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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in. But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly, when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt? Who wants to retaliate? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger, resentment, feared or hatred isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Keep the pollution away. And I don’t mean only environmental pollution. That is an obvious fact. There are other forms. For example, what a polluted mind can do is not apparent even when our own mind does it. We should be so much aware, actually, that even if a polluted thought enters your mind, you ask for forgiveness immediately. Excessive? Not at all!

You will notice that we all have formulated very “artful” ways of overlooking the pollution in our minds. Take humor. One always knew of laughter being the best medicine, as avid Readers’ Digest readers believed laughter to be. But how much dislike and aversion can humor be laced with is something we all have seen many a time. Right? In fact, every night, at bedtime, if you recap every detailed thought, word and deed honestly to yourself, some pollution will be visible. Some negative thought about something, someone…even you. (You are equally important, if not more). Or, some emotions that lashed out uncontrollably because someone else was at fault and “did that to you”…when you know that no one can do anything to you unless you permit it…and some acts also that we try to palm off on some incident or people , acts that we are not really proud of.

One way to reduce this pollution is to keep the mind outside of you. Examine it minutely and see what thinks is and what it says to you. And take the positive in and keep the rest out. With a little practice, you will see a difference. Once you know you can do this successfully, you will want to do this exercise again and again like a child because you will start feeling so good about yourself that you will never want to regress to that pollution stage again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Personalities


I just had to write on the post below. I don’t think we even KNOW how much in fear we live, in the name of love. We cling on to our “near and dear” in the name of caring, sharing, unity etc. Parents claim to love children. Children claim equally to love their parents. Friends claim to love each other. But often, we see so many power games being played. The more rampant the ego, the more power play we see. Powerful or powerless? In control or controlled?

We readily compromise our personalities, our choices, swallow our tears when hurt , smile when we want to scream foul play or blue murder….haven’t we seen enough misery in “families” , in fact, in most groups? …and in the bargain, we lose ourselves trying to procure a bit of love, to feel wanted. We don’t realize we go along with the wrong, the unjust, even the callous because we want to feel good in being a part of people, and then we stop thinking. We just have to toe the line. And we do…all the time. It is easy. Exercising the right choice and thinking for ourselves may set us apart …that is scary, to say the least.

Exactly as the post says. We are so afraid of “losing” others that the fear of loneliness results in our opting to lose ourselves instead for a temporary happy feeling.

How heavy a price is this for our soul! Our journey is alone. We are like passengers on a train who meet for a while and disembark when we reach our destination. I have never seen any passenger telling another to go home with them and live and die together. Have you?

But we know of people who had a mission and who had the courage to forgo many an impediment to retrieve their inner core and energy from the people, places and events to which they had lost it. So don’t be afraid to lose people, be afraid of losing yourself.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Weighing scale


Everything in small dozes! Anything excessive upsets the applecart. Too much closeness brings distances. Too much addiction to anything results in ailments. Too much love can create spoilt people around you. Too much self importance can be blind us to reality. Too much criticism can lead to poor self esteem…And so on.

Balance is the key word. The weighing scale is very important…to always keep in mind what imbalance can do…too much of anything is self destructive.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Exciting goal


As children, we used to be told that there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We used to run towards it to catch it. And it holds our fascination even today….like a distant dream, an exciting goal!

How many pots we run after in life, isn’t it? But have you stopped to see how beautiful each color on the rainbow is? And what an enchanting harmony of color the rainbow is?

But we prefer to focus on the pot which ultimately turns out to be just an illusion. And we mistake wood for the trees as we are past masters at doing this anyway.

Life’s journey is also like a rainbow, with various hues and shades, now hidden, now visible. And we are the sky that holds all the colors within, to cherish each one with all their warmth and divinity.

If we were not born, would we have been able to experience the pure, undiluted beauty of God’s creation? Rabindranath Tagore said that this world is so beautiful that he wanted to be born again and again. He cherished the opportunity of creativity and radiated joy through his writings and his music…the journey, riding on the rainbow with no aspirations of ending it and so, no desire to find that pot.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life Span


Too much of anything is avoidable. The mind looks for a change when it cannot handle excesses. And why not? A heavy, saturated mind can cause many problems. Like everything in life, the mind needs some space and some rest.

Can you imagine if thoughts never ceased at all? For one, we could not sleep at all. For another, no thought would be complete. Without rest and sleep, we would surely reduce our life span or go crazy even.

As they say, “all work and no play…..” and this applies to all of us.

So, if you want to have a happy life, take breaks from everything frequently, even if short ones. Laugh every day. Change unhappy anything to happy. Before a maximum saturation sets in, shift gears ….and be a little wise, a little crazy, a little adventurous, a little determined, a little balanced but always happy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The toughest part of living is attachment. When someone you love is unwell, unhappy, however much we preach or believe in detachment, every bit of knowledge disappears from sight at that point.

It is said that “prana” and “prakriti” (our basic nature) leave the world together. I think that is true in most cases. To alter your nature is not impossible but very difficult…near impossible in a way. But life is all about learning and applying that learning. And to keeping on trying to make the transition from ordinary to extraordinary.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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