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In this country, it is no surprise that people are so divided. Their individual conditioning is not based on a common yardsticks. Every religion has a separate rules book and rituals. And although we may link all religions to one source, is it so simple?

The environment in a Christian home, a Hindu home and a Muslim home will always have different energies. Energies are so subtle that they can be felt even if one is not very sensitive. The thoughts, the way of speaking, actions, cultural orientation etc.

I speak of religion as a priority because our societies are formed around religions…religious sects and cults. All of these claim to teach tolerance, acceptance and love but strangely enough, they succeed in doing just the opposite. The evidence is staring at us each day. Groupism on belief systems taught and practiced because of having a common teacher or Guru is seen everywhere. Nothing wrong so far. You have to draw inspiration from some elevated platform.

The problem arises when each group thinks they are the best and they are right in their beliefs. Therefore, by default, the others may not be so right. How can they be when there is only one type of “right” per group? According to them, of course. This attitude magnifies the differences and so, similarities recede into the background when actually, these are the ones that bind people together.

We need knowledge beyond the “taught” knowledge and that can only come through personal practice and experience by exposure to all kinds of people and their ways of thinking and doing things. And by putting in work on yourself consistently. No guru or teacher can experience anything on your behalf. They can guide you in the right direction though.

Surekha Kothari

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Challenges


I always say expectations, like comparisons, can turn out to be odious. But my experience has shown that presumptions are a shade worse because they anticipate an experience that may or may not happen.

So, what happens here? Suppose there is something I need to do. That action will definitely have a consequence like all actions do. But, because I might be having several mindsets or belief systems, I start to imagine the consequences of that act before the act itself is done. Actually, the consequence may have played out very differently in reality. But I don’t give it a chance. I want just the desired result of that act.

This is a typical case of wanting to control your environment. And playing out the consequences in your mind gives you some comfort, perhaps, that you will manage to achieve somewhat the desired result. A probability only. Not a certainty.

So many times, I have heard the line “if I do this that will happen.” “And happen for sure” is added. An over-the-top reaction of this kind may demonstrate an innate fear. Fear of something being taken away from you or letting things go from your hands into an unknown and non confirmative space which you are uncomfortable with. . People who steer actions with careful rigidity might be prone to such thought processes.

Actually, these are blocks which prevent expansive experiences. Like, I take a flight everywhere and hence, miss out on the beautiful countryside which I would have experienced had I motored up to my destination. But because I don’t know the roads and might have an accident, it is safe to take a flight.

So, I am already anticipating an accident that may or may not happen. Presumption that an aircraft is safer!! I have no way of knowing it IS safe, before I fly out. A presumption again!

Friends, we really miss out on so much of life by controlling our environment. And if we have family around us, we end up doing the same to them as well. I understand that everyone wants to be safe and away from harm. But to close yourself on the basis of presumptions is also not a healthy trait or practice.

Later, as adults, you see people who grow up in such conditions shrinking their minds to respond more rigidly than freely. Challenges are very essential for out -of -the – box thinking and living.

So, try new environments even for your children. Challenge them and observe their responses. Life is the biggest teacher. If you grow, the environment and people around you also grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I read this very significant, in fact, revealing line the other day. “Don’t be Buddhist. Be a Buddha.” I said something similar in one of my Mumbai workshops and was accused of blasphemy. All I said was that Christ is Christ because of his qualities and each one of us can become a Christ. It is my conviction.

I wonder what happens to us when this thought is presented before us. Evidently, we think somewhere deep within us that we are capable of being followers but cannot go beyond.

Each one has a philosophy compatible for their personal journey. No harm! All roads will eventually converge into one Divine Energy, whatever be the name given to it by different religions. But where does our journey of evolution say that we cannot achieve more than merely following a group who look up to one leader? In fact, any genuine spiritual leader will also encourage only this thought, that we can all elevate our consciousness to the level of a Buddha, Krishna or Christ.

I was blessed to have a guru who said, once you reach my level, your journey is beyond me. And I have always felt that if we remain followers, it is because we never really understood nor worked enough. And, conveniently, were content to be in that space.

Before Deepavali, we clean up each corner of our homes to prepare for festivities. We allow ourselves a few days for this activity. And then we resume our daily jobs.

Imagine doing spring cleaning and removing cob webs every day from our minds!!! That constant vigilance and awareness of every little thought, every word…? Possible? Of course! But would we? We would go to the ends of the earth to earn name and fame in worldly activities. But not many see name and fame and hence, the need for this very taxing daily practice without any visible or even desired end in sight.

Returning to Buddha, we all know his story and how he achieved enlightenment. Ironically, we know he was a human being like us who, with his concentrated and single minded efforts reached his goal. I find it difficult to understand why we feel we won’t ever reach there. Even logically, this does not make sense to me, though I know this is not a subject of logic.

Where do we begin? Simply with simple meditation to reduce the useless thoughts (cobwebs) with constant practice. Pranayama and yoga to regulate breathe and focus of mind. Reduce ego and attachment. Hate the negativity in people, NOT the people who practice it because they are at that level of vibration at that point in time. (Attitude determines altitude). Exercise your choice. CHOOSE POSITIVITY. CHOOSE THE GOOD. CHOOSE SPIRITUALITY. This is the only permanent option actually. The rest is transient, misleading and therefore, damaging to the progression of the soul.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Every phase in time has had priority requirements. But none of the phases ever required atrocities, traumas, hatred, intolerance, greed, war mongering and enmity in the name of separatist “identities”.

We keep hearing that “satyug” will come back one day. And how well greed would be justified if we craved for satyug as of yesterday. True, this planet cannot take any more negativity. All the healers need to come together, connect and heal the planet and the gross misdeeds of human beings regularly. The way this world is churning today, the writing on the wall is very clearly visible.

Man is insatiable in seeking hell. Has lost all sense of wisdom. Lives in an illusory imagination of permanence and delusions of grandeur and Omni presence. The road leads to a “no man’s land”, darkness beyond the imaginable.

Let the light shine again. Let this planet know peace and joy, the brotherhood of man and man again. And let peace, harmony and prosperity reign. It is long overdue.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Traumas


“To hell and back” is common terminology when we go through an intensely bad experience and are trying to recover. None of us can actually live in anyone’s shoes to feel that intensity. Though we can try.

To feel someone’s pain, agony is an evidence of very deep soul connections. We don’t feel so for everyone and there is so much misery in this world.

The intense and searing pain that tears us apart at the suffering or death of a special person can create a hell around us on a daily basis. This is what depressions are all about. You get up in the mornings and the first thought is about these souls, that is, if you slept through the night before. This is true of all traumas that we go through in our lives at various ages, from rape to betrayals to abject misery and disenchantment.

The biggest service we can provide is to try and mitigate at least a percentage of that feeling of “hell” where they live. Even if we can touch one life in this manner.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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