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I am unable to visualize someone who is consumed by hatred. It shakes me up. It is not an intrinsic quality of the soul. I think we all know that.

We could link hatred with karma. We could also link it to a thorough discomfort of being in your own skin which results in comparisons..and we invariably find a lack within. There could be a possibility of extreme jealousy, of feeling small and worthless in comparison with “better” people. More successful people. More passionate and driven people. More popular people.

But the lengths humans can go to, to appease themselves and calm their hatred inspired rage and vendetta can be very unsettling and disturbing.

It would be far too simplistic to say that everything in life should be “hunky dory” and harmonious all the time. If that were the case, we would be a group of saints on the earth.

We are here definitely to experience the positivity’s and negativities, the pluses and minuses of life. And learn from them. But nothing is worth causing self destruction through the kind of negativity that can be created by hatred. It is the fire that burns and destroys like nothing else does.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I read this very significant, in fact, revealing line the other day. “Don’t be Buddhist. Be a Buddha.” I said something similar in one of my Mumbai workshops and was accused of blasphemy. All I said was that Christ is Christ because of his qualities and each one of us can become a Christ. It is my conviction.

I wonder what happens to us when this thought is presented before us. Evidently, we think somewhere deep within us that we are capable of being followers but cannot go beyond.

Each one has a philosophy compatible for their personal journey. No harm! All roads will eventually converge into one Divine Energy, whatever be the name given to it by different religions. But where does our journey of evolution say that we cannot achieve more than merely following a group who look up to one leader? In fact, any genuine spiritual leader will also encourage only this thought, that we can all elevate our consciousness to the level of a Buddha, Krishna or Christ.

I was blessed to have a guru who said, once you reach my level, your journey is beyond me. And I have always felt that if we remain followers, it is because we never really understood nor worked enough. And, conveniently, were content to be in that space.

Before Deepavali, we clean up each corner of our homes to prepare for festivities. We allow ourselves a few days for this activity. And then we resume our daily jobs.

Imagine doing spring cleaning and removing cob webs every day from our minds!!! That constant vigilance and awareness of every little thought, every word…? Possible? Of course! But would we? We would go to the ends of the earth to earn name and fame in worldly activities. But not many see name and fame and hence, the need for this very taxing daily practice without any visible or even desired end in sight.

Returning to Buddha, we all know his story and how he achieved enlightenment. Ironically, we know he was a human being like us who, with his concentrated and single minded efforts reached his goal. I find it difficult to understand why we feel we won’t ever reach there. Even logically, this does not make sense to me, though I know this is not a subject of logic.

Where do we begin? Simply with simple meditation to reduce the useless thoughts (cobwebs) with constant practice. Pranayama and yoga to regulate breathe and focus of mind. Reduce ego and attachment. Hate the negativity in people, NOT the people who practice it because they are at that level of vibration at that point in time. (Attitude determines altitude). Exercise your choice. CHOOSE POSITIVITY. CHOOSE THE GOOD. CHOOSE SPIRITUALITY. This is the only permanent option actually. The rest is transient, misleading and therefore, damaging to the progression of the soul.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Every phase in time has had priority requirements. But none of the phases ever required atrocities, traumas, hatred, intolerance, greed, war mongering and enmity in the name of separatist “identities”.

We keep hearing that “satyug” will come back one day. And how well greed would be justified if we craved for satyug as of yesterday. True, this planet cannot take any more negativity. All the healers need to come together, connect and heal the planet and the gross misdeeds of human beings regularly. The way this world is churning today, the writing on the wall is very clearly visible.

Man is insatiable in seeking hell. Has lost all sense of wisdom. Lives in an illusory imagination of permanence and delusions of grandeur and Omni presence. The road leads to a “no man’s land”, darkness beyond the imaginable.

Let the light shine again. Let this planet know peace and joy, the brotherhood of man and man again. And let peace, harmony and prosperity reign. It is long overdue.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Very often, we seem to have little or no control over our thoughts. They keep coming almost like a cyclone and shake up the very core of an individual. Very few have the awareness and capacity to stop them when required, observe them and change them if and when necessary.

Sometimes, out of nowhere, some thoughts connected with old wounds surface suddenly. And then we understand that the healing is still pending. We will not get over these thoughts unless we heal them. Through understanding, love and forgiveness. What damages healing is also the intensity of negative feelings. The more intense, the less the ability to let go and more the pain and resentment.

Often, we are also so helpless with thoughts coming in. We actually believe that thoughts just come in. But from where? And do we have the power to regulate them or not? Do we KNOW we create them AND have the power to let them go, bring them in, transform the negative ones at will and by choosing the direction we want them to take? Perhaps not.

People say they tried but no resolution was found. Again, let us ask “why”. Because we insist on playing and replaying the same old “hurt” tape in our mind.

Again and again and again. We want a salutary action, a re-conciliatory action from the person who has hurt us. Right? We are unwilling to let go till this is done.

We don’t realize that WE can sort this out ourselves. Why do we need the crutch or a dependency to feel better? Or even to forgive and forget? Come on! Resolve the hurt yourself. Because you CHOSE to get hurt. Right? So, why expect someone else to solve YOUR issue, created by YOU?

We need to get out of the mode of “approval seeking” and emotional dependence. We want to belong somewhere, lean on someone because we don’t know how to live with people AND be independent. We keep loaning or giving away our precious energy to them.

The help we expect from others can be easily done through self counseling because at the end of the day, it is OUR ego that initiates the hurt. So, with counseling the ego, it is possible to heal it and even smile at what we realize now, was utter foolishness on our part.

Simple, my dear Watson! How can anyone hurt me if I don’t WANT to get hurt?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Traumas


“To hell and back” is common terminology when we go through an intensely bad experience and are trying to recover. None of us can actually live in anyone’s shoes to feel that intensity. Though we can try.

To feel someone’s pain, agony is an evidence of very deep soul connections. We don’t feel so for everyone and there is so much misery in this world.

The intense and searing pain that tears us apart at the suffering or death of a special person can create a hell around us on a daily basis. This is what depressions are all about. You get up in the mornings and the first thought is about these souls, that is, if you slept through the night before. This is true of all traumas that we go through in our lives at various ages, from rape to betrayals to abject misery and disenchantment.

The biggest service we can provide is to try and mitigate at least a percentage of that feeling of “hell” where they live. Even if we can touch one life in this manner.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Views


Sometimes, we don’t lend credence to the fact that people’s minds are wired so differently. What is clear as daylight to me may not be necessarily so for others. Naturally then, in a close family or group situation, this is a reason for conflict if one side imposes views on the other.

In a dialogue, we can try and impress our perceptions because a dialogue means both parties are open to listening and imbibing. However, the scenario changes if we try to superimpose our views on the opposite party. Even if the final conclusion might be in favor of MY view, there might be a resistance to it if I insist on my views being the only right ones.

So, often, we compromise, keep silent or go along with the popular view to keep our relationships intact over and above being right. Only with the understanding that it cannot be “my way or the highway” kind of attitude. There are reasons why “my way” could be rejected, though maybe, not all valid ones from where I might be looking at it, but very valid from other angles arising from other views.

Therefore, the ultimate outcome might be a good one only if we are willing enough to respect those other points of view to complete the picture.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Common sense says one must do what is progressive. What hinders progress is obviously our inability to THINK progressive. India being such an ancient country, it is steeped in various traditions. Each state has its own culture and traditions, almost as if it were a different country.

As a nation, we evolved. We tried to learn from other countries as did others from us. But somewhere, we started thinking that the definition of progress is more money, more power. The race is to become a power center. In every field.

This power center is like the honey that bees get attracted to and swarm around. And then, we develop a mob mentality ruled by these power centers. Basically, a mob mentality is mindless and can often become a dangerous trend.

Any belief that begins to border on fanaticism loses its core of origin. Every belief starts with an experience and gets strengthened as a stereotype which is then very hard to let go or change.

We must remember that stereotypes are valid for a period of time. And there valid reasons for their development and existence, too. But they are not all timeless.

We have heard ad nauseum that change is a constant. So, some truths also change with time. To move on and adapt ourselves would certainly be progress if the consequences all around would be win all around.

But if we try and hang onto some stereotypes which lost their value in an evolving world or within a changing context, we could end up in a regressive situation instead of a progressive one. And every phase is chronicled in history as the wisdom or the madness of men. We look back in judgment but what we need is to be vigilant and aware in every phase so that wisdom prevails and we need not look back with regret, small or big.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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