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And the Lord said, “Forgive them, Lord, for they know not what they do”. Forgiveness is the biggest tool in life. Every human being needs it big time. The value of this healing tool can be realized only with the development of a spiritual mind and spiritual study. Human beings tend to get very caught up in ego based conflicts, whether within family or outside, because they lack the basic knowledge of soul connections from other lives.

Our texts speak of unconditional love as the only way to live. With all. But this was a principle of satyug. In kaliyug, we look for saccharine instead of sugar, an attractive exterior instead of a beautiful soul, superficiality instead of feeling each others’ pain, and a lot more. But as in everything in life, there is a positive aspect. You adjust and adjust and adjust with your pain and hurt until acceptance sets in. Spiritualists can achieve this without going under permanently. Others are scarred for life.

And the irony is, none of this is real and all we are doing is playing the roles we are given. There is never any permanent damage but for our ego. It’s like hating a very likeable person just because he plays the role of a villain in a drama.

I know there are always reactions to life, events and people because everyone thinks differently. Everyone IS different and can only play their own roles even if we expect that they should change the script for our sake. They cannot because that is the way they were meant to be. Otherwise how would WE experience OUR Karma?

And it is we who cause ourselves much damage by reacting badly and then holding on to our self inflicted wounds. Those who hold on can only pretend to move on. They may be masters of pretensions and fool everyone. But what about the soul within that knows the truth?

From every angle, we see a different truth sometimes. Because we can only look at things our way and according to our level of understanding. That’s why we speak of putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes. Which is very difficult unless you are very mature and truly spiritual, and realize that no one is perfect and everyone has ups and downs which affect all the members of a family or group.

Therefore, forgiveness and understanding are the greatest tools we have and should exercise instead of conflict, criticism and diluting connections of the heart.

People often tell me that they forgive but cannot forget. And I see nothing wrong. If you have a good memory, you will remember. The acid test is , does your memory have an emotional charge ? If so, then you have not forgiven. And your karma with that soul or those souls is not yet neutralized.

Surekha Kothari

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Personifying


The things we do may perhaps be similar to others but the WAY we do them are different. An often repeated truth…that winners don’t necessarily do different things but might do the same thing differently.

Have you noticed how creative people do mundane chores as if they are enjoying them day after day after day? The onlooker sees these as boring, mechanical and depressing. But an enriched mind survives well, digging up many ways to keep the interest alive.

“ROUTINE” is the word for people who cannot find new routes and get stuck along the way. And when they add “mundane” to “routine”, then they have truly lost their interest and therefore, their creativity.

I find walking on round tracks not so easy because you end up nowhere except in circles. But now, I reverse the circle, change my breathing pattern, speed, the shloka I might be chanting for the round, the trend of thought….or maybe, just become still in mind…thoughtless.

I find this is a great technique to live with myself, too. The inputs come from different aspects of me but I have a lot of fun personifying all these different ideas as many people within me giving me new ideas and walking in that circle with me.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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How to be a good loser! A great asset in life…to have the philosophy that someone has to win and someone has to lose. I just play my best. Sports teach you how to face the world and your circumstances minute to minute.

Life is like that opponent who swings his racquet to hit the ball but you don’t know how it has spun and where it is going to fall. You just have to be prepared to receive it, hit it with your best strategy back to life…no warning. No notice.

And this is why life becomes your best teacher….

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Understanding people! How often do we actually understand what is going on in the lives of people? Or, even attempt to ? Most of the time, we end up reacting to every look, every word….every gesture…

When we are in public, we expect a certain kind of behavior from people. But we forget, as we don our masks, others do, too. But a mask is a mask after all. It can slip with an unexpected trigger. And when the facade drops momentarily and the hurt and pain are revealed, we never stop to think of the reasons why that person may have accidently become transparent. Instead, we react immediately.

Understanding people is nothing short of personal healing. When you attribute a genuine reason to a person’s slipped mask, you will feel a sense of well being for yourself for having been compassionate. For having gone into the depth of a person’s psyche to recognize the soul within. What can be more elevating?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A popular saying: we reap what we sow true. But between the sowing and the reaping, there can be many unexpected climatic conditions which can negate this saying. So, sometimes, we sow with the right intentions but are unable to reap what we want.

As they say, there is many a slip between the cup and the lip, so there arise unexpected circumstances’ …

Karmically, what brings us happiness for the moment can result in unhappiness later. For example, a wonderful marriage which can sour later. Or anything else for that matter. The opposite is also equally true. You start off on the wrong foot and end up really positive.

So, these proverbs are very limited somehow. We sow with intentions and that predictably should have good results. But we forget that karmically, we are interconnected and therefore, one man’s gain could be another person’s loss.

So, living for the moment is the best way to go because we don’t know the full implications and the far reaching effects of what we sow

Surekha Kothari

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Recognize


Confidence! Dressing well and grooming is the first and most obvious point that comes to mind. When you are looking nice, you feel good and feel you can take on the world.

But not so for all…in a group, you do see people looking nice but very uncomfortable nonetheless. They are withdrawn and happier when people don’t address them. I knew someone who was a pro at confidence, thanks to a book by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He was popular and could charm a bird off a tree.

Having said that, is being able to influence people everything?

On the flip side, there are people who read “what do you say after Hello”, too……

Confidence at a deeper level is the result of a deep spiritual bent of mind, pure thought and unconditional love. When you don’t recognize “loss” at all. Everything is a bonus.

When you reach this state of being, your confidence is complete and your core strengthened by the day.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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When someone tells you that you don’t have courage or lack in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately remembered…and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say “no” to those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.

So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.

When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving. There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted changes…

So, please KNOW why you are discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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