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Silence! A potent word! How many types of silences do we know of?

I am reading a very informative book: “Silence” by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk. Such books increase our awareness manifold.

We don’t know how to face silence. When we are not doing anything, we try to engage our mind in other activities. Anything to get away from silence! We are consumed….

We consume food to avoid emptiness. We let our senses consume us. Feelings! Intense ones! Hatred. Anger. Even love consumes us.

Our desires, choices consume us. Passion consumes us.

And our conscience can consume us. Guilt, repentance for our actions, speech, words.

All these are enemies of silence, of silence that should ideally pervade all these and destroy them.

So, meditate, meditate and meditate. Deep breathe, deep breathe, deep breathe. Our breath is more powerful than we know.

Breath cleanses negative feelings and negative karma apart from bad habits and addictions. Meditation helps to achieve and maintain silence. And one day, this silence becomes golden. This is a state of joy.

But we need to start our journey to get there.

Surekha Kothari

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Very often, we seem to have little or no control over our thoughts. They keep coming almost like a cyclone and shake up the very core of an individual. Very few have the awareness and capacity to stop them when required, observe them and change them if and when necessary.

Sometimes, out of nowhere, some thoughts connected with old wounds surface suddenly. And then we understand that the healing is still pending. We will not get over these thoughts unless we heal them. Through understanding, love and forgiveness. What damages healing is also the intensity of negative feelings. The more intense, the less the ability to let go and more the pain and resentment.

Often, we are also so helpless with thoughts coming in. We actually believe that thoughts just come in. But from where? And do we have the power to regulate them or not? Do we KNOW we create them AND have the power to let them go, bring them in, transform the negative ones at will and by choosing the direction we want them to take? Perhaps not.

People say they tried but no resolution was found. Again, let us ask “why”. Because we insist on playing and replaying the same old “hurt” tape in our mind.

Again and again and again. We want a salutary action, a re-conciliatory action from the person who has hurt us. Right? We are unwilling to let go till this is done.

We don’t realize that WE can sort this out ourselves. Why do we need the crutch or a dependency to feel better? Or even to forgive and forget? Come on! Resolve the hurt yourself. Because you CHOSE to get hurt. Right? So, why expect someone else to solve YOUR issue, created by YOU?

We need to get out of the mode of “approval seeking” and emotional dependence. We want to belong somewhere, lean on someone because we don’t know how to live with people AND be independent. We keep loaning or giving away our precious energy to them.

The help we expect from others can be easily done through self counseling because at the end of the day, it is OUR ego that initiates the hurt. So, with counseling the ego, it is possible to heal it and even smile at what we realize now, was utter foolishness on our part.

Simple, my dear Watson! How can anyone hurt me if I don’t WANT to get hurt?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A beautiful story with a message. There was once a clever businessman who, while crossing a river, fell in. Not knowing how to swim, he started shouting for help. A traveller who was walking along the bridge thought he would help him. So, he bent down and extended his hand, saying “give me your hand”.

The drowning man said, “No, I won’t give you my hand”. The man who was trying to save him understood that he has never developed a habit of giving. So, he told him, “can you at least HOLD my hand?” the man said, “yes”, and was pulled to safety.

If we look at the attitude of both, we understand how important it is to give.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A popular saying: we reap what we sow true. But between the sowing and the reaping, there can be many unexpected climatic conditions which can negate this saying. So, sometimes, we sow with the right intentions but are unable to reap what we want.

As they say, there is many a slip between the cup and the lip, so there arise unexpected circumstances’ …

Karmically, what brings us happiness for the moment can result in unhappiness later. For example, a wonderful marriage which can sour later. Or anything else for that matter. The opposite is also equally true. You start off on the wrong foot and end up really positive.

So, these proverbs are very limited somehow. We sow with intentions and that predictably should have good results. But we forget that karmically, we are interconnected and therefore, one man’s gain could be another person’s loss.

So, living for the moment is the best way to go because we don’t know the full implications and the far reaching effects of what we sow

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Once you establish the connection between the body, mind and soul, you should be able to have a multi pronged approach towards analysis, whether of events or you yourself. All the content is to be examined in detail by examining the quality of the layers surrounding it.

The ramifications of any event necessitates the use of a microscope under which the specimens would be our thoughts, emotions, how we feel about things, our comfort quotient etc. With people, too, this method should be employed. Only then can we remove the unwanted layers and preserve the important ones and thus, preserve the meaningful in all of the thoughts emotions, actions and attitudes.

I am convinced that this exercise would make it possible to connect all positive and good vibrations with each other, in body, mind and soul while doing away with all of the vibrations that have been colored by our own inconsistent and imbalanced perceptions, led by our ignorance. And also, thus, leading us away from our ability to discern, feel, recognize the right from the wrong and from establishing the connectivity of the body, mind, soul with all creation and the Universe.

In the Universe, we practice what is universal. And what is universal is that everything is interconnected. Any tendency of separatism can only give grief.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Wisdom


Adults who have psychological issues need to look at their growing up years. Parenting comes very hard to some parents. It is very common, especially in India for family and friends to foist their expectations and opinions on each other.

Hardly a year goes by for the newly married couple when people start wondering if everything is alright in their marriage. Why? Because they haven’t announced that they are on their way to becoming parents. ..Children are therefore, often the desired “objects” that make couples feel “normal”. And of course, if the “object” is a boy, then the parents hold exalted images. But they may not have been ready for parenting, or wise for that matter.

As a result, many children are mal nourished emotionally because the parents are not mature themselves. And they grow up minus the wisdom that should accompany the love, caring and attention. So, some children become lonely. Some become recluses. Some become overburdened with expectations. Some become attention seeking….and some try to draw attention though anything sensational, even killing.

Parents really have to be very careful about exercising wisdom in their own lives and lives of their children.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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