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A Nomadic life


A nomadic life is such a free life in so many ways. They have little opportunity to get attached to places because they never stay long enough . And even the few days are spent mostly amidst nature. In tents. Yes, they seem to be a close knit community and therefore, attached to and protective of their own . Lifestyle diseases elude them at the best of times and worst of times. Happiness is not a special acquisition.

City bred folks have all kinds of issues. For sunlight , they have to specially go into the sunlight. For exercise to the gym. There is little informal meeting and more meeting friends with appointments. What happened to the word “spontaneity”? Not to mention the artifice that seems to set in , often as a part of the survival kit, among other pretensions.

Simple pleasures are simply not sought. Those days are gone when small town life also made frequent inroads into nature . And the five star culture has deprived people of the wonderful experience of living on farms and rustic life. Even farms have five star homes now.

Spoilt, aren’t we ? But more than that , we have lost out on the beauty of being one with nature. I guess, what you have never experienced, you don’t miss.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences


I have realized that to be critical of yourself and hard on yourself can turn out to be a huge punishment in your future life and can really alter the quality of your life. To feel guilty, remorseful is human up to a point. But all your life ? Even to kick yourself for not doing things in a different way and looking at an undesirable outcome can really psyche you into believing you are inadequate or foolish or whatever tag you want to give yourself. Before others do it, you are doing it to yourself.

It makes no difference though. When the arrow leaves the bow, it will pierce something somewhere. Remember the story of Shravan kumar ? The king was innocent but had to bear the consequences of hitting the wrong target.

We do this very often out of our ignorance or misguided ness even. But having said that, what next is the moot question. How are we going to deal with a situation which was not in our control ? Or we thought it was but….. it has happened in a certain way. That is the reality.

This is the point at which wisdom comes in. Life has never been black and white. The shades of grey are what make you move through life. Solutions have to be found for our own well being . And if we have to bear consequences, we have to simply bear them.

Surekha Kothari

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The aftermath is an encounter with a person of toxic energy can be an extremely debilitating one. Even retaliating makes you feel you are hitting against the wall and often, bleeding.

The tragic part is that you discover that you are not devoid of toxicity yourself because you actually did pretty much what you despised in the first place. Evidently, it is somewhere within and bursts forth without warning triggered off by the other person.

Walking away from situations is probably an intelligent decision. Ignoring is another solution. Gritting your teeth and smiling is another but jokes apart, although it gets tough to not retaliate when someone is being plain obnoxious, it is wiser to step aside. And if you have a relapse, try and try again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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As women, we pass through many stages before coming into our own space and being comfortable in it. Our strength lies often in being silent when we want to scream. Our strength lies in smiling when we want to bawl our eyes out. Our strength lies in pretending we didn’t see the hatred in someone’s eyes and being pleasant no matter what. Our strength lies in loving our children whether that love is returned or not. In fact, there are many relationships that we hold close because we feel the emotions.

Gradually, we begin to learn from our different reactions to different episodes in our life , until one day, we realize that we have emerged stronger and are able to smile where we cried, hug those who we know could do without us , love those who we know are never going to care as much as we do, forgive those we have hurt us and also forgive ourselves for the hurt we have wittingly or unwittingly caused others.

And we women become stronger and stronger as we start depending on ourselves instead of always looking for crutches. We learn to deal with situations independently a time to rejoice.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The irony of life is that it can be understood only on the rewind mode whereas it has to be lived in the play and fast forward mode. Another contradiction is that we are told not to delve into the past whereas, if we didn’t, how would we learn from it?

Learning from the past works in two ways. Learn what to do and also what not to do. Going forward then becomes an interesting exercise. Like experiencing every wave as it washes over you, each one different in its quality, speed and impact. There is no warning. You can get knocked down or learn to tread water. But learning is definite.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Consequences


Living for you is no art. It comes naturally to people. Self interest is usually top priority amidst all the external banter. We have become masters of banter. I must get what I want at any cost, is the usual philosophy of life.

But the fact is, we can’t survive happily like this. To quote Sadguru once again, and I seem to be doing this a lot lately, we must learn to look at things as they are. Like, we call a tree “wood”. Like we call a human being a “body” the moment death occurs.

We forget that Prana is in trees too. They breathe. They live. The same oxygen connects us. Imagine if that oxygen was taken away from us ! We would not survive. Amazing how we wear blinkers. At least horses are made to wear them. We wear them ourselves very conveniently.

We are facing severe consequences on the constant onslaught on nature and everything connected, including humans, and will continue to do so until the price for our foolishness is paid. Like someone cutting the very branch he is sitting on. Aren’t we doing pretty much the same?

Surekha Kothari

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Emotions


Whatever we might want to do with our past, we certainly do not want to forget the lovely memories. I am one of those, and not the only one, who wants to discover the whereabouts of my school friends through any means. Although I changed 6 schools due to my father’s transferable job, I loved the friends I made in all those schools, the last one being Loreto Convent, Ranchi. Today, I got a call from my batch mate of my final year in school and I am still on a high.

Do I want to change this and “move on” certainly not. I like the fact that we can reconnect with old connections and take off from where we left off all those years ago, difficult to have the same bonds later in life.

But it makes me think that life is to be experienced. Emotions have to be experienced. Of course, all the principles of life and happiness must be observed. But there is joy in experiencing love, bonding, caring and sharing and with these, some not so happy emotions as well. After all, we live in a black and white world where experiencing only the shades of grey in the name of balance might become a tad boring, isn’t it?

So, live life to the fullest as long as you are not doing so by causing someone else pain or grief. And go with your heart.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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