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Involvement


Our spiritual texts speak of the third person perspective. A common parlance is also to be clinical. To keep your emotions away to stay out of involvement. But really, if you learn to observe people, it is an extremely interesting pastime. A study of humanities, humaneness and inhumanity as well. Without judgment and as an observer.

I have found that if you start doing this, gradually that observation starts to turn into introspection. Because you start sensing your own response, however clinical you may try to be. It is impossible to be 100 percent clinical. Even sadhus have feelings. But they are better with detachment than we are.

There is a constant learning this way, both at the macro and micro levels. And there is a wonderful side effect in that you feel light and happy, and hopefully, wiser, too.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through each minute until we hear an “operation successful” verdict. It seems as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.

Punishments to kids are designed also for propelling them towards learning. Children often say, “You are so cruel”. We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we do. But they perceive it in a different way.

It is not only to others but on ourselves, too, that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn’t come easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt….apt supporting thoughts. Indulge yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic “knives” . They “bleed” you but ultimately help you and give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Reliability


There cannot be a better character trait than standing by your family and friends. Sadly, people change relationships like they change their attire. Actually, if you can’t stand by others, the deep seated meaning of this is that somewhere, deep down, you haven’t been able to stand by yourself.

We live by the courage of our convictions, those who don’t keep changing their convictions. And each time that this happens, they look for a change of people around them. The unfortunate part is that when you don’t have a relationship with yourself, you tend to become rather like a rudderless ship. Like a ship passing in the night that never docks.

Life can’t be lived like this, can it? One has to have loyalties and the strength to be with people because you have given them love, even if they sometimes have feet of clay. Don’t we all? You don’t abandon each other for being human, as long as humaneness is retained.

Opportunism is a close trait where loyalties fail. Going the way the wind blows. Reliability on these people would be a grave mistake. You will never know where you stand with them. There is also loyalty among thieves as we know. I am not referring to such loyalty. I speak of the kind of loyalty where you are of support in good times and bad times based on good value systems, because you care. Nothing less…though, could be more.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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With social evils like “sati” abolished, women got their right to life. But that was just one aspect. We still have a long way to go. Can you notice how the genuine moral support of the government today has brought many maladies like triple talaq, rape etc to a point of revolt, discussion and solution? Women who lived in fear are beginning to come out and raise their voices against the injustices meted out to them. All because finally, the right issues are being aired and laws are being passed to arrest the further growth of the “jungle raj”.

The light coming in to the world of men is being blocked desperately by the dark souls of humans but this time, they may not succeed in spreading further darkness. I am hopeful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There is a dire need for exposure of minds. Exposure to what is going on in the world, keeping abreast of events and understanding their connection with our inner worlds.

I see young adults who are caught up with either technology or TV /music shows and friends. There is a lot to be said about venturing out there and inviting the exposure, to listen to experienced voices, do a lot of reading, and participate in organizations and groups: all this for evolution.

Sometimes, you see closed minds and see them typically self absorbed. And you want to tell them that they are depriving themselves of beautiful experiences. But these are either not interested or unreasonably judgmental about staying within their space. Or maybe, it is reasonable in their book.

As someone said, it is their journey. Time is of no essence. The route you travel is meant for you until it changes or you yourself decide to change it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When there is drought, even a few drops of rain have the power to cause excitement. The kindness of people is similar. Every little sincere act inspires gratitude. The absence of genuine kindness is like a drought. So, suddenly, when you come across people who you haven’t had a close connection with but who spontaneously offer help, it makes you can feel those raindrops fall on your heart.

Life has become very clinical, mechanical ….like dance without expression, like music discordant, like a house which is not a home….I guess, I find the soul missing in many around me. And I often feel that souls on the earth must be experiencing much loneliness. Imagine being connected and not realizing it! Being lonely when there really is no need to be so. Deliberately hurting someone , not knowing that it is definitely coming back to you…or often knowing it but still doing it…succors for inviting grief.

Oh! Humans! Get a life!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Don’t say what you don’t mean. Don’t misread the words of another.

Don’t insult people even if you don’t like them very much.

Don’t add fuel to fire unnecessarily.

Don’t be dishonest. Don’t be untrue to yourself.

Don’t keep grudges.

These are a few energy cleansing exercises. The real core of life are these unbelievably simple rules which are so unbelievingly difficult to follow today.

Every day, we battle with such conflicts. Both within us and with others. When it is cloudy, we raise our eyes upwards to look for the sun to come out. When we have polluted energies, why don’t we look for ways to clean them?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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