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I marvel at people who just take things for granted. Because what you really take completely for granted is the most fragile. Yes, LIFE!

Is there any guarantee that we will even wake up in the morning? Every day, we hear of sudden health issues, some discovered too late even because, before manifesting, they were festering within.

One would imagine that after witnessing one or two such cases, people would become more sensitive to those around them and aware of the fact that they can be lost to them anytime.

And yet, this awareness is very slow to come in, if at all. It is very essential to spend as much time with each other and build up strong and loving memories to last and transfer to each succeeding generation. We survive only on good memories, and we have to create them ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.

And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.

Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.

That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more

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Maturity


Why am I treating someone badly because the person deserves it according to you? Hmmm. Retaliation can never be a solution. Somewhere, retaliation means you are unwilling or unable to solve an issue amicably. Because you lack courage to understand that you are a part of the problem too.

Staying away from what you cannot handle debilitates you in the long run and your courage levels are naturally low. That is not really an ideal way to live. But sooner or later, life teaches and levels us out if we don’t do these ourselves, with understanding and maturity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is important to know when to communicate but more important to know when not to communicate. We all go through phases when we do things out of good intentions but offend some sensibilities. Fair enough. This happens sometimes to us also and then we are left to deal with our feelings like others deal with theirs.

But in all of this, when one tries to smoothen the ruffled feathers, not once but many times and there is no response, it is time to withdraw communication.

Holding on is not healthy but some people can’t let go easily. They have to work out their feelings and their relationship on their own. More so, the intentions of others may take time. It is all a part of the drama. But important to understand that this is not about us or who we are.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I wrote this based on my observation of close bonds being diluted due to non communication :

The uneasy silence of unspoken words .

The strain of meeting as if all is well. The restless soul that feels this pain ,

And suffers in helplessness.

Of being so close but, oh ! So distant !

The boundary stretched across ,

Irrevocably perhaps ?

When and how did this happen ?

Only God would know !

As awareness , lost in the darkness of life’s events

Not retrieved , as time knocked out what could have been. …

Talk to me, for I am no stranger..

Tell me how you feel..

Surprise me with your warmth ..

I know it lurks somewhere within ..

Just break the barrier..

It can’t be so hard !

The other beseeches you

But you keep your ego intact.

Futile ! Think a while !

For cruel is time

And fragile is life.

Atone, amend, salvage the bonds

For, death stands just beyond that door..

And regrets and guilt an inch away from that door.

So, build bridges.

Rebuild the burnt ones

Reconstruct the old, loving patterns.

Let your heart be peaceful and content.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you noticed that our thoughts, our actions are mostly based on the expected responses? Have we thought or acted for the sake of thinking and acting? That anticipated response or the expectation of a certain kind of response is vital to our basic health. Because the result is either a “feel good” one or one that brings out our fear and insecurities.

We are so dependent on other people! Their opinions, their good will, their liking (or not) shape and even create us. Quite scary, actually, because we all believe we are independent, thinking individuals pretty much in control of our life.

Yes, we have to live amongst people, but what percentage of the self can we salvage after succumbing to all the influences?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consequences


Living for you is no art. It comes naturally to people. Self interest is usually top priority amidst all the external banter. We have become masters of banter. I must get what I want at any cost, is the usual philosophy of life.

But the fact is, we can’t survive happily like this. To quote Sadguru once again, and I seem to be doing this a lot lately, we must learn to look at things as they are. Like, we call a tree “wood”. Like we call a human being a “body” the moment death occurs.

We forget that Prana is in trees too. They breathe. They live. The same oxygen connects us. Imagine if that oxygen was taken away from us ! We would not survive. Amazing how we wear blinkers. At least horses are made to wear them. We wear them ourselves very conveniently.

We are facing severe consequences on the constant onslaught on nature and everything connected, including humans, and will continue to do so until the price for our foolishness is paid. Like someone cutting the very branch he is sitting on. Aren’t we doing pretty much the same?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Mindfulness


Mindfulness in each present moment has the power to erase all past recordings of all lifetimes. Sounds easy? It sure can be. But we constantly remind ourselves that it is NOT easy. Why because, actually, we don’t want to let go.

Just imagine. When we are in a crowd, do we remember what happened ten years ago, while we are being jostled and pushed? Naturally not because we are busy trying to keep our balance and prevent ourselves from falling, getting injured right?

But when a crowd of memories jostle and push your mind, the tendency is to let them knock you down and injure you, isn’t it? And your whole personality can change drastically in reaction to these injuries.

But, while being mindful in the present moment, you are focused on just what is happening in that moment. And it therefore, takes that one instant to forget all else. And if you can continue practicing this, one day, you will reach a state of constant mindfulness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Contagious


The word “contagious” has been coming to mind often. A smile is obviously contagious. But then, a viral is also contagious. Is contagiousness an automatic response? Someone smiles at you and you automatically smile back.

But sadly, generosity is not. Charity is not. Kindness and compassion are not. Love , the divine energy, is always in short supply.

I would like to say that hatred and envy are not. But when I see the cut throats society today, I can’t help feeling that somewhere, some lethal virals like merciless pursuits of power and money became contagious and brought the ethical and moral values down, thus bringing society down. When we started living for ourselves, we forgot to be connected and so, did not respond to external stimuli. And without that, where is the question of anything being contagious ? We don’t possess the band width for it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked me what one should do if someone hurts you with either speech or behavior. It becomes simple when: You accept that getting hurt is choice we make.

When you accept that the one you get hurt by is unhappy in some way and reacts in a way that hurts you and that we are attached to that behavior personally with our ego

Just as anything you throw at a wall will fall on the ground after hitting the wall, so much other people’s deeds fall to the ground if YOU let them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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