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Chance


There is a great happiness that lies in our hearts and which springs forth from our hearts when there is harmony within and without. The laughter of friends, the gushing of a waterfall, the drenching in the rain together, bus journeys playing “Antakshari” amidst much merriment… and even in the silent companionship.

Life can be beautiful if you give it a chance.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It is common sense that the boat on the river must ensure that it crosses without developing a leak or allowing the water to enter it. No one in their right minds would deliberately sink it while in it.

But when it comes to humans, we do tend to get destructive enough to forget our own self preservation.

Housing every minor or major negativity makes that one hole in the boat each time. Either we fail to see it happen or we are confident that the little damage is not going to make a dent in our journey. And consequently, hole after hole is made. We often laugh at the one that cautions us. And carry on in the same vein. The slant of the boat is gradual and the tipping point come suddenly and without warning.

We haven’t had enough awareness or wisdom to understand when to stop and plug the leaks. This realization, if it is timely, is enough to begin the plugging process and of course, with humility and intelligent wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Melancholy and loneliness are eternal partners. The former tends to alienate you from others because no one wants an extra share. Most of the people I know have that area within that they battle with. But melancholy people cannot be jolly and laughing either. So, they stand alone. From this situation arises a void, loneliness. Your heart may go out to them but their company can be exhausting.

Such is the situation in families and society today. That tolerance is unavailable. Any amount of mental illnesses is available for the asking.

Circumstantially, if life pushes you into isolation, options can still be found. Either you can get lost in your feeling lonely and unwanted or you can concentrate on learning and creating a new life. Melancholy and depression are hardly ways to live a beautiful if tough life. Giving in and giving up need to be replaced by “I can and I will”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The purest of emotions in the world today is good will. Where people live more within their dark side, to have good will and be happy for someone else is amazing. When you hear people in conversation, the most common topic is about people running down people and hating the success of others. Why?

A lack of contentment mostly, with one’s own lot. An inability to run through the chapters of the book of life of others, failing to remember their dark days and envying their bright spots. Very sad! And that’s probably why it is so refreshing to find those odd ones who really prop you up and don’t grudge you a little happiness. In fact, they share it.

May the tribe of such people increase!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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With most people, I see a struggle in the understanding of the “forgive and forget” principle. First, it seems hard, even impossible to forgive someone who has hurt you. Second, there seems to be an issue about erasing those memories. Somewhere within, when we are broken, we suffer and automatically, the grouse is with the person who caused the grief, the pain. Naturally, no one wants pain.

But it is equally true that without pain, growth is a distant dream. If we did not know what the opposite of light is, we would not recognize light. A vision impaired has no way of seeing day and night. Similarly, symbolically, despite having eyes, we either can’t, don’t or refuse to “see”. But we need to see. To see what the truth is about why the pain.

See what? The root cause of the pain. Our pain is due to our own inability to tolerate the darkness in others. And that is natural because, basically, we are beings of light. But that darkness is not only in others but reflected within us, too. And when this happens, the cognizance of this inner darkness decreases our tolerance levels of ourselves. That gets reflected in the opposite person. And the pain keeps adding on.

Imagine, if we refused to take the pain within us. What would happen? It would bounce off you and be returned to the sender. But we don’t know how to do that. Or, the little devil sitting inside, the ego, won’t let us. So, we deliberately start taking hurtful actions in retaliation. Any escalation takes two people. Like you need two hands to clap. You can choose not to clap.

So, pain is a choice we make. The pain of rejection, hate, jealousy, revenge, injustice, betrayal, cruelty etc. These are powerful energies and, when directed towards anyone, would take a very strong person to deflect them…a person who makes a conscious choice to remain untouched by these energies.

I cannot express in words how elevating this exercise can be and how beautifully energizing.

Even if one does not want to go deep into this, a simple thumb rule to follow is to block negative energy by giving it a positive connotation. And find it in your heart to feel sad for those who are still living in the low vibration field. You will see then it becomes easier to forgive. You will also decide that such memories are also not worth keeping.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Right from the time of birth, we are changing constantly. As children, we listen to parents. When we become a little older, going to school is the first big adjustment. Freedom comes along. Exposure comes along. And with every influence, within the family first and later, the outside influence, changes a human being constantly. There are paradigm shifts in belief systems, styles of living etc.

A fusion of many types of cultures, thinking patterns sometimes confuse, sometimes help in clearing the mind.

In this process, some become better and evolved while some become bitter and disillusioned with life.

Belief systems, unless we have an open mind, tend to make for a certain rigidity which can become our worst enemy, like stagnant water which breeds diseases. Rigid belief systems are often like a disease. They block out the light of each new day.

The catch word is “change”, whether the ability or the inability to do so. On this depends the transformation into betterment or bitterness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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