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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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 Sympathy and empathy! We tend to use these as synonyms very often. But there is a meaningful qualitative difference. You will notice that when people want sympathy, they will tell you about the issues in their life again and again. Once you give that sympathy, they tend to hold on to you . They come to rely on you because that sympathy makes them feel good. And soon, you find out that you have become a crutch for them. So, although you started off well, was the ultimate result that great?

On the flip side is empathy. Here, too, you support people, listen to them, advice them as best as possible like you are in their shoes …so, what is the difference, really? The difference is that after doing all this, you will ensure that your advice will make them take responsibility and hence, make them independent of you….that the next time; they can manage themselves without looking for a crutch in you. This would be an act of benevolence on your part and also a spiritual act.

So, which is better?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Showing our vulnerable chinks is often against our defense mechanism. It is not such a bad thing to be simple in emotions if they are honest. Somehow, we feel we have to hide emotions because it is looked upon as a sign of weakness. Actually, it can be a very refreshing quality in people.

It is a very human quality, for example, to cry when talking about a sad occurrence…

I think we expend such emotions a lot while watching movies also, but start wiping our eyes and break into teary smiles just before the lights come on.

An honest emotion can be relieving and cleansing rather than a put on one. Because we fool ourselves with the latter, not cleanse.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If you have the blessings and teachings of a Satguru, you are indeed blessed. My guru who is staying with us for a few days is one who lights my path and shows me a direction that is so illuminating and enlightening that I feel very lucky to have met him on the path that he walks.

For the non believers and for those who live mostly within the external framework of this world, I can only say, once you receive and experience the nectar of spiritual wisdom, your transformation will not find adequate words which will succeed in describing that experience.

Of course, we need to work in our external environment, too, while on this earth. What we end up doing is working more here and less within our inner world. Symbolically, the stories of our gods and goddesses also show us the path of balance between these two aspects of us.

So, you see different aspects of Krishna: as a householder, warrior, loyal friend and a “paramatma” at the same time. There are messages at every step for us if we can decode them, of being multi faceted and being aware of our alignment with the collective consciousness. The journey is very exciting, with a new lesson through a new perspective of an already learnt lesson or new knowledge, acquired this moment , illuminating every minute of our lives…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destiny


Sometimes, when there is no moon, even the tide goes into depression and ebbs away…life also ebbs away slowly, inch by inch. Ultimately, you are face to face with your God. And you both know the truth of your life. Life after life, only the Divine and your soul are players. Destiny leads always. If Jesus Christ could be crucified, what can we say of lesser beings? The world is a stage for many dramas unfolding…and the more involved you get, the more miserable life becomes. Play your character to the hilt as per your conscience. Don’t expect anyone to know or empathize with your story. After all, they are also birds of passage. What and who do you think you can hold onto?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Valuing


Valuing those around you! Very important! Appreciating is a form of valuing someone. It speaks of our own confidence, generosity and openness of the heart chakra. Culturally, we see groups who are very insecure and more envious of others than appreciative. The psychology is, “I am not going to give him or her satisfaction of feeling important.” Here, we can totally see the high levels of low self esteem working.

Friends, examine your thoughts and understand that if you are feeling threatened enough by someone, you will unconsciously or deliberately react negatively with that person.

 In our journey of evolution, we have to watch ourselves very carefully and work towards regaining the realization of our true selves so that we can accept that others, too, are as unique as us and their uniqueness does not take away anything from ours…ever!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked me a question on my blog “How do we learn our lessons?” A very good question, because we don’t often know what we need to learn, where to start.

Basically, we can learn either from other people’s mistakes or from our own. But again, what to learn either ways?

Sage Patanjali advocates the understanding of five human afflictions to start off the process of the right knowledge to apply to our learning.

  1. Avidya (ignorance). To obtain knowledge of our soul, our purpose, what hinders growth? This requires a realistic introspection. Avidya is believing we know when we don’t at all, or partially. About anything. We all know that when we think we know, there is always more to know.

  2. Asmita (ego, the “I” identity) which colors our mind and intellect, and hence, our understanding because it dominates, colors our perceptions and hence, creates an imbalance in the mind.

  3. Raga (attachment). It creates dualities of “mine” and “yours”, conflicting with the universal law of connectivity and of a universal consciousness.

  4. Dvesh (hatred). The opposite of attachment is shunning due to hatred, dislike. Also an imbalance because it has no place in the evolution of man.

  5. Abhinivesha (fear of death). This happens due to all the four mentioned above. We are attached to our physical bodies and to those of others. We are attached to our egos which is misleading us from the truth. The positives and negatives create an illusion of loss and gain, and we hold on to the world and our physical, emotional and mental reality as we know it. Actually, we need to let go and flow smoothly.

So, we must start working on our own cleansing of coloration through conditioning and imbibing wrong knowledge along the way. And then, with a new awareness, we will understand what we could have done better earlier and what we can do in the present and future for our journey and our evolution.

 

 

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