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Someone said the other day, and many others say it too, that there should always be a balance of heart and head. Using only the heart doesn’t work and neither does using only the brain. The former results in much pain and being taken for granted and the latter might make you hard and calculating.

But, to complicate matters a bit, there are changing proportions on a daily basis. How much of each would make for a working balance. And therein lies the catch.

The heart is automatically made synonymous with goodness. And the brain with logic, intelligence often moving down the grid to being calculative, many perspectives and several ways of looking at this.

However, the underlying truth is that both must be used.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We are free spirits but once limited to the bodies given to us, we limit ourselves in major ways. But the body is a vehicle to have a fulfilling life as well. The irony, the apparent contradiction does not sit well on many. It is like sitting in a car and driving instead of walking on your legs. It is an apparent convenience but there is a need for judiciousness and discretion apart from skill and of course, energy petrol.

Going through life needs all of the above. And when these don’t work, the body itself becomes an impediment and the sense of freedom is gone.

This is the whole point of balancing the body, mind and soul.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Emotions


It takes a long time, and after you stop being in denial, to start getting in touch with your feelings enough to start work on them. There is a shock absorber phase when the disbelief of say, being treated badly by your loved ones, is painful. And gradually, acceptance sets in, or should set in at least, for your own sake. The healing process can only commence after the acceptance stage. And when you succeed in letting go, you know you are on your way.

Being in touch with your feelings triggers memories and reliving these can provide solutions in the present moment if we have moved on from earlier times. Meditation is the mantra for all times. It is the deepest cleanser of all times.

You tube is full of guided meditations which a beginner should definitely try. Done regularly, they bring in some wonderful changes and enhance your ability to dissipate imbalances in emotions. This has been my personal experience.

You can’t pick and choose your experiences when karma is after you. But you can cleanse karma through your own understanding and determined efforts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is a fact that mental and physical blocked energy manifests in the body. Similarly, any intense emotions like hatred or jealousy also manifest in retaliatory or aggressive reactions. It is almost impossible to camouflage these. They show up. And sometimes in the vehemence that comes your way. Or in a look or body language even.

But as is again a known fact, these reactions harm only the ones who harbor them, Such a self destructive exercise; But very difficult to explain this until they have their own experience.

It takes a lot to peel off the layers of our own emotional skin and reduce its thickness bit by bit. There is much microscopic study required on ourselves, because thoughts and reactions come with lightening speed. So much so that there really should not be time to study others before ourselves; A humungous task for those that have sensitized themselves enough so as to feel the transformation of energy. But there is no time like the present moment to start.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Large heartedness is always the way to go. Humans are, by virtue of being a part of the Divine energy and hence, spiritual beings, are naturally expansive. This intrinsic quality must be retained to lead a higher quality of existence.

Ultimately, the micro IS the macro. But small mindedness is not productive. It is not natural. Servicing our needs which have already been built into the cosmic plan is therefore, is counterproductive. What we service is our wants, not our needs. And that’s where the difference is not recognized.

You will notice that the moments of the greatest happiness are always when you have extended yourself beyond yourself to others; Maybe, charity or a kind listening ear, “annadaan”, imparting education, and the like, even loving selflessly.

The day we recognize this, we will be well on our way to a truly happy state of being.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A motivational, beautiful story I heard recently. A man’s donkey fell into a deep pit from where there was no way out. The man was very sad and wanted to bury the donkey before it languished to its death. So, he began pouring soil on the donkey. Each time he did that, the donkey shook it off and stood up. The man kept doing this and the donkey kept shaking every load off. The man did not realize that the pit was filling up and soon, the donkey was able to walk out of the pit.

This is so close to life. People try to bury you for various reasons but you need to have the courage and creativity of the donkey and snake off any “loads” being poured over you. Develop the survival instinct like the donkey. Otherwise, to get buried is the easiest thing in the world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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This is the era of knowledge predominance, so much technology, Brilliance etc. But we have not emerged from our decadent mindsets yet. Look at the kind of “education” our entertainment industry provides us. We talk about equality, rights of women, leveling out the society, going back to “family”, respecting women (huge one, this!)

Women, even today, are depicted in the worst ways. Watch an Indian or Pakistani drama (similar people in both countries) and the most prominent theme is women bashing, subservience and ill treatment of women, woman against woman (as in mother in law and sister in law), intrigue, attempt by the family to destroy the daughter in law because of dowry (sick!) or the obsessive tendencies of the mother in law and sisters in law to control the “son” of the family…COME ON!

And we talk of changing our world by making it progressive. We know that generations after generations internalize these situations, machinations, dangerous and vicious intrigue and vicarious pleasure at the downfall of others. So much so that we copy reel life and paste it in real life.

In real life, we may not have women characters retiring for the night in their finest heavy saris and jewelry but we do have the masses enjoying all the politics and deviousness in families on television and don’t necessarily forget about them to go into loving and caring ways with the family, friends and society.

The thinkers say it is their choice to see what appeals to them and that you can’t dictate what should be produced and aired. But the appeal of exposure to and specially the enjoyment of such dramas/ serials can be vital to the health of family, community and country, because they create regressive attitudes and “license to kill” with self indulgence of every kind. These are people who specialize in herd mentality and don’t have opinions of their own. AND, they idolize actors and juxtapose their roles in their own lives, the erosion of values, Eve teasing, violations of women, these gain momentum. But we don’t have any forum to exorcise our people of thinking and behavioral patterns, including a corrupt judiciary and police.

What all are we going to and HOW are we going to clean up these to add to the “swachh Bharat” endeavor? If insides are rotting, what cleanliness can we see outside? We will have understood the wholesome and vast implications of “swachh” first.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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