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Forgiveness


Forgiveness is the highest form of kindness in the world, I think. The one who cannot forgive is worse off ultimately, from the one who seeks forgiveness. Imagine how much work people have to put in to genuinely forgive someone ! It is also incredible that you can , in fact, live with yourself without forgiving. How complicated you can become by knotting yourself up within mixed emotions.

As they say, only humans can make mistakes. Also, that you yourself have made many and more , and sometimes have been deliberately offensive, too. So, when you know this , you would also, at some point, arrive at the repentance mode which leads to forgiveness. And then , to unimagined relief and happiness.

Try it , at least with those who love you and admit to human error.

Surekha Kothari

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Your “swadharma”, your inner calling! One of the major preoccupations that can elude you for a long time, it is what comes to you naturally. Something you gave an aptitude for, something that gives you happiness. And you enjoy it.

But how do you know what is your calling in life? Especially today, when there are opportunities galore, unlike earlier when there were very few lines one could take. There is every chance of confusion or of making a wrong choice.

All achievers have had one thing in common, that they have enjoyed every minute and been passionate about what they did.

However, it can be a challenge for multi talented people. They may be good at academics, arts, culture and much more. People have been known to change their paths when they discover their true inner calling.

The best way is to observe what feelings your activities / your career path are generating. Be aware, discuss with your teachers and friends, if and when required, and go with your happiness quotient.

I have seen that those who do not have a calling don’t end up developing their personalities or confidence levels and become complex and with complexes also.

Let it suffice for me to know that I have my own calling like everyone else does and I need to find it. Have faith that it is there and try to

Find it, even with help and advice from others if you are confused. Once you find it and work on it, you will find yourself appreciating others instead of falling short in your eyes.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We look back with sorrow. We look around with worry. We look up with faith. Wonderful thoughts I read the other day. If you close the chapter of the past and let bygones be bygones, there would be no sorrow. When our minds are engaged with what is happening around us, we are worried. And that is much of the time. But if you have faith, you look up to the Almighty. And then, there is no time or need to look around or look back. That faith is all pervasive. And if you notice, the English language also has no opposite of the word “faith”, because that is the ultimate. So, the opposite of belief is disbelief. Which means belief systems can change but faith? There is nothing beyond.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life is all about defeating yourself to becoming a better “you”. Isn’t it? But we keep trying to defeat others to feel stronger, superior. What a futile and exhausting task we set ourselves! Reminds me of the story of the man who was sitting on the branch of the tree he was cutting. Which sane person does that?

We take on so many self defeating exercises to show others, whereas the fact is, we need to show ourselves what we can do. Others will see it by and by. And even if they don’t, do we live for ourselves or for others? A very important question and with this answer, we will create our life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It was predicted that a time will come when the sweetness of tongue will win many battles whereas the good, upright and honest will go unnoticed and / or misunderstood. And one, who shouts when the right thing is being pointed out, will also win because it will never suit them to admit that they are wrong.

But this also says a lot about people who make such people win. Who believe them and humiliate the ones that are actually in the right. What would you call them? Easily led away by superficiality? Not enough substance or courage to sift the right from wrong? I guess you have to be a true “kalyug” person and you had better be if you want to survive lies, treachery and core dishonesty.

The upsurge in spiritual search is a result of us having reached the pits. Of us valuing things and shunning people of the exhaustion of trying to prove oneself in a blind, deaf and dumb world. Futile! Completely futile!

If light has to survive in darkness, it has to shine brighter than ever. If goodness has to survive in a polluted world, it has to connect to the source, for looking on earth for a return is looking in the wrong direction and is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It certainly appears that the virtual world has created distances between people. Families and friends today prefer to SMS or whattsapp rather than pick up the phone. The need to hear a voice is diminished considerably. The old world dialogue, ” son, (or daughter) I haven’t heard your voice in such a long time” is an almost obsolete statement. If you want that personal touch, there is a solution. And that is, just stop wanting it.

Similarly, a decreasing of hard copies of books and newspapers in the wake of a kindle and online news still makes one yearn for the touch of paper , a turning of a page physically instead of a click .

The emotionally led generations will, by and large, have to take a back seat in the next few years. I am not complaining. Just stating facts and neither am I unhappy. Because, spiritually, this is a wonderful time to detach as much as possible before leaving this earth. There is always a grand plan if one can see it. What the sages advocated and was so difficult to practice, is now becoming easier. We have less to account for in the other world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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An action that is respected is that which is performed with grace. Its value is enhanced manifold. As long as there is life, give and take is an inevitable part of it. What is important is that grace is not only in giving but also in taking. There are people who keep giving but refuse to accept. That energy becomes one sided. There are also people who give very condescendingly and from a space of ego driven “charity”. No grace there.

I know someone whose charities came to light after he passed on, to the amazement of his own family. Today, we need to advertise in the papers and media that we donated an x amount to an x charity. No grace there.

Let the giving be between you and God and treat specially those you give to , with utmost kindness and respect , almost as if It is YOUR need to give and not theirs to take, because it is not easy for everyone to accept while being made to feel small.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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