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Wisdom


When you post some very profound words of wisdom , people often show a doubt in that , can we really practice all of it ? True that it takes an awful lot of will, determination and desire to walk that path. Not to mention a constant awareness. And many , therefore, turn around and walk back to the path is comfort. The common statement is, “ come on ! I am not a saint”.

As if the path of wisdom is only meant for the saints, or, the extraordinary ! And yet, if you read the biographies of the world famous personalities, some started at the bottom and worked their way up. This kind of gamut of experiences and learned wisdom to make such a stupendous success of their lives can be a beacon for those who think they can never emulate such people successfully.

The real Issue is not that we can’t do it. It is , that we have slotted ourselves as people with limitations, that of being “ordinary”. Or just with an established pattern which we kind of like and are settled into.

Actually, there is wisdom inside all of us , wherever we are and whatever we do. We just don’t know that we can use it anytime, in fact, must use it to better our understanding about everything to graduate to higher vibrational levels as students of life do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you develop an understanding of people and can muster up a kind of X-ray vision into their thoughts and predictable reactions or responses, life becomes very interesting . More than that, you begin to see it all as if you were watching a movie. You know what is going on and what is coming next.

What I discovered about this is that it kind of stops affecting your life after a while. You tend to get a little detached from what is unfolding before you.

I have stopped asking myself, “ what if ? Could I have ? Should I have ? “ etc etc. Because I can’t avoid the outcome. I think I could have done it this way or that way. But could I really have ?

So, getting immune is the best way to go.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was talking to a friend about how stress can pile up on you because of your vulnerability to some relationships. These people know which buttons to press to make you go a little crazy sometimes some contentious relationships which can’t be severed and can’t be tolerated. It is as if two people are just waiting with their fangs out, ready to pounce on each other. And even if this sounds funny, it is really not, when you are within the situation.

Change this and you can get the ownership of yourself back. Changing this means changing and transforming the feelings that induce and lead to the war like environment. Not allow anyone to take away your choice of response and turn it into an angry or frustrated rejoinder.

We can’t smoulder from within and keep a peaceful front for too long AND retain our health as well. So, either we have to completely get away from such people or decide that they are not getting anywhere with you. That you remain unaffected even amused.

The best way to change your energies is to challenge yourself to become immune and get your control back. And hope no one thinks that this is a minor task and can be accomplished with just a “hey presto! “

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The aftermath is an encounter with a person of toxic energy can be an extremely debilitating one. Even retaliating makes you feel you are hitting against the wall and often, bleeding.

The tragic part is that you discover that you are not devoid of toxicity yourself because you actually did pretty much what you despised in the first place. Evidently, it is somewhere within and bursts forth without warning triggered off by the other person.

Walking away from situations is probably an intelligent decision. Ignoring is another solution. Gritting your teeth and smiling is another but jokes apart, although it gets tough to not retaliate when someone is being plain obnoxious, it is wiser to step aside. And if you have a relapse, try and try again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Taking life for granted! Yes, we do most of the time. Only when we see death around us do we get a shock, though for a while only. And then we are back to normal.

But we don’t realize that life is fragile and we need to thank God every day for each day.

Every breath that we take is very valuable. It is the elixir of life and must be treated with care. We tend to abuse it through anger and many negative emotions.

Nothing and no one should be able to take away the value of your life. Living it with happiness and a freedom to make choices for your life is the way to go. Some things and some people will always enter or go out of your life. Let it happen. Keep breathing in love, nature, light and peace and bliss will be yours.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Honesty


It is refreshing to see honesty and forthrightness in a person in these times of guile and pretence. There is automatically a “don’t care” attitude in such people because they are who they are. They don’t really bother about being liked or not. They say it as it is and actually, earn many friends precisely because of their honesty.

Isn’t it but natural that you have a great sense of comfort with such friends? They are frank but not judgmental. They like you for who you are, not because of who you pretend to be.

These are rare gems that you hold on to. Life becomes very simple around them. And you can be yourself with them, which is a huge bonus.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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As women, we pass through many stages before coming into our own space and being comfortable in it. Our strength lies often in being silent when we want to scream. Our strength lies in smiling when we want to bawl our eyes out. Our strength lies in pretending we didn’t see the hatred in someone’s eyes and being pleasant no matter what. Our strength lies in loving our children whether that love is returned or not. In fact, there are many relationships that we hold close because we feel the emotions.

Gradually, we begin to learn from our different reactions to different episodes in our life , until one day, we realize that we have emerged stronger and are able to smile where we cried, hug those who we know could do without us , love those who we know are never going to care as much as we do, forgive those we have hurt us and also forgive ourselves for the hurt we have wittingly or unwittingly caused others.

And we women become stronger and stronger as we start depending on ourselves instead of always looking for crutches. We learn to deal with situations independently a time to rejoice.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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