It is so interesting to listen to people’s conversations and observe the attitudes and emotional patterns which shine through.
Trivial and apparently casual conversations are not so ordinary because an aspect of the personality becomes evident to the onlooker.
For example, being secretive! I would prefer the word “privacy”. That has a valid connotation for me. The word “secrecy” somehow demonstrates the darker side …and above all, the kind of things that people feel the need to be secretive about surprises me.
If you are invited to someone’s home for a meal, the statement is, “I am OUT for lunch”, “OUT” being the catch word here. If you are going for a holiday with “friends”. No names mentioned! You might know them. AND feel bad you were not invited two brothers, sisters or sisters in law don’t have any desire to share friends. Too close for comfort!
WHY? All this in the name of “healthy” trends or the reverse?
Can one call this a malfunctioning of society, this opacity and this compulsion to control people and environment?
If you really analyze this, the root cause is mostly the perception of a reduction of attention and importance, or let’s say, sharing the person and risking their walk over to the other side. Or maybe, a tiny voice from within that might whisper, “Maybe, the other person will outshine me”. It is the fear of loss, a loss of many things under the apparent, superficial reason. Definitely an avoidable emotion! It just causes inner as well as outer conflict. But it is a very real issue today. Gone are the days of togetherness and large heartedness.
I know there can never be unanimity in such views. But the basic fact remains that these attitudes exhibit a deep sense of low confidence levels and self esteem. Of course, one can carry on living in this state all of one’s life. And people DO, too.
On the deeper level, these are also separatist attitudes where people are making choices of people and taking sides, sometimes being forced into taking sides, just because there are two sides…an undesirable polarization in perceptions!
Spiritual science teaches us oneness, the complete opposite.
But everything ultimately boils down to our self image. It is important to keep updating it through constant work and experience. Not be a big fish in a small pond and getting inflated but a small fish who is lively and courageous and swims along, exploring the furthest corners of the huge universal ocean so as never to be intimated by anyone or anything and taking on everything with a personality adaptable , mature and confident.
The canvas is so vast that the minds cannot afford to be small. This is a gross mismatch.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
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