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Every day, I observe the tendency of people to let their minds and prejudices get the better of them. If you like someone, you can even find it in your heart and your speech to defend them even if they have committed a murder. And if you DON’T like them, you will not give them even a little credit for a single good deed they may have done.

The mind plays games. It tells you “don’t like these people. See how they treat you”. Or, “see how wonderful this is” when it not at all good for you, e.g, befriending opportunists because you like their flattery. And you listen. Why? Do you really have a solid reason?

Actually not. You just cannot see beyond your ego at that point, YOU are not hurt. It is only your ego that makes you dance on its finger tips.

Very often, we have gone back and apologized to people after feeling wronged. Because we realized that it was wrong to feel wronged in the first place. Better sense dawns sometimes.

And when it dawns all the time is the time when you become calm and centered without swaying and swinging like a yo yo. And decide to let go and let things just BE.

We know we are all different and we should give the benefit of doubt to everyone as we give to ourselves all the time. No one is really “bad” or “good” but situations create our perceptions of these tags according to our prejudices and limited ways of thinking.

Once the mind expands and consciousness expands, we will be different as people. And towards this should our efforts be directed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is the truth that things will go to ruin only if WE let them. People and events will get the better of us if we let them. The ball is always in our court even if it was thrown by someone else. And if we don’t want it, WE have to make the effort to send it back.

So, there is really no scope for hopelessness at all. Between the creative and logical parts of the brain lie all ideas , ways to accomplish what we want to and all processing of thoughts and information and then …the challenge to make it all work and NOT get intimidated by anyone or anything. This the last but lethal stop where everything can reach a dead end.

Shying away from life for whatever reason may well is termed as defensive living. It could mean accepting the dent in the quality of life which could otherwise be enhanced with personal effort.

Because it is true that life will be what WE make of it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of “enough?”

Mostly, we set our own limits, don’t we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.

You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that “space” is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.

Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The “enough” may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed “enough”, Math between people. “I didn’t get enough”. But I probably also didn’t GIVE enough…

But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is so true that different people get different things from any one component. Let’s take social media. Some hate it. They find facebook, instagram etc. too impersonal or even invasive. Then you have those who love to make “friends” who they can be the best of themselves with safety in acquaintance. There are also those who want to connect with old friends they have lost touch with. Some feel less lonely when they communicate on a facebook.

Similarly, I do think it is possible to extract the best for oneself from every episode, every person and everything else, too. Just depends on the attitude and mental dexterity, not to mention intelligence.

If I know something is good for me, I should be able to pursue it without prejudice and recourse to any kind of cloudiness in the mind. I can’t understand why anyone should judge without experience. And why I should let myself get swept away beyond my purpose and even after my need is fulfilled. I believe one can try anything new if one knows where to draw the line.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Desire


What often becomes a wound, regret and a cause for depression is the memory of what we aspired for but didn’t get. I would really like to meet one person who got everything, haven’t yet met one.

But neither have I met many who are able to count what they HAVE got. If only we could use a magnifying glass to view our blessings, we could find it in our hearts to feel very foolish at our myopia.

From the smallest toy when we are kids to huge empires when we are adults are on our wish list. Avarice rules us in wanting the world, beyond ambition. And the whole conflict is about being deprived of the few desires in life as compared to the ones achieved and these being the reason to feel happy and blessed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Immaturity


Immaturity can be a curse for those who seek happiness. I am sure that knowingly, no one would drive themselves towards unhappiness. It is the inability to see that one is on the wrong path and on a path that leads to grief and nowhere else.

What is immaturity? To my mind, it has many faces.

A tendency to be impulsive can be immaturity because it can tilt the balance between cause and effect, and balance in everything is the key.

Thinking only of your own comfort and disregarding the feelings of others is immaturity because true happiness is a derivative of the heart which works in two ways: give and take.

Living without morals and values is immaturity. Maturity is when you have your principles and responsibilities intact along with freedom.

Immaturity is when you don’t know who is sincere and who isn’t, when you get impressed by external facades instead of evaluating the inner core of people.

A lack of Ethics constitutes a big portion of immaturity, when you, out of your own unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your existing life, cause upheavals in the lives of others, when you let your petty ego mar beautiful relationships.

When you live in denial of your own weaknesses and refuse to be counseled. And sometimes, choose those to counsel you who have a hidden motive to come close, shunning those who love you and have wisdom to impart.

Carrying grouses over small issues and allowing this to distance you from people, without actually realizing that no one can be perfect and that only love makes imperfect perfect.

These are just a few. I am sure everyone will have points to add to these. And those who speculate on this subject will definitely be able resolve a lot of confusion in their minds.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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