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The capacity and the ability to understand depends on the calmness of mind which we possess or should possess. To think, to analyze, we need to keep a very peaceful mind. More often than not sometimes, the anger which sits ever ready on the tips of our noses activates immediately and puts an end to anything we might have been able to understand under normal circumstances.

But having said that when people live in a toxic environment from day to day with toxic people sanity can become a “has been”. And calmness a distant dream. But people live like that. And if it doesn’t kill them, it should make them stronger. As they say in Hindi, and I am translating here, that when pain transcends beyond a point, it actually becomes like medication. And at this point, calm should descend so that the ability to analyze should return.

If only….

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Recognition


Awards and their value in modern times! Being up close and personal in this knowledge is disconcerting. Since many years, there are organizations writing to people of some merit, asking them if they would like an award and requesting for contributions or “donations” to a cause. I guess they capitalize on the publicity opportunities that excite the awardees who want the limelight. Human, I guess but….,

How many awards are genuine? Richly deserved? Not only awards, even artists often pay for their concerts. Obviously then, every such organized activity is purely commercial, with less bearing on caliber than ever before.

And if you have a string of awards along with your name, people are impressed, not knowing the merit orientation of these awards. Undeserved awards raise expectations of the masses but do not necessarily result in an elevation of the caliber and hence, credibility.

It is very sad that sometimes, not always, there is such a huge gap between receiving an award and deserving it. Sadly, it depends on who you know in the business. It should not be so wherever it is so. Today, press and media are equally in this business.  

Genuine talents remain without recognition. But I also know some very talented stalwarts in their fields who have declined awards merely on the grounds of a certain meaninglessness that has set in the very system of recognizing talent; Unfortunate in a land of so much talent but appreciation for mediocrity merely for commercial gains.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destination


Any pursuit leads to its destination . Anything prayed for with intensity happens. But, there is a proviso. There should be no doubt. There should be consistency and relentless pursuit until it is achieved. No deviation either. Getting off track spells lack of success until you get back on track once again . It will now possibly take you longer because you lost focus.

For those non achievers who felt disappointed , they probably did not put their heart and soul into an activity with one hundred percent positivity and certainty. Even one percent doubt could distance you from reaching your destination. The trouble is, we are unable to sense minute misgivings. Even those should not crop up.

Actually, there is a difference in “doing” and ” being done through you”. The first is ego driven. “I” am doing it. The second is what the Universe channels through you. When and if we reach the latter state, there won’t be a feeling named “doubt”. Because the doer and the action are one, not separate.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Why do we go into sometimes uncalled for and sometimes unnatural behavioral patterns? Especially with certain people? And you tell yourself that you don’t know where these patterns came from. But they have to have come from somewhere.

I find that old memories are the most common triggers.

Your old negative experiences about these people create an adverse reaction and even if you see them after a long time, you still assume that those old habits of that person would still be existing as you had experienced before and been thoroughly disenchanted with at the time.

Assumptions can be very real and dangerous at times. Because you haven’t given another chance and may be completely wrong and start something like a chain of causes and effects you never should have. Or never dreamt you would.

It is therefore, a good idea to forgive and erase those memories.

You would be human to ask, how many chances should one take and be given in any particular case of being burnt with past experiences. The reply lies with you and how intelligently you can handle the same people again, this time without labeling them black and by giving them and yourself another chance at creating a new equation.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The worst thing is when something happens to you and you don’t know why it is happening. Like an ailment or a behavioral pattern from someone which you consider unnecessary or surprised by because there is no apparent cause. We often agonize over these things.

If it concerns our wellbeing, sure, it is important to learn why. But it is also wise to understand what constitutes our well being and then let go of those things which we have understood as our well being but we are not really dependent on for our well being.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The focal point of our life is the heart. Cleansing the blood and sending it to all the body parts. The seat of love, compassion, empathy, kindness and the seat of emotion, the bridge between our existence on earth and the anchor to the Divine.

To keep the heart light, protected and safe is the (he) Art of living.

As we take the gifts of kindness and love and need to reciprocate, so do we have to return back to the people their gifts of negativity that they give us. But we don’t do that. We accept them and the heart becomes hurt.

It is so simple that the choice of what to ACCEPT is ours. If we don’t accept the gifts of anger, hatred, resentment, rudeness etc, where do they go ? Obvious, they will stay with the same person. Well, please give it back. Your heart is not worth hurting for anything in the world. Is it? Do we deliberately let a bee sting us? But we do let people sting us where it hurts any reason to allow this?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Everything & Nothing


No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgment.

Give others the privilege to explain themselves.

What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first?

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

Those who take out time to chat with you, does not mean they are jobless or less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch.

One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had.

Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile; the heart is touched by strong words and you will say: ‘IT WAS WITH THEM, THAT I HAD SOME OF THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE’.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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