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Watch your breath ! It takes some training but if you watch your breath or keep your breath within your awareness , whatever else you are doing at that moment, something miraculous happens.

You just never let go of your control . The breath regulates your thoughts, your reactions and your emotions.

If you notice, the pattern of your breath changes with the quality of your emotions. When you are angry, your breath is shallow and fast. In meditation, your breath slows down .

People get confused about what exactly meditation is. Constant breath awareness is nothing short of meditation. There is no need to sit down specially, and close your eyes and try to remove your thoughts. Many people find this frustrating and they drop meditation completely. For these people, I would really recommend watching your breath and experiencing beautiful changes.

Surekha Kothari

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It takes a while for people to believe that we can heal ourselves in many ways. Because we are responsible for making ourselves ill in the first place, we have also been endowed with self healing powers. Some terminal cases have been healed , too. Two cases that I know of with terminal illnesses cured themselves just through a few hours of pranayama per day.

The fact of the matter is , our thoughts and emotions when starting to deeply embed within ourselves are what manifest later. Negative emotions arising out of negative thoughts are the core reason for a gradual

Deterioration in health.

People ask me how any “ normal” person can stop feeling hurt or sad or depressed or angry at some time and in some situations. Sure ! True. But it is one thing to feel it momentarily and another to let it fester. Instead, it is healthier to let it go. Any emotion that is doing harm instead of good cannot be acceptable.

If relationships you have valued get affected, if restlessness and guilt sets in, if peace eludes you and thoughts crowd you each second, you haven’t started walking towards the path of light.

Become aware of the patterns and stereotypes you live with and don’t hesitate in asking for forgiveness, forgiving yourself and erase any memories that are painful, knowing they are just your perceptions. Give the benefit of doubt . And let go , let go. How many times ? Well, all the time. Holding on will harm you. It will bring illnesses you don’t need anytime soon , in fact, not at all.

So, relax. Have a “char minar,” as the saying goes.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I wrote this based on my observation of close bonds being diluted due to non communication :

The uneasy silence of unspoken words .

The strain of meeting as if all is well. The restless soul that feels this pain ,

And suffers in helplessness.

Of being so close but, oh ! So distant !

The boundary stretched across ,

Irrevocably perhaps ?

When and how did this happen ?

Only God would know !

As awareness , lost in the darkness of life’s events

Not retrieved , as time knocked out what could have been. …

Talk to me, for I am no stranger..

Tell me how you feel..

Surprise me with your warmth ..

I know it lurks somewhere within ..

Just break the barrier..

It can’t be so hard !

The other beseeches you

But you keep your ego intact.

Futile ! Think a while !

For cruel is time

And fragile is life.

Atone, amend, salvage the bonds

For, death stands just beyond that door..

And regrets and guilt an inch away from that door.

So, build bridges.

Rebuild the burnt ones

Reconstruct the old, loving patterns.

Let your heart be peaceful and content.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Today, I remember the words of my guru who said , if a negative person does not let go of negativity, what sense does it make for a positive person to react negatively to a negative person and become negative ? A lesson I remember very often. So simple and so logical . And yet, so difficult .

But by changing some ground rules, one can achieve much success in retaining one’s positivity. And not get affected.

The first ground rule is to know that you have to change your dependence on these people for your happy state of mind. In moments when they may not be happy, they could spill negative vibrations around you.

The second is to examine yourself. Have you misunderstood something somewhere ? And started a chain of negativity ?

The third is, is someone else’s negativity worth getting affected by ?

The fourth is, accept what is beyond your control. Though this can be very painful sometimes.

And finally, make a vow to yourself that you will be positive and happy no matter what.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Admiration


We were , as children, were brought up on the tonic, “ you do the right thing”. And as everyone knows, reactive is more the mode of humans than responsive and proactive. It was so normal to feel a little resentful about being the “bigger” person . Who wanted to be the bigger person when only injustice was on the mind.

But, today, when I count some traits of maturity, I am afraid, doing the right thing is way up there. I understand that it was primarily this trait that kept families together, for one. And to me, this is very important.

The Red Label Tea ad shot around the” kumbh mela “theme is completely demonstrative of the merits of doing the right thing. Somehow, we lose the battle due to our desires which don’t match what aught to be done. There is no point arguing with people who question the reasons for doing what is in the best interests of all, when only “my” interest is in focus for me. And that interest is not always aligned with the larger interest.

We speak of Buddha with admiration but don’t think ever of trying to emulate …. we never feel qualified and therein lies the problem. We fail to even try.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Laughter


Laughter is the best medicine but humor is so personal. Slapstick comedies can have a very antiseptic reaction for cerebral people. Like, “what is so funny in this?” While another set of people could be rolling on the floor.

Some just love the dry, British humor while for some; it has to be “in the face” humor. No subtlety wanted.

But life must be lived with humor laced with a pinch of salt as well. Whatever brand of humor you can respond to. I would rather shed tears from laughing uncontrollably than from crying uncontrollably. Wouldn’t you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I notice in others and myself that we all seem to be a little different when we are out of our daily routines , for example when we travel to other cities, as compared to the places we reside in. Somehow, more relaxed but naturally, we do have less responsibilities than in our own homes and offices. I see friends wanting a change every so often. And they run away.

This does make me wonder whether we, as humans, with a natural tendency to be free, to feel free, are unable to sustain that inner spirit of equilibrium and an equanimous state of being. Which means our responses to external stimuli change with both people and places? Which again means, we get affected and that’s not such a good thing because we are not in our control.

This means there is a lot of work to be done. Life is an eternal project in motion. It stops or slows down here and there. And when it does, we need to kick start it again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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