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Sometimes, people talk without thinking . They live in a world of mindsets. Like, a healer friend had high Blood pressure and she happened to tell another friend this. The immediate reply was , “how come, when you are a healer yourself ?” So, A healer is not perceived as a human being.

So, a musician should always be calm in the wake of all odds. An affluent person should always be on top of the world because what could be HIS worry ? He has everything.

These kinds of mindsets are so mechanical and so much of a habit that I wonder whether these people listen to themselves. Moreover, mindsets are a well which you can never emerge from if you don’t feel the need to. That’s scary.. to not feel the need. To stand still.

Worth thinking about.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Enough


How much is “enough”? Growing up, we determined its extent by the tone and body language of our parents. Even by the accent on particular letters of the word. Like, when they said, “enough!” the danger light flashed bright and we retreated to our rooms immediately. If they said, ” enough is enough now”, that was a warning signal not to stretch things too far.

We used to have to take our cues from them. There was strict discipline. Not only that, our elder siblings became unrecognizable when they donned the mantle of our parents while the parents were traveling. They turned Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde into nonfiction and a total reality.

Ah! Those were the days when even discipline did not keep us from smiling happily and basking in the love of family. Our parents were not friends as such. We had our siblings for that. But we ate together, sang and played bridge and card games together, holidayed together with our parents, every summer holiday without fail. Wherever we went, we distributed all the chores among us and it was the height of pleasure to do them amidst mischievous chatter only because we were all together.

On other holidays, it would be dormitory style living with cousins , climbing trees, plucking mangoes and tamarinds off the trees in the compound, playing hide and seek all day long with our elders running after us to get us to sit still for meals and snacks.

Rustic living but so, so beautiful and close to nature! There were no super expensive holidays to Europe and Switzerland. These were hardly any substitutes for the laughter and fun filled days, full of love and sharing. Our hearts were full, pity that this generation will never see such days. What it used to be, finding pleasure in the simple things of life.

Today, what is enough? Going to Europe and Switzerland is not enough. Having the best of cars and gadgets is not enough. Holidays with family are not enough. Being content with “enough” of everything is not “enough”. Because, what IS enough? Is your “enough” like mine or better than mine? Simpler than

Mine or more complicated than mine?

Can I say “enough” today and get away with it? Can I say, “enough is enough” and not is put into a dog house for a sizeable chunk of time?

And what IS enough? I always felt that like “good, better, best”, there ought to be categories of “enough”, too.

Like, enough, enougher and enoughest.

See! At least, you can smile. And that is enough.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you are depressed, you need someone to talk to; someone who’s kind and understanding words are all it takes to make you feel less toxic. More so, if the environment you live in is a toxic one, an impersonal one, a non- caring one.

Someone asked me, which life is a better one, the one of compromise or the one of loneliness? But aren’t we all lonely in some way? And don’t we all live a life if compromise in one way or another? How would you quantify or qualify either?

But if you are compromising because you don’t want to feel lonely, then you are in trouble. People can be like quicksands, and those that are solid too, have to go away one day.

How much mental strength and understanding of life must one have then, to absorb experiences in the right way and decide what would work and what would not and yet having solutions do not necessarily translate into action. There could be many, many obstacles on the way and one must have the time, will and energy to overcome them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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No two cases are identical though there may be similarities. We tend to assess people and situations based on our experiences. Sure, that’s normal. We form certain belief systems based on these experiences.

What we forget is, others don’t necessarily have to have the same or similar beliefs. Just because their conditioning, their thinking patterns may be different.

And that’s why in society and even families, tolerating and accepting people of other belief systems is vital to harmony and peace in the world. And that is what plagues us: the lack of what we should have in abundance.

Why is it so difficult to understand that if I am different from others and expect to be liked for whom I am, then others also expect to be liked as they are. It is a healthy attitude and one which inspires more learning. Because we learn more from those we like, accept and respect.

This is not for closed minds though. You have to be very open to critical, objective evaluation of yourself and the performance of surgery of the blocked energies or trapped energies to accomplish a free flow of transforming energy.

So much to learn and so much time wasted!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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As young kids, apart from coloring books, we had books where we had to connect dots to make a picture. I never realized that it was one of the most profound exercises we did. Today, as an adult, I am connecting the dots of my life episodes and thinking about how meaningless it was to rave and rant and fret and fume about what I wanted and could not get or what I could have achieved but was blocked etc. I tend to smile now because the picture is clear after the dots are connected. And there was never any need to feel all that negativity.

I learnt that the process of learning starts when you stop the blame game and start understanding why things happened the way they did.

The Divine plan is perfect. We, as humans, are not, because we don’t recognize our core strengths or the nature and quality of our source energy. What we are not meant for during any phase in our lives is because we are not ready for it or something else must be experienced. Like your parents telling you that you have to finish your homework before you can go out and play. But the child only wants to play.

When the fires of expectations from life are kind of quelled is when we are able to think clearly. When the clouds of discontent and disappointment disappear is when we can see the sunshine coming through.

And all this happens when we connect the dots and review our lives, so many blessings and so many phases of happiness and joy which, if not sustained, were so only because of our erratic attitudes.

Living and learning, maturing and becoming wiser and calmer… the journey of life goes on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you noticed that when you plan and work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions. It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense experiences or little irritants throughout life?

But then, you have to find justifications to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:

That life happens when we are busy planning it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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