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When you reach a stage in life where you have faced the onslaught of life in many ways, seen people who are fickle and not loyal, have taken the heat of many negative moments until your hair is grey and your brain cells groaning for some rest, you have finally made it as a senior citizen. Now just chill and Relax! Have a char minar, as they say. There is no need to explain you to anyone. If people love you, they will try to understand you. If not, God bless them all. Just stay within your peaceful space and let the world fly around you.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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How would you define morality? Can there be a set of moral values common to all? Sure! Because what is wrong cannot be right but who defines what is right and moral? Today, anyone can do anything and get away with it. Mostly! Where are the values that prevent people from venturing into the space of others so easily and without remorse or guilt? We want. We take. No looking left or right. This cannot really go on forever. Something has to give and once more, some semblance of decency that befits Indian culture must return to stay.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Attitude


Someone asked me, why is there so much turbulence in life ? I thought .. hmmm.. Do we call it turbulence due to our responses to the unfolding of our karma ? Our perspective ? I always wonder ! Because i see some people calm in the face of storms while some get blown away.

A matter of attitude ? Maybe, a very strong core , an unshakeable faith in the Divine ? Maybe, an internalisation of the ultimate truth after which life becomes like a child’s play. So easy and so breezy !

… and much turbulence in the absence of some or all of the above ?

In any case, turbulence was never the desired intention ever for anyone. Yet, it was allowed by each one of us … as , who else is within us but we ourselves ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Today, I remember the words of my guru who said , if a negative person does not let go of negativity, what sense does it make for a positive person to react negatively to a negative person and become negative ? A lesson I remember very often. So simple and so logical . And yet, so difficult .

But by changing some ground rules, one can achieve much success in retaining one’s positivity. And not get affected.

The first ground rule is to know that you have to change your dependence on these people for your happy state of mind. In moments when they may not be happy, they could spill negative vibrations around you.

The second is to examine yourself. Have you misunderstood something somewhere ? And started a chain of negativity ?

The third is, is someone else’s negativity worth getting affected by ?

The fourth is, accept what is beyond your control. Though this can be very painful sometimes.

And finally, make a vow to yourself that you will be positive and happy no matter what.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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From small excuses to big lies is a journey in darkness with many pitfalls and no one to light a candle. Everyone makes excuses once in a while. The danger is when these excuses become frequent and become lies because the formula works each time!

But the difference between lies and truth is a big one. Truth is clear and you live by it. Lies however, need a hiding place. Truth is never “found out”. Lies ARE Truth, even if harsh, is respected. Lies are not.

So, we must bring in more awareness into ourselves and try and clean up our act, our habits which don’t really serve us in the long run, and may ruin our relationships as well.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Each day, we experience our brand of reality. Things happen. Episodes have reactions and become memories we either cherish or battle with, to no positive end. Life becomes a problem only when you don’t accept what is going on.

Human minds can be much distorted, in that they value what needs to be discarded and discard what is of true value. And this is why life revolves around problems. WE are the problem, not life. We live within the constricted walls of unrealistic belief systems and negative thinking patterns. Cloudy skies can never provide clear vision. So, if we are to live well, we need to think of how we can see and accept our reality without judging and blaming.

Each one of us has to take ownership of our reality instead of living in some Technicolor dream sequence … and then the film ends!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Environment


Every generation is a product of its environment. To compare what we had and we could not give the next generation is odious. Because life had changed so drastically by then that we could not have given that upbringing even if we wanted to. The wise and discerning parents of those times got their children married into similar families for smooth transition of their children. But those who didn’t were inadvertently responsible for many unhappy marriages due to a sea of differences in upbringing and value systems or a lack of similar ones. It became a chalk and cheese situation.

The children of such mismatches often contributed further to a functionality in these families resulting in distances.

Ultimately, it is “c’est la vie”. You accept and adjust and move on. Pining for what was or what could have been is like trying to hold sand in your fists. It will slip away before you know it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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