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It is the truth that things will go to ruin only if WE let them. People and events will get the better of us if we let them. The ball is always in our court even if it was thrown by someone else. And if we don’t want it, WE have to make the effort to send it back.

So, there is really no scope for hopelessness at all. Between the creative and logical parts of the brain lie all ideas , ways to accomplish what we want to and all processing of thoughts and information and then …the challenge to make it all work and NOT get intimidated by anyone or anything. This the last but lethal stop where everything can reach a dead end.

Shying away from life for whatever reason may well is termed as defensive living. It could mean accepting the dent in the quality of life which could otherwise be enhanced with personal effort.

Because it is true that life will be what WE make of it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Self-esteem


I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of “enough?”

Mostly, we set our own limits, don’t we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.

You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that “space” is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.

Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The “enough” may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed “enough”, Math between people. “I didn’t get enough”. But I probably also didn’t GIVE enough…

But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Surprise test


We are very quick to brand life as unfair when things don’t go our way. As if life were a person giving us a hard time! Sounds funny, right? But we do this all the time. And then people get linked to the unfairness of life.

When something good happens, we take it as entitlement and forget it so quickly. We always feel we deserve the best of everything and not a moment of the opposite.

But who said so? Who developed a foolproof package to be delivered to the “deserving?” No answer! Whatever good that comes our way as freebies or good luck is a bonus for the hard work we may have put in. Nothing is a coincidence.

But what we call “adverse” is also what we deserve at that moment. Surprise tests! As we had in school, we always had to be prepared.

Hmmm. Time to draw parallels in our lives!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Lifestyle


I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


Everything within our mind rests on the root cause which transforms into effect. Half the population in this world suffers from depression, for example. But there is always a root cause, a place where it started. We are unable to identify it many a time because of the opacity of the many layers surrounding it due to the cyclical effect of cause and effect.

Still, if we could even put our ego aside for a while and then try and go back to the root cause, it might be possible to identify it. Very often, it is minuscule but becomes a mountain with successive attacks by the ego.

The appearance of the actual cause can miraculously clear the path for eradication of the root cause. That is why, in the language of the healers, reliving is releasing.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


Circumventing life! Do we really know how to live life? From the time of our birth, we are gradually moving towards death. But that’s not the point. We die several deaths in life even before death actually happens. Either we live with past memories or with anxiety for the future. Almost as if that cutting of the umbilical cord at birth has the same effect as the severing of the cord of the kite in the sky, leaving it swaying in space , completely directionless and blown away by the wind to wherever it takes the kite.

We are not geared to living in the moment. That cord has been severed, too. And the reason is, we don’t actually know how to live this way. The past and future thoughts leave no space for the present. So, our thoughts are also blown and scattered here and there and we just don’t know the art of retrieving them and filing them where they belong or letting them go, as the case may be.

Each day passes, never to return. But all we do is frame our memories in picture frames and spend our lives looking at them, some with happiness, some with sadness and some with regret. Where is the space for the present? Where is the motivation to shake off the dust and start off again towards a new horizon?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari