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Getting into someone’s emotional shoes is very difficult. Sometimes, people are not even aware of what others go through. I mean the “near and dear” ones. A lack of compassion!  

Probably I can’t but be cynical when everyone makes the “right” moves and overtures because it is festival time and about the rest of the year, the less said the better.

Socializing, partying, endorsing “friendships” by being with friends and spending time with them has become more gratifying than spending time with family.

There should be less hypocrisy and more honesty because the world has changed and those who crave for family relationships must become wiser , less expecting and read the writing on the walls which are loud and clear.

I see so much isolation in the hearts of those who grapple to give a genuine smile to the world. It seldom reaches the eyes. Amidst the loud noise of the crackers, hearts are teary and heavy.

I am not morose, just saying it as I see it. And my heart goes out to those who have no joy in their hearts, whether Holi or Divali because they don’t want to go through the rights motions just for a day anymore.

Surekha Kothari

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Getting to know someone up close and personal and getting to know that person through the eyes and experience of someone else are completely different pieces of knowledge. Often, we become judgmental with merely surface an impression which is not really fair. What we need to do is to spend time with someone one to one and then decide who they are or can be. You make an honest heart connection and ninety to one, they will show a side of them which is pleasant and even endearing. The question is, do we have the ability to extract the good side of people?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Spaces really intrigues me. I have lived in all shapes and sizes of homes with small rooms and not so small rooms. People say space defines a human being. I wonder? Does it really?

I would rather concentrate on the space within. I have seen highly spiritual people live within a very tiny space. And I have also seen people living in mansions whose inner space is very small and restricted.

Sometimes, I think the larger the space within; the less is the desire to acquire external space. Because any space which is external would be limited as compared to our inner “Akash”. Anyway, it’s not as if the acquisition of a humongous amount of space would be put to good use. It would probably be a constantly inflating ego that would occupy the large space and reside there indefinitely, and sometimes permanently.

Whereas, the deeper memories are of small homes filled with love and warmth, a small kitchen with just two items cooked lovingly, of dormitory style sleeping amidst giggles and much joy. Of elders becoming like kids amidst kids. And who also taught us the meaning of life in all its simplicity where people loved people and used things.

Today, people are used and things are loved and times will change again and yet again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Healing


When you get pushed into circumstances unknowingly and they turn out to be adverse, even ugly, you quickly tell yourself it was karma, because you had no valid explanation. But when, knowingly, you step into such circumstances, there is anger. Even rage, at yourself, either for having trusted the wrong people or having listened against your inner voice to someone you “respected” Or for a cloudy judgment. In any case, it IS karma to be in a place and among people you were chosen to be with. But it is very difficult to look at it this way when your life is crumbling to pieces and your desires are a distant dream.

Changing your place and your space gives you breathing space.

As you grow older, perhaps, you only seek consolidation of people around you who have stood the test of time AND been with you, People who have been kind and loving, healing in their presence. And I understand why the importance is not “family” per se but souls who may or may not be family but who have a salutary effect on you. Oh yes, and loyal, too.

Old postulates and belief systems are just that: old. And often don’t work. What works is being among those who see your chinks but treat them and you lovingly and accept without criticism and without judgment.

For, who really knows when your last day might be?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The biggest challenge we humans face is to keep our thoughts clean. Something or the other always comes in the way of pure action because thoughts are not so pure.

The way it works is, your thoughts transfer to your emotions and emotions to decision making followed finally by action. Naturally then, positive thoughts should be preferred for the entire cycle of thoughts to action to be positive, too.

I hear many people say they are very positive among their own groups. It’s also like kids who are well behaved outside but not at home. The cycle of energy breaks this way. You can’t have a half positive and half negative approach. If you are good, you are good, in any situation.

I see a lot of conditional responses from people. And that does not make them wholesome personalities. On the contrary, these are more reactive personalities. If you notice, the day you wake up with a smile, all goes well and you end up in bed with a smile. It is one happy day. But on another day, one small unpleasantness can ruin your whole day. Not at all worth it but it is hard to philosophize and move on at the time.

You can train yourself to give the correct responses with a fair amount of common sense and intelligence.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We constantly speak of evil and good, making and marring, right and wrong. We get exhausted just trying to understand what we are all about and what life is all about. I often feel that over analysis of anything can never have a solution. Looking at something from different angles and then coming to a conclusion is not that simple, because in most cases, you will find a bit of both the extremes and variation only of degrees. So how do you come to a perfect or the right solution anyway?

So, it pays to take the surface value instead of trying to get into details. Details have many layers and peeling them may be a painful project.

Simple perceptions can keep life simple. Convoluted perceptions may be temporarily exciting but in the long run, they can be very tiring.

So, my funds is, keep it simple. In every way, including keeping simple friends, simple food, simple lifestyle and generally, a simple life based on simple thoughts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Immaturity


Immaturity can be a curse for those who seek happiness. I am sure that knowingly, no one would drive themselves towards unhappiness. It is the inability to see that one is on the wrong path and on a path that leads to grief and nowhere else.

What is immaturity? To my mind, it has many faces.

A tendency to be impulsive can be immaturity because it can tilt the balance between cause and effect, and balance in everything is the key.

Thinking only of your own comfort and disregarding the feelings of others is immaturity because true happiness is a derivative of the heart which works in two ways: give and take.

Living without morals and values is immaturity. Maturity is when you have your principles and responsibilities intact along with freedom.

Immaturity is when you don’t know who is sincere and who isn’t, when you get impressed by external facades instead of evaluating the inner core of people.

A lack of Ethics constitutes a big portion of immaturity, when you, out of your own unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your existing life, cause upheavals in the lives of others, when you let your petty ego mar beautiful relationships.

When you live in denial of your own weaknesses and refuse to be counseled. And sometimes, choose those to counsel you who have a hidden motive to come close, shunning those who love you and have wisdom to impart.

Carrying grouses over small issues and allowing this to distance you from people, without actually realizing that no one can be perfect and that only love makes imperfect perfect.

These are just a few. I am sure everyone will have points to add to these. And those who speculate on this subject will definitely be able resolve a lot of confusion in their minds.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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