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Watch your breath ! It takes some training but if you watch your breath or keep your breath within your awareness , whatever else you are doing at that moment, something miraculous happens.

You just never let go of your control . The breath regulates your thoughts, your reactions and your emotions.

If you notice, the pattern of your breath changes with the quality of your emotions. When you are angry, your breath is shallow and fast. In meditation, your breath slows down .

People get confused about what exactly meditation is. Constant breath awareness is nothing short of meditation. There is no need to sit down specially, and close your eyes and try to remove your thoughts. Many people find this frustrating and they drop meditation completely. For these people, I would really recommend watching your breath and experiencing beautiful changes.

Surekha Kothari

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Our generation, which was born around the freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from colonialism.

We were also taught to give more than take. We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we were.

Today, we are gradually beginning to realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion, thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.

It strikes a chord within my generation and sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier generation.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Emotions


One basic fact and truth is , never give too much of your emotions to anyone. There is no value and what develops is a recipe for your devaluation. Often, it happens that those you loved, protected and fought against the world for , took abuse for, are the ones who become abusers . Somewhere, something is not quite right. If we think that there would be love and gratitude in return, we would probably be naive. Life doesn’t work exactly that way.

People say its all about respect and respect is earned. I believe respect is earned , too, but for yourself, from within , for yourself, with a noble heart and pure intentions. Respect yourself. This is the main core issue in humans. That we don’t respect ourselves and only look for endorsements outside. Actually, It is between you and the Divine. Nothing else matters .

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For all the complexes we develop, the seed is somewhere in our childhood. The need for love , comfort, warmth must be met in childhood. Sometimes, even if it IS met, in case of more than one sibling, the tendency to compare leaves some children in a “lack” mode. It is a mere perception. There is only one set of parents turning their worlds upside down to make every child feel loved and at the same time, giving attention where required . And herein lies one problem. Perceptions and comparisons often start here. To give an example, a weaker child takes away for attention naturally. But other children perceive this as “ less” for them. As favouritism .

And when these siblings grow up, the stories of wrongly perceived changing priorities of parents end up in children having complexes of being less wanted than the others. That insecurity and certainly a lack of maturity comes in the way of the parent sibling relationship and children who are now adults, choose to move away or blame parents based solely on perceptions.

There is something to be said about a natural tendency of trust of children in their parents. When a child can confidently say, “ my parents would never play favourites”. Lucky are those parents whose children learn to recognise such qualities in parents and learn to love them and their siblings as well.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, those who seem to be all sorted and who seem to have a good handle on their lives are pretty vulnerable in many ways, though they will never show it. It takes a lot for them to cry. These are people who are the givers in families and extremely loyal and protective.

No one in those families should ever make the mistake of taking them granted. In fact, they should support them, love them a lot and even worry about them because they are the solid core of family unity and a tremendous asset to parents and siblings.

But unity does not lie on one person only. It is a collective responsibility. And each member owes it to the collective space they belong to.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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One of the most beautiful interpretations of karma was sent to me recently. Being in Hindi, I am posting the English version here.

Translation:

The eyes saw a fruit on a tree. They desired the fruit. But because the eyes could only see, the feet walked to the tree. Now since the feet could not pluck the fruit, the hands went up to pluck it, the mouth ate it and the stomach digested it.

Now, let’s see. The one that saw the fruit couldn’t go. The one that went didn’t pluck. The one that plucked didn’t eat. The one that ate couldn’t keep it because the stomach took over.

When the gardener saw this, he beat up the person with a stick on his back, whereas, the back had not been at fault at all. But when the back became black and blue, the eyes shed the tears because the eyes were the ones that had first spotted the fruit.

This is karma.

Surekha Kothari

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