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Being true to ourselves! How many of us can honestly claim this about ourselves? This in current times is the singularly hardest thing to do. Because the consequences of this we humans cannot take.

We are constantly saying and doing things for the wrong reasons either to be accepted. Or not be isolated or for being popular. Could we ever have the courage to be true to ourselves? Yes, it requires lots of courage, to be different. To stand out among a group that encourages herd mentality. To face even dislike, criticism, ostracisation even, if I were to state extremities.

If I feel something, can I say it? If I am being compelled to be someone else, would I refuse? Be ABLE to refuse? Would I risk the wrath of the people who give me my identity?

Yes, it does take a large amount of courage and a large slice of confidence to go it alone, for it sometimes would mean the falling away of many who aren’t able to do the same and would therefore, not feel too good about themselves if they were in your company.

But, be true to yourself anyway.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Consistency of anything is an absolutely essential path to excellence. Like a rough diamond that is polished and polished yet again until it is perfect.

Speaking specially of god given talents, it would be a pity to just let them languish in favor of idleness or frivolous activity. Indeed, one has to devote full time to hone a talent and therein lays the problem with many… too many sacrifices of “good times”. But there can never be a substitute for the joy of reaching the heights of soul activities like music, dance, fine arts…

We only have to look at the Reality Shows to see the enormous amount of talent inherent within us. And the dedication with which these youngsters are working with parental backing. Thank the lord , parents are emerging from their narrow cocoon like minds to come out in full support of whatever it takes to see their children among the “stars”.

As one young girl proudly said of her parents…” they are my super powers”. How wonderful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Path of evolution


I really want to say a few words about our allegiance to a particular religion. Needless to say, all religions are beautiful. And I can totally accept that individuals resonate with different religions based even on past lives.

For example, if I have led a Buddhist monks life in an earlier life, there will be episodes in my life when the Buddhist chanting will come to me. This has actually happened to me. And believe me, this has happened to many of us but we have not linked the dots and have missed the experience in our state of unawareness.

So, since we have a little bit of so many lifetimes within us, how can we afford to be intolerant at all? If I remembered all my lives, I could have had many religions, right? It is a possibility. And if I hate a religion, there has to be a resonance there as well. Surely, my experience in another life has led me to be that way. I need to heal this with the knowledge that I did not know better then. I know now. And so, I don’t hate anymore.

This has to be the path of evolution we walk on in everything. What else is the purpose of our life?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You must have come across people who never look straight into your eyes and talk or, will talk with an exaggerated politeness, especially in public. They probably have some need to be connected with you but don’t necessarily like you too much. Each time you look at them, they will be looking at you with an undefined expression from the corner of their eyes and will quickly turn away when you actually catch them looking at you.

As we grow older, I guess we start observing more. As they say, who knows what feelings people are hiding under that obscure, even blank look!! We succeed in reading such aspects of people with growing awareness.

The biggest challenge is to understand where people are coming from and then getting immune to their machinations. You know what is going on behind the scenes. You are able to see it clearly but you are not going to let it affect you. Once you know and there are no obscurities that are your power and your strength to work with.

Here, too, you need courage to endorse your own path. And stay with it. “Men may come and men may go but I go on forever” kind of doggedness. Energize! Constantly energize! And immunize!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Disillusionment is an oft used word, with reference to people, work, educational standards etc. But this feeling of disillusionment only stems from your expectations. If you took everything at face value, would you still be disillusioned? 

I have often written about expectations. If you want to be free and contented, don’t make the mistake of expecting, keeping unrealistic hopes. Never fails to disappoint.

Expletives like, “I am shocked “, “how CAN they” etc…. meaningless, because they CAN and they HAVE. Really! We need to be composed under varied situations.

Don’t expect and be happy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life works very logically. When you want something, it keeps you in want. When you feel abundant, abundance comes to you. Strange? Not really.

See…we are all about memories. Unpleasant and pleasant. Negative and positive. So, when we live within those negative memories and are not happy, we feel a lack, and we cut our cord with the completeness which is the Divine. Of which we are a part. It is like saying, I am born in my family but I am not a part of it. So, I will not do what they do.

So… a lack cannot be filled up unless you recognize that you don’t have any lack actually. The Divine, your source, is complete. You CANNOT have a lack. It is only a perception.

In the second scenario, you feel abundance. Because you understand the truth about who you are and where you belong. So, nothing transient should be able to take away your abundance. However much you try and empty an ocean with a cup, you can’t. It will always be complete. And when you don’t react to the world, you live in a perpetual state of abundance.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life Journey


Whenever we judge people, we are indirectly telling ourselves that we are better than them. The truth is, if your mind is open and your intention is learning and growing, evolving to higher levels, you will find you can learn something from everyone.

But when the mind is not clear, we choose that we won’t mind learning from someone we like but not from someone we dislike. We grudge the latter their wisdom, their maturity. Very childish on our part. Because ultimately, WE lose out, not them. Like cutting our nose to spite our face kind of situation.

The problems in the world today arise somewhat from such polluted attitudes. We forget that we are travelling in a moving train where we will have to get off one day. We forget that the actual day of judgment is not when our ego judges someone but when WE are judged after our life.

I am amazed at what I see each day. You start with a shock, and then shock after shock at the way humans behave with each other and often due to small or not so small misunderstandings. Sometimes, rigidities. Often due to insecurities. Or, sometimes, it is just a huge ego and so on, until one day, it results in shock no more.

THAT is the day when your journey of detachment begins. The sooner, the better because attachment can make you so vulnerable that it has the power to kill, at least to make you physically very ill.

 Dying of heartbreak and hurt is not something you want to do. So, let every experience make you mentally and spiritually stronger every day. As they say, you can either swim or sink.

This is for all those people who love too much and unconditionally. If you do, do it as an act of God. And practice this: “Forgive them, Lord, for they know not what they do”, cleanse your mind and move on. No one is going to be with you all the time. A gentle reminder! Your journey is alone, my friends.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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