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It was predicted that a time will come when the sweetness of tongue will win many battles whereas the good, upright and honest will go unnoticed and / or misunderstood. And one, who shouts when the right thing is being pointed out, will also win because it will never suit them to admit that they are wrong.

But this also says a lot about people who make such people win. Who believe them and humiliate the ones that are actually in the right. What would you call them? Easily led away by superficiality? Not enough substance or courage to sift the right from wrong? I guess you have to be a true “kalyug” person and you had better be if you want to survive lies, treachery and core dishonesty.

The upsurge in spiritual search is a result of us having reached the pits. Of us valuing things and shunning people of the exhaustion of trying to prove oneself in a blind, deaf and dumb world. Futile! Completely futile!

If light has to survive in darkness, it has to shine brighter than ever. If goodness has to survive in a polluted world, it has to connect to the source, for looking on earth for a return is looking in the wrong direction and is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It certainly appears that the virtual world has created distances between people. Families and friends today prefer to SMS or whattsapp rather than pick up the phone. The need to hear a voice is diminished considerably. The old world dialogue, ” son, (or daughter) I haven’t heard your voice in such a long time” is an almost obsolete statement. If you want that personal touch, there is a solution. And that is, just stop wanting it.

Similarly, a decreasing of hard copies of books and newspapers in the wake of a kindle and online news still makes one yearn for the touch of paper , a turning of a page physically instead of a click .

The emotionally led generations will, by and large, have to take a back seat in the next few years. I am not complaining. Just stating facts and neither am I unhappy. Because, spiritually, this is a wonderful time to detach as much as possible before leaving this earth. There is always a grand plan if one can see it. What the sages advocated and was so difficult to practice, is now becoming easier. We have less to account for in the other world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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An action that is respected is that which is performed with grace. Its value is enhanced manifold. As long as there is life, give and take is an inevitable part of it. What is important is that grace is not only in giving but also in taking. There are people who keep giving but refuse to accept. That energy becomes one sided. There are also people who give very condescendingly and from a space of ego driven “charity”. No grace there.

I know someone whose charities came to light after he passed on, to the amazement of his own family. Today, we need to advertise in the papers and media that we donated an x amount to an x charity. No grace there.

Let the giving be between you and God and treat specially those you give to , with utmost kindness and respect , almost as if It is YOUR need to give and not theirs to take, because it is not easy for everyone to accept while being made to feel small.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I think we all know that we can change the belief systems that are obsolete and have stopped working for us. Which means that we can recreate our reality? So, if we wallow within the same obsolete non reality , and refuse to change it, what happens is, there is a clash between that and new realities of the people around them.

…and this might lead to a situation where,” never the twain shall meet”.

Evolution is all about changing perceptions based on an affected mind. As and how we realize we have not translated our experiences into true knowledge, we must change our quality of actions to inspire better experiences.

Life is a constant journey.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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This choice of either following or leading is just like giving a choice of birth and death but forgetting to focus on the importance of the journey between the two points. When you ask someone to either follow or lead, you perhaps ask for a very simplistic choice.

To follow is essential in order to observe and learn. And then graduate to leadership. But it is equally true that people who are chosen to be leaders have to have the qualities of a follower. In fact, both the roles are constant and interchangeable. No one person can possibly know everything.

The premise is that we all are constantly learning from each other. And leaders need to keep their head squarely on their shoulders and their egos thoroughly in check to sustain their leadership.

A leader therefore, is a balanced individual who needs to maintain a sense of respect as well as respect those around, whether in families, groups or workplaces. And one who also switches roles as per the need of the hour, a definite formula for success and admiration.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Wearing your attitude is an old saying. Actually, the difference is in its quality. An attitude is or should be an expression of who we are. Cultivated attitudes for presentation to the world are suspect, because that’s not who we are.

At the end of the day, we have to live with ourselves. So, if somewhere within us, we feel the need to enact an attitude superficially, we may not be confident that we will be liked for ourselves. Which means, deep down, that we don’t like ourselves too much?

The one we need to impress is ourselves, not others. As they say, we always talk about loving this one and that one, but how about loving ourselves so that our attitude may have genuineness to it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Getting into someone’s emotional shoes is very difficult. Sometimes, people are not even aware of what others go through. I mean the “near and dear” ones. A lack of compassion!  

Probably I can’t but be cynical when everyone makes the “right” moves and overtures because it is festival time and about the rest of the year, the less said the better.

Socializing, partying, endorsing “friendships” by being with friends and spending time with them has become more gratifying than spending time with family.

There should be less hypocrisy and more honesty because the world has changed and those who crave for family relationships must become wiser , less expecting and read the writing on the walls which are loud and clear.

I see so much isolation in the hearts of those who grapple to give a genuine smile to the world. It seldom reaches the eyes. Amidst the loud noise of the crackers, hearts are teary and heavy.

I am not morose, just saying it as I see it. And my heart goes out to those who have no joy in their hearts, whether Holi or Divali because they don’t want to go through the rights motions just for a day anymore.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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