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Why is it that quiet people are generally ignored? Just because they don’t indulge in constant chatter even if it is trivial or meaningless, just to make their presence felt? I have also noticed that they are not given credit for much brain either. Almost as if, being quiet is being dumb.

The quality of being judgmental is our birthright, you see. So, how can one let it go? How will we form opinions then? They are generally formed on this very premise and such premises, on others and their lifestyles and personalities.

One should always look beyond the facade. Very often, quiet people have much depth of learning and understanding. It is also a fact that those who elevate spiritually find their minds quietening and so do their speech levels. It is true that they don’t feel the need to talk and comment incessantly on something or another. One should never judge them hastily. They could be thinkers who don’t need validation from external sources.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destination


Any pursuit leads to its destination . Anything prayed for with intensity happens. But, there is a proviso. There should be no doubt. There should be consistency and relentless pursuit until it is achieved. No deviation either. Getting off track spells lack of success until you get back on track once again . It will now possibly take you longer because you lost focus.

For those non achievers who felt disappointed , they probably did not put their heart and soul into an activity with one hundred percent positivity and certainty. Even one percent doubt could distance you from reaching your destination. The trouble is, we are unable to sense minute misgivings. Even those should not crop up.

Actually, there is a difference in “doing” and ” being done through you”. The first is ego driven. “I” am doing it. The second is what the Universe channels through you. When and if we reach the latter state, there won’t be a feeling named “doubt”. Because the doer and the action are one, not separate.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sign of wisdom


Apparent vs opaque. What seems to be is often not. And what we would not imagine, often is. What appears to be apparent may be just a surface layer which probably could not be penetrated. And what is opaque has a very dense energy around it , which can and cannot be looked into.

But what really works is face value. Taking things at face value is the sign of wisdom. Because this definitely prevents unnecessary analysis and sometimes, over reaction also, which can get pretty out of hand and uncomfortable. Why go there at all ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We know ourselves more by the independent choices we make. Compromised choices often are reluctant choices that sometimes leave a trace of anger. “Why did I agree to make that choice? I don’t like that feeling very much. I don’t feel good”, especially when the results might not be palatable.

Well, it is normal to feel this way. We are all free spirits who , by nature, don’t want controls. And yet, we have them everywhere ever since we are born. In childhood, they are thrust on us because we don’t know any better. And soon, this becomes routine until you start asking “why”.

When you make your own choices, you take ownership of those choices, whether they work out for you or not. That is the right learning process. There is no chance of throwing the blanket at anyone else here because you were solely responsible for the choice. And actually, it’s good because that’s how we grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Everything & Nothing


No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgment.

Give others the privilege to explain themselves.

What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first?

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

Those who take out time to chat with you, does not mean they are jobless or less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch.

One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had.

Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile; the heart is touched by strong words and you will say: ‘IT WAS WITH THEM, THAT I HAD SOME OF THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE’.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Happy living


Saving good energy is vital to happy living. Once you get sensitive to energy, it becomes much easier to sense what we call “bad vibes” from someone. Means negative energy directed towards you. And you need to be very strongly positive to be immune to it. Mostly, we are not.

So, until you become strong, it certainly would be the wiser option to stay away. Contrary to neither what many term this it is, not running away nor cowardice. It is merely a self protecting method. We owe it to ourselves because we seldom find someone who would act as a protective shield.

I say this from personal experience. Stay away and cleanse yourself from anything you don’t want others to foist upon you. The more you are unaffected, the more you will continue to cleanse and be less and less affected until one day, you will smile and deflect the “vibes” you don’t want to accept.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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