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With most people, I see a struggle in the understanding of the “forgive and forget” principle. First, it seems hard, even impossible to forgive someone who has hurt you. Second, there seems to be an issue about erasing those memories. Somewhere within, when we are broken, we suffer and automatically, the grouse is with the person who caused the grief, the pain. Naturally, no one wants pain.

But it is equally true that without pain, growth is a distant dream. If we did not know what the opposite of light is, we would not recognize light. A vision impaired has no way of seeing day and night. Similarly, symbolically, despite having eyes, we either can’t, don’t or refuse to “see”. But we need to see. To see what the truth is about why the pain.

See what? The root cause of the pain. Our pain is due to our own inability to tolerate the darkness in others. And that is natural because, basically, we are beings of light. But that darkness is not only in others but reflected within us, too. And when this happens, the cognizance of this inner darkness decreases our tolerance levels of ourselves. That gets reflected in the opposite person. And the pain keeps adding on.

Imagine, if we refused to take the pain within us. What would happen? It would bounce off you and be returned to the sender. But we don’t know how to do that. Or, the little devil sitting inside, the ego, won’t let us. So, we deliberately start taking hurtful actions in retaliation. Any escalation takes two people. Like you need two hands to clap. You can choose not to clap.

So, pain is a choice we make. The pain of rejection, hate, jealousy, revenge, injustice, betrayal, cruelty etc. These are powerful energies and, when directed towards anyone, would take a very strong person to deflect them…a person who makes a conscious choice to remain untouched by these energies.

I cannot express in words how elevating this exercise can be and how beautifully energizing.

Even if one does not want to go deep into this, a simple thumb rule to follow is to block negative energy by giving it a positive connotation. And find it in your heart to feel sad for those who are still living in the low vibration field. You will see then it becomes easier to forgive. You will also decide that such memories are also not worth keeping.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Right from the time of birth, we are changing constantly. As children, we listen to parents. When we become a little older, going to school is the first big adjustment. Freedom comes along. Exposure comes along. And with every influence, within the family first and later, the outside influence, changes a human being constantly. There are paradigm shifts in belief systems, styles of living etc.

A fusion of many types of cultures, thinking patterns sometimes confuse, sometimes help in clearing the mind.

In this process, some become better and evolved while some become bitter and disillusioned with life.

Belief systems, unless we have an open mind, tend to make for a certain rigidity which can become our worst enemy, like stagnant water which breeds diseases. Rigid belief systems are often like a disease. They block out the light of each new day.

The catch word is “change”, whether the ability or the inability to do so. On this depends the transformation into betterment or bitterness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Showing our vulnerable chinks is often against our defense mechanism. It is not such a bad thing to be simple in emotions if they are honest. Somehow, we feel we have to hide emotions because it is looked upon as a sign of weakness. Actually, it can be a very refreshing quality in people.

It is a very human quality, for example, to cry when talking about a sad occurrence…

I think we expend such emotions a lot while watching movies also, but start wiping our eyes and break into teary smiles just before the lights come on.

An honest emotion can be relieving and cleansing rather than a put on one. Because we fool ourselves with the latter, not cleanse.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If you have the blessings and teachings of a Satguru, you are indeed blessed. My guru who is staying with us for a few days is one who lights my path and shows me a direction that is so illuminating and enlightening that I feel very lucky to have met him on the path that he walks.

For the non believers and for those who live mostly within the external framework of this world, I can only say, once you receive and experience the nectar of spiritual wisdom, your transformation will not find adequate words which will succeed in describing that experience.

Of course, we need to work in our external environment, too, while on this earth. What we end up doing is working more here and less within our inner world. Symbolically, the stories of our gods and goddesses also show us the path of balance between these two aspects of us.

So, you see different aspects of Krishna: as a householder, warrior, loyal friend and a “paramatma” at the same time. There are messages at every step for us if we can decode them, of being multi faceted and being aware of our alignment with the collective consciousness. The journey is very exciting, with a new lesson through a new perspective of an already learnt lesson or new knowledge, acquired this moment , illuminating every minute of our lives…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destiny


Sometimes, when there is no moon, even the tide goes into depression and ebbs away…life also ebbs away slowly, inch by inch. Ultimately, you are face to face with your God. And you both know the truth of your life. Life after life, only the Divine and your soul are players. Destiny leads always. If Jesus Christ could be crucified, what can we say of lesser beings? The world is a stage for many dramas unfolding…and the more involved you get, the more miserable life becomes. Play your character to the hilt as per your conscience. Don’t expect anyone to know or empathize with your story. After all, they are also birds of passage. What and who do you think you can hold onto?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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