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The problem with us humans is that we have become so pretentious and insincere that we fail to recognize sincerity or genuineness when we see it.

Some memories of old relationships exist in all our hearts, I am sure. And if they are valuable, we tend to go back in time to connect with the same people. Only to find that, in some cases, there is either a lot of rancor or they have moved on.

Those that have really moved on will be civil or even friendly. But those that have kept grouses for years will be sometimes offensive and sometimes, avoid you.

In the larger perspective, any soul that has a meaning or has had a meaning in your life is definitely a part of your soul group that promised to be a part of your life. What fails is our inability to see that people might be distanced but the love remains, often in the form of anger or hate because what they wanted did not happen.

That is the truth of life. Destiny plays a large role and people get separated because of many reasons, mainly past lives and past karma. But in our anger, we don’t see the larger canvas. If we did, we would reinstate people in our lives more consciously and willingly.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Isn’t it amazing, this zest for life and will to live? Despite lives ending around us and all kinds of ailments plaguing humanity, we still carry on. Philosophies of life emerge every day. Some listen. Some listen and practice. Some don’t listen. Some don’t want to know and are happy in their world. Seasons come and go. Wrinkles start to show, last on the face and limbs. Those on the mind are older but when they manifest outwardly, we begin to take notice.

We are humans. We will regress some, progress some, cry some, laugh some, and carry on living life with all that we have, good, bad and indifferent. Who is anyone to say what these mean anyway? Because they mean so many different things to so many different people that you get exhausted from trying to fathom and analyze. It’s like you roam all over the world and then finally, come back and rest only in your home.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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As young kids, apart from coloring books, we had books where we had to connect dots to make a picture. I never realized that it was one of the most profound exercises we did. Today, as an adult, I am connecting the dots of my life episodes and thinking about how meaningless it was to rave and rant and fret and fume about what I wanted and could not get or what I could have achieved but was blocked etc. I tend to smile now because the picture is clear after the dots are connected. And there was never any need to feel all that negativity.

I learnt that the process of learning starts when you stop the blame game and start understanding why things happened the way they did.

The Divine plan is perfect. We, as humans, are not, because we don’t recognize our core strengths or the nature and quality of our source energy. What we are not meant for during any phase in our lives is because we are not ready for it or something else must be experienced. Like your parents telling you that you have to finish your homework before you can go out and play. But the child only wants to play.

When the fires of expectations from life are kind of quelled is when we are able to think clearly. When the clouds of discontent and disappointment disappear is when we can see the sunshine coming through.

And all this happens when we connect the dots and review our lives, so many blessings and so many phases of happiness and joy which, if not sustained, were so only because of our erratic attitudes.

Living and learning, maturing and becoming wiser and calmer… the journey of life goes on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Analysis


All these years of my practice have taught me that the one single enemy within is insecurity. It is like the nucleus of an amoeba. Everything undesirable emerges from it.

I can be insecure about innumerable things. Starting at birth, with my environment. Maybe, I was not a wanted child. The family never accepted me. Maybe, I grew up in isolation…a neglected child. Could be my family was financially not sound and I had to pinch pennies….and circumstances like this….

People seldom realize what has transpired in the lives of individuals they meet or know, and how and why they have become the way they are today…

Character and personality are not traits only from one life. We have multiple personalities living within us. Kids who display certain qualities don’t do it coincidentally. There is always a good reason.

So, insecurities build up from childhood, not only because of incidents that happen in this life but also those from other lives that we are here to neutralize.

An analysis of these insecurities will bring up effects like anger, complexes, diffidence, lack of self worth, envy , jealousy etc.

In fact, insecurities are directly proportionate to the self image. Feeling good and worthwhile is important to survival. And self image is generally based on the illusory self and therefore, cannot sustain itself, as all illusions cannot and do not.

So, try the antidote to insecurity. Strip away the surface layers of reactions one by one. Realize the power of love as being able to achieve miracles and discard anything that your soul within revolts at. Listen to the voice of the soul from within and understand what the Universe tells you about your life and how to live it. Gradually, you will succeed in dropping all insecurity, the biggest being that of the inevitability of death.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Silence! A potent word! How many types of silences do we know of?

I am reading a very informative book: “Silence” by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk. Such books increase our awareness manifold.

We don’t know how to face silence. When we are not doing anything, we try to engage our mind in other activities. Anything to get away from silence! We are consumed….

We consume food to avoid emptiness. We let our senses consume us. Feelings! Intense ones! Hatred. Anger. Even love consumes us.

Our desires, choices consume us. Passion consumes us.

And our conscience can consume us. Guilt, repentance for our actions, speech, words.

All these are enemies of silence, of silence that should ideally pervade all these and destroy them.

So, meditate, meditate and meditate. Deep breathe, deep breathe, deep breathe. Our breath is more powerful than we know.

Breath cleanses negative feelings and negative karma apart from bad habits and addictions. Meditation helps to achieve and maintain silence. And one day, this silence becomes golden. This is a state of joy.

But we need to start our journey to get there.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Very often, we seem to have little or no control over our thoughts. They keep coming almost like a cyclone and shake up the very core of an individual. Very few have the awareness and capacity to stop them when required, observe them and change them if and when necessary.

Sometimes, out of nowhere, some thoughts connected with old wounds surface suddenly. And then we understand that the healing is still pending. We will not get over these thoughts unless we heal them. Through understanding, love and forgiveness. What damages healing is also the intensity of negative feelings. The more intense, the less the ability to let go and more the pain and resentment.

Often, we are also so helpless with thoughts coming in. We actually believe that thoughts just come in. But from where? And do we have the power to regulate them or not? Do we KNOW we create them AND have the power to let them go, bring them in, transform the negative ones at will and by choosing the direction we want them to take? Perhaps not.

People say they tried but no resolution was found. Again, let us ask “why”. Because we insist on playing and replaying the same old “hurt” tape in our mind.

Again and again and again. We want a salutary action, a re-conciliatory action from the person who has hurt us. Right? We are unwilling to let go till this is done.

We don’t realize that WE can sort this out ourselves. Why do we need the crutch or a dependency to feel better? Or even to forgive and forget? Come on! Resolve the hurt yourself. Because you CHOSE to get hurt. Right? So, why expect someone else to solve YOUR issue, created by YOU?

We need to get out of the mode of “approval seeking” and emotional dependence. We want to belong somewhere, lean on someone because we don’t know how to live with people AND be independent. We keep loaning or giving away our precious energy to them.

The help we expect from others can be easily done through self counseling because at the end of the day, it is OUR ego that initiates the hurt. So, with counseling the ego, it is possible to heal it and even smile at what we realize now, was utter foolishness on our part.

Simple, my dear Watson! How can anyone hurt me if I don’t WANT to get hurt?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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