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There are so many built in systems within us which, when we discover, we also marvel at. Putting them into words is difficult. Like the inner voice which tells you what to do if it is loud and clear. Of course, if we have muffled it along the way, it is a different story altogether.

Then the choices of feeling, should I mind this? Or should I feel bad? Should I feel happy or sad? Shall I give in or resist eating heavy calorie foods?

Then, there is the system of the body relating the story of the mind. All the psychosomatic problems that manifest in the body, telling us all is not well.

And if you know how to read the systems, you could nip any arising issues in the bud. There aren’t any external systems that can be originators of issues. Look within. All the treasure and all the “poison” is all there.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have we ever thought that if we never accepted the dishonorable intentions of people, how untouched by negativity we would be! Imagine, if someone wanted to deliberately humiliate you, for example, but you just didn’t react to the intention and instead, continued to maintain your politeness and dignity, how foolish that person might end up feeling?

Try it, not once, but again and again, through life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We are very quick to brand life as unfair when things don’t go our way. As if life were a person giving us a hard time! Sounds funny, right? But we do this all the time. And then people get linked to the unfairness of life.

When something good happens, we take it as entitlement and forget it so quickly. We always feel we deserve the best of everything and not a moment of the opposite.

But who said so? Who developed a foolproof package to be delivered to the “deserving?” No answer! Whatever good that comes our way as freebies or good luck is a bonus for the hard work we may have put in. Nothing is a coincidence.

But what we call “adverse” is also what we deserve at that moment. Surprise tests! As we had in school, we always had to be prepared.

Hmmm. Time to draw parallels in our lives!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Everything within our mind rests on the root cause which transforms into effect. Half the population in this world suffers from depression, for example. But there is always a root cause, a place where it started. We are unable to identify it many a time because of the opacity of the many layers surrounding it due to the cyclical effect of cause and effect.

Still, if we could even put our ego aside for a while and then try and go back to the root cause, it might be possible to identify it. Very often, it is minuscule but becomes a mountain with successive attacks by the ego.

The appearance of the actual cause can miraculously clear the path for eradication of the root cause. That is why, in the language of the healers, reliving is releasing.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Paramahansa Yogananda says: “Love cannot be had for the asking; it comes only as a gift from the heart of another”.

Such wisdom! We tend to expect that love should automatically come to us from certain people, like parents, siblings, spouses etc. Not only expect it but we would like to determine the quality, extent and intensity, too. It is all about personal needs whereas love is a fountain from the heart. If that fountain is minimized or shut down at will, or through traumatic circumstances, it will not be forthcoming.

I know of a case where this person felt so unloved that she neglected an obvious ailment just so that she would get attention. And later, when she regretted the neglect, it was too late and she passed on, a sheer case of expecting love from a source that had none to give.

Yes, our hearts need to be open to love and to receive it as well. And love cannot be demanded. It has to be a gift given willingly and out of love.

I have been told, “I am very loving but I don’t know why I never get it”. These are perspectives. Love is given in different ways by different people and not exactly the way we want it. Some love silently and are not demonstrative. Some love less but show more though there IS love here too. Some show their caring by making life easier for their near and dear ones but never say, “I love you”.

We have to have eyes in our hearts as it were, to see, to perceive love in its multiple forms and formats.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We generally live in a hypocritical society. In families too, there are different behavioral patterns demanded of different people. No one yardstick. I have heard this line ad nauseum since childhood.” You do the right thing. Never mind what others do”. Really! It sounds like a wonderful line but can be a terrible line as well.

What is expected behavior from an elder child of the family or an imported family member like a daughter in law is different from that of the younger people. Much leeway is given to the latter. Why? I have never understood this. What is good for one should be taught to or expected from the others too.

Over a period of time then, what happens is that responsibility falls only on the person doing the “right” thing , willingly or out of force and expected. And the others are super quick in taking the advantage. I have often said that injustice done over and over again to the “right” doer will reach a crescendo one day and that day, there is a possibility of a volcano eruption. All the rules will get destroyed in the lava of bottled up anger.

I would not advocate this system itself, because the ultimate results are drastic and painful. Indian parents are famous for installing this system and igniting many issues. Different rules for girls and boys, different rules for the daughters and daughters in law, different rules for the older and younger. And so on.

 So many reactions due to so much suppression of the spirit bordering on injustice among family members. And then they cry about families breaking up! You dare not speak up even if someone is being the cause of division of the family. “Do the right thing”. KEEP QUIET and LET IT BE. Wow! What a destructive mantra, right? You only have to see the results to know this.

Frankness and straightforwardness should pay if we are not complicated and do things in the right spirit, with the right intentions and good will and without silly rules that divide more than unite people.

And I do feel injustice MUST be expressed to stop the tyranny of the perpetrators. The popular theory of mother in law and daughter in law , warring family members, the tendencies of usurpation of finance and power etc. are already spelling a death knell for families and in turn, societies. The tragedy is: no one cares anymore and no one stops to think. And I think all this has happened because individuals have not been given their due, their freedom of spirit and equal respect to be they and interact with others on their own steam.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I wonder often… when one actually reaches closure to anything. When a wound stops festering and begins to heal and whether it is ever given a chance to keep healing or whether someone keeps touching the raw nerves so that they never heal, at all. And time passes, it stays until it’s time to pass on.

The agony of the human being is completely underestimated and / or undermined because no one can get into anyone’s shoes to experience it. But many claim to. And many are critical without understanding. This is something I have yet to understand. It is truly amazing.

And to make matters worse and more challenging is the compulsory and social need to wear a happy surface skin which hangs loosely because the wounded skin is so tightly wrapped around.

Blessed are the souls who can feel this deeply about others.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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