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Aspects of life


You know, there is a need for each one of us to seek as much exposure to the various aspects of life as possible because only by observing the lives of others, different situations arising out of who you are and how much you earn and how honed a personality you have ended up becoming….

There are people who live in their own little world who just don’t develop themselves because they are just too myopic or fearful.

You can easily educate yourself on your own. Provided you want to. You just need interest, attitude and time, apart from being like a sponge and imbibing and imbibing more and more, internalizing the information and then making the necessary changes to your thinking and emotions.

We tend to look at people very superficially and tend to shun people who we don’t understand instead of trying to understand them and learning something we don’t know.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Personality


I want to talk about real people today, people who laugh and cry, love and lie, are honest sometimes and manipulative at other times. People who hurt and who forgive. Ordinary people who can be extraordinary. Intelligent ones who can goof up every now and then, people who can make a mistake and laugh at themselves. People who can bear a lifelong grudge and let go also.

How does one live in a synthetic world of ” best behavior 24•7 ” it would be an exhausting exercise. Smile politely. Talk politely. Keep your voice down just enough. Never say a contradictory word. Always agree to the opinion of others. Just listen … and all will be well apart from the fact that you would in this case, be one of the most boring people one had the “fortune” of knowing.

Give me real people any day. The “dhishoom dhishoom” types. They have an interesting personality at least.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


Talent and confidence! It is a two in one package and no two ways about it. Right from the time that parents either encourage and appreciate or the reverse, a person becomes either confident or diffident. When opportunities are denied growing up, talent languishes because of a lack of self belief. “I can do it” and “I am good enough”, the two most an important conviction without which whatever is learnt stays unexposed and in utilized. Many, many instances can I quote, of such cases where the talented little child becomes an adult but has not learned to breathe independently, to showcase the uniqueness with aplomb…..

Someone, somewhere did not notice, appreciate or nurture that uniqueness, that talent which lay sacrificed at the altar of hesitation and maybe, timidity also. Or maybe an implicit and innocent faith in the capacity of the discernment of elders which was a faith gone wrong.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Celebrate life


Ironing out the creases of life is a life well spent Or else to truly forget and make merry. Celebrate life every day. Some of us who were brought up to admonish our own shadow for losing our seriousness value the light moments of our lives more than others would understand.

To shut out anything heavy consciously is no mean task. The lightness of being happens as we drop the burdens we carry. Ironically and contrary to everything else, this process is not time bound or tabulated. One spark of realization about the futility of carrying your load and it can be like instant coffee. Instant Nirvana! Or then, there is always the possibility of the one step forward and two backwards theories.

So much unlearning and unwinding precedes becoming light for many of us who have wound ourselves tightly and created several knots. Generally takes a lot of time to loosen and let go. So, there is no better time than NOW to start, Better late than “The late”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Knowledge is power


That knowledge is power is a well known truth. But truth also has two sides. And so, the power of knowledge can have undesirable traits piling up, too. When knowledge is combined with power of the wrong kind, it can cause endless agony and destruction.

As Lord Acton said, “Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely”. I know it is ironic and a paradox that both words can be incompatible. But the beauty of humans is that their minds find it easier to get twisted in the negative direction rather than towards straight thinking, simple thinking and positive thinking.

You can be in any profession, have any vocation but there is always a danger of developing arrogance, an illusion of superiority and ego on the path of knowledge, evidently in comparison with the less knowledgeable. There are two ways of handling knowledge. One, by wanting a monopoly over it and two, by spreading it. The tendency for a monopoly goes hand in hand with controlling the environment and its people whereas spreading knowledge opens the heart and enables a person to become like a tree which grows tall and gives shade unconditionally.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Goals


Everyone has or should have a focus in life. Drifting is not the best of things to do. Life moves pretty quickly if actions are focused. And are goal determined, because we are working towards something with creativity. Most satisfying, even if the goal is not an enormous one.

I am amazed at this experience of being a universe within a universe. Each one of us is. Suddenly, you feel free from crutches… and you begin to see people as they are and not the way you want them to be. You begin to see actions without judging. You understand who and what is a part of your personal universe and who is not. Quite amazing!

When you begin to watch yourself, you begin to notice that there is someone else within you who is watching and there is no need to feel alienated with oneself. That everything is a part and parcel of us.

As if from far away, I watch the world go by and I am able to converse with that other part of me which watches and then discusses with me. You know, there is absolutely no use of agitation at anything. What will be will be? And we proceed in our journey on the river of life, smiling at the ripples as well as the obstacles because we know it is not the real “me” but someone else who is experiencing life and I am but a shadow. The day I breathe my last, my shadow will disappear into the universe to create a new “me” once again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Happiness


The purest of emotions in the world today is good will. Where people live more within their dark side, to have good will and be happy for someone else is amazing. When you hear people in conversation, the most common topic is about people running down people and hating the success of others. Why?

A lack of contentment mostly, with one’s own lot. An inability to run through the chapters of the book of life of others, failing to remember their dark days and envying their bright spots. Very sad! And that’s probably why it is so refreshing to find those odd ones who really prop you up and don’t grudge you a little happiness. In fact, they share it.

May the tribe of such people increase!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari