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The human mind can be really fickle if we don’t watch out! Its likes and dislikes oscillate much more than the changing seasons. Maybe, in current times, the seasons are also becoming as unpredictable as people.

We must really ask ourselves why we are so lacking in consistency and why should our will prevail each time? This seems to be a huge reason for our inconsistency. “I”…”Mine”…Yes sir! We salute you. It is and has to be only you and you… amazing! And this would also be fine if there were no frequent variations in what came out of that “I” and “mine”. But the inconsistencies within short term consistencies which I am calling “fickle” here seem to be endless.

Especially when in a group. Group behavior, if you notice, is a typical example. A few days back, I wrote about insecurities. Frequently changing parameters of emotions are directly linked to the very same insecurities.

Often, we misinterpret, and sometimes, wantonly misinterpret the words or acts of people we are not too fond of or are even envious of. Where is the core issue? Of course, within us. We actually don’t have the courage to be ourselves and fall short in our own eyes.

So, fickleness leads to oscillations, and this soon becomes a chain. Like riding a bike downhill without a break. We don’t know how and where we are going to end up. Because the bike is driven by “I” and “mine” whereas the consistency is due to the ability to control the brakes .These are the “we” which we fail to activate.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Rejoices


“I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t notice the obvious.

Then I found that it’s not their eyesight, but their prejudices, that clouds their vision.”

Thank you, Pankaj, for this insightful post. You hit the nail on the head. Prejudices blind us to everything good within us and outside us. Blinding prejudices. Hate inspiring prejudices. Arrogant prejudices. Obsessive prejudices.

They dehumanize people and make them forget who they are. God decided to make this fantastic specimen, the human being, and then played mischief. He gave him an ego as a huge obstacle which would actually make the human feel good on the surface, so much so that it would ultimately camouflage the real pitfalls.

On the other hand, the soul which humans are meant to seek was embedded within each human but man would seek only what he can see outside of him with his eyes. The inner eye was disabled by the ego.

…and so, man is overpowered and misled constantly by his own sense of self importance and a lack of cognizance and understanding of his inner world. He revels in artificial light and rejoices in the myth that it is real light.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life does not give prior warnings. There are no re tests. There is no fast forward or rewind. We just have to make sense of what works for us with a bit of trial and error. But that is the fun of life as well…an adventure into the unknown…

It can also be a source of stress if not treated as an adventure. But come on… what is there to lose ultimately? Only what WE hold on to, right? If we just dropped things that we carried, it would be great. And we would experience freedom.

I have found that things I was so stuck on for a long time were actually trivial, though, as per current perceptions. But that’s fine. This is what moving on means.

I believe that so much is changing in the external environment today because somewhere, humans are beginning to raise their vibrations. They have been creatures of low energy so far, their energies constantly being depleted and sacrificed to petty thoughts….not adhering to the universal principles or the spiritual ways of living. We have paid a heavy price. No more.

There is a new phase opening up. A better and hopefully, higher way of life. If you notice, several spiritual groups are meditating for world peace all over the world. The good news is, youngsters are joining in. The kids being born today are reflecting the phenomenon of the elevating vibrations of young parents. These kids are incredible.

We are gradually and surely moving into a new world where there is a sense of excitement, a hope and a proactive projection into the future. Where nothing less than merit, ethics and honesty shall prevail.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we make attempts with another human being to let bygones be bygones but receive no reply from there, what does it mean? And I am not referring to crimes, just small, ego driven differences..

Growing up, I was always taught that whatever the business with another person, it is never over until it is over: forgiveness from both sides.

I feel differently now. During your journey, it is only you who can work on yourself. Only you can forgive and forget, and become immune and neutral for your own sake. Of course, if both people can understand and forgive, nothing like it! But, you are not responsible for anyone’s growth but your own. Cleansing your own energies is your priority. Your choices and freedom of will are confined only to you. You cannot bring any change in anyone else unless they do so out of their own free will.

So many belief systems…so many wrong patterns of thinking! And we don’t learn any better. We wait for the other person to change….just a case of our ignorant ego that doesn’t allow sense to dawn.

So, there is just one, simple mantra if you have tried but not succeeded in building the bridge: LET GO….from thoughts because thoughts form memories and we store memories instead of letting go.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The healing properties that we have within us are a reality. There are so many ways to cure one’s bodily ailments if we can cure our mental ailments. You know, the latter is the place where it starts happening….

Diseases or “dis ease”s are merely the discomfort that arises from leading a life of unawareness and ignorance. From these emerge all our wrong patterns of thinking and living. And these, in turn, affect our health.

I notice that when people have bonded, laughed and even cried together, there is much joy in the heart, the joy of sharing and caring. The reverse can be painful. The environment, the people, the circumstances are all a part of our karmic experiences and how we respond determines our levels of ignorance and awareness.

Just taking our awareness to those parts of us which are hurting and understanding the reasons for the hurt can heal them. Most important, accepting responsibility for everything that happens to us.

Requires basic knowledge and understanding and we can be on our way to healing ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Constant habit


When we are depressed and angry with the world, we tend to go from bad to worse in our mental condition. Anger only dissipates your energy up to a level where you lose your ability to think straight, let alone heal yourself. And in this mode, you tend to become your own worst enemy.

This situation requires the ability to analyze the core issue of the anger because, as I have experienced it, anger is always self directed…for what could have happened but didn’t, for the wrong choices made, for lost opportunities, for a lack of love, for loneliness, for feeling rejection, depression…and more.

It is not easy to turn inwards. The mind only wants to blame and blame everyone and everything but the self.

And then, we seek recourse to prayer. Even after, we often wait for a change to HAPPEN rather than MAKE it happen. We need help.

A wonderful way to overcome this mode : just ask yourself..

Why am I angry?

Who am I angry with?

Why am I angry with that person or situation?

Did I contribute to it in any way?

Answer all these questions truthfully to yourself and you will find that most of the time, you failed to look within to find the actual issue. That you had the power to understand and let go but you held on.

Making a constant habit of this kind of clinical analysis can help you in cultivating a calm persona.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Intelligence


I watch people and their priorities, their values and now, after I.Q. and E.Q., have coined a new one…S.I.Q., the Sensitive Intelligence Quotient. To be intelligent is great. But to disregard the feelings of others and show your intelligence may not be a great asset.

I recently came upon such a case of two friends. One, being emotional, fell out with a common acquaintance. The other, not understanding why, continued not only to support that person but openly flaunted her liking. This is bound to have a very logically emotional outcome, that of the distancing of the two friends.

Could the second friend have used the S.I.Q here? I definitely think so. She could have supported the third person quietly and understanding the emotions of her friend and respecting them.

I find that in life, we lack this sensitivity towards even close people. Does it show a lack of love? Or a very active ego that does not see beyond? Is it judging others? ….

I feel sad to see that where there could have been love, closeness, being there for each other, one person’s thoughtlessness can strain a relationship, sometimes, even to a point of “no return”. Each of us needs to examine whether we have done this at one time or another. And correct ourselves in the interest of a long term relationship. And for the sake of the love shared earlier. Nothing is worth giving up close relationships for like parents, siblings, and friends.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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