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Sense of humor


Sense of humor! Sigh! If common sense is uncommon, a sense of humor is, too. You know, if you want to remove your blocks within yourself, learn to laugh at yourself about the very things that hurt and angered you earlier.

Today, we are so careful about monitoring our humor. Say the right things. Smile only so much. Facial expressions should be just correct. Oops! How exhausting!

Life is fun! Laugh. Fall and get up to run with exhilaration, with the wind blowing your hair away…feel the raindrops on your cheeks…

…and if people laugh at you, join them and make them laugh more! Be a free spirit…after all, what do you care as long as you are in tune with yourself? Neither our smile nor our happiness should be a bi product of someone else’s perceptions. Because I am because I am, not because you think I am.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When someone tells you that you don’t have courage or lack in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately remembered…and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say “no” to those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.

So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.

When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving. There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted changes…

So, please KNOW why you are discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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As I turn the pages of my book of life, I remember the bitter sweet experiences that make me who I am today and waiting to become a “better” and “better” me as time goes by. I know this will happen with a constant vigil and awareness. The meaning of each extra day in my life has become amplified as I move into the phase of the setting sun, knowing that this is just a perception and life is eternal. I was, am and always will be.

The strange thing is that what I felt with so much intensity in the earlier phases have transformed from emotional baggage to learning. I feel blessed that this has happened. Rancour has no place within me.

I realize that guilt for mistakes made is merely a sign of ignorance because mistakes are only perceptions of past results. Storing guilt, resentment or any emotional baggage connected with the past would be indicative of the fact that I have not moved on. More so, I also may have managed to color my psyche with some amount of pollution of thought and emotion which, in future, will definitely harm me. Is it worth it?

As I hear story after story of my clients lives, I understand why I became a healer. I had some karmic lessons to learn. Agony and pain remain intact until the dawn of awareness and with it, some relief from a super fragile ego that blinds us to the pain of others and focuses on the self only. The perception of “mine” and “thine” implies attachment to people, events and experiences. I don’t relish those feelings anymore because somewhere, deep down, I am left with a sense of loneliness I have brought upon myself with my myopic attitude. So, I must grow and grow further until I peel off every layer of pollution that I don’t need in my life. Thus, I move from darkness into light.

Surekha Kothari          

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Over the years, in my experiences as a healer, I have seen many facets of love in people which demonstrate an acute need and therefore, a lack of this valuable emotion. Love is a prime energy which connects everything in creation. But we see fear rule people much more than love, and it is a fact that love cannot survive where there is fear. The converse is also true. Love and fear cannot co exist. There is a deep contradiction in the minds of human beings where, on one side, they want love and on the other side, they tend to mutilate it with their expectations.

There is a category of people who aspire to be loved through serving others, hoping that this will find approval in the eyes of those they serve and some love may come their way. There is another category of people who want love badly but who will actually turn people away from themselves by pretending that they don’t need anyone in their lives. Such people are very vulnerable from within and need to be taken care of. A third category of people is the demanding kind. They want love in the form of attention and can become quite obsessive.

One has to examine the womb reality and often, past lives to identify the root cause of why people are this way. The truth is that the intrinsic quality of the soul is love and that it doesn’t have to come from external sources at all. The soul, by virtue of being a spark of the Divine Energy, is abundant in love which actually multiplies when given out. But humans don’t trust and therefore, doubt everything and everyone. The Universe protects us provided we are in sync with it and live by its laws.

Love is its own reward. We love because it is our nature to love, not as a condition that the love is returned to us. Unconditional love is connected to our inner fountain of happiness and joy: the joy of giving with love.

I see many controls happening in the name of love. There seem to be unwritten rules in a close knit group which curtail the freedom to love those outside the group. Or, even if some do, they are not willing to show it. In families, too, there are divisive forces arising out of insecurities which find their roots in the inability to understand the actual nature of love.

As a healer, I know that if love becomes a need or even an obsession, the energy of the seeker goes out to the giver and debilitates the one who needs it and asks for it, while the giver becomes stronger. The precondition of a healthy Heart Chakra is the ability to love while keeping our personal space intact. When we feel depleted of energy, we tend to look for it outside ourselves when we should actually be tapping it within ourselves and also retrieving it from those who we have given it away to. Unlike a vessel getting steadily empty as we use its contents, the more we share love as a Divine Energy without expecting a return, the more love seems to fill us. This is an eternal fountain for those who experience the feeling. It is a transformational experience which words cannot describe or achieve.

Our lives are so colored by our desires, ego, biases and negativities arising out of a deep seated ignorance and a lack of awareness that unless these are removed, we may not be able to experience the simplicity and beauty of life and will continue to live in dark zones.

Surekha Kothari          

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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