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Every day, I observe the tendency of people to let their minds and prejudices get the better of them. If you like someone, you can even find it in your heart and your speech to defend them even if they have committed a murder. And if you DON’T like them, you will not give them even a little credit for a single good deed they may have done.

The mind plays games. It tells you “don’t like these people. See how they treat you”. Or, “see how wonderful this is” when it not at all good for you, e.g, befriending opportunists because you like their flattery. And you listen. Why? Do you really have a solid reason?

Actually not. You just cannot see beyond your ego at that point, YOU are not hurt. It is only your ego that makes you dance on its finger tips.

Very often, we have gone back and apologized to people after feeling wronged. Because we realized that it was wrong to feel wronged in the first place. Better sense dawns sometimes.

And when it dawns all the time is the time when you become calm and centered without swaying and swinging like a yo yo. And decide to let go and let things just BE.

We know we are all different and we should give the benefit of doubt to everyone as we give to ourselves all the time. No one is really “bad” or “good” but situations create our perceptions of these tags according to our prejudices and limited ways of thinking.

Once the mind expands and consciousness expands, we will be different as people. And towards this should our efforts be directed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There is freedom in appreciation. When we appreciate someone sincerely from our hearts, we free ourselves from any bondage of envy, the comparisons or antipathy. The reverse is also true. And if you look within yourself at this moment of appreciation, you will find a strange joy within.

It is easier to appreciate and even admire a well known figure because we can’t see ourselves on par with that person. But it is not so easy to do so within our own social community. That is too much up close and personal and within the range of competition. It could be tough to be generous. That’s where generous people become objects of admiration, because the breed is majorly in the minority. And the tag for such humans is “abnormally normal”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Self doubt may be a result of your not knowing your capacity, not trusting your commitment or not trusting your knowledge. If I ask someone, “can you really do this for me”, I could be concerned about that person or simply not trusting.

I learnt yet again today that it is important to trust yourself and the power of the Divine. I find that choices confront you and your self doubt may act up in either of the cases. “Can I do this with the way I am?” Maybe, thinking of health issues or thinking I may need support in which case, should I trouble people? Doubt! Doubt! Doubt!

Ultimately, you are led into a decision and if you trust the Universe, magic happens. We just need to tune in. And then everything falls into place and confidence creeps in to reign supreme. The way to go!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The importance of gratitude can never be overplayed. We just don’t have enough. We overlook so many dimensions which need gratitude. Sometimes, we don’t even thank people for the little things they do for us. We don’t think it is important to thank our parents, our children, our friends, and the people around us. Our body and organs, all the internal systems that have supported us all these years and our breath which gives us the elixir of life, our senses through which we can feel, see, touch, taste and smell the beauty of the world. Gratitude invariably leads to surrender. And all spiritual awakening happens naturally.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Everything within our mind rests on the root cause which transforms into effect. Half the population in this world suffers from depression, for example. But there is always a root cause, a place where it started. We are unable to identify it many a time because of the opacity of the many layers surrounding it due to the cyclical effect of cause and effect.

Still, if we could even put our ego aside for a while and then try and go back to the root cause, it might be possible to identify it. Very often, it is minuscule but becomes a mountain with successive attacks by the ego.

The appearance of the actual cause can miraculously clear the path for eradication of the root cause. That is why, in the language of the healers, reliving is releasing.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 At some point in time, we have to answer one important question to ourselves, and that is, what does each of us stand for? This introspection is most important for those who don’t have a perspective or have not explored this within themselves.

We don’t realize that our self esteem largely depends on this. When you don’t take a stand or your stand is that you don’t want to take a stand at all is when you are divided into several people within yourselves, each saying a different thing and initiating a perpetual tug of war.

To live meaningfully, it is essential to live by a set of rules, ideologies, norms and goals which determine and define YOU. So, when you are not happy or taking your identity from how others perceive you, you have yet to come into your own.

The idea is not to get swept away by the tide but to use resistance so as to stand upright even around quick sands and when to resist and how much to resist is the evidence of a dawning wisdom and of standing in your own space with conviction.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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