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Environment


Every generation is a product of its environment. To compare what we had and we could not give the next generation is odious. Because life had changed so drastically by then that we could not have given that upbringing even if we wanted to. The wise and discerning parents of those times got their children married into similar families for smooth transition of their children. But those who didn’t were inadvertently responsible for many unhappy marriages due to a sea of differences in upbringing and value systems or a lack of similar ones. It became a chalk and cheese situation.

The children of such mismatches often contributed further to a functionality in these families resulting in distances.

Ultimately, it is “c’est la vie”. You accept and adjust and move on. Pining for what was or what could have been is like trying to hold sand in your fists. It will slip away before you know it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I have seen that many people push away good and caring relationships by taking them for granted or not understanding their brand of caring. Sometimes, there also seeps into a long term friendship a kind of envy which leads to two people growing apart.

When you have known someone a long time, and life takes you into different modes, you tend to look at that friend with a certain comparison. And if, at that time, you are an unhappy human being, you tend to forget the close bonds you shared and begin to gradually tear apart the relationship. And once you reach a point of no return, you have burnt your bridges until you realize what you lost. By then, it is too late.

Better to make a point in your book never to reach a point of no return. Life is not about “you”. It works only if it is about “us”, that “us” could be two people or more.

Besides, those who have experienced the bonds of love will tell you there is no feeling better, no joy greater than a no holds barred friendship and closeness. It could be between any two people. If the base is compassion on both sides, the rest follows.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Justice


Justice has always intrigued me. In many cases, there are layers and layers of human emotions that compound the process of justice.

At the end of the day, any injustice done to anyone else has to be a mental aberration of some kind or an unmanageable emotion, like anger, jealousy, frustration ….or simply an innocent act gone wrong.

Everything ultimately boils down to the fact that we have little option but to understand the people around us. How they think. What they feel. And why they do what they do. A deed is done and cannot be undone. The justice tag is in the eyes of the beholder, like beauty. Because the wrong, the injustice, is only a perception which need not be perceived as such by the person on whose action the judgment is being made.

This way of thinking is a most liberating one. Unless you see a matter of life and death happening. Justice holds an important place in such eventualities. No question of sitting back and smelling the coffee here because we have a sense of duty and responsibility towards us and society.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The importance of communication! Very close bonds have been broken, only due to a lack of communication, usually more by one person. Sometimes, by both the warmth of communicating have not many substitutes. Communication is that warm energy that keeps even the love flowing in relationships.

Isn’t it true that when we keep in touch regularly, it demonstrates a certain caring that says, “I am thinking of you”.

It is different in case of people who have lost touch with each other. But a distance does tend to develop if you don’t hear from someone for months and they don’t think it is a big issue. Sometimes, it just boils down to a one sided relationship where the efforts made are unequal, Of course having said that, the needs of people differ in this matter. This is where the role of understanding comes in. And this is where one must see the reasons for a particular status in bonds being close or being diluted or even severed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you develop an understanding of people and can muster up a kind of X-ray vision into their thoughts and predictable reactions or responses, life becomes very interesting . More than that, you begin to see it all as if you were watching a movie. You know what is going on and what is coming next.

What I discovered about this is that it kind of stops affecting your life after a while. You tend to get a little detached from what is unfolding before you.

I have stopped asking myself, “ what if ? Could I have ? Should I have ? “ etc etc. Because I can’t avoid the outcome. I think I could have done it this way or that way. But could I really have ?

So, getting immune is the best way to go.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Reinventing you frequently! Life doles out all kinds of experiences. If we get stuck like the pin on the record, life becomes difficult and often, unbearable. I always ask my clients why they would compromise on a quality of life that is in their hands completely. You don’t necessarily have to cry your way through life Regrets, Bitterness and Lost opportunities. These are huge for sure. But having said that, what next?

I feel we want to vent and get sympathy but are not prepared to make changes, yes, and often drastic ones. Venting makes you feel better probably but nothing changes.

Examining established patterns is the first step towards changing them. Dragging behind those that don’t work is not a mark of intelligence.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Honesty


It is refreshing to see honesty and forthrightness in a person in these times of guile and pretence. There is automatically a “don’t care” attitude in such people because they are who they are. They don’t really bother about being liked or not. They say it as it is and actually, earn many friends precisely because of their honesty.

Isn’t it but natural that you have a great sense of comfort with such friends? They are frank but not judgmental. They like you for who you are, not because of who you pretend to be.

These are rare gems that you hold on to. Life becomes very simple around them. And you can be yourself with them, which is a huge bonus.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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