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Recreation


I love this phase in which I have finally found the desired balance between work and recreation. Everything has been a lesson and everyone I have met has held a mirror before me. And I am so grateful that the realization has been sweeping in slowly and steadily.

Happy is the mind that accepts what it cannot change instead of wallowing in meaningless agony. Move on! You are a unique soul even if people don’t view you or themselves as such.

Eckhart Tolle says suffering is self generated. A hundred percent true when you actually reach that point. And no arguments are left over in the bag of doubts.

What stops you from being happy people situations and reactions? What? Think and you will realize that YOU can’t handle what life presents. If you understand that often , in life, you have to get used to long jump, high jump, hitting the ball right ( sometimes wrong) and all this is just competing with yourself and bettering your last performance, you will automatically start getting cleansed from all those polluted mindsets that keep you in a whirlpool of negatives where you are just playing the blame game and pointing fingers at life, at everyone but never at yourself.

Whereas, everything begins and ends with the self and in the self. Ghalib’s words translated:

When I didn’t know my own mental state, I blamed the whole world. But the day I perceived my shortcomings, there was no one left to criticize.

My worst “enemy “may be my best friend within my soul group.

Surekha Kothari

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Laughter


Laughter is the best medicine but humor is so personal. Slapstick comedies can have a very antiseptic reaction for cerebral people. Like, “what is so funny in this?” While another set of people could be rolling on the floor.

Some just love the dry, British humor while for some; it has to be “in the face” humor. No subtlety wanted.

But life must be lived with humor laced with a pinch of salt as well. Whatever brand of humor you can respond to. I would rather shed tears from laughing uncontrollably than from crying uncontrollably. Wouldn’t you?

Surekha Kothari

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Knowledge multiplies as you share it, because when you share it, you need to have assimilated it well yourself and with each assimilation comes more depth. And there comes a point where you can bring it down to basics and explain it simply. That’s the true test of your knowledge.

There are people who read from books and teach. But how much introspection goes before the teaching is to be gauged. How much the knowledge from books is crystallized is the question.

Sometimes, we tend to speak without adequate knowledge of people and other things. And when there are people around, young and old, someone is taking this seriously. So, one really has a huge responsibility to speak with care, not idly, and to impart knowledge with care.

Surekha Kothari

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The true measure of a person is dependability. You may not meet for months but the one you think of first in a crisis is a friend indeed or family. How close such people have to be to you!

Can you go beyond the SMS and the whatsapp to reach out? If someone texted asking if you needed help, your instinct would always is to refuse because if you really want to help, you would not be asking.

One has to be very honest and lip service is not honesty. At the end of the day, an offer is just that an offer. Standing at someone’s doorstep unasked, unannounced, to be of help is actual help.

An angle we need to work on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Philosophy


Isn’t it amazing how big a capacity we have to focus on petty matters, disregarding the bigger picture? We have a tendency to pick on the most unimportant matters. Mostly because it doesn’t suit us to acknowledge that we ARE able to see it but don’t want to some trivial ego issue that we build up and magnify in our heads so often.

And yet, we are the same people who spout philosophy and the meaninglessness of life during commiserations over bereavement. Next day, we are back to our old ways without a thought about that philosophy which we had discovered just yesterday. Sigh! Such are the ways of our species.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It is the nature of humans to oscillate between happiness and stress. We speak of increasing hours of happiness through external sources and resources when actually, isn’t it really a state of mind? Ah! The MIND! The monkey that jumps from tree to tree! With a super speed unmatched by anything else in the human being, to steady it is a challenge.

But the question is how to make happiness a state of mind? We try to keep away from people and situations that affect us adversely in order to get happiness. Which means, we ARE affected and are in denial? Pushing away issues under the carpet may give us a superficial impression of happiness but there are definitely unhealed issues festering within.

As we know, many of us kill the child within us at some point. Believe me, if you don’t carry the forgetting and loving innocence of that child as an adult, all you will do is live your life cloaking your real emotions, hiding hurt from the world and blaming something or someone most times and also trying to become successful so that THAT becomes your benchmark for happiness. Hmmm! Let’s not forget that THAT is an external benchmark designed to ARRIVE at happiness. Whereas, happiness is not something to be arrived at.

Actually, without the shining light of simplicity, innocence and forgiving, can there be real happiness? I have yet to see it.

Surekha Kothari

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We are free spirits but once limited to the bodies given to us, we limit ourselves in major ways. But the body is a vehicle to have a fulfilling life as well. The irony, the apparent contradiction does not sit well on many. It is like sitting in a car and driving instead of walking on your legs. It is an apparent convenience but there is a need for judiciousness and discretion apart from skill and of course, energy petrol.

Going through life needs all of the above. And when these don’t work, the body itself becomes an impediment and the sense of freedom is gone.

This is the whole point of balancing the body, mind and soul.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Mindset


Sometimes, people talk without thinking . They live in a world of mindsets. Like, a healer friend had high Blood pressure and she happened to tell another friend this. The immediate reply was , “how come, when you are a healer yourself ?” So, A healer is not perceived as a human being.

So, a musician should always be calm in the wake of all odds. An affluent person should always be on top of the world because what could be HIS worry ? He has everything.

These kinds of mindsets are so mechanical and so much of a habit that I wonder whether these people listen to themselves. Moreover, mindsets are a well which you can never emerge from if you don’t feel the need to. That’s scary.. to not feel the need. To stand still.

Worth thinking about.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Enough


How much is “enough”? Growing up, we determined its extent by the tone and body language of our parents. Even by the accent on particular letters of the word. Like, when they said, “enough!” the danger light flashed bright and we retreated to our rooms immediately. If they said, ” enough is enough now”, that was a warning signal not to stretch things too far.

We used to have to take our cues from them. There was strict discipline. Not only that, our elder siblings became unrecognizable when they donned the mantle of our parents while the parents were traveling. They turned Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde into nonfiction and a total reality.

Ah! Those were the days when even discipline did not keep us from smiling happily and basking in the love of family. Our parents were not friends as such. We had our siblings for that. But we ate together, sang and played bridge and card games together, holidayed together with our parents, every summer holiday without fail. Wherever we went, we distributed all the chores among us and it was the height of pleasure to do them amidst mischievous chatter only because we were all together.

On other holidays, it would be dormitory style living with cousins , climbing trees, plucking mangoes and tamarinds off the trees in the compound, playing hide and seek all day long with our elders running after us to get us to sit still for meals and snacks.

Rustic living but so, so beautiful and close to nature! There were no super expensive holidays to Europe and Switzerland. These were hardly any substitutes for the laughter and fun filled days, full of love and sharing. Our hearts were full, pity that this generation will never see such days. What it used to be, finding pleasure in the simple things of life.

Today, what is enough? Going to Europe and Switzerland is not enough. Having the best of cars and gadgets is not enough. Holidays with family are not enough. Being content with “enough” of everything is not “enough”. Because, what IS enough? Is your “enough” like mine or better than mine? Simpler than

Mine or more complicated than mine?

Can I say “enough” today and get away with it? Can I say, “enough is enough” and not is put into a dog house for a sizeable chunk of time?

And what IS enough? I always felt that like “good, better, best”, there ought to be categories of “enough”, too.

Like, enough, enougher and enoughest.

See! At least, you can smile. And that is enough.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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