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Just because the clouds hide the sun doesn’t negate its existence. And just because the loved ones pass from this world doesn’t mean they are not connected with us. I do believe they watch over us. And I do believe we carry their energy within us, within our memory bank.

It would be nice to acknowledge them and all the elevated souls who are within reach should we ever want to reach out for help. And even if we don’t, they are the epitome of unconditional love.

This also shows the importance of the family tree, each member closely connected in group karma and therefore, very important in our evolution.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A little enquiry at the right time goes a long way. Whether family, friends or good acquaintances, which little bit of concern in adverse times goes a long way in spreading warmth. I don’t think it is imperative to come forward only in a crisis. Of course, that is a must. But what people really want is a small doze of constant warmth and caring.

The issues get more aggravated than necessary very often because there are flimsy grounds for getting hurt today. Anything small can become a big and even lifelong issue unless two people want to sort things out. Principles and commitment being things of the past, we can seek a good time anywhere and everywhere. Under these conditions, the warmth may also be meted out to the people you need in your life. And sadly, they need not be the people you have grown up with or spent time with.

Such is life and we still need to find our own peace amidst the chaos and disturbances in life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consequence


I read somewhere that grief is unproductive. And frankly, I have to agree at some level. Though grief is the most intense form of loss, it can also be felt for lesser types of loss in the larger context. For example, loss of Jewelry would be a lesser loss than the loss of a loved one. However, it is often very difficult to qualify grief because it is directly proportionate to the attachment levels. It can be an extreme form of a deep wound or hurt. A deep disillusionment about a loved person can result in grief.

What is really the dangerous consequence is the depression, the loss of hope that could set in. It can lead to mental disorders of a serious nature. At such times, a strong faith is the only guide that keeps you going. And the fact that even if there are underlying threads of grief which are permanent, there can be a recourse to other things which can engage the mind to disconnect with the grief if we can attempt this.

I try to give myself the advice I give to clients and that is challenging. It is so easy to guide others but when it comes to ourselves, don’t we often fail to take our own advice?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Common sense


“Common sense is uncommon” is a popular saying. I think good sense is equally uncommon. I mean, just look at us! We search for love but want it on our terms. When we have an issue with someone, we want the other person to come forward in reconciliation. We can prolong a simple misunderstanding indefinitely, being miserable and making another person equally miserable. But each one would rather convert themselves into a bunch of knots rather than forgive, forget and give a loving hug to each other. We are so funny that we will seethe in anger for years on a small issue ( of course, we amplify it to look humongous) but will not call it quits and move on.

Family feuds, sibling rivalry, petty comparisons… you name it and they are rampant and ultimately to what end? To lose valuable relationships and turn away from your own near and dear ones? To refuse to communicate to iron out hurts and misunderstandings? Only human beings can live with so much self promoted negativity, forgetting all the good times shared, the loving moments shared. More often than not, everything boils down to the “I am the one who is right” syndrome.

So, tell me. Isn’t good sense uncommon?

I remember the story of the man who sat on the branch of a tree to cut some wood for fire and was cutting the very branch he was sitting on without the good sense that he would fall and break a few bones. If we look within us, we can see many such broken bones but would we admit that? NO, sure…we still boast of having good sense, you see!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You know, there is a need for each one of us to seek as much exposure to the various aspects of life as possible because only by observing the lives of others, different situations arising out of who you are and how much you earn and how honed a personality you have ended up becoming….

There are people who live in their own little world who just don’t develop themselves because they are just too myopic or fearful.

You can easily educate yourself on your own. Provided you want to. You just need interest, attitude and time, apart from being like a sponge and imbibing and imbibing more and more, internalizing the information and then making the necessary changes to your thinking and emotions.

We tend to look at people very superficially and tend to shun people who we don’t understand instead of trying to understand them and learning something we don’t know.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I want to talk about real people today, people who laugh and cry, love and lie, are honest sometimes and manipulative at other times. People who hurt and who forgive. Ordinary people who can be extraordinary. Intelligent ones who can goof up every now and then, people who can make a mistake and laugh at themselves. People who can bear a lifelong grudge and let go also.

How does one live in a synthetic world of ” best behavior 24•7 ” it would be an exhausting exercise. Smile politely. Talk politely. Keep your voice down just enough. Never say a contradictory word. Always agree to the opinion of others. Just listen … and all will be well apart from the fact that you would in this case, be one of the most boring people one had the “fortune” of knowing.

Give me real people any day. The “dhishoom dhishoom” types. They have an interesting personality at least.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Talent and confidence! It is a two in one package and no two ways about it. Right from the time that parents either encourage and appreciate or the reverse, a person becomes either confident or diffident. When opportunities are denied growing up, talent languishes because of a lack of self belief. “I can do it” and “I am good enough”, the two most an important conviction without which whatever is learnt stays unexposed and in utilized. Many, many instances can I quote, of such cases where the talented little child becomes an adult but has not learned to breathe independently, to showcase the uniqueness with aplomb…..

Someone, somewhere did not notice, appreciate or nurture that uniqueness, that talent which lay sacrificed at the altar of hesitation and maybe, timidity also. Or maybe an implicit and innocent faith in the capacity of the discernment of elders which was a faith gone wrong.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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