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Forgiveness


Forgiveness is the highest form of kindness in the world, I think. The one who cannot forgive is worse off ultimately, from the one who seeks forgiveness. Imagine how much work people have to put in to genuinely forgive someone ! It is also incredible that you can , in fact, live with yourself without forgiving. How complicated you can become by knotting yourself up within mixed emotions.

As they say, only humans can make mistakes. Also, that you yourself have made many and more , and sometimes have been deliberately offensive, too. So, when you know this , you would also, at some point, arrive at the repentance mode which leads to forgiveness. And then , to unimagined relief and happiness.

Try it , at least with those who love you and admit to human error.

Surekha Kothari

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Today, I remember the words of my guru who said , if a negative person does not let go of negativity, what sense does it make for a positive person to react negatively to a negative person and become negative ? A lesson I remember very often. So simple and so logical . And yet, so difficult .

But by changing some ground rules, one can achieve much success in retaining one’s positivity. And not get affected.

The first ground rule is to know that you have to change your dependence on these people for your happy state of mind. In moments when they may not be happy, they could spill negative vibrations around you.

The second is to examine yourself. Have you misunderstood something somewhere ? And started a chain of negativity ?

The third is, is someone else’s negativity worth getting affected by ?

The fourth is, accept what is beyond your control. Though this can be very painful sometimes.

And finally, make a vow to yourself that you will be positive and happy no matter what.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Hankering after what cannot be is just not wise. Everything has to come within the realm of possibilities first, in order to materialise. And anything CAN come within the realm of the possible , the condition being that there is some amount of realisation.

Sometimes, I think it can be as simple as realising the need for a warm shower. But there is a condition here again, that you feel dirty enough to have one. This feeling is what brings the shower within the realm of the possible.

Likewise, one will have to keep peace until there is a trigger , winds change and something different and desirable happens. Realisation doesn’t dawn in people at your time. Only at the right time for them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The Divine


Once a mom, always a mom ! I have heard this since childhood. And have wondered ! Why not “ once a dad, always a dad”? A bit of a foolish question, that !

The cosmic artist has carved out mother and child from the same stone. Imagine ! When you see your child, made in your image, with your blood and tissue, it is just like an experience of the soul being an integral part of the Divine.

How can one make light of this reality ? And specially when it comes to aborting a child, and a girl child .

I haven’t seen a mom whose face doesn’t light up at the mention of her child. To her, her child will always be like a child, whatever the age. And she will always protect and counsel her child. Maybe, sometimes, adult children may feel that they don’t need this anymore. But the happiness a mom gets by being loved by her children is unimaginable. And the satisfaction she gets by counselling them is also part of her need to protect. And expects her child to understand that.

If children have clear eyes, they would see that they have had someone holding an umbrella above them each second so that they are shielded from the sun. And they are blessed. Like I feel I am, despite many wars fought with the mom .

Folks , moms are moms and never do we quite have any relationship like this one.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Tolerance


There comes a time when you kind of tend to lose your tolerance for superficiality. The surface look of anything has a limited period of interest and limited value. After that, you want to go deeper. And if there is no “ deep” dimension or is not apparent when sought, there comes a saturation point and then the mind wanders away.

This intolerance, more often than not , is an age related symptom. Weeding out the chaff from the wheat is an inevitable process when exhaustion for meaningless anything sets in over a long period of time.

You start questioning why you think , speak or act without really catering to your basic persona. Your honest persona. Your more genuine persona. Why ? Time to quit the play., the drama of it all and return to source energy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Laughter


Laughter is the best medicine but humor is so personal. Slapstick comedies can have a very antiseptic reaction for cerebral people. Like, “what is so funny in this?” While another set of people could be rolling on the floor.

Some just love the dry, British humor while for some; it has to be “in the face” humor. No subtlety wanted.

But life must be lived with humor laced with a pinch of salt as well. Whatever brand of humor you can respond to. I would rather shed tears from laughing uncontrollably than from crying uncontrollably. Wouldn’t you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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From small excuses to big lies is a journey in darkness with many pitfalls and no one to light a candle. Everyone makes excuses once in a while. The danger is when these excuses become frequent and become lies because the formula works each time!

But the difference between lies and truth is a big one. Truth is clear and you live by it. Lies however, need a hiding place. Truth is never “found out”. Lies ARE Truth, even if harsh, is respected. Lies are not.

So, we must bring in more awareness into ourselves and try and clean up our act, our habits which don’t really serve us in the long run, and may ruin our relationships as well.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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