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The healing properties that we have within us are a reality. There are so many ways to cure one’s bodily ailments if we can cure our mental ailments. You know, the latter is the place where it starts happening….

Diseases or “dis ease”s are merely the discomfort that arises from leading a life of unawareness and ignorance. From these emerge all our wrong patterns of thinking and living. And these, in turn, affect our health.

I notice that when people have bonded, laughed and even cried together, there is much joy in the heart, the joy of sharing and caring. The reverse can be painful. The environment, the people, the circumstances are all a part of our karmic experiences and how we respond determines our levels of ignorance and awareness.

Just taking our awareness to those parts of us which are hurting and understanding the reasons for the hurt can heal them. Most important, accepting responsibility for everything that happens to us.

Requires basic knowledge and understanding and we can be on our way to healing ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Constant habit


When we are depressed and angry with the world, we tend to go from bad to worse in our mental condition. Anger only dissipates your energy up to a level where you lose your ability to think straight, let alone heal yourself. And in this mode, you tend to become your own worst enemy.

This situation requires the ability to analyze the core issue of the anger because, as I have experienced it, anger is always self directed…for what could have happened but didn’t, for the wrong choices made, for lost opportunities, for a lack of love, for loneliness, for feeling rejection, depression…and more.

It is not easy to turn inwards. The mind only wants to blame and blame everyone and everything but the self.

And then, we seek recourse to prayer. Even after, we often wait for a change to HAPPEN rather than MAKE it happen. We need help.

A wonderful way to overcome this mode : just ask yourself..

Why am I angry?

Who am I angry with?

Why am I angry with that person or situation?

Did I contribute to it in any way?

Answer all these questions truthfully to yourself and you will find that most of the time, you failed to look within to find the actual issue. That you had the power to understand and let go but you held on.

Making a constant habit of this kind of clinical analysis can help you in cultivating a calm persona.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Intelligence


I watch people and their priorities, their values and now, after I.Q. and E.Q., have coined a new one…S.I.Q., the Sensitive Intelligence Quotient. To be intelligent is great. But to disregard the feelings of others and show your intelligence may not be a great asset.

I recently came upon such a case of two friends. One, being emotional, fell out with a common acquaintance. The other, not understanding why, continued not only to support that person but openly flaunted her liking. This is bound to have a very logically emotional outcome, that of the distancing of the two friends.

Could the second friend have used the S.I.Q here? I definitely think so. She could have supported the third person quietly and understanding the emotions of her friend and respecting them.

I find that in life, we lack this sensitivity towards even close people. Does it show a lack of love? Or a very active ego that does not see beyond? Is it judging others? ….

I feel sad to see that where there could have been love, closeness, being there for each other, one person’s thoughtlessness can strain a relationship, sometimes, even to a point of “no return”. Each of us needs to examine whether we have done this at one time or another. And correct ourselves in the interest of a long term relationship. And for the sake of the love shared earlier. Nothing is worth giving up close relationships for like parents, siblings, and friends.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Right from the time of birth, we are changing constantly. As children, we listen to parents. When we become a little older, going to school is the first big adjustment. Freedom comes along. Exposure comes along. And with every influence, within the family first and later, the outside influence, changes a human being constantly. There are paradigm shifts in belief systems, styles of living etc.

A fusion of many types of cultures, thinking patterns sometimes confuse, sometimes help in clearing the mind.

In this process, some become better and evolved while some become bitter and disillusioned with life.

Belief systems, unless we have an open mind, tend to make for a certain rigidity which can become our worst enemy, like stagnant water which breeds diseases. Rigid belief systems are often like a disease. They block out the light of each new day.

The catch word is “change”, whether the ability or the inability to do so. On this depends the transformation into betterment or bitterness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Personifying


The things we do may perhaps be similar to others but the WAY we do them are different. An often repeated truth…that winners don’t necessarily do different things but might do the same thing differently.

Have you noticed how creative people do mundane chores as if they are enjoying them day after day after day? The onlooker sees these as boring, mechanical and depressing. But an enriched mind survives well, digging up many ways to keep the interest alive.

“ROUTINE” is the word for people who cannot find new routes and get stuck along the way. And when they add “mundane” to “routine”, then they have truly lost their interest and therefore, their creativity.

I find walking on round tracks not so easy because you end up nowhere except in circles. But now, I reverse the circle, change my breathing pattern, speed, the shloka I might be chanting for the round, the trend of thought….or maybe, just become still in mind…thoughtless.

I find this is a great technique to live with myself, too. The inputs come from different aspects of me but I have a lot of fun personifying all these different ideas as many people within me giving me new ideas and walking in that circle with me.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Compulsions


How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils. To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually want at that point.

There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.

But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are comfortable there.

I have realized this fact. And each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the bargain.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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