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Keep the pollution away. And I don’t mean only environmental pollution. That is an obvious fact. There are other forms. For example, what a polluted mind can do is not apparent even when our own mind does it. We should be so much aware, actually, that even if a polluted thought enters your mind, you ask for forgiveness immediately. Excessive? Not at all!

You will notice that we all have formulated very “artful” ways of overlooking the pollution in our minds. Take humor. One always knew of laughter being the best medicine, as avid Readers’ Digest readers believed laughter to be. But how much dislike and aversion can humor be laced with is something we all have seen many a time. Right? In fact, every night, at bedtime, if you recap every detailed thought, word and deed honestly to yourself, some pollution will be visible. Some negative thought about something, someone…even you. (You are equally important, if not more). Or, some emotions that lashed out uncontrollably because someone else was at fault and “did that to you”…when you know that no one can do anything to you unless you permit it…and some acts also that we try to palm off on some incident or people , acts that we are not really proud of.

One way to reduce this pollution is to keep the mind outside of you. Examine it minutely and see what thinks is and what it says to you. And take the positive in and keep the rest out. With a little practice, you will see a difference. Once you know you can do this successfully, you will want to do this exercise again and again like a child because you will start feeling so good about yourself that you will never want to regress to that pollution stage again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Understanding people! How often do we actually understand what is going on in the lives of people? Or, even attempt to ? Most of the time, we end up reacting to every look, every word….every gesture…

When we are in public, we expect a certain kind of behavior from people. But we forget, as we don our masks, others do, too. But a mask is a mask after all. It can slip with an unexpected trigger. And when the facade drops momentarily and the hurt and pain are revealed, we never stop to think of the reasons why that person may have accidently become transparent. Instead, we react immediately.

Understanding people is nothing short of personal healing. When you attribute a genuine reason to a person’s slipped mask, you will feel a sense of well being for yourself for having been compassionate. For having gone into the depth of a person’s psyche to recognize the soul within. What can be more elevating?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Banking and karma are very similar. You open an account. You make certain investments, including FDs. Sometimes, when investments are bad ones, they give you losses. And good ones, dividends.

Once our karma account is opened, we should try to make good investments. Otherwise, we will find our account of good karma depleting very fast and then we are left with very little balance.

There is always a tussle between the need to create good karma and the blocks we create with our ego. We need to work on understanding this big time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Surviving without our loved ones is so difficult! The loss creates a permanent void. You live. You work from day to day…you lead a so called “normal” life. But every now and then, your heart becomes heavy and you feel like you are someone else. You feel as if a limb has been cut off and you are trying to compensate for the huge handicap….

Such is attachment. Such is love. Sermonizing about detachment is wisdom. But being human has its limitations. You cannot detach your emotions from the memory of your loved ones completely…at least most of us cannot.

It is the first death anniversary of someone I love unconditionally and miss very much. God bless all those who love with all of their being, for such a loss is indescribable and irreparable.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ….a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while…it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Valuing


Valuing those around you! Very important! Appreciating is a form of valuing someone. It speaks of our own confidence, generosity and openness of the heart chakra. Culturally, we see groups who are very insecure and more envious of others than appreciative. The psychology is, “I am not going to give him or her satisfaction of feeling important.” Here, we can totally see the high levels of low self esteem working.

Friends, examine your thoughts and understand that if you are feeling threatened enough by someone, you will unconsciously or deliberately react negatively with that person.

 In our journey of evolution, we have to watch ourselves very carefully and work towards regaining the realization of our true selves so that we can accept that others, too, are as unique as us and their uniqueness does not take away anything from ours…ever!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Detachment


The greatest awareness to build up is that anything can happen anytime! Complacence is the last thing we should have, especially about our health. Someone just bends down or picks up a heavy bag and is afflicted with a slip disc issue. Another sneezes and has a retinal detachment.

Car accidents happen in a fit of anger, depression or rage…..we think it happens to other people , only until such time as , much to our shock and disbelief, it happens to us. A lesson for constant awareness of our own health first…always exercises caution!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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