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Promises


“I really wanted to do it but could not”. ” I wanted to actually say something else but I ended up….”.” I am going to do this tomorrow even if I have to create a 25th hour.”…

Promises! Promises! To myself or others or both….but no action…constant procrastination shows an undefined, undecided mind. Maybe, a lazy mind with very little positive energy. Someone who is carrying a huge weight on them. Or, a diffident mind.

Sometimes, I think the journey is so darned complicated! Such different mindsets! So much emotion! So much distrust…Lack of courage…among those “lucky” people who have much to thank the Universe for.

And on the other side, friendly and smiling faces of those who are “deprived” of faculties, limbs but filled with divine energy and divine spirit…fearless and indomitable.

I learnt a new lesson today. A renewed awareness of these aspects of learning and the fact that it is so important to resume living life after every rest we take.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Vital knowledge


To have and to hold! This capsule has five words but meaning on many levels. To have what? A soul, a life, a mind, an intellect, a free will, relationships, education, feelings, values, ego, attachments, hatreds, fears….many , many more. We as humans, fashioned in the image of God, have everything that God has.

But…

To hold is another story. What do we hold onto? Or do we hold onto anything? What is the ultimate realization?

Do we vibrate on the same level and connect with HIM? It is indeed difficult to have around us, everything that we don’t need and must not want. And then we have to actually know this, separate the two and make choices. Sounds complicated, right? And that’s why “to hold” becomes a journey of trials and errors. First, to understand what we have, what is of value in our lives from what we have, and to explore the hidden aspects of what we have to understand their meaning in our lives.

Next, to realize which items from what we have must be held on to. Holding on can be very illusory at times. Like, when you spot a monkey and a baby monkey clutching on to each other ( or so it appears), can you tell whether it is the baby clutching on or the mother ?

In life, we also feel that people hold on to us, places and events draw us..but the fact is, it is we who hold on to these things because of our fears, insecurities and a lack of awareness of our own spirituality, of who we actually are and where we come from and go to.

Once we have this vital knowledge, we can easily go onto making the right choices. It is only the right knowledge and enlightened knowledge that will bring maturity and growth, which, in turn will make “to have and to hold” a meaningful reality.

For this, how many souls are ready to work, is the moot question.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I am unable to visualize someone who is consumed by hatred. It shakes me up. It is not an intrinsic quality of the soul. I think we all know that.

We could link hatred with karma. We could also link it to a thorough discomfort of being in your own skin which results in comparisons..and we invariably find a lack within. There could be a possibility of extreme jealousy, of feeling small and worthless in comparison with “better” people. More successful people. More passionate and driven people. More popular people.

But the lengths humans can go to, to appease themselves and calm their hatred inspired rage and vendetta can be very unsettling and disturbing.

It would be far too simplistic to say that everything in life should be “hunky dory” and harmonious all the time. If that were the case, we would be a group of saints on the earth.

We are here definitely to experience the positivity’s and negativities, the pluses and minuses of life. And learn from them. But nothing is worth causing self destruction through the kind of negativity that can be created by hatred. It is the fire that burns and destroys like nothing else does.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in . But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly , when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt ? Who wants to retaliate ? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger , resentment, fear or hatred, isn’t it ? 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Formula


“To kill with kindness” is a wonderful formula. And deeply spiritual one. “Killing” metaphorically.

The thought can bring a smile to your face but it is not easy in reality. We are so accustomed to reacting in the manner of “an eye for eye” that to remember to be kind to a “least deserving person” (in our perspective) is out of question.

To sustain kindness no matter what is not impossible if we continue to be who we are

You must have noticed that to return cruelty with kindness repeatedly is painful for the other person…in fact, unbearable. The only way to bring a positive change in another is not to exchange the good for the not-so-good.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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How do we live through struggle periods? Because there is no one who doesn’t have such phases. In fact, as they say, it always pours, never rains. There is a tendency to get washed away in the sea of emotional and mental negativity. It takes all the courage to keep calm and often, even that is not enough. Believe me, only an indomitable spirit works! … an actual “zid”, a stubbornness to see this phase through as a challenge and at any cost. And surprisingly, such an attitude makes the task so much easier and less painful. I am sure many of you have been there and experienced what I am saying. It is a victory situation every time. So, stay positive and watch events from the outside. Stay blessed.

Surekha Kothari

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I received a very profound post which said that whatever comes our way won’t go away until we have learnt our lessons. I cannot even begin to endorse the truth of this statement. Whatever comes our way has been called for or invited by us, mainly by resisting the flow of life. We don’t give life a chance to happen. We are so full of ego that we want to make life happen and that too, OUR way. And the way we do this is by inflating ourselves to a level close to bursting. It’s so amazing, the absurdity of thinking we can get away with anything! Or that it is okay once in a while to look after our self interest at the cost of another. That it is acceptable to defy the spiritual teachings, make deliberate mistakes and run to a temple to cleanse periodically…. so that we can sin some more???
So be it! We then have to be prepared for trying situations sitting at our doorstep waiting for our learning before going to the next door.

Surekha Kothari

http://www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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