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Presumptions and misunderstandings have a close relationship. If you understand something or someone, you will make assumptions on the fact that you know and understand and can therefore, predict to an extent.

But when you misunderstand, that can be based on your expectations of people, people you could sometimes be colored and prejudiced about. Actions in this case may be misunderstood and hence, incorrect presumptions made, guillotining someone who may be more innocent than guilty.

We often mete out undue injustice in this way and should train ourselves to observe rather than involve in emotional leanings that might prevent clear thinking and damage relationships. We all live and learn. To correct faulty patterns is not impossible.


Surekha Kothari

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Conflict! Such an oft used word but not examined properly. While creating conflict may be the goal once in a while, it is very often the result of thoughtless action emanating out of an imbalance of emotions originating from a colored thought.

Conflict can be deliberate. But we suffer more from our egos which dominate over our thoughts and this is what leads to improper and even unjustified action. Obviously, the result then would be conflict.

It is as simple as keeping things simple and honest. Covert actions and opacity are definite possibilities of conflict generation because they arouse suspicion and eliminate trust.

As we see nationally today, so, we also mirror within us. If the desire for conflict were to be eliminated from within each one of us, would there be conflict outside?


Surekha Kothari

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Authenticity


From the news channels and especially the constant current update on the national scenario, there is one major life lesson to learn. News is news only till a bigger one breaks. People make milestones out of molehills until untraversed mountains appear before them…

There are micro issues and then there is a whole spectrum of macro issues. At any point, when we think this is the limit, the myth explodes and something much larger is revealed.

So, sometimes, making light of situations helps and at other times, situations may have larger implications when we make light of them.

Ultimately, it is only an honest and complete scrutiny of any news establishes its authenticity and the extent of its magnitude.

Today, when surgical strikes rule every channel, we are suddenly jolted by the duplicity of the spineless opposition…and yet, we thought there can be no bigger news than our victory…amazing!

The biggest current news is that while India is finally regaining lost ground with courage, boldness and righteousness, there is a set of politicians that need to be exiled to Pakistan. Why do we tolerate them when they don’t care about the honor, safety and pride of either the army or the nation?

Surekha Kothari

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Destiny


Sometimes, when there is no moon, even the tide goes into depression and ebbs away…life also ebbs away slowly, inch by inch. Ultimately, you are face to face with your God. And you both know the truth of your life. Life after life, only the Divine and your soul are players. Destiny leads always. If Jesus Christ could be crucified, what can we say of lesser beings? The world is a stage for many dramas unfolding…and the more involved you get, the more miserable life becomes. Play your character to the hilt as per your conscience. Don’t expect anyone to know or empathize with your story. After all, they are also birds of passage. What and who do you think you can hold onto?

Surekha Kothari

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It is so interesting to listen to people’s conversations and observe the attitudes and emotional patterns which shine through.

Trivial and apparently casual conversations are not so ordinary because an aspect of the personality becomes evident to the onlooker.

For example, being secretive! I would prefer the word “privacy”. That has a valid connotation for me. The word “secrecy” somehow demonstrates the darker side …and above all, the kind of things that people feel the need to be secretive about surprises me.

If you are invited to someone’s home for a meal, the statement is, “I am OUT for lunch”, “OUT” being the catch word here. If you are going for a holiday with “friends”. No names mentioned! You might know them. AND feel bad you were not invited two brothers, sisters or sisters in law don’t have any desire to share friends. Too close for comfort!

WHY? All this in the name of “healthy” trends or the reverse?

Can one call this a malfunctioning of society, this opacity and this compulsion to control people and environment?

If you really analyze this, the root cause is mostly the perception of a reduction of attention and importance, or let’s say, sharing the person and risking their walk over to the other side. Or maybe, a tiny voice from within that might whisper, “Maybe, the other person will outshine me”. It is the fear of loss, a loss of many things under the apparent, superficial reason. Definitely an avoidable emotion! It just causes inner as well as outer conflict. But it is a very real issue today. Gone are the days of togetherness and large heartedness.

I know there can never be unanimity in such views. But the basic fact remains that these attitudes exhibit a deep sense of low confidence levels and self esteem. Of course, one can carry on living in this state all of one’s life. And people DO, too.

On the deeper level, these are also separatist attitudes where people are making choices of people and taking sides, sometimes being forced into taking sides, just because there are two sides…an undesirable polarization in perceptions!

Spiritual science teaches us oneness, the complete opposite.

But everything ultimately boils down to our self image. It is important to keep updating it through constant work and experience. Not be a big fish in a small pond and getting inflated but a small fish who is lively and courageous and swims along, exploring the furthest corners of the huge universal ocean so as never to be intimated by anyone or anything and taking on everything with a personality adaptable , mature and confident.

The canvas is so vast that the minds cannot afford to be small. This is a gross mismatch.


Surekha Kothari

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Personalities


I just had to write on the post below. I don’t think we even KNOW how much in fear we live, in the name of love. We cling on to our “near and dear” in the name of caring, sharing, unity etc. Parents claim to love children. Children claim equally to love their parents. Friends claim to love each other. But often, we see so many power games being played. The more rampant the ego, the more power play we see. Powerful or powerless? In control or controlled?

We readily compromise our personalities, our choices, swallow our tears when hurt , smile when we want to scream foul play or blue murder….haven’t we seen enough misery in “families” , in fact, in most groups? …and in the bargain, we lose ourselves trying to procure a bit of love, to feel wanted. We don’t realize we go along with the wrong, the unjust, even the callous because we want to feel good in being a part of people, and then we stop thinking. We just have to toe the line. And we do…all the time. It is easy. Exercising the right choice and thinking for ourselves may set us apart …that is scary, to say the least.

Exactly as the post says. We are so afraid of “losing” others that the fear of loneliness results in our opting to lose ourselves instead for a temporary happy feeling.

How heavy a price is this for our soul! Our journey is alone. We are like passengers on a train who meet for a while and disembark when we reach our destination. I have never seen any passenger telling another to go home with them and live and die together. Have you?

But we know of people who had a mission and who had the courage to forgo many an impediment to retrieve their inner core and energy from the people, places and events to which they had lost it. So don’t be afraid to lose people, be afraid of losing yourself.

Surekha Kothari

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The most difficult thing to do is KNOW the motives of people around you, SEE them trying to harm you and yet smile it off without getting affected. In fact, even meting out affection in return. There has to be so much confidence and faith that anything that affects you has only been your choice.

I have seen angry, even vicious people crumble under such cool attitudes. It’s also called killing with kindness.

These people are like mountains, “chattans” as they say in Hindi. Unshakeable to the core! Yes, the core! When your core is anchored to the Divine, it becomes truly irrelevant what kinds of webs of negativity might be woven around you. It is like breaking your head against a wall…you will not succeed in affecting such people.

What a wonderful and Divine gift!

Surekha Kothari

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