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And the Lord said, “Forgive them, Lord, for they know not what they do”. Forgiveness is the biggest tool in life. Every human being needs it big time. The value of this healing tool can be realized only with the development of a spiritual mind and spiritual study. Human beings tend to get very caught up in ego based conflicts, whether within family or outside, because they lack the basic knowledge of soul connections from other lives.

Our texts speak of unconditional love as the only way to live. With all. But this was a principle of satyug. In kaliyug, we look for saccharine instead of sugar, an attractive exterior instead of a beautiful soul, superficiality instead of feeling each others’ pain, and a lot more. But as in everything in life, there is a positive aspect. You adjust and adjust and adjust with your pain and hurt until acceptance sets in. Spiritualists can achieve this without going under permanently. Others are scarred for life.

And the irony is, none of this is real and all we are doing is playing the roles we are given. There is never any permanent damage but for our ego. It’s like hating a very likeable person just because he plays the role of a villain in a drama.

I know there are always reactions to life, events and people because everyone thinks differently. Everyone IS different and can only play their own roles even if we expect that they should change the script for our sake. They cannot because that is the way they were meant to be. Otherwise how would WE experience OUR Karma?

And it is we who cause ourselves much damage by reacting badly and then holding on to our self inflicted wounds. Those who hold on can only pretend to move on. They may be masters of pretensions and fool everyone. But what about the soul within that knows the truth?

From every angle, we see a different truth sometimes. Because we can only look at things our way and according to our level of understanding. That’s why we speak of putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes. Which is very difficult unless you are very mature and truly spiritual, and realize that no one is perfect and everyone has ups and downs which affect all the members of a family or group.

Therefore, forgiveness and understanding are the greatest tools we have and should exercise instead of conflict, criticism and diluting connections of the heart.

People often tell me that they forgive but cannot forget. And I see nothing wrong. If you have a good memory, you will remember. The acid test is , does your memory have an emotional charge ? If so, then you have not forgiven. And your karma with that soul or those souls is not yet neutralized.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Showing our vulnerable chinks is often against our defense mechanism. It is not such a bad thing to be simple in emotions if they are honest. Somehow, we feel we have to hide emotions because it is looked upon as a sign of weakness. Actually, it can be a very refreshing quality in people.

It is a very human quality, for example, to cry when talking about a sad occurrence…

I think we expend such emotions a lot while watching movies also, but start wiping our eyes and break into teary smiles just before the lights come on.

An honest emotion can be relieving and cleansing rather than a put on one. Because we fool ourselves with the latter, not cleanse.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 Very long ago, a definition was given about life in KALYUG…

  1. KALYUG would be found in the streets of ADHARMA.
  2. In DYUTKREEDA: that is, making easy money by foul play and without deserving it through hard work.
  3. PAANAM / VYASAN: poisonous consumption, addiction of liquor, drugs and in thoughts, words and deeds.
  4. Indulging in gossip
  5. Less sleep and prone to several health issues.
  6. More anger
  7. Less energy and inner happiness.
  8. More arrogance and showmanship
  9. Less purity of mind and body.
  10. Violence in all forms: thoughts, emotions and physical. Prone to enmity and opposition.

Story:

A shishya who lived in his guru’s ashram had a habit of smoking.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was listening to an interview on criticism and being a critic. It is amazing that we never think of it as energy exchange. But it is.

When you criticize someone, you cause pain. But in doing so, you also go through pain. In fact, if you criticize with negative energy, it causes you more harm because the energy is deliberately emitted. The receiver can deal with this kind of energy in three ways.

  1. Either take it in, absorb and feel the pain.
  2. See that energy coming at you and return it. Someone criticizes you. You criticize them back. But the negative vibrations stay.
  3. Transform that energy. Understand that the person has negative vibrations and that you need not harm yourself by taking it in. This way, with understanding, you have transformed the negative energy.

I don’t think there can be any contest in which one a clear intellect would choose. But is it that simple? It can be, though.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A beautiful story with a message. There was once a clever businessman who, while crossing a river, fell in. Not knowing how to swim, he started shouting for help. A traveller who was walking along the bridge thought he would help him. So, he bent down and extended his hand, saying “give me your hand”.

The drowning man said, “No, I won’t give you my hand”. The man who was trying to save him understood that he has never developed a habit of giving. So, he told him, “can you at least HOLD my hand?” the man said, “yes”, and was pulled to safety.

If we look at the attitude of both, we understand how important it is to give.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Acceptability (or lack of it) is at the root of many issues. I don’t know why we are unable to recognize the fact that we are all different in many ways but that does not matter. In fact, it is so interesting. Imagine if all of us were clones of each other! We would not need mirrors for one.

But jokes apart, why do we feel insecure if the people around us are so different from us? What is the psychology? So many sects have been formed around a few and so much intolerance has seeped into society. So many religions are at war, simply because each one claims to be THE road to Nirvana.

The saga of “I” and “mine” as superior to all others. “I” believe. So, all else is meaningless, is the attitude.

All this is the whole story. In the vast canvas of the Universe, the individual is so miniscule. But, the ego identity encompasses the whole Universe. And this is the major reason why we are unable to give the right to someone to be different. We expect to be accepted. But are unable to accept another because they are different. High time we dropped our double standards.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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