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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

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I have realized how many little things we take for granted. Is there a guarantee we will wake up the next morning? Do we know for sure that our day is going to unfold as planned? Are we sure that the domestic staff will turn up tomorrow? Is it possible that you have an urgent meeting and the vehicle stops half way? To mention just a few.

Gratitude, therefore, is most important. The person who cleans your restrooms and your home. The one who drives your car, cooks your food. A friend who sits up with you when you are sick. Anyone passing you on the road who smiles at you or saves you from a near accident. Or blesses you without even knowing you….

The bottom line is, NO ONE HAS TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU…and if they do it, regardless of their motives, we have to thank them as messengers of God. The universe works relentlessly and lovingly. We need to understand the significance and read the language minute to minute.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We seldom nurture our inner child. Since childhood, we are trained at the conscious mind level to share, to give, to do things for others. But never taught that it is equally important to love our inner child. Some children are also abused for their ways. These kids grow up to subdue or even kill their inner child because the signals they have received very early in life is that this inner child is non functional. That it is that part of the personality that is not required.

But this inner child is the core of love. A child is very loving and very spontaneous. Imagine, if this source is turned off, how this child would survive as an adult. On arid ground. Without water.

 I don’t think there is anything more detrimental than a lack of self love and the inability to get or feel that love from others. Love keeps the softness within us alive. Be sure that those who have a hardened exterior need love and frequent hugs more than others. Because they show a facade and suppress a lot. Just like those who love attention and a lot of limelight are deeply insecure.

There is no alternative but love, to love yourself, to care and have compassion for yourself first and then for others because they are fashioned in a similar way to you and have the same source of energy to draw from. And therefore, connected.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Conflict! Such an oft used word but not examined properly. While creating conflict may be the goal once in a while, it is very often the result of thoughtless action emanating out of an imbalance of emotions originating from a colored thought.

Conflict can be deliberate. But we suffer more from our egos which dominate over our thoughts and this is what leads to improper and even unjustified action. Obviously, the result then would be conflict.

It is as simple as keeping things simple and honest. Covert actions and opacity are definite possibilities of conflict generation because they arouse suspicion and eliminate trust.

As we see nationally today, so, we also mirror within us. If the desire for conflict were to be eliminated from within each one of us, would there be conflict outside?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Authenticity


From the news channels and especially the constant current update on the national scenario, there is one major life lesson to learn. News is news only till a bigger one breaks. People make milestones out of molehills until untraversed mountains appear before them…

There are micro issues and then there is a whole spectrum of macro issues. At any point, when we think this is the limit, the myth explodes and something much larger is revealed.

So, sometimes, making light of situations helps and at other times, situations may have larger implications when we make light of them.

Ultimately, it is only an honest and complete scrutiny of any news establishes its authenticity and the extent of its magnitude.

Today, when surgical strikes rule every channel, we are suddenly jolted by the duplicity of the spineless opposition…and yet, we thought there can be no bigger news than our victory…amazing!

The biggest current news is that while India is finally regaining lost ground with courage, boldness and righteousness, there is a set of politicians that need to be exiled to Pakistan. Why do we tolerate them when they don’t care about the honor, safety and pride of either the army or the nation?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It is so interesting to listen to people’s conversations and observe the attitudes and emotional patterns which shine through.

Trivial and apparently casual conversations are not so ordinary because an aspect of the personality becomes evident to the onlooker.

For example, being secretive! I would prefer the word “privacy”. That has a valid connotation for me. The word “secrecy” somehow demonstrates the darker side …and above all, the kind of things that people feel the need to be secretive about surprises me.

If you are invited to someone’s home for a meal, the statement is, “I am OUT for lunch”, “OUT” being the catch word here. If you are going for a holiday with “friends”. No names mentioned! You might know them. AND feel bad you were not invited two brothers, sisters or sisters in law don’t have any desire to share friends. Too close for comfort!

WHY? All this in the name of “healthy” trends or the reverse?

Can one call this a malfunctioning of society, this opacity and this compulsion to control people and environment?

If you really analyze this, the root cause is mostly the perception of a reduction of attention and importance, or let’s say, sharing the person and risking their walk over to the other side. Or maybe, a tiny voice from within that might whisper, “Maybe, the other person will outshine me”. It is the fear of loss, a loss of many things under the apparent, superficial reason. Definitely an avoidable emotion! It just causes inner as well as outer conflict. But it is a very real issue today. Gone are the days of togetherness and large heartedness.

I know there can never be unanimity in such views. But the basic fact remains that these attitudes exhibit a deep sense of low confidence levels and self esteem. Of course, one can carry on living in this state all of one’s life. And people DO, too.

On the deeper level, these are also separatist attitudes where people are making choices of people and taking sides, sometimes being forced into taking sides, just because there are two sides…an undesirable polarization in perceptions!

Spiritual science teaches us oneness, the complete opposite.

But everything ultimately boils down to our self image. It is important to keep updating it through constant work and experience. Not be a big fish in a small pond and getting inflated but a small fish who is lively and courageous and swims along, exploring the furthest corners of the huge universal ocean so as never to be intimated by anyone or anything and taking on everything with a personality adaptable , mature and confident.

The canvas is so vast that the minds cannot afford to be small. This is a gross mismatch.


Surekha Kothari

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