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Our generation, which was born around the freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from colonialism.

We were also taught to give more than take. We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we were.

Today, we are gradually beginning to realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion, thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.

It strikes a chord within my generation and sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier generation.

Surekha Kothari

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I wrote this based on my observation of close bonds being diluted due to non communication :

The uneasy silence of unspoken words .

The strain of meeting as if all is well. The restless soul that feels this pain ,

And suffers in helplessness.

Of being so close but, oh ! So distant !

The boundary stretched across ,

Irrevocably perhaps ?

When and how did this happen ?

Only God would know !

As awareness , lost in the darkness of life’s events

Not retrieved , as time knocked out what could have been. …

Talk to me, for I am no stranger..

Tell me how you feel..

Surprise me with your warmth ..

I know it lurks somewhere within ..

Just break the barrier..

It can’t be so hard !

The other beseeches you

But you keep your ego intact.

Futile ! Think a while !

For cruel is time

And fragile is life.

Atone, amend, salvage the bonds

For, death stands just beyond that door..

And regrets and guilt an inch away from that door.

So, build bridges.

Rebuild the burnt ones

Reconstruct the old, loving patterns.

Let your heart be peaceful and content.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We speak of wanting the freedom to make our own choices. Fair enough. And yet, when it comes to our random, often harmful thoughts, we don’t realise that we need to choose the better thoughts and let go of those that will not serve us. And in our hearts, we know this . But a restless mind receives hundreds of thoughts, many of which are useless ones. But we still receive them, and if we are aware, will turn them over in our minds first and examine their worth in our lives. And if not, then better to reject internalising them and send them back into the Universe. Because similar thoughts tend to coagulate into a huge mass of negativity. Whereas, good thoughts must be held on to tightly or they have a tendency to scatter into the atmosphere and disappear.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A certain transparency is very necessary and beneficial in a close relationship. Sharing the important aspects of each others’ lives can increase levels of understanding and compassion and further those bonds.

Why leave people to do guesswork of what lies beneath a certain pattern of behaviour ? Admittedly, we all have and have had issues to deal with. As children, as teenagers and as adults. And this continues from generation to generation with varying degrees and with different life stories. This generalisation itself should make us more compassionate and empathetic to each other. Even more so, when there are closer ties.

It is so simple that I can’t read all the pages of your book of life unless you share them. And only then will understanding deepen.

So, open communication . It makes life easier and very pleasant as well. As I keep repeating, none of us can live like islands. It would completely be against the universal laws of connectivity. So, why not build strong bridges to other souls ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For all the complexes we develop, the seed is somewhere in our childhood. The need for love , comfort, warmth must be met in childhood. Sometimes, even if it IS met, in case of more than one sibling, the tendency to compare leaves some children in a “lack” mode. It is a mere perception. There is only one set of parents turning their worlds upside down to make every child feel loved and at the same time, giving attention where required . And herein lies one problem. Perceptions and comparisons often start here. To give an example, a weaker child takes away for attention naturally. But other children perceive this as “ less” for them. As favouritism .

And when these siblings grow up, the stories of wrongly perceived changing priorities of parents end up in children having complexes of being less wanted than the others. That insecurity and certainly a lack of maturity comes in the way of the parent sibling relationship and children who are now adults, choose to move away or blame parents based solely on perceptions.

There is something to be said about a natural tendency of trust of children in their parents. When a child can confidently say, “ my parents would never play favourites”. Lucky are those parents whose children learn to recognise such qualities in parents and learn to love them and their siblings as well.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Forgiveness


Forgiveness is the highest form of kindness in the world, I think. The one who cannot forgive is worse off ultimately, from the one who seeks forgiveness. Imagine how much work people have to put in to genuinely forgive someone ! It is also incredible that you can , in fact, live with yourself without forgiving. How complicated you can become by knotting yourself up within mixed emotions.

As they say, only humans can make mistakes. Also, that you yourself have made many and more , and sometimes have been deliberately offensive, too. So, when you know this , you would also, at some point, arrive at the repentance mode which leads to forgiveness. And then , to unimagined relief and happiness.

Try it , at least with those who love you and admit to human error.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Hankering after what cannot be is just not wise. Everything has to come within the realm of possibilities first, in order to materialise. And anything CAN come within the realm of the possible , the condition being that there is some amount of realisation.

Sometimes, I think it can be as simple as realising the need for a warm shower. But there is a condition here again, that you feel dirty enough to have one. This feeling is what brings the shower within the realm of the possible.

Likewise, one will have to keep peace until there is a trigger , winds change and something different and desirable happens. Realisation doesn’t dawn in people at your time. Only at the right time for them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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