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Attitude


Someone asked me, why is there so much turbulence in life ? I thought .. hmmm.. Do we call it turbulence due to our responses to the unfolding of our karma ? Our perspective ? I always wonder ! Because i see some people calm in the face of storms while some get blown away.

A matter of attitude ? Maybe, a very strong core , an unshakeable faith in the Divine ? Maybe, an internalisation of the ultimate truth after which life becomes like a child’s play. So easy and so breezy !

… and much turbulence in the absence of some or all of the above ?

In any case, turbulence was never the desired intention ever for anyone. Yet, it was allowed by each one of us … as , who else is within us but we ourselves ?

Surekha Kothari

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Even if I say so myself, our generation was taught well and specially in terms of consideration for one to be aware of our space and act circumspectly and respect the space of others. We also knew things like, you queue up on the left and let people move forward from the right. We never had cell phones back then but we knew that we were supposed to give way to the elders.

Today, just forget all this. Even airports and stations have become like parks. Not to mention malls huge crowds, some loitering while talking merrily on cell phones, oblivious of the fact that they are blocking people behind them. Escalators have become a plaything, to run up and down like kids, never mind who you can knock down in the bargain.

Of course, there IS nothing like queues for some. Cutting through J walkers has become the single most frustrating exercise in malls, stations and sometimes, at airports too.

There is NO consideration in people for anyone other than themselves. Naturally, there is a resulting chaos, conflict and much anger everywhere. Minds are frayed not only at the edges but from all sides.

Quantity over quality is an accepted situation. If you haven’t accepted this yet, you are in for depression and high blood pressure.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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What is the nature of happiness? Someone called it an idea the other day and I was intrigued. It was quite a thought. Is it merely an idea then? So, does one make a difference between being happy and feeling happy? Are they the same thing or not?

If happiness is an idea, then it disappears if and when the idea disappears. If I feel happy, feelings can be transient and that status can therefore, change anytime.

Being happy seems to be a longer lasting concept. The “being” happy is a state of being that is not dependent on external factors. You just ARE happy. No one and nothing was responsible for that state of happiness. Evidently then, it comes from within. And that is the coveted state which all humans search for but in the wrong way.

If happiness were on sale, people would buy it in a heartbeat. But if they were offered just being happy, for no reason, the price would be too heavy to pay because it requires some difficult measures that might spill over to many lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Reinventing you frequently! Life doles out all kinds of experiences. If we get stuck like the pin on the record, life becomes difficult and often, unbearable. I always ask my clients why they would compromise on a quality of life that is in their hands completely. You don’t necessarily have to cry your way through life Regrets, Bitterness and Lost opportunities. These are huge for sure. But having said that, what next?

I feel we want to vent and get sympathy but are not prepared to make changes, yes, and often drastic ones. Venting makes you feel better probably but nothing changes.

Examining established patterns is the first step towards changing them. Dragging behind those that don’t work is not a mark of intelligence.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Letting go is the only way to spiritual upliftment that is, if one is looking for it, letting go of any sentiments of attachment which become bondage. People generally misunderstand this as letting go of caring and compassion. Anything that ties you down is not really healthy either a relationship or a city or people who depend on your energy to feel good.

This awareness is extremely important. When the weaker ones feed on your energy, it debilitates you. And you become ineffective for your own forward movement and are also unable to help others in the bargain.

This is likely to happen when, in a relationship, one move on and the other needs to hang on. The auras don’t match and there is an issue, a conflict of sorts. We live day to day with many such situations but don’t know how to read these situations correctly; In terms of the changing equations of energies. Once we know what is happening, we will be able to take proactive steps to prevent reoccurrences of such episodes in our lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Probability


Sometimes, we reach a deadlock within ourselves. Which way to go? What to do? These are times when probably we don’t want to do a trade off to make choice. We want it all.

I think it would be great at such times, as someone said, to write a letter to your future self. Great idea! To visualize your future self and then make choices, how do I want to be in future? What kind of a person? Accordingly, you make your decisions today. There is less probability of going wrong. And we will learn to take corrective measures more easily.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Universal energy


Sometimes, we get disappointed with people who present a pleasant exterior most times. It is probably true of everyone at one time or another.

You are suddenly and often taken unawares by the outbursts of the actual fires burning inside someone.

One if the greatest frustrations within people are the eagerness to win in life … all the time. Whether in gambling or in a word slinging match, people have a deep craving to win. This burning can eat away your insides if you are not careful.

We really need an inner fire extinguisher for the sake of our mental and emotional health or we can get into deep trouble.

Some rules to douse fires:

  1. Never misunderstand when you can understand.
  2. There will always be someone more successful and someone less successful than you. Learn to be content.
  3. You can never go wrong if you follow some basic but important values that you were taught, growing up.
  4. Earn respect for yourself in your own eyes first.
  5. Love is a universal energy which we need to share much more than we do.
  6. Clean up your own mess first.
  7. Forgive yourself and then others.
  8. Be simple
  9. Let your own choices dictate your life
  10. Live life as if you own it all but passes on as if nothing was ever yours.

Cheers!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Divine spirit


Every night, you acknowledge that the Divine spirit guides and protects your life. You also say a prayer in gratitude, for health, safety, love and support given by the universe. When things go right, we forget that they need not have time for gratitude.

Many a time, we have a close shave, a near mishap on the road. But we are safe time for gratitude.

So many similar situations have come into our lives as potential dangers, but, only potential time for gratitude.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Philosophy


Isn’t it amazing how big a capacity we have to focus on petty matters, disregarding the bigger picture? We have a tendency to pick on the most unimportant matters. Mostly because it doesn’t suit us to acknowledge that we ARE able to see it but don’t want to some trivial ego issue that we build up and magnify in our heads so often.

And yet, we are the same people who spout philosophy and the meaninglessness of life during commiserations over bereavement. Next day, we are back to our old ways without a thought about that philosophy which we had discovered just yesterday. Sigh! Such are the ways of our species.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Contagious


The word “contagious” has been coming to mind often. A smile is obviously contagious. But then, a viral is also contagious. Is contagiousness an automatic response? Someone smiles at you and you automatically smile back.

But sadly, generosity is not. Charity is not. Kindness and compassion are not. Love , the divine energy, is always in short supply.

I would like to say that hatred and envy are not. But when I see the cut throats society today, I can’t help feeling that somewhere, some lethal virals like merciless pursuits of power and money became contagious and brought the ethical and moral values down, thus bringing society down. When we started living for ourselves, we forgot to be connected and so, did not respond to external stimuli. And without that, where is the question of anything being contagious ? We don’t possess the band width for it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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