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It is a pity we don’t make a special effort to find pointers to solutions within ourselves. Others can help you only to an extent. No one knows your story the way you do. And the Universe does. And it also helps when you start to engage with it.

Small instances about intentions working! We were standing in front of an immigration desk, awaiting our turn. The man behind the desk was angry and had sent out one lady rudely for some mistake made. We were wishing we were in another line but it was too late.

And lo and behold! Just before our turn came, the man got up and was replaced by a pleasant woman. And we were through like a shot.

Many such experiences later, I have concluded that self help is complete help and always works if you are in sync with the purity of your intention and surrender before asking for help.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of “enough?”

Mostly, we set our own limits, don’t we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.

You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that “space” is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.

Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The “enough” may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed “enough”, Math between people. “I didn’t get enough”. But I probably also didn’t GIVE enough…

But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Bringing up children to be wholesome individuals within the current context of complications, confusion, complexes and all sorts of mental corruption is a huge challenge. Many couples who think that having children is step 2 after marriage may please the family members around them but they themselves may not be ready as in mature enough, to become parents. To be responsible adults also means being brought up well by YOUR parents because you will only pass on to the kids what you know or the way you are.

Naturally then, the children will generally imbibe your teachings. If you look around at families, gone are the bonding families where sets of parents and cousins are closely attached to each other. Sadly, the children of siblings who develop distances due to small and insignificant issues invariably influence their children to maintain those distances, a huge part of their insecurities.

The other things that happen are natural consequences of adult behavior. The kids begin to tell the parents what they want to hear. Whenever unity is not prevalent, kids tend to take advantage by talking against the people their parents don’t like. And the parents seem to endorse this because of wanting control over their kids. So, wrong becomes right. And the complexes of adult issues percolate to their children.

Growing up, these kids prefer friends to family and thus, families get more and more divided. And the odd people who can cement the frayed relationships are themselves victims of these myopic attitudes.

I can understand that everyone is human. But if the basic family love is maintained, all else can be forgiven and forgotten and kids can grow up healthy and respectful. Many a time, it takes just one complexes person in the family to begin its end. And that person is usually in denial of being the initiator,  small tear in a beautiful fabric which, if not darned immediately, tends to become bigger and bigger.

And after a point, the fabric must be discarded because you can’t even darn it anymore. Many families have been torn apart and today what we call insular family units are units without limbs and heart. Collections of units joined together forms unity. And in the absence of unity, only units function in society today.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Grace


“Grace” is a graceful word. When we pray, we say “grace”. When we speak of behavior, we talk of graceful behavior. Even postures are graceful … or not. The walk is called graceful. What is this grace we refer to?

It is definitely something positive. A refined trait if you will. I think of alignment to the universe when I think of grace. And when we are graceful, our physical system is aligned. And our mental and emotional systems are also aligned.

Sophistication is sometimes used as a synonym for grace. I remember the one role model of grace that we admired as kids was Maharani Gayatri Devi. She was grace personified in every way.

Today, we hardly value that old world concept of grace. Grace in conducting yourself, in dressing, in speaking to everyone with poise and warmth, in being hospitable to each one, to exhibit qualities of kindness and gentle generosity, to treat everyone equally… all this is a part and parcel of grace to me, a rare gem in a casket of personality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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This world is preoccupied with love and morality. Everyone craves for love but it is the most hidden and rationed emotion. Almost as if we fear to love. And where there is fear, there can’t be love.

We often tend to camouflage love within the layers of morality. In every day and age, there are different ways of expressing love. We take the love of parents for granted. Yet, some children do feel distanced from them also, for many reasons, but mainly due to their perceptions which may or may not be close to reality. As is the case everywhere, we don’t express love or are scared of feeling it because we don’t know if we will be loved back or whether that lonely core we have within us can or will be filled by another human being. Very few feel love at the soul level which is the true nature of love.So many conditions are attached to this word “love”. “If you love, you can’t do this.” And, “if you love, you just must not or cannot do that”. Etc.

Love could be a part of morality but morality cannot be beyond love. Love is like space, vast and eternal. Morality is an attachment to be used as a tool as and when required. If love results in guilt, it gets attached to morality, the concept of right and wrong. If you believe that anything is right from the bottom of your heart, it is beyond morality. The condition is , the intention should be pure and should stem from our higher soul consciousness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Everyone has or should have a focus in life. Drifting is not the best of things to do. Life moves pretty quickly if actions are focused. And are goal determined, because we are working towards something with creativity. Most satisfying, even if the goal is not an enormous one.

I am amazed at this experience of being a universe within a universe. Each one of us is. Suddenly, you feel free from crutches… and you begin to see people as they are and not the way you want them to be. You begin to see actions without judging. You understand who and what is a part of your personal universe and who is not. Quite amazing!

When you begin to watch yourself, you begin to notice that there is someone else within you who is watching and there is no need to feel alienated with oneself. That everything is a part and parcel of us.

As if from far away, I watch the world go by and I am able to converse with that other part of me which watches and then discusses with me. You know, there is absolutely no use of agitation at anything. What will be will be? And we proceed in our journey on the river of life, smiling at the ripples as well as the obstacles because we know it is not the real “me” but someone else who is experiencing life and I am but a shadow. The day I breathe my last, my shadow will disappear into the universe to create a new “me” once again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in . But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly , when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt ? Who wants to retaliate ? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger , resentment, fear or hatred, isn’t it ? 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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