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Being true to ourselves! How many of us can honestly claim this about ourselves? This in current times is the singularly hardest thing to do. Because the consequences of this we humans cannot take.

We are constantly saying and doing things for the wrong reasons either to be accepted. Or not be isolated or for being popular. Could we ever have the courage to be true to ourselves? Yes, it requires lots of courage, to be different. To stand out among a group that encourages herd mentality. To face even dislike, criticism, ostracisation even, if I were to state extremities.

If I feel something, can I say it? If I am being compelled to be someone else, would I refuse? Be ABLE to refuse? Would I risk the wrath of the people who give me my identity?

Yes, it does take a large amount of courage and a large slice of confidence to go it alone, for it sometimes would mean the falling away of many who aren’t able to do the same and would therefore, not feel too good about themselves if they were in your company.

But, be true to yourself anyway.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Pile up


Right from the time we become adults, we accumulate and hoard. Then, in the sunset years, we need to declutter and give away. Similarly, we build larger homes and then shrink them into apartments. We know that everything has to be downsized ultimately. Yet, we keep accumulating more than we actually need.

I believe that the bigger the space you create the more clutter you will pile up. Every empty wall needs to be filled up.

Yet, our heart has huge spaces in it. We call it a void. Because
ironically we downsize the heart very early in life, which we are not supposed to. No clutter there. Whereas, the more full it is, the more abundance there would be; a completely opposite reality the main difference between the physical world and the non physical world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Recognition


Awards and their value in modern times! Being up close and personal in this knowledge is disconcerting. Since many years, there are organizations writing to people of some merit, asking them if they would like an award and requesting for contributions or “donations” to a cause. I guess they capitalize on the publicity opportunities that excite the awardees who want the limelight. Human, I guess but….,

How many awards are genuine? Richly deserved? Not only awards, even artists often pay for their concerts. Obviously then, every such organized activity is purely commercial, with less bearing on caliber than ever before.

And if you have a string of awards along with your name, people are impressed, not knowing the merit orientation of these awards. Undeserved awards raise expectations of the masses but do not necessarily result in an elevation of the caliber and hence, credibility.

It is very sad that sometimes, not always, there is such a huge gap between receiving an award and deserving it. Sadly, it depends on who you know in the business. It should not be so wherever it is so. Today, press and media are equally in this business.  

Genuine talents remain without recognition. But I also know some very talented stalwarts in their fields who have declined awards merely on the grounds of a certain meaninglessness that has set in the very system of recognizing talent; Unfortunate in a land of so much talent but appreciation for mediocrity merely for commercial gains.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Something to think about, I read today that intuition is nothing but a synthesis of feeling and intellect. Most of the time, we feel but don’t understand. Or, understand but don’t feel. It should not be like that. Generally, we are closer to our feelings more than understanding. We ARE our feelings. But understanding needs to sink into it. And this will happen with introspection.

So, if we feel we are separate, everything appears as separate. And this generates a different kind of activity within us as compared to when we feel one with our feeling and intellect. And we realize that there IS no separation. It is a mere illusion.

A thought and its quality, therefore, dictate and give character to our actions. This introspection should be done minute to minute as a priority, wherever we are and whatever we are doing. Only then does it become YOU. And then there is no dichotomy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Talent


Conforming is a talent I have not seen much of. It seems people find it difficult to fall in line as it were. You make a rule and you can be sure it will be broken more than once. The mind is unable to remember with consistency. Alternatively, it may not be taken seriously at all. Amazes me sometimes ! How can one repeat the same mistake again and again ?

In school, we had to conform. In certain homes, children have to conform. But as adults, we don’t think it is necessary to conform. In short, it spells a lack of respect for any rules made by others. Too much of individual assertions without understanding the importance of being able to conform when required. Another yardstick of balance. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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At the end of the day, there is only one main question that leads towards peace. “Am I ready to accept?” Also, am I able to step aside to avoid catastrophe and collusion, conflict and strife?

Someone very fiery once told me this was no way out; Seemed perturbed that I could advocate this “cowardly” path. How can you accept everything?

I don’t think it is so much a question of accepting “everything” as of being unrealistic enough not to know what is within our control and what is not. You really have no choice but to accept what is beyond your control right?

Forget huge phenomena like birth and death, even some results of your efforts are out of your hands. But what makes a positive difference is how we feel instinctively about things. What makes us uncomfortable is to be avoided because generally, it is a premonition or a warning that it may not be the wise thing to do; Feeling it in our bones, as it were.

And in such cases, it is better to avert an incoming crisis and upheaval.

But I don’t want anyone to mistake inertia for peace either. Peace may definitely be given up if it is for obtaining justice for someone. But if inertia sets in, there is no effort made and you exist like a vegetable.

These decisions of creating your own peace are also choices you make. And one of them is in favor of peace that is, accepting what you cannot change. For a huge chunk of peace, not pieces of peaceful moments.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Facts of life


It is so important to understand a few basic facts of life. One of THE most important ones is that “I” may be extremely important to “ME” but not necessarily to others from where one is watching. So often, this ignorance becomes a cause of great emotional and mental suffering.

It is good to learn to say, “It is okay” and bless everyone. In a world of time and space, we tend to measure distances with our emotions. Emotions don’t know how to rationalize or see things clearly.

I have realized that distance and closeness are mere illusory concepts. Who is close and who is distant? And what is the measure? The measure is once more, nothing but our expectations. The other person may not even remotely be thinking of you while you agonize over how close or how distant or why close or why distant. Sounds a little foolish but we tend to do this a lot.

Whether family or friends or acquaintances, unless you need to measure the physical distance, and you can do that by adjusting your spectacles, all “distance” is in our heads.

We also feel that someone who has not communicated for a long time has “gone away” from us. Not true. Getting involved in your life doesn’t mean you don’t care or that others don’t care.

There are many ways of thinking and understanding. The one thing that works is living contentedly with you. People know you are there. You know people are there. You have your priorities. They have theirs. The heart is the biggest connection. If that continues, you are okay.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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