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Personifying


The things we do may perhaps be similar to others but the WAY we do them are different. An often repeated truth…that winners don’t necessarily do different things but might do the same thing differently.

Have you noticed how creative people do mundane chores as if they are enjoying them day after day after day? The onlooker sees these as boring, mechanical and depressing. But an enriched mind survives well, digging up many ways to keep the interest alive.

“ROUTINE” is the word for people who cannot find new routes and get stuck along the way. And when they add “mundane” to “routine”, then they have truly lost their interest and therefore, their creativity.

I find walking on round tracks not so easy because you end up nowhere except in circles. But now, I reverse the circle, change my breathing pattern, speed, the shloka I might be chanting for the round, the trend of thought….or maybe, just become still in mind…thoughtless.

I find this is a great technique to live with myself, too. The inputs come from different aspects of me but I have a lot of fun personifying all these different ideas as many people within me giving me new ideas and walking in that circle with me.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Compulsions


How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils. To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually want at that point.

There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.

But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are comfortable there.

I have realized this fact. And each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the bargain.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Perfect


No one is perfect. All that we can do is try to work towards getting better by the minute. It is not about how much we hurt. It is about how much we can heal that hurt…and better still, how we can avoid getting hurt. With the right understanding.

The more we identify with our body, our thoughts, emotions, the less we are aware that we are far beyond these.

So, it is first about knowing who we are not. Where is the hurt registering? Who is feeling that hurt? Why the hurt at all? We don’t dwell on these important questions. If we did, we would come to some understanding about ourselves. The confusions in our lives are very much connected here.

The basic fact is that we get involved in the emotions of the characters we play in the drama of life. And we forget that we are only playing a character. We take everyone and everything too seriously, getting caught in the illusory web of permanence.

Do we know that there is a little watchman within us called “Drashta” that watches every thought, every emotion, every action and reaction. And this drashta wants us to become an observer with it, to help understand all of these matters of our spiritual reality. A reality which can’t be perceived while we are in it, with all the burden of baggage that we carry.

Let us be free from all that. Let us not worry about being perfect. Let us just try to be better humans and better spirits. The rest will follow…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Recognize


Confidence! Dressing well and grooming is the first and most obvious point that comes to mind. When you are looking nice, you feel good and feel you can take on the world.

But not so for all…in a group, you do see people looking nice but very uncomfortable nonetheless. They are withdrawn and happier when people don’t address them. I knew someone who was a pro at confidence, thanks to a book by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He was popular and could charm a bird off a tree.

Having said that, is being able to influence people everything?

On the flip side, there are people who read “what do you say after Hello”, too……

Confidence at a deeper level is the result of a deep spiritual bent of mind, pure thought and unconditional love. When you don’t recognize “loss” at all. Everything is a bonus.

When you reach this state of being, your confidence is complete and your core strengthened by the day.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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“I can’t see” or ” I can’t breathe” said often are not to be taken lightly. There are those who actually cannot breathe in life and are steeped in depression and have many energy blocks.

Similarly, those who complain of not being able to see are like those who are drowning in the sea of life. Critical conditions may be close.

The stereotypes must be attended to. There can also be a lack of self love here leading to various mental and emotional aberrations. And not everyone has the awareness or the wisdom to know they should seek help. Their families sometimes have even less awareness and, in ignorance, do generate more harm.

So, when you see these tendencies in people around you, please get wise and seek help for them.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Conflict! Such an oft used word but not examined properly. While creating conflict may be the goal once in a while, it is very often the result of thoughtless action emanating out of an imbalance of emotions originating from a colored thought.

Conflict can be deliberate. But we suffer more from our egos which dominate over our thoughts and this is what leads to improper and even unjustified action. Obviously, the result then would be conflict.

It is as simple as keeping things simple and honest. Covert actions and opacity are definite possibilities of conflict generation because they arouse suspicion and eliminate trust.

As we see nationally today, so, we also mirror within us. If the desire for conflict were to be eliminated from within each one of us, would there be conflict outside?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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