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I marvel at people who just take things for granted. Because what you really take completely for granted is the most fragile. Yes, LIFE!

Is there any guarantee that we will even wake up in the morning? Every day, we hear of sudden health issues, some discovered too late even because, before manifesting, they were festering within.

One would imagine that after witnessing one or two such cases, people would become more sensitive to those around them and aware of the fact that they can be lost to them anytime.

And yet, this awareness is very slow to come in, if at all. It is very essential to spend as much time with each other and build up strong and loving memories to last and transfer to each succeeding generation. We survive only on good memories, and we have to create them ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Perspectives


A popular thought: if God brings you to it, HE will take you through it”. As we go through life, with each onslaught, we begin to get stronger and stronger. As they say, if it doesn’t kill you, it HAS to make you stronger.

When I see my loved ones having to live without people they loved very much, and living with grace, I realize that we really have no business to be anything other than compassionate. And live with courage. And self respect.

Every second day, there is news of someone getting unwell. There is always news of families breaking apart. There is enough misery to cope with. And enough support to be given.

I really don’t know what to say about people who get so selfish in their ego that they don’t recognize even those who care for them. Their loss, I guess. They have not learnt to count their blessings. Or, are in a whirlpool of mixed emotions where they don’t want to know that they also could be riddled with faulty perspectives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Survive


I want to urge people who are prone to deep depressions and disappointments in life, that swallowing pills to feel numb is temporary. I agree that certain issues are really difficult to handle.

There comes a time of hopelessness when no solutions come up and we are on the verge if defeat and acceptance of unpalatable truths.

Never mind. Keep faith. Just as seasons must change, so must the inner seasons of the mind. Agreed that we lose patience and cannot determine the exact point at which something snaps within us. Just don’t let it snap. Keep faith.

If we didn’t believe in goodness on earth, how could we survive? Keep faith and wait for the tide to turn. It will, if you keep faith.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Environment


Today, we are riddled with double standards wherever we turn. One set for us and another for others. Without any qualms!

“Do as you would like others do unto you” could be a saying in Swahili for all that we know. It is a different world with people courting completely new mindsets.

Complex minds and even dangerous minds, especially if they are devoid of emotions and all the definitions have undergone a sea change. There is really no choice but to accept them. And hope sensitivities will be revived as a reaction to too much of a clinical approach to people, reactions which could be given other tags, such as callous and unfeeling. A legacy of a dominant and fragile ego perhaps and of a highly competitive environment where gnawing desires and ambitions overlook the dying embers of humaneness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Life moments


The beauty of life’s moments holding your new born child. The first time she calls you”ma”,  the joy of that moment when it would be as joyous as if it was the last word you heard. The warm hugs and the little arms around your neck as you get “spitty “kisses which glisten in your eyes, not your cheeks.

And when this child becomes an adult, she does the same with her kids. The tradition of motherhood continues but she has forgotten that warmth and fuzzy feeling of being held by her mom forgotten that even if a child becomes sixty, she is still the same loveable and huggable kid to her mom.

Ironically, her inner child leaves her while her mom has hung on primarily to those wonderful memories of that little child who, as an adult, has moved into another phase. That’s life. You live with your memories. And live with the fact that life is full of phases. And you must move on. Or life will make you do so.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Vibrations


Once in a while, you come across people who give you the respect of being honest with you. You end up building a solid, enduring relationship with honest people because they generally come with a brand of sincerity as well.

Yes, I say “respect” because people who try and play mind games don’t realize that no one is being fooled. And respect is not being shown for the intelligence people have.

Having seen integrity, sincerity, respect and loyalty to a cause at close quarters, you want to choose to be with such people. They may appear to be disappearing minorities around you but they are valuable in that they come with a high vibration tag and teach you to tune in to these vibrations the true “satsang” of vibrations.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Expectation


We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.

And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.

Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.

That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more

Calmness


My guru asked me whether, while meditating, time is slow to pass or passes quickly without my noticing it. And I realized that this is the measure of how successful your first level of meditation is. Some people struggle to sit for those few minutes and some lose track of time.

The latter happens when you actually start enjoying the meditation, when you become peaceful, not necessarily because all thoughts stop but because you learn to observe your thoughts dispassionately. And don’t allow them to affect your inner calm and peace.

People misunderstand the concept of meditation and think it is going to be a drastic and permanent shift. But it won’t be though you CAN increase your hours of meditation gradually to times when you are working, eating, even conversing, by keeping your inner core unaffected and steady with calmness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


In the beginning, an attempt to detach is very painful. Humans are tied up in the silken threads of “moha” which is attraction to people and things, even to places. Even silken threads spell bondage, though, it may be remembered.

Spiritual orators recommend detachment to obtain peace and to move forward towards a more elevated state of being. Not an easy task ! But when you pray hard enough, and try sincerely, the Universe helps you. Circumstances arise to help you detach slowly, often painfully.

After the stage is reached when the pain lessens, you can start feeling the relief of being liberated. Because in “moha”, YOU hold on so, only you can let go to experience the feeling of freedom from the huge amount of baggage that you had stored baggage because “moha” leads to much suffering. You are actually trying to capture the intangible and the illusory. What then would be the result other than suffering?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Wisdom


Sometimes, the shocks life gives you leave you numb and speechless. But it is silly to react so emotionally. People can be callous and cruel. Are you going to give them more power, more energy by hurting? That would be foolish.

Wisdom lies in choosing when to take anyone seriously. Hopefully, never to take anyone seriously like they say, take it with a pinch of salt. Though why they give salt so much importance, I don’t know may be, because salt retains water in the body and similarly, egos bloat people.

So, take a chill pill and move in life like a free spirit. No encumbrances, especially when it comes to undeserving people around you. Not worth killing yourselves with numbness or shock.

Like my guru said, be a witness. No one belongs to you and you don’t belong to anyone. Nature is unfathomable. It is said that a baby scorpion kills its mother after its birth. Is it a surprise then to see what humans can do?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari