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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in . But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly , when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt ? Who wants to retaliate ? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger , resentment, fear or hatred, isn’t it ? 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Formula


“To kill with kindness” is a wonderful formula. And deeply spiritual one. “Killing” metaphorically.

The thought can bring a smile to your face but it is not easy in reality. We are so accustomed to reacting in the manner of “an eye for eye” that to remember to be kind to a “least deserving person” (in our perspective) is out of question.

To sustain kindness no matter what is not impossible if we continue to be who we are

You must have noticed that to return cruelty with kindness repeatedly is painful for the other person…in fact, unbearable. The only way to bring a positive change in another is not to exchange the good for the not-so-good.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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How do we live through struggle periods? Because there is no one who doesn’t have such phases. In fact, as they say, it always pours, never rains. There is a tendency to get washed away in the sea of emotional and mental negativity. It takes all the courage to keep calm and often, even that is not enough. Believe me, only an indomitable spirit works! … an actual “zid”, a stubbornness to see this phase through as a challenge and at any cost. And surprisingly, such an attitude makes the task so much easier and less painful. I am sure many of you have been there and experienced what I am saying. It is a victory situation every time. So, stay positive and watch events from the outside. Stay blessed.

Surekha Kothari

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I received a very profound post which said that whatever comes our way won’t go away until we have learnt our lessons. I cannot even begin to endorse the truth of this statement. Whatever comes our way has been called for or invited by us, mainly by resisting the flow of life. We don’t give life a chance to happen. We are so full of ego that we want to make life happen and that too, OUR way. And the way we do this is by inflating ourselves to a level close to bursting. It’s so amazing, the absurdity of thinking we can get away with anything! Or that it is okay once in a while to look after our self interest at the cost of another. That it is acceptable to defy the spiritual teachings, make deliberate mistakes and run to a temple to cleanse periodically…. so that we can sin some more???
So be it! We then have to be prepared for trying situations sitting at our doorstep waiting for our learning before going to the next door.

Surekha Kothari

http://www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Each one of us has a unique view of life with, maybe, a few similarities now and then. And all this is depicted against the constant and steady Divine Energy which provides the screen for the film of our lives. Imagine what the scenario would be if we went to see a movie and both the film and the screen were moving! There is a perfect order behind the imperfection in the world of dualities. And our uniqueness lies in the craft of living that we demonstrate in our role play….as daughters and sons, as siblings, parents etc., but most definitely as potential players within the larger canvas of our intrinsic core as souls belonging to a much higher frequency than we care to understand.

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On flight this morning, i was reading an interview by the actor Irfan Khan. He speaks admiringly of the Hollywood punctuality . He says if shooting is slated to begin at 7 am, it begins at 7 am. And if one person is late, hundreds of messages are sent to those involved in the shoot, I imagine, because their time is as important as anyone else”s. And now let us look at our own attitudes ! Is RSVP important if you have been given the courtesy of being invited to a dinner or an event ? No, sirree..how can I tell you from now if I feel like coming or not ? Maybe, there will be a better event coming along ! Or maybe, a more important “contact” may invite me. Or, maybe, i can be on Page 3 if I go to THAT particular event…the list could be endless ! Here, the host and hostess invite first and then make the calls asking if the invited guest is gracing the occasion. Not to mention the amounts of delicacies being prepared !

I am known for plain speak but I speak the sentiments of many who don’t voice this in so many words. I mean, where is all this coming from ? Are we the same Indians, to whom consideration and respect for relationships was second nature ? Have we become so insensetive to others ? Or rather, sensetive to only ourselves ? For, we have developed this major attitude of dishing out but not being able to accept it.

Once, much to my amusement, I got thrown out of a “who is who” list of musicians because I was just unable to attend the musical evening at this couple’s place twice in a row and for very genuine reasons. It can happen to the best of us and we should understand this without taking it personally. But I was told very righteously that they don’t give so many chances to anyone. I am still languishing !

No. Really. Jokes apart, why such massive egos and complexes, guys ? A few years on this earth and the illusion that we are here forever !

Be considerate, sensitive and kind. . Just love and be loved. Care and be cared for. Connect and be connected…it is so simple.

Surekha Kothari

http://www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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What is loss? I might feel a sense of loss when my children leave my home. I miss them. I am attached. I might even cry at times. To what end? To what solution is not inevitability?

There is a worse loss… of losing someone “permanently”. The grief is unbearable because there is so much fear of loss built in into attachment…”I” and “mine” converts into a sense of loss immediately. My parents! My children! My family!

It is very hard to be completely detached …even impossible! There has to be a reason to shift from this status and incur less suffering…or maybe, this IS a part of the ordained karmic suffering.

But nevertheless, we have to keep reminding ourselves that everything has to pass, sooner or later. The toughest realization to internalize! The self image of being “ordinary” keeps us entangled within this cycle of attachment and rebirth.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

National Committee Chairperson, All Ladies League ( www.aall.in )

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