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Someone asked me a question on my blog “How do we learn our lessons?” A very good question, because we don’t often know what we need to learn, where to start.

Basically, we can learn either from other people’s mistakes or from our own. But again, what to learn either ways?

Sage Patanjali advocates the understanding of five human afflictions to start off the process of the right knowledge to apply to our learning.

  1. Avidya (ignorance). To obtain knowledge of our soul, our purpose, what hinders growth? This requires a realistic introspection. Avidya is believing we know when we don’t at all, or partially. About anything. We all know that when we think we know, there is always more to know.

  2. Asmita (ego, the “I” identity) which colors our mind and intellect, and hence, our understanding because it dominates, colors our perceptions and hence, creates an imbalance in the mind.

  3. Raga (attachment). It creates dualities of “mine” and “yours”, conflicting with the universal law of connectivity and of a universal consciousness.

  4. Dvesh (hatred). The opposite of attachment is shunning due to hatred, dislike. Also an imbalance because it has no place in the evolution of man.

  5. Abhinivesha (fear of death). This happens due to all the four mentioned above. We are attached to our physical bodies and to those of others. We are attached to our egos which is misleading us from the truth. The positives and negatives create an illusion of loss and gain, and we hold on to the world and our physical, emotional and mental reality as we know it. Actually, we need to let go and flow smoothly.

So, we must start working on our own cleansing of coloration through conditioning and imbibing wrong knowledge along the way. And then, with a new awareness, we will understand what we could have done better earlier and what we can do in the present and future for our journey and our evolution.

 

 

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We don’t really realize what happens when we violate a universal law. The repercussions have long and far reaching effects. There is a snowball effect for everything. And once the consequences begin to spiral outwards, they complete their circle of movement. And to experience the consequences is inevitable.

Humans are naive enough to believe that if they disobey the universal laws surreptitiously, deviously and silently, they can get away with it. Think again! Like the proverbial fly on the wall, the Universe watches. Every second! But we do many things in ignorance and out of the preview of the parameters of wisdom…this has to change first.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Depression should not be allowed to step close to us. It has many, many repercussions. If you examine the reasons, one of the foremost ones would be the pain of unfulfilled expectations, especially of unrequited love.

As we know, no man is an island. But in developing relationships, there comes a tipping point which turns the relationship into one of dependency, into a need of a crutch. Automatically then, this is the start of the end of the relationship. Healthy bonds work differently. They can work on mutual dependency better than one stronger and one weaker link.

There is every need to strengthen our backbone to stand upright, even if to walk alone. Inner strength compensates for the presence or perception of many lacks. And it would be within the preview of wisdom to be aware that we journey alone from life to life. So, holding onto to any form of crutch is going to be nothing short of meaningless. Then why the depression?

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I met someone recently after a long time and was really delighted to see some profound changes. Though we had not been more than good acquaintances, the transformation was glaring, even for me.

And I once again started thinking about why we find it in our hearts to have such fixed opinions about people. It is almost as if we write them down in stone and swear not to change them. Either we are blind to people we love or unforgiving of those we are prejudiced towards.

We don’t realize that change is a constant for anyone and everyone. We know that the same person reacts to different people in different ways. We see various aspects of the same person. That is because of these very fixed notions about people in their heads that prevent a different perspective, another vision.

Often, those who have not been close are suddenly observed to be very close. How does it happen?

If the motive is not of wanting something from a person, then it is because the change has been seen and forgiveness has set in.

Let this become a norm and genuine integration of souls can happen. I am told by many that I am idealistic. But idealism of today was realism at one time and can be again.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speaking tree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Socialize


Why people do certain things! Do we understand why people do what they do? Take for instance, card games like rummy and bridge. Although they fulfill a similar purpose, one is a “white collar” game and other is not looked upon as one. No guesses here for which one!

 I see card rooms at clubs filled with people, especially the retired and older generation, who love to socialize over a card game. And I also see other club goers who turn up their noses at such groups. The only prejudice for this aversion seems to be that of playing with money. But gambling is another story…it can be indulged in different ways.

I see the other, lonely side of these people who are cut off from work and often, from their families as well. Time hangs and there is much loneliness which gives rise to depression and ennui towards the world in general. This can be a potentially dangerous situation.

There is a need for the older generation to keep their brains working and interest in life alive irrespective of whether it is playing cards, browsing the internet or anything else.

In fact, this may become true for all of us as we age. Card games keep the memory ticking, some social activity alive and enable these people to come out of whatever burdens they carry.

It is very sad to see people who lose their mobility and their youth, languishing for a lack of support. Indoor games are very good for them. In fact, many are now opting to be in special homes where they can be looked after and be with their own kind, rather than become isolated within their families.

So, there is always a larger perspective we fail to see in our conditional minds. What we criticize today may be a great pastime for us tomorrow. The idea is to stay well, with our mental, emotional and physical aspects intact and healthy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Some days are like a light, happy breeze blowing …everything just flows without effort. Kind of raises our expectations for the future…when suddenly, you wake up to events not really to your liking and the stress begins. And with that, we start to magnify the small issues on that particular day. For some, the stress and the bad mood can persist beyond just one day, too.

In Hindi, there is a saying “sab din hote na ek samaan”. How true! All the days in our life cannot be the same. And that’s exactly why we are told all the time that we can only change our responses to events. 

I am not saying we should be like saints, though enlightenment can and should be the ultimate goal. We have to really work at it, gradually and with focus.

But on a daily basis, we do have to come back to the merit of accepting what confronts us before looking at what can be done about it
or whether ANYTHING can be done at all. There is always a sense of wisdom in letting sleeping dogs lay sometimes but not always. That is perhaps the key to improving our days.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Karma


Karma simplified! The easiest way to define karma is “what goes around comes around”. But is it so easy? That is only a part of it. Let us be aware of the collective nature of karma besides individual ones.

The popular saying, “a father’s sins come onto the children” is not meant lightly. One person’s actions can involve many people around them. Like the AGHORA book on karma talks about an example of racing where so many people’s karma is joined together…the jockey, the bookie, the people who bet etc.

Can you imagine the level of awareness and wisdom one has to develop to experience the old karma while refraining from performing new harmful ones?

We often feel so much intensity of emotion that actions are rooted in feelings, sometimes imbalanced ones.

Let us examine our thoughts very minutely to control karmic fallouts in our current lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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