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We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.

And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.

Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.

That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more

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Why is it that often, new friendships fade into a kind of indifference after a while whereas old bonds can be revived any time? What is it about childhood friendships?

We travelled with my dad every two years and this moving constantly never really gave us the time to strengthen bonds. Today, when I see my children having such strong bonds with their friends, it is because they were together since school days.

As children, there were no motives attached to friendships.

Not a care in the world about the frills of family name, fame etc.

Comparisons set in only when, as adults, we start calculating and comparing.

But as I always say, everything does have two sides and the good side of changing cities is that you learn to adjust and adapt early in life. And unconsciously, your mental horizons expand as well.

We call ourselves widely travelled when we have indulged in a lot of foreign travel. But I tell people I was a widely travelled kid!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Taking the blame heaped on you by others is not necessary. Life is complicated but we can make it simpler by just choosing happiness over conflict and drama which gets to be exhausting. It is impractical to expect anyone to understand our levels of exhaustion, and therefore, better to sweep our energy clear of anything that causes any dents in our peace even if it means keeping to oneself and saving valuable personal energy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We have a strange society. We try and stay away from controversy but don’t think twice about throwing others into controversy by speaking about them when they are not around to defend themselves. So, often, the issue gets compounded. And people love to hear such stories, as long as they are not about them.

These kinds of attitudes don’t help in creating cohesiveness. Only positive steps in creating bridges will do so. When do we begin the construction?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Once again, I am reminded of prophecies regarding the downfall of human beings in kalyug. The recent worst case scenario: this election is demonstrating it. One may as well recognize that not much falls in the category of the virtuous. That we can fall so low! ANYTHING to gain power even betrayal of your own motherland! Where does this stop? When does it stop? Does it stop at all? You can actually put up your own country for sale? It offends sensibilities and inspires disgust.

Maybe, just maybe, we are seeing an about to happen transformation for the better, that all the darkness shall be blasted out in favor of light. God knows we need it!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, it is okay to go with how you feel. And actually also do what we feel like. There is enough we do that we must do clinically. And that is a part of the duties and responsibilities which it would not be right to shirk. But outside of that, it is okay to have some “me” time to restore the equilibrium.

Just like the candle burns brighter as it becomes smaller, so, sometimes, we grow more spiritually aware and kind of withdraw a little from external activity. Withdraw into ourselves a bit. It comes from within only from within.

This is an inevitable part of maturing, changing, evolving towards feeling peace and becoming tranquil.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You have to be not only confident, but also open minded and intent on self improvement to be able to take frankness about yourself. It is very important to let your loved ones point out certain traits in you which need tweaking. Very often, you cannot see yourself as others can see you. But if you don’t want to know, no one will tell you. Be sure though, that the only sufferer will be you. Because improvements will not come your way and you will tend to stagnate within your state of denial.

Which state is better? That you swallow even a bitter pill to get better or take a sugar pill and insist you are getting better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you do the right thing by others, at whatever cost to yourself and your desires, there is an immediate raise in vibrations. You feel that your higher self has revealed itself. The joy is apparent. So, don’t do anything that directly or indirectly, has detrimental repercussions on anyone. As a rule, this contaminates your energies. Don’t ever doubt this or defy this view, because there is enough evidence to prove this.

Contamination of energies attracts more contamination. The Universe sends you more of what you have because it only vibrates with what you ARE. It cannot discriminate, like humans can.

You are already with people and in places that you need to be with and in. No use fighting this. It is karmic. It is meant to be. AND, if you leave your prejudices aside, it is meant for your good. To learn to heal all the dark aspects that people in your life are there to show you. You may not have a memory of your karma but the people around you ably compensate for this. If only you venture in that direction, which is not often.

And also, if you stop hating and blaming, the truth is, you are always amidst your soul groups which are “coercing, “irritating” you into Understanding the reality, which you must be aware enough to understand.

Life acquires a different meaning once you reach that level of awareness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is important to know when to communicate but more important to know when not to communicate. We all go through phases when we do things out of good intentions but offend some sensibilities. Fair enough. This happens sometimes to us also and then we are left to deal with our feelings like others deal with theirs.

But in all of this, when one tries to smoothen the ruffled feathers, not once but many times and there is no response, it is time to withdraw communication.

Holding on is not healthy but some people can’t let go easily. They have to work out their feelings and their relationship on their own. More so, the intentions of others may take time. It is all a part of the drama. But important to understand that this is not about us or who we are.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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What is fair? What is just? And what is truth? Actually, there isn’t any simple answer. Because we are constantly exposed to so many angles of the same story, so many different perspectives, that we arrive at our personal perspective and understanding of the truth and take that as gospel truth. Our convictions are also based on several viewpoints which culminate into one so called “truth. And we hold onto it at the cost of conflict with another person’s views.

But truth lies somewhere between all these perspectives and our understanding may not be quite there. That is why it is not wise to judge. You really don’t know. What you think you know may not be anywhere close to the truth. And therefore, it is not really wise to get into discussions of this nature.

So, better not to claim to know and hence, avoid judgments.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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