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There will always be this issue of acceptance from and by people. We must necessarily be controlled and circumspect, though we might be pining to be free like a bird and do exactly as we please.

The need of being accepted stems from the human angle only, because of dependency on each other, as the famous saying goes: no man is an island. So, we follow rules. Allow our hearts to sing but keep a befitting exterior. Allow our anger to kill someone in our thoughts but smile and shake hands. Have several issues within but on being asked if we are okay, pat comes the reply,” no problem”.

In a way, we are all split personalities, always living more than one role, within and without. And even those change into multiple roles depending on situations.

Surekha Kothari

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Sometimes, one should sit down and face the various facets of oneself. You will at first, not be able to pinpoint very many and will draw a blank. But as you keep at it, you will be surprised at what you can find out about yourself. That is if we can accept each one of them and embrace them as a part of us. Yes, embrace them after acknowledging them. Because shunning them would mean shunning we and we wouldn’t want to do that. If you shun these, you will find a mirror effect in people. They will shun you. That’s the way life works. So, accept yourself and be accepted by others.

Surekha Kothari

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Mind and happiness


To wash away the impact of karma, one must necessarily dwell on the plausible reasons for the state of the mind. We don’t realize that we have many people inside us, not only our own energies from other lives but our memories of every age we have crossed in this life and many of them needing healing.

Healing is not such a complicated task if we can even just give rational thought to why things are the way they are. “Could be” has many vital possibilities that can relieve us a great deal when memories are relived and re scripted.

That we could have thought, spoken or acted differently is always a later realization. But we need not kill ourselves over such thoughts. Even if we had done things differently, who knows the final outcome?

It is therefore wise to lighten our burdens everyday and treat ourselves with kindness and compassion, because we can give genuine caring to ourselves and put our arms around ourselves instead of waiting for someone else to influence the condition of our mind and happiness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Knowledge


I don’t believe that anyone can really teach anyone anything as per their own convictions. Unless the mind is open. And the mind opens to listen to another if there is respect for the person teaching . However much the teacher tries, the response has still to come from within each individual.

Learning comes only when and from where it is supposed to come. Did we necessarily learn from the wisdom of our elders ? No. We were busy defying them at that point. Years later, when we arrived at the same point, we realised that our elders HAD told us this but we never listened.

This is the story of most people’s lives. If pure knowledge is sought, it really doesn’t matter if it comes from someone we consider our worst enemy. But we probably will shun anything that comes from that source because we perceive the “enemy”, not the “knowledge”. And thus, out of our prejudice , we tend to remain on the same level as before. We forgo that source of knowledge which was a god given opportunity that came with a test which we did not pass. And this becomes such a habit that we don’t think about it twice. It becomes a normal pattern. How much we stand to lose we cannot even imagine !

As it is said , don’t ask a sage what caste he belongs to. Just take the knowledge he has to impart. By implication, the rest is really none of your business. Is it ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The world is going haywire in search of happiness. Yes, the most elusive goal anyone can have. I am wondering now, is it a realistic goal ? We know that we live in a black and white world. A world therefore, of dualities. The most practical way to live then is to build up a strong coping mechanism for what life unfolds before us. The moral strength and courage to assimilate all experiences . And if this ends up in the feeling of happiness, that would be super and a definite bonus. Can only happiness be a goal then ? In our Puranik tales, we have seen even sages and kings getting angry . Who is considered ” happy” ? The tic, the famous, the educated, the lazy, the restless, the businessman, the home makers, movie stars , professionals, the married, the unmarried ????

In pursuit of happiness, we have to deal with day to day challenges and that is our reality. So, actually, ” don’t worry, be happy” seems to be a bit of a mindless saying. Are we actually forgetting to live in the quest for happiness ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Prime Importance


It is really important to know why we do certain things. Why we think in a certain way. Why we react in a particular manner. Is any of this coming under the justification category ? Or is it our lopsided view of the world, people or even ourselves ?

I find there are people who are out to attack you for simple , unintentional and caring ways. They need to look deep down within themselves to see exactly WHAT plagues them. There are conflict areas in everyone’s lives. But to know who to trust and even what to trust is of prime importance.

It is so much easier to preach than to practice. Because the awareness may be only externally oriented.

The ones that go in to their own dark corners will see light sooner than those who block their inner light but continue to work for external value. Of course, value there will be for the world to see. But inner growth ? That comes with inner virtues which are honed painstakingly and from within, ripping apart the thick layers on the mind that create a continuous cloud over the light. But it is for each one of us to realise that. Ironically, this doesn’t come through even “Satsang” . Feeling good momentarily is different from feeling good in the moment and in every moment. And that happens only when we become simple , pure and transparent like glass. Like channels through which God can work.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A Nomadic life


A nomadic life is such a free life in so many ways. They have little opportunity to get attached to places because they never stay long enough . And even the few days are spent mostly amidst nature. In tents. Yes, they seem to be a close knit community and therefore, attached to and protective of their own . Lifestyle diseases elude them at the best of times and worst of times. Happiness is not a special acquisition.

City bred folks have all kinds of issues. For sunlight , they have to specially go into the sunlight. For exercise to the gym. There is little informal meeting and more meeting friends with appointments. What happened to the word “spontaneity”? Not to mention the artifice that seems to set in , often as a part of the survival kit, among other pretensions.

Simple pleasures are simply not sought. Those days are gone when small town life also made frequent inroads into nature . And the five star culture has deprived people of the wonderful experience of living on farms and rustic life. Even farms have five star homes now.

Spoilt, aren’t we ? But more than that , we have lost out on the beauty of being one with nature. I guess, what you have never experienced, you don’t miss.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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