for sure” is added. An over-the-top reaction of this kind may demonstrate an innate fear. Fear of something being taken away from you or letting things go from your hands into an unknown and non confirmative space which you are uncomfortable with. . People who steer actions with careful rigidity might be prone to such thought processes.

Actually, these are blocks which prevent expansive experiences. Like, I take a flight everywhere and hence, miss out on the beautiful countryside which I would have experienced had I motored up to my destination. But because I don’t know the roads and might have an accident, it is safe to take a flight.

So, I am already anticipating an accident that may or may not happen. Presumption that an aircraft is safer!! I have no way of knowing it IS safe, before I fly out. A presumption again!

Friends, we really miss out on so much of life by controlling our environment. And if we have family around us, we end up doing the same to them as well. I understand that everyone wants to be safe and away from harm. But to close yourself on the basis of presumptions is also not a healthy trait or practice.

Later, as adults, you see people who grow up in such conditions shrinking their minds to respond more rigidly than freely. Challenges are very essential for out -of -the – box thinking and living.

So, try new environments even for your children. Challenge them and observe their responses. Life is the biggest teacher. If you grow, the environment and people around you also grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I have realized how many little things we take for granted. Is there a guarantee we will wake up the next morning? Do we know for sure that our day is going to unfold as planned? Are we sure that the domestic staff will turn up tomorrow? Is it possible that you have an urgent meeting and the vehicle stops half way? To mention just a few.

Gratitude, therefore, is most important. The person who cleans your restrooms and your home. The one who drives your car, cooks your food. A friend who sits up with you when you are sick. Anyone passing you on the road who smiles at you or saves you from a near accident. Or blesses you without even knowing you….

The bottom line is, NO ONE HAS TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU…and if they do it, regardless of their motives, we have to thank them as messengers of God. The universe works relentlessly and lovingly. We need to understand the significance and read the language minute to minute.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we speak of dharma, we generally get a mixed bag definition: rituals, duties, religion etc. And the result is confusion. Because dharma is not any one of these. If anything divides human beings, it absolutely cannot be dharma.

The core of dharma in its true sense lies in each one of us.

HONESTY: we might get cynical here because we see very little honesty today. And yet, it is our core because, when thinking about it, who can accept and actually like dishonesty? Which means honesty IS our core.

WORK/ ACTIVITY: Movement and change are two constants. Activity is our second core. We need to give it direction but all humans have act ..that is, keep moving . It is inevitable.

CLEANLINESS: an inevitable measure of dharma. To clean not only the body but the thoughts, the mind and emotions, ego as well as our environment.

KINDNESS: to care selflessly. Help people in need without wanting to be on page 3. On human, compassionate grounds.

Irrespective of your religion, any other identities you might have, all the four points mentioned constitute your inner core as a human being. And if all of us started understanding and practicing this form of dharma, there would come a time when all humans of whichever religion, caste, creed would happily and harmoniously share space, love and peaceful progress.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There are many religions and sects and several texts which teach human beings how to live with each other and how to also evolve spiritually while performing our daily karma.

But what gets internalized is basically what some religious heads interpret from these texts and unfortunately, add their own bit to keep their place in the hierarchical order , thus , often losing the thought processes of the writers and the authenticity of the text.

The end result is groups, blind following, and rigid mindsets and therefore, limited minds and a huge amount of intolerance for anyone who does not believe in your belief systems….a potentially ignitable situation at the best of times and the worst of times.

If every human being was taught instead, to read the texts and gain the knowledge written with the pure, undiluted intentions of those writers, this world would learn to follow the universal laws and treat each other with love, respect and understanding.

It is never too late to incorporate such studies within the academic curriculum. There will most certainly be astounding results. We have forgotten our “gurukuls”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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