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Tolerance


There comes a time when you kind of tend to lose your tolerance for superficiality. The surface look of anything has a limited period of interest and limited value. After that, you want to go deeper. And if there is no “ deep” dimension or is not apparent when sought, there comes a saturation point and then the mind wanders away.

This intolerance, more often than not , is an age related symptom. Weeding out the chaff from the wheat is an inevitable process when exhaustion for meaningless anything sets in over a long period of time.

You start questioning why you think , speak or act without really catering to your basic persona. Your honest persona. Your more genuine persona. Why ? Time to quit the play., the drama of it all and return to source energy.

Surekha Kothari

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I notice in others and myself that we all seem to be a little different when we are out of our daily routines , for example when we travel to other cities, as compared to the places we reside in. Somehow, more relaxed but naturally, we do have less responsibilities than in our own homes and offices. I see friends wanting a change every so often. And they run away.

This does make me wonder whether we, as humans, with a natural tendency to be free, to feel free, are unable to sustain that inner spirit of equilibrium and an equanimous state of being. Which means our responses to external stimuli change with both people and places? Which again means, we get affected and that’s not such a good thing because we are not in our control.

This means there is a lot of work to be done. Life is an eternal project in motion. It stops or slows down here and there. And when it does, we need to kick start it again.

Surekha Kothari

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One of the most beautiful interpretations of karma was sent to me recently. Being in Hindi, I am posting the English version here.

Translation:

The eyes saw a fruit on a tree. They desired the fruit. But because the eyes could only see, the feet walked to the tree. Now since the feet could not pluck the fruit, the hands went up to pluck it, the mouth ate it and the stomach digested it.

Now, let’s see. The one that saw the fruit couldn’t go. The one that went didn’t pluck. The one that plucked didn’t eat. The one that ate couldn’t keep it because the stomach took over.

When the gardener saw this, he beat up the person with a stick on his back, whereas, the back had not been at fault at all. But when the back became black and blue, the eyes shed the tears because the eyes were the ones that had first spotted the fruit.

This is karma.

Surekha Kothari

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Routine gives us that anchor, that steadiness of mind that actually makes creativity easier. Imagine if we were in a frenzy to create something all the time! Our minds would be nothing short of yo-yos. Ideas germinate and take time to manifest.

Have you seen a write scribble, then bunch up the papers in frustration and relegate them to the garbage bin, again and again? The mind can become that garbage bin if we don’t watch out. Ideas, thoughts, millions of them might emerge and nothing might come of them.

But when the mind is steady, at least some ideas would see the light of day. Everything needs a steady base to create the required movement.

Surekha Kothari

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Knowledge


I don’t believe that anyone can really teach anyone anything as per their own convictions. Unless the mind is open. And the mind opens to listen to another if there is respect for the person teaching . However much the teacher tries, the response has still to come from within each individual.

Learning comes only when and from where it is supposed to come. Did we necessarily learn from the wisdom of our elders ? No. We were busy defying them at that point. Years later, when we arrived at the same point, we realised that our elders HAD told us this but we never listened.

This is the story of most people’s lives. If pure knowledge is sought, it really doesn’t matter if it comes from someone we consider our worst enemy. But we probably will shun anything that comes from that source because we perceive the “enemy”, not the “knowledge”. And thus, out of our prejudice , we tend to remain on the same level as before. We forgo that source of knowledge which was a god given opportunity that came with a test which we did not pass. And this becomes such a habit that we don’t think about it twice. It becomes a normal pattern. How much we stand to lose we cannot even imagine !

As it is said , don’t ask a sage what caste he belongs to. Just take the knowledge he has to impart. By implication, the rest is really none of your business. Is it ?

Surekha Kothari

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Taking life for granted! Yes, we do most of the time. Only when we see death around us do we get a shock, though for a while only. And then we are back to normal.

But we don’t realize that life is fragile and we need to thank God every day for each day.

Every breath that we take is very valuable. It is the elixir of life and must be treated with care. We tend to abuse it through anger and many negative emotions.

Nothing and no one should be able to take away the value of your life. Living it with happiness and a freedom to make choices for your life is the way to go. Some things and some people will always enter or go out of your life. Let it happen. Keep breathing in love, nature, light and peace and bliss will be yours.

Surekha Kothari

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Self image


One of the biggest fears we humans seem to have is to be proven wrong. We go to any lengths to give excuses, explanations and justify ourselves. It is a malady! We are humans after all, and what is wrong in saying, “I was wrong?” It clears the air between two people if you admit the truth, that of being wrong.

But no! We will severe the connection itself if we have to, but will not confess. To say “I am wrong” requires guts and courage. You feel people will judge you and think negatively about you. But on the contrary, you will be respected for stating your truth because very rarely do people come out with simple, straight forward admissions of this kind.

If you lie to yourself, try to do a cover up of your mistake, people know what you are doing. I had a teacher in school who, if she didn’t know an answer to a student’s question, simply said that she didn’t know but would find out the answer and tell him. She was one of the most highly respected teachers, for her honesty and simplicity.

It is such a burden to carry and such a false self image! What’s the point? It can only cause stress. And you find yourself shying away from people for not having the courage to look at them in the eye. Not a single winning point there, right then why?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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At the right time, you meet some right people who , by their words and good energy, uplift you enough so that you move away from people whose energy tended to pull you down.

Someone I met told me, ” keep praying when you need answers and they will come”. So true ! Also, Keep a vigil on your thoughts as they come in, recognise them for what kind they are and then decide if you still want to give them shelter or send them away.

I got into the habit of doing one guided meditation every night and then switched on my 8 hour “Om” chant to sleep. It has worked like magic . Most times, there is calm and you don’t get either offended or affected by the negatives around you. As a bonus, you start building bridges with people who have meant something to you and are perhaps distanced.

There are three stages :

First, you react to negativity because it is also present in you. The law of resonance.

Second, you work on yourself, still know it is happening, but start to get immune to it. The percentage within you reduces.

Thirdly, you now learn to smile at what you see and it doesn’t affect you anymore.

A little crude but an apt example is when I was always counselled that if dogs barked on the streets, would you bark back ? In a manner of speaking, teaching non retaliation. Because until you retaliate, you are not cleansed yet.

How much there is to do and how little time !

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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“Can love be measured by the hours in the day?” This line from the song from the movie “Love Story” is one of the most beautiful lines I have heard. Can love be measured, period? What is its measure, in any relationship?

Is it the amount of time spent together? Is it the number of gifts exchanged the quality of the gifts? Maybe, branded gifts as a measure of love? Or, daily calls? … I don’t know. All these seem to be very important today.

I wonder if empty hands but a heart full of love would suffice? Would it show in the warmth of affection in my eyes? In my smile that lights up my face? In my bear hug greeting in my travelling miles to be with someone on a special day. In the pain I feel ….or if my day starts and ends with someone.

I wonder at how people judge you and consider you fit for their friendship or love. What would be that criteria?

I wonder how people measure love in its many forms. How many forms do they see? How many are they able to see? And how do they interpret what they see.

I wonder…….all the time…. why there is no common benchmark for love which can sustain the peace and togetherness on this earth.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Enough


How much is “enough”? Growing up, we determined its extent by the tone and body language of our parents. Even by the accent on particular letters of the word. Like, when they said, “enough!” the danger light flashed bright and we retreated to our rooms immediately. If they said, ” enough is enough now”, that was a warning signal not to stretch things too far.

We used to have to take our cues from them. There was strict discipline. Not only that, our elder siblings became unrecognizable when they donned the mantle of our parents while the parents were traveling. They turned Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde into nonfiction and a total reality.

Ah! Those were the days when even discipline did not keep us from smiling happily and basking in the love of family. Our parents were not friends as such. We had our siblings for that. But we ate together, sang and played bridge and card games together, holidayed together with our parents, every summer holiday without fail. Wherever we went, we distributed all the chores among us and it was the height of pleasure to do them amidst mischievous chatter only because we were all together.

On other holidays, it would be dormitory style living with cousins , climbing trees, plucking mangoes and tamarinds off the trees in the compound, playing hide and seek all day long with our elders running after us to get us to sit still for meals and snacks.

Rustic living but so, so beautiful and close to nature! There were no super expensive holidays to Europe and Switzerland. These were hardly any substitutes for the laughter and fun filled days, full of love and sharing. Our hearts were full, pity that this generation will never see such days. What it used to be, finding pleasure in the simple things of life.

Today, what is enough? Going to Europe and Switzerland is not enough. Having the best of cars and gadgets is not enough. Holidays with family are not enough. Being content with “enough” of everything is not “enough”. Because, what IS enough? Is your “enough” like mine or better than mine? Simpler than

Mine or more complicated than mine?

Can I say “enough” today and get away with it? Can I say, “enough is enough” and not is put into a dog house for a sizeable chunk of time?

And what IS enough? I always felt that like “good, better, best”, there ought to be categories of “enough”, too.

Like, enough, enougher and enoughest.

See! At least, you can smile. And that is enough.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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