CHANGE : ARE YOU COPING OR GROPING ?

Change is as inevitable as day transforming into night. Yet, we resist it with all our might ! If we observe carefully, we are not the same today as we were yesterday and will not be the same tomorrow as we are today. In a second, people can change, events can change, emotions can change…in fact, life itself can change !

Check with a woman whose husband died suddenly, leaving her devastated and unable cope because she never learnt to exist without him! Ask a  friend who was betrayed by a best friend  or a partner ? Talk to someone whose family was killed for  merely a  few dollars ! Besides these, just about everything we expect from life as a passport to happiness , can blow up in our faces .

However, the picture need not always be painted black. Change can and does often  bring in good tidings …promotions, falling in love, getting married, sudden holidays, performance of children, and so on. But positive events and relationships do not carry a negative emotional charge, which is the primary concern.

Change does not happen with a notice stating it is going to happen on such-and-such a day , so, be prepared. It is the human mind that has built up a mountain of expectations from life and this mountain , when it falls, is more than adequate to bury those who had such massive expectations.

It is important to understand that change has no color, no prejudices and no intentions. Logically then, the onus of perceiving this change, accepting it and either moving on or getting stuck lies with the human being. Taking a step back, the onus of attitude , behavior and action to manage change also lies with the same human being.

What happens to us can be a carry over from one or more of our past lives, or of our own clouded perceptions and judgements which inspire an undesirable  thought and action. It also be inspired by a negative energy ensconced within our aura which compels us to change our consciousness and behavior.

During hypnotherapy sessions, I have seen several cases of low self esteem and self worth, fear , depression and dejection due to rejection, an unhealthy dependence on people and environment, the inability to acquire the energy and motivation to move forward and many other mental, emotional issues which manifest into the physical body as minor and major ailments.

So, are we coping with changes as challenges ? Or are we going under and groping in the darkness ? Are we moving or getting stuck ? Are we looking for solutions , and if so, in which direction ?

Today, there are  amazing possibilities for deep cleaning of negative files and for healing , often on a permanent basis. There are ways to promote a deeper understanding of  the eternal nature of our soul as also in understanding the reasons of what transpired in our lives, why it continues to transpire and how conscious changes can be brought about to break patterns which trouble us constantly..

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HAPPY BEGINNINGS ( Sequel to HAPPY ENDINGS)

Ever since I was old enough to understand the feeling of restlessness, injustice, of being hurt , depressed and unhappy, I went into an analysis of WHY I should be feeling so low ! Were the stars in my eyes blocking my vision ? Was I misunderstanding people , after all ? My biggest strength was people . I loved them to distraction . So, was I missing something here ?Apparently ! The thorn here was” to distraction”….a perfect imbalance, as I learnt later.

You cannot blame someone who grows up within a family set up where love is endless for looking at life with rose tinted glasses. Even today, when I listen to “Endless Love”, I have tears in my eyes. So, for such people, the popular phrase “growing up” is fraught with a fair amount of misery and disillusionment. The gradual discovery of people falling from the proverbial pedestal can be quite unsettling, believe me. It certainly tends to make a dent in the postulate; the generalization that all human beings are  wonderful and perfect.

Thus, while stumbling through event after event as I added years and experiences to me life, I also discovered a definite pattern in my relationships. I met people, developed an attachment to them in my inimitable style that was so natural within me , and , later, discovered that each one had “feet of clay”. Of course, I was not to know at the time that these patterns were repeating deliberately so that I may learn from them, and until I learnt from them, they would keep confronting me .

If one gropes in the darkness hard enough and long enough for the light switch on the wall, one does find it eventually. And the room is illuminated so that  one may see everything clearly.  I started groping to find the switch a few years ago. Eureka ! I can now sing gleefully,  “I think I’ve got it ! I think I’ve got it !”

Imagine the plight of human beings ! They come down on the physical plane from a perfect source into an imperfect world, only to find that their ultimate goal is to rediscover and return to that very source. To make matters more complicated, they are also participating in a hurdle race , with obstacles such as ego, conditioning, fears, complexes, prejudices and biases in their way, disabling them in many ways. Of course, there is a way out of these, the way of free will which may choose to be free of all the obstacles….OR , MAY NOT.  So, this is not so easy as it is counteracted by all the various temptations and promises of pleasure and happiness. Although these are, to the thinkers, temporary sources of happiness, at best, not every human being is a thinker in the right direction. Everyone is searching for permanence and some are misguided into holding onto to the temporary as permanent.

Now, in this context, don’t  our  hurts , our pain seem miniscule ? I want to explain that we are all energy in motion. The whole creation is energy in motion. Therefore, everything is ever changeable. By the same principle, WE are also changing each second, physically, mentally and emotionally. Our attempt , therefore, in holding on to what is surely and certainly slipping away is , indeed, a futile one. Karmically, we have only the power of “now” in our hands and even that becomes the past and slips away in a heartbeat.

Let us also not forget that there are many shades of our present character and personality that emanate out of our past lives , the memories of which we carry with us life after life. No wonder it is not only difficult but impossible to understand a human being completely.Since we are all in this situation together, united in our diversities, the best we can do is understand ourselves and make the required changes within us , which will automatically change the space around us into a positive or negative one, depending on the quality of changes we have made within us.

Actually, life is simple if we adhere to the universal laws which negate personal egos, greed, imbalances of any sort, and encourage compassion, human equality , integrity and living in harmony with fellow beings and nature.

In today’s world, material gains and greed have translated into magnified egos and desires which have led to a corrosion of human relationships. Instead of loving people and using material things, we  love material things and use people. The word “sacrifice” is no longer valid within a relationship context , though people will sacrifice a living being for their material possessions.

The good news is that universal laws are universally and eternally valid. Happy beginnings shall be made by rediscovering them. I mentioned earlier that we are energy in motion. Movement ensures freedom of space and evolution is possible only because of this space. Hence, in this journey of evolution, each one of us is alone. The challenge is to replace the negative with the positive initially, and then to rise above dualities to encompass the larger good.

Our challenge on a day-to-day basis is to counteract hurt and pain with compassion and forgiveness, keep faith that there is a bigger and more permanent success than what human beings term as “success” in this world. It is important to be spiritually rich than materially rich, balance out our needs which are commensurate with the laws of the universe. If we look at people as struggling to overcome the huge boulder like obstacles , we will realize that our expectations of them are, for them, a distraction at best, a distraction that they often resent and are in no mood to satisfy.  The perfect cure for this is to ask ourselves who WE are without these expectations. Will unfulfilled expectations kill us ? Is it some insecurity in us which expects from another ? Does this imply that we have to work on ourselves to become whole and complete ?

Once we cease to base our happiness on external factors including people, we are actually standing at the door of happiness and looking within. If every drop in the ocean is clean, the ocean will be squeaky clean. We are the “drop” that needs cleaning. I have heard many people say, “why should I be the only one when others are not doing it ?” For the simple reason that you are responsible only for your own soul and emulating the less awakened is going to take you much longer to evolve.

Let us stop toeing lines and chalk out our own unique path of evolution and ascension, daring to be different while seeking an awareness of who we are and what is the true nature of  the world. The higher path, the higher truth is always more difficult to access. To discover the fountain of happiness within each one of us is a wonderful starting point.

Happy beginnings towards Happy Beginnings !

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