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A certain transparency is very necessary and beneficial in a close relationship. Sharing the important aspects of each others’ lives can increase levels of understanding and compassion and further those bonds.

Why leave people to do guesswork of what lies beneath a certain pattern of behaviour ? Admittedly, we all have and have had issues to deal with. As children, as teenagers and as adults. And this continues from generation to generation with varying degrees and with different life stories. This generalisation itself should make us more compassionate and empathetic to each other. Even more so, when there are closer ties.

It is so simple that I can’t read all the pages of your book of life unless you share them. And only then will understanding deepen.

So, open communication . It makes life easier and very pleasant as well. As I keep repeating, none of us can live like islands. It would completely be against the universal laws of connectivity. So, why not build strong bridges to other souls ?

Surekha Kothari

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Today, I remember the words of my guru who said , if a negative person does not let go of negativity, what sense does it make for a positive person to react negatively to a negative person and become negative ? A lesson I remember very often. So simple and so logical . And yet, so difficult .

But by changing some ground rules, one can achieve much success in retaining one’s positivity. And not get affected.

The first ground rule is to know that you have to change your dependence on these people for your happy state of mind. In moments when they may not be happy, they could spill negative vibrations around you.

The second is to examine yourself. Have you misunderstood something somewhere ? And started a chain of negativity ?

The third is, is someone else’s negativity worth getting affected by ?

The fourth is, accept what is beyond your control. Though this can be very painful sometimes.

And finally, make a vow to yourself that you will be positive and happy no matter what.

Surekha Kothari

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Even if I say so myself, our generation was taught well and specially in terms of consideration for one to be aware of our space and act circumspectly and respect the space of others. We also knew things like, you queue up on the left and let people move forward from the right. We never had cell phones back then but we knew that we were supposed to give way to the elders.

Today, just forget all this. Even airports and stations have become like parks. Not to mention malls huge crowds, some loitering while talking merrily on cell phones, oblivious of the fact that they are blocking people behind them. Escalators have become a plaything, to run up and down like kids, never mind who you can knock down in the bargain.

Of course, there IS nothing like queues for some. Cutting through J walkers has become the single most frustrating exercise in malls, stations and sometimes, at airports too.

There is NO consideration in people for anyone other than themselves. Naturally, there is a resulting chaos, conflict and much anger everywhere. Minds are frayed not only at the edges but from all sides.

Quantity over quality is an accepted situation. If you haven’t accepted this yet, you are in for depression and high blood pressure.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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There are wonderful people all over the world. You meet them at various points in your life and they become a source of joy. You don’t look for wealth in people. It is the love and caring that even money cannot buy, that makes life beautiful. Imagine how much beauty you miss if you only connect with people when you need them for your benefit.

Upbringing, grace, natural inner beauty are the shining ingredients in humans. Living for yourself is nothing great. When your being responds to those you love, you actually justify your birth as a human being. Because human beings are the highest intelligence on earth. And also have been gifted with a heart.

Surekha Kothari

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This is the era of knowledge predominance, so much technology, Brilliance etc. But we have not emerged from our decadent mindsets yet. Look at the kind of “education” our entertainment industry provides us. We talk about equality, rights of women, leveling out the society, going back to “family”, respecting women (huge one, this!)

Women, even today, are depicted in the worst ways. Watch an Indian or Pakistani drama (similar people in both countries) and the most prominent theme is women bashing, subservience and ill treatment of women, woman against woman (as in mother in law and sister in law), intrigue, attempt by the family to destroy the daughter in law because of dowry (sick!) or the obsessive tendencies of the mother in law and sisters in law to control the “son” of the family…COME ON!

And we talk of changing our world by making it progressive. We know that generations after generations internalize these situations, machinations, dangerous and vicious intrigue and vicarious pleasure at the downfall of others. So much so that we copy reel life and paste it in real life.

In real life, we may not have women characters retiring for the night in their finest heavy saris and jewelry but we do have the masses enjoying all the politics and deviousness in families on television and don’t necessarily forget about them to go into loving and caring ways with the family, friends and society.

The thinkers say it is their choice to see what appeals to them and that you can’t dictate what should be produced and aired. But the appeal of exposure to and specially the enjoyment of such dramas/ serials can be vital to the health of family, community and country, because they create regressive attitudes and “license to kill” with self indulgence of every kind. These are people who specialize in herd mentality and don’t have opinions of their own. AND, they idolize actors and juxtapose their roles in their own lives, the erosion of values, Eve teasing, violations of women, these gain momentum. But we don’t have any forum to exorcise our people of thinking and behavioral patterns, including a corrupt judiciary and police.

What all are we going to and HOW are we going to clean up these to add to the “swachh Bharat” endeavor? If insides are rotting, what cleanliness can we see outside? We will have understood the wholesome and vast implications of “swachh” first.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It certainly appears that the virtual world has created distances between people. Families and friends today prefer to SMS or whattsapp rather than pick up the phone. The need to hear a voice is diminished considerably. The old world dialogue, ” son, (or daughter) I haven’t heard your voice in such a long time” is an almost obsolete statement. If you want that personal touch, there is a solution. And that is, just stop wanting it.

Similarly, a decreasing of hard copies of books and newspapers in the wake of a kindle and online news still makes one yearn for the touch of paper , a turning of a page physically instead of a click .

The emotionally led generations will, by and large, have to take a back seat in the next few years. I am not complaining. Just stating facts and neither am I unhappy. Because, spiritually, this is a wonderful time to detach as much as possible before leaving this earth. There is always a grand plan if one can see it. What the sages advocated and was so difficult to practice, is now becoming easier. We have less to account for in the other world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Fickle mindedness and unreliability are two extremely undesirable traits in a human being. Many allied vices stem from these. Firstly, these people are not true to anyone, not even themselves. Their pretence levels are very high. Probably masters of the game. Secondly, they evidently live for themselves, whimsical and undependable. Lacking depth, maybe, and living on the surface. Changing their minds like they would change clothes, but very sweet spoken and could fool anyone except those discerning few.

I often hear people say such people are happier because they don’t succumb easily to feelings of sadness, helplessness, frustration etc. Possible, if they think only of themselves most of the time, but happier? I don’t know about that.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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