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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

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 Very long ago, a definition was given about life in KALYUG…

  1. KALYUG would be found in the streets of ADHARMA.
  2. In DYUTKREEDA: that is, making easy money by foul play and without deserving it through hard work.
  3. PAANAM / VYASAN: poisonous consumption, addiction of liquor, drugs and in thoughts, words and deeds.
  4. Indulging in gossip
  5. Less sleep and prone to several health issues.
  6. More anger
  7. Less energy and inner happiness.
  8. More arrogance and showmanship
  9. Less purity of mind and body.
  10. Violence in all forms: thoughts, emotions and physical. Prone to enmity and opposition.

Story:

A shishya who lived in his guru’s ashram had a habit of smoking.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We seldom nurture our inner child. Since childhood, we are trained at the conscious mind level to share, to give, to do things for others. But never taught that it is equally important to love our inner child. Some children are also abused for their ways. These kids grow up to subdue or even kill their inner child because the signals they have received very early in life is that this inner child is non functional. That it is that part of the personality that is not required.

But this inner child is the core of love. A child is very loving and very spontaneous. Imagine, if this source is turned off, how this child would survive as an adult. On arid ground. Without water.

 I don’t think there is anything more detrimental than a lack of self love and the inability to get or feel that love from others. Love keeps the softness within us alive. Be sure that those who have a hardened exterior need love and frequent hugs more than others. Because they show a facade and suppress a lot. Just like those who love attention and a lot of limelight are deeply insecure.

There is no alternative but love, to love yourself, to care and have compassion for yourself first and then for others because they are fashioned in a similar way to you and have the same source of energy to draw from. And therefore, connected.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destiny


Sometimes, when there is no moon, even the tide goes into depression and ebbs away…life also ebbs away slowly, inch by inch. Ultimately, you are face to face with your God. And you both know the truth of your life. Life after life, only the Divine and your soul are players. Destiny leads always. If Jesus Christ could be crucified, what can we say of lesser beings? The world is a stage for many dramas unfolding…and the more involved you get, the more miserable life becomes. Play your character to the hilt as per your conscience. Don’t expect anyone to know or empathize with your story. After all, they are also birds of passage. What and who do you think you can hold onto?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There was a time when being friends meant telling each other what the weakness of each other was, like showing a mirror. It was a time when friends were responsible for doing the “right” thing by each other, as in, retaining the value systems of their homes and frowning at and correcting any lapses. To be a friend was an ethical and moral achievement and came with a major sense of responsibility. There were great bonds, almost an extension of family. There was leisure and simple pleasures. The psyche was molded with supreme foresight and wisdom by the “gurukul”.

A Vedic school in India is being talked about. It is a matter of great foresight on the part of the government. There can be no better way of bringing back the wonderful Indian cultural and ethical traditions than teaching them to children. People think that India will regress this way. I think India will gradually regain all its glory and spiritual supremacy which is the gateway to all other kinds of supremacy.

Most important, whichever religion we may follow, acceptance of the human way of life with all its universal principles is the key to elevating the standard of friendship, relationships and the quality of life itself.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Detachment


The greatest awareness to build up is that anything can happen anytime! Complacence is the last thing we should have, especially about our health. Someone just bends down or picks up a heavy bag and is afflicted with a slip disc issue. Another sneezes and has a retinal detachment.

Car accidents happen in a fit of anger, depression or rage…..we think it happens to other people , only until such time as , much to our shock and disbelief, it happens to us. A lesson for constant awareness of our own health first…always exercises caution!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Journey


At some point, when you have been running and running for a really long time, you have to stop and ask, “Why am I running? Has it gotten me anywhere that I really want to be?

Whether you run after things or people or your hopes or dreams, the levels of exhaustion are directly proportionate to the levels of satisfaction and success. And even then, in time this wears off too….everything has a saturation point after which it becomes kind of redundant…stops mattering in the larger scheme of things.

And if it doesn’t, then maybe there is a longer journey ahead or a different journey ahead…one thing is sure. We will continue to search even after all the worldly gains have been achieved, because there is the matter of the spirit which is still pending.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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