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When we speak of dharma, we generally get a mixed bag definition: rituals, duties, religion etc. And the result is confusion. Because dharma is not any one of these. If anything divides human beings, it absolutely cannot be dharma.

The core of dharma in its true sense lies in each one of us.

HONESTY: we might get cynical here because we see very little honesty today. And yet, it is our core because, when thinking about it, who can accept and actually like dishonesty? Which means honesty IS our core.

WORK/ ACTIVITY: Movement and change are two constants. Activity is our second core. We need to give it direction but all humans have act ..that is, keep moving . It is inevitable.

CLEANLINESS: an inevitable measure of dharma. To clean not only the body but the thoughts, the mind and emotions, ego as well as our environment.

KINDNESS: to care selflessly. Help people in need without wanting to be on page 3. On human, compassionate grounds.

Irrespective of your religion, any other identities you might have, all the four points mentioned constitute your inner core as a human being. And if all of us started understanding and practicing this form of dharma, there would come a time when all humans of whichever religion, caste, creed would happily and harmoniously share space, love and peaceful progress.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Tradition


It is pretty awesome to see joint families living in harmony even today, respecting all the relationships within and giving space to each person while connecting wisely. I have to share this true story of a gujrati family where 80 to 85 members live, united and caring of each other. You will wonder…HOW is it possible? Let me say this. The seeds of such living are planted very early, with traditions, principles and values in place, too. Every member, therefore, knows only this way of life which can’t be faulted really. If only all humanity could learn to live this way, with a give and take of love, harmony and wisdom! The philosophy is, live like a well oiled machine which is highly productive. The members are the parts of the machine and the oil is the love, understanding, caring and generosity, all of these looked upon as love based generations.

So, this family has one large home where only the parents live now. They have been wise enough to give every child another home as they got married. But, there is only one kitchen, the one in the parental home. All the ladies have to take over and share the administration of the kitchen in turns. Any guest has to come only to the main home. If one member’s business takes a knock, the others compensate for the loss and support that member.

What would you call this? Unconditional love? Duty consciousness? The upbringing? Genuine emotions for each other? It is so uplifting to even think of such an existence. I love this story because I grew up in a joint family, though in a smaller set up, but have seen these emotions at work and have been a recipient as well. Today, when I see so much artifice in society, I like to dwell on this story. It has the power to make me instantly happy.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Compulsions


How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils. To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually want at that point.

There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.

But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are comfortable there.

I have realized this fact. And each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the bargain.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Perfect


No one is perfect. All that we can do is try to work towards getting better by the minute. It is not about how much we hurt. It is about how much we can heal that hurt…and better still, how we can avoid getting hurt. With the right understanding.

The more we identify with our body, our thoughts, emotions, the less we are aware that we are far beyond these.

So, it is first about knowing who we are not. Where is the hurt registering? Who is feeling that hurt? Why the hurt at all? We don’t dwell on these important questions. If we did, we would come to some understanding about ourselves. The confusions in our lives are very much connected here.

The basic fact is that we get involved in the emotions of the characters we play in the drama of life. And we forget that we are only playing a character. We take everyone and everything too seriously, getting caught in the illusory web of permanence.

Do we know that there is a little watchman within us called “Drashta” that watches every thought, every emotion, every action and reaction. And this drashta wants us to become an observer with it, to help understand all of these matters of our spiritual reality. A reality which can’t be perceived while we are in it, with all the burden of baggage that we carry.

Let us be free from all that. Let us not worry about being perfect. Let us just try to be better humans and better spirits. The rest will follow…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If you have the blessings and teachings of a Satguru, you are indeed blessed. My guru who is staying with us for a few days is one who lights my path and shows me a direction that is so illuminating and enlightening that I feel very lucky to have met him on the path that he walks.

For the non believers and for those who live mostly within the external framework of this world, I can only say, once you receive and experience the nectar of spiritual wisdom, your transformation will not find adequate words which will succeed in describing that experience.

Of course, we need to work in our external environment, too, while on this earth. What we end up doing is working more here and less within our inner world. Symbolically, the stories of our gods and goddesses also show us the path of balance between these two aspects of us.

So, you see different aspects of Krishna: as a householder, warrior, loyal friend and a “paramatma” at the same time. There are messages at every step for us if we can decode them, of being multi faceted and being aware of our alignment with the collective consciousness. The journey is very exciting, with a new lesson through a new perspective of an already learnt lesson or new knowledge, acquired this moment , illuminating every minute of our lives…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Patience


Karma! The ideal balance of performing karma is that on one hand, have limitless patience and on the other, don’t perform your karma with an eye towards the results. That is called “Samatva” of karma.

Secondly, if you accept the karma as a doer, the positivity or negativity also becomes yours. For example, a fisherman kills fish to sell and feed his family. It is his work and he never dwells on the ethics of it. Therefore, his karma is pure. He even dances and sings when he has had a good catch because there is no thought of any guilt of killing.

Take another example. You say something innocently to a friend but that causes some hurt in the friend. You are unaware until they tell you that you shouldn’t have said what you did because it was hurtful. And you now begin to feel guilty and acknowledge that you are wrong. This then immediately becomes your karma, because you accepted it as wrong.

So, karma is completely intention based. Lord Krishna, therefore, asked humans to surrender all karma to him. If” I “am not a doer (karta), where is the karma?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Recognize


Confidence! Dressing well and grooming is the first and most obvious point that comes to mind. When you are looking nice, you feel good and feel you can take on the world.

But not so for all…in a group, you do see people looking nice but very uncomfortable nonetheless. They are withdrawn and happier when people don’t address them. I knew someone who was a pro at confidence, thanks to a book by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He was popular and could charm a bird off a tree.

Having said that, is being able to influence people everything?

On the flip side, there are people who read “what do you say after Hello”, too……

Confidence at a deeper level is the result of a deep spiritual bent of mind, pure thought and unconditional love. When you don’t recognize “loss” at all. Everything is a bonus.

When you reach this state of being, your confidence is complete and your core strengthened by the day.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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