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Involvement


Our spiritual texts speak of the third person perspective. A common parlance is also to be clinical. To keep your emotions away to stay out of involvement. But really, if you learn to observe people, it is an extremely interesting pastime. A study of humanities, humaneness and inhumanity as well. Without judgment and as an observer.

I have found that if you start doing this, gradually that observation starts to turn into introspection. Because you start sensing your own response, however clinical you may try to be. It is impossible to be 100 percent clinical. Even sadhus have feelings. But they are better with detachment than we are.

There is a constant learning this way, both at the macro and micro levels. And there is a wonderful side effect in that you feel light and happy, and hopefully, wiser, too.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destination


Time is linear. From the day we are born, we are moving towards death. Ascension is symbolized as going upwards, evolving, elevating ourselves. Even the Holy Cross means just that. A horizontal line crossed by a vertical. The kunadalini rising through the chakras upwards also means the same, that evolution implies breaking the linear and circular dimensions to ascend, through higher vibrations generated by higher and purer thought processes and use this life to shed all that is meaningless for our ascension. Only we can do that by travelling the road enlightened people walk along , to walk in their footsteps and to learn from them before we move along on our own towards the only destination that we have been given this life for.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Punishments


Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through each minute until we hear an “operation successful” verdict. It seems as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.

Punishments to kids are designed also for propelling them towards learning. Children often say, “You are so cruel”. We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we do. But they perceive it in a different way.

It is not only to others but on ourselves, too, that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn’t come easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt….apt supporting thoughts. Indulge yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic “knives” . They “bleed” you but ultimately help you and give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Consideration


Relationships are longer lasting if they are spontaneous. When you keep away, despite closeness, out of too much consideration or an “iffy” attitude, you end up creating a vacuum in the other and often, distances may crop up gradually but surely. I have seen cases where one of the two in a relationship actually drives it. The other sits back for whatever reason. This is just one type which struggles to survive.

I really wonder whether there are too many “equal” relationships in this world. Spontaneous and happy.

Most of my clients struggle with inequality. It is amazing how simple answers aren’t forthcoming or visible at the best of times and people love to wallow in their self created, self pity, aided by complex thinking inspired by a complicated mind.

They say, heart connections are more enduring. But I have seen them transform into controlling tendencies or over sized expectations.

Then again, heart and head connections are advocated. But if one has more heart and the other has more head, it might pose a challenge.

So, what works best is to just be you because life is a challenge for each of us. Often, just trying to manage relationships becomes stressful. So, stop managing (or manipulating) and start living your own life and live it well. Because living someone else’s life is something you can’t do without a lot of confusion and pain. You were not meant to in the first place.

And the good news is, some people will always walk through your life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Energy


More people should go into learning and practicing energy work. Even those who don’t know Reiki symbols or Panic Healing can start by becoming aware of everything within and without as energy. The moment you create the awareness, you start feeling that energy.

Today, we add the popular prefix “e” to every enterprise…like e commerce, e publishing etc. Similarly, we also have “e motion” and “e” go…e for energy in this case.

E motion is simply energy in motion. E go also implies movement.( go) These are energies in motion which we need in life but transmuted as positive energy.

Without feelings and emotions, we would be like dry, barren land. Without ego, we would not know how to balance our inner and outer worlds.

But there is a difference to be made in using emotions for peace and harmony and manifesting the connectivity and oneness aspects as opposed to excessive detrimental emotions causing conflict and war.

Speaking of ego, it accelerates the pace of lessons to be learnt in self control, balancing the male and female aspects of one and speaking universal truths without ego and with humility and understanding.

Understanding energy is extremely enlightening, informative and transformatory. I sincerely advocate an interest in this direction.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Reliability


There cannot be a better character trait than standing by your family and friends. Sadly, people change relationships like they change their attire. Actually, if you can’t stand by others, the deep seated meaning of this is that somewhere, deep down, you haven’t been able to stand by yourself.

We live by the courage of our convictions, those who don’t keep changing their convictions. And each time that this happens, they look for a change of people around them. The unfortunate part is that when you don’t have a relationship with yourself, you tend to become rather like a rudderless ship. Like a ship passing in the night that never docks.

Life can’t be lived like this, can it? One has to have loyalties and the strength to be with people because you have given them love, even if they sometimes have feet of clay. Don’t we all? You don’t abandon each other for being human, as long as humaneness is retained.

Opportunism is a close trait where loyalties fail. Going the way the wind blows. Reliability on these people would be a grave mistake. You will never know where you stand with them. There is also loyalty among thieves as we know. I am not referring to such loyalty. I speak of the kind of loyalty where you are of support in good times and bad times based on good value systems, because you care. Nothing less…though, could be more.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Exhilarating feeling


You know what the greatest sense of freedom is? When people actually stop affecting you! It is an exhilarating feeling. We store and store and store all kinds of feelings based on all kinds of reactions. And what we really end up doing is tying ourselves up in so many knots…and we seethe and resent and god knows what!! Actually, the quality of our life takes a dip.

Imagine then, if we just stop and take a deep breath and just let go all that we are holding onto!! Wow! Instant freedom! I can hear voices saying, “but it is not so easy”. And I say, yes. But it is not so difficult either if you make up your mind.

Stonewalling reactions should be taught from school because we do it so spontaneously! Without thinking.

Once you stop letting yourself get affected, you can smile your way through any situation. And it makes you feel a sense of release and a sense of being in control of your life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari