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I wrote this based on my observation of close bonds being diluted due to non communication :

The uneasy silence of unspoken words .

The strain of meeting as if all is well. The restless soul that feels this pain ,

And suffers in helplessness.

Of being so close but, oh ! So distant !

The boundary stretched across ,

Irrevocably perhaps ?

When and how did this happen ?

Only God would know !

As awareness , lost in the darkness of life’s events

Not retrieved , as time knocked out what could have been. …

Talk to me, for I am no stranger..

Tell me how you feel..

Surprise me with your warmth ..

I know it lurks somewhere within ..

Just break the barrier..

It can’t be so hard !

The other beseeches you

But you keep your ego intact.

Futile ! Think a while !

For cruel is time

And fragile is life.

Atone, amend, salvage the bonds

For, death stands just beyond that door..

And regrets and guilt an inch away from that door.

So, build bridges.

Rebuild the burnt ones

Reconstruct the old, loving patterns.

Let your heart be peaceful and content.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you noticed that our thoughts, our actions are mostly based on the expected responses? Have we thought or acted for the sake of thinking and acting? That anticipated response or the expectation of a certain kind of response is vital to our basic health. Because the result is either a “feel good” one or one that brings out our fear and insecurities.

We are so dependent on other people! Their opinions, their good will, their liking (or not) shape and even create us. Quite scary, actually, because we all believe we are independent, thinking individuals pretty much in control of our life.

Yes, we have to live amongst people, but what percentage of the self can we salvage after succumbing to all the influences?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consequences


Living for you is no art. It comes naturally to people. Self interest is usually top priority amidst all the external banter. We have become masters of banter. I must get what I want at any cost, is the usual philosophy of life.

But the fact is, we can’t survive happily like this. To quote Sadguru once again, and I seem to be doing this a lot lately, we must learn to look at things as they are. Like, we call a tree “wood”. Like we call a human being a “body” the moment death occurs.

We forget that Prana is in trees too. They breathe. They live. The same oxygen connects us. Imagine if that oxygen was taken away from us ! We would not survive. Amazing how we wear blinkers. At least horses are made to wear them. We wear them ourselves very conveniently.

We are facing severe consequences on the constant onslaught on nature and everything connected, including humans, and will continue to do so until the price for our foolishness is paid. Like someone cutting the very branch he is sitting on. Aren’t we doing pretty much the same?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Mindfulness


Mindfulness in each present moment has the power to erase all past recordings of all lifetimes. Sounds easy? It sure can be. But we constantly remind ourselves that it is NOT easy. Why because, actually, we don’t want to let go.

Just imagine. When we are in a crowd, do we remember what happened ten years ago, while we are being jostled and pushed? Naturally not because we are busy trying to keep our balance and prevent ourselves from falling, getting injured right?

But when a crowd of memories jostle and push your mind, the tendency is to let them knock you down and injure you, isn’t it? And your whole personality can change drastically in reaction to these injuries.

But, while being mindful in the present moment, you are focused on just what is happening in that moment. And it therefore, takes that one instant to forget all else. And if you can continue practicing this, one day, you will reach a state of constant mindfulness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Contagious


The word “contagious” has been coming to mind often. A smile is obviously contagious. But then, a viral is also contagious. Is contagiousness an automatic response? Someone smiles at you and you automatically smile back.

But sadly, generosity is not. Charity is not. Kindness and compassion are not. Love , the divine energy, is always in short supply.

I would like to say that hatred and envy are not. But when I see the cut throats society today, I can’t help feeling that somewhere, some lethal virals like merciless pursuits of power and money became contagious and brought the ethical and moral values down, thus bringing society down. When we started living for ourselves, we forgot to be connected and so, did not respond to external stimuli. And without that, where is the question of anything being contagious ? We don’t possess the band width for it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked me what one should do if someone hurts you with either speech or behavior. It becomes simple when: You accept that getting hurt is choice we make.

When you accept that the one you get hurt by is unhappy in some way and reacts in a way that hurts you and that we are attached to that behavior personally with our ego

Just as anything you throw at a wall will fall on the ground after hitting the wall, so much other people’s deeds fall to the ground if YOU let them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A frequent thought: what do you do when you ask for forgiveness but are not given it? When we are taught forgiveness, we don’t think that someone may not be in a mood to forgive and is holding on to past grudges, memories and even pain. Pointless! But it is not easy to preach at that point and say things like, it was not meant to be etc. That would be disastrous!

But truly, what is forgiveness? You basically let go of your negative reactions with an understanding that there is no need to internalize anything. Each one can let it go. The next step then would be easier. Just shake hands seriously, forgiving is merely not keeping anything in the mind. The alert is sounded only when things are repeated again and again.

People tell me, oh! I forgive easily but I never forget and this sounds ominous because you have not forgiven in such cases sometimes. Not always.

You know, I equate this with water sliding off your back when you shower. Just as water is energy, our thoughts and feelings are also nothing but energy. We need to let all of it slide off us. And there will be perennial peace in our inner world. You might say, aha Easy to talk but hard to do maybe, for some; maybe not so hard for others. You will have to try it out.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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