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I want to urge people who are prone to deep depressions and disappointments in life, that swallowing pills to feel numb is temporary. I agree that certain issues are really difficult to handle.

There comes a time of hopelessness when no solutions come up and we are on the verge if defeat and acceptance of unpalatable truths.

Never mind. Keep faith. Just as seasons must change, so must the inner seasons of the mind. Agreed that we lose patience and cannot determine the exact point at which something snaps within us. Just don’t let it snap. Keep faith.

If we didn’t believe in goodness on earth, how could we survive? Keep faith and wait for the tide to turn. It will, if you keep faith.

Surekha Kothari

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Environment


Today, we are riddled with double standards wherever we turn. One set for us and another for others. Without any qualms!

“Do as you would like others do unto you” could be a saying in Swahili for all that we know. It is a different world with people courting completely new mindsets.

Complex minds and even dangerous minds, especially if they are devoid of emotions and all the definitions have undergone a sea change. There is really no choice but to accept them. And hope sensitivities will be revived as a reaction to too much of a clinical approach to people, reactions which could be given other tags, such as callous and unfeeling. A legacy of a dominant and fragile ego perhaps and of a highly competitive environment where gnawing desires and ambitions overlook the dying embers of humaneness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The beauty of life’s moments holding your new born child. The first time she calls you”ma”,  the joy of that moment when it would be as joyous as if it was the last word you heard. The warm hugs and the little arms around your neck as you get “spitty “kisses which glisten in your eyes, not your cheeks.

And when this child becomes an adult, she does the same with her kids. The tradition of motherhood continues but she has forgotten that warmth and fuzzy feeling of being held by her mom forgotten that even if a child becomes sixty, she is still the same loveable and huggable kid to her mom.

Ironically, her inner child leaves her while her mom has hung on primarily to those wonderful memories of that little child who, as an adult, has moved into another phase. That’s life. You live with your memories. And live with the fact that life is full of phases. And you must move on. Or life will make you do so.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.

And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.

Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.

That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more

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In the beginning, an attempt to detach is very painful. Humans are tied up in the silken threads of “moha” which is attraction to people and things, even to places. Even silken threads spell bondage, though, it may be remembered.

Spiritual orators recommend detachment to obtain peace and to move forward towards a more elevated state of being. Not an easy task ! But when you pray hard enough, and try sincerely, the Universe helps you. Circumstances arise to help you detach slowly, often painfully.

After the stage is reached when the pain lessens, you can start feeling the relief of being liberated. Because in “moha”, YOU hold on so, only you can let go to experience the feeling of freedom from the huge amount of baggage that you had stored baggage because “moha” leads to much suffering. You are actually trying to capture the intangible and the illusory. What then would be the result other than suffering?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A most profound truth we live within the prison of our own making Our thoughts about ourselves, about others, our lives, our emotions, our conflicts, fears, comparisons, attachments, dissatisfactions and more.

How often do we feel a sense of liberation? Hardly ever! There is always some pre occupation which might turn out to be meaningless and completely unimportant in time, but at that time, occupies a large chunk of the mind. And we don’t know how to free ourselves from it, and similar situations.

Actually, it is we who hold on to what we think is holding onto us. The biggest illusion we suffer from. And hence, we fail to destroy the illusory prison walls when there are open doors and illumination all around us. How long will it take?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Exposure to experiences is the only way to learn. Observe, try and create convictions based on your reality. And avoid shrinking your mind. Expand it and you will see how beautiful life can be.

If you close yourself up in a limited space, how would you build connectivity around you? How would you know how others are faring their pain, their disappointments and sorrows, their moments of joy? How will you actually start counting your blessings when you see people who are so much worse off than you but some of them, so much happier than you? How will you understand the concept of accepting and valuing each and everything you have? And valuing the people who care deeply?

An open heart creates an open mind and an open mind can make you an extraordinary human being.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was talking to a friend about ways to keep a daily balance of mind. The two brilliant ways that come to mind are:

Mindful and watching your breath.

It has been my experience that with a regular practice of these two techniques, you will find your sadness/ depression/ conflict etc disappearing.

Mindfulness can also be described as being in a meditative state all day. Be IN the moment, whatever you may be doing. Train yourself because it may take some practice. But once you begin to experience the results, you will truly never go back to a state of unmindful. And it will help in curbing reactions and will help in being proactively responsive.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Recreation


I love this phase in which I have finally found the desired balance between work and recreation. Everything has been a lesson and everyone I have met has held a mirror before me. And I am so grateful that the realization has been sweeping in slowly and steadily.

Happy is the mind that accepts what it cannot change instead of wallowing in meaningless agony. Move on! You are a unique soul even if people don’t view you or themselves as such.

Eckhart Tolle says suffering is self generated. A hundred percent true when you actually reach that point. And no arguments are left over in the bag of doubts.

What stops you from being happy people situations and reactions? What? Think and you will realize that YOU can’t handle what life presents. If you understand that often , in life, you have to get used to long jump, high jump, hitting the ball right ( sometimes wrong) and all this is just competing with yourself and bettering your last performance, you will automatically start getting cleansed from all those polluted mindsets that keep you in a whirlpool of negatives where you are just playing the blame game and pointing fingers at life, at everyone but never at yourself.

Whereas, everything begins and ends with the self and in the self. Ghalib’s words translated:

When I didn’t know my own mental state, I blamed the whole world. But the day I perceived my shortcomings, there was no one left to criticize.

My worst “enemy “may be my best friend within my soul group.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Why is it that it has become a crime to be honest and welfare oriented? Very simple! This is the scenario of current times for the same reason that families are becoming distant.

Too much freedom given, taken or taken forcefully has, over a period of time, diluted the impact of honesty and benevolent advice. Today, when freedom has been generally misused to result in an eclipse of general welfare, the scope of an upward swing would require a herculean effort from each one of us.

We have always had to be driven towards that upward swing. We need to be taught to think right. And then maybe, we will realize how valuable the values that we lost were.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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