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A most profound truth we live within the prison of our own making Our thoughts about ourselves, about others, our lives, our emotions, our conflicts, fears, comparisons, attachments, dissatisfactions and more.

How often do we feel a sense of liberation? Hardly ever! There is always some pre occupation which might turn out to be meaningless and completely unimportant in time, but at that time, occupies a large chunk of the mind. And we don’t know how to free ourselves from it, and similar situations.

Actually, it is we who hold on to what we think is holding onto us. The biggest illusion we suffer from. And hence, we fail to destroy the illusory prison walls when there are open doors and illumination all around us. How long will it take?

Surekha Kothari

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An open and educated mind thinks beyond personal desires and looks at the various angles of its actions the options available as also the different consequences that might arise. There are a number of people who seem to be living in a bubble, in an alternate world , beyond objective reality and these are , for sure, more prone to shock waves from life . Why ? Because they never figured out that what they wanted might not actually happen and something else might happen. They never thought of alternative and god forbid there could be a heavy price to pay.

We forget that the unseen hand of God strikes hard sometimes when you are oblivious to everything other than yourself. Definitely, there is merit in observing certain good principles in life and support those who are an integral part of your life. Who YOU chose to bring into your life and out of all options, know that compassion goes hand in hand with support and that we all have feet of clay without exceptions.

We may be born with a silver or even golden spoon in our mouths. But humility before our karmic experiences along with understanding where we are straying will go a long way in.

Surekha Kothari

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Determination


Everywhere, you hear people lamenting about how goodness does not pay. What do we aspire for in return for it? What payment? It is strange that we have to be calculating here as well. I always thought it had everything to do with qualities like caring, wanting the best for someone, protecting someone, looking out for someone etc.

Well, as people close to me say, I live in an alternate world and am completely clueless about where the world is today. Not quite! It is one thing to know where it is and another to agree with everything it stands for.

Even today, respect is earned with the same old “obsolete” values. More so, because a majority is moving away from them that their value is ever increasing.

Yes, they are considered to be outdated because it is too much work for the rapid climbers today. Yet, when we see someone way above in ethics, in moral code of conduct, the discerning among us must realize it as a tough call requiring a lot of faith in oneself and the determination to go it alone if one has to, to respect oneself first before others respect you. Absolutely commendable!

Of course, those who have travelled a long way, away from home, are kind of lost and don’t want to be told this. And so, they have to find their way back to their core. Until then, the way out is waiting and praying.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Learning is directly proportional to your awareness that you NEED to learn to develop other parts of your personality. This awareness makes you come under the “smart” category. You can learn from anyone and anything if you want to. Yes, some of us like to make our own mistakes and learn and don’t want to be advised. But the last categories are the ones who come into the category of the ignorant. Once you feel you have all the answers, there is no learning or growth thereafter.

Who has all the answers? What it is, is an attitude of defiance, an element of ego that refuses to stand corrected an arrogance which stunts any possibility of illumination.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I notice in others and myself that we all seem to be a little different when we are out of our daily routines , for example when we travel to other cities, as compared to the places we reside in. Somehow, more relaxed but naturally, we do have less responsibilities than in our own homes and offices. I see friends wanting a change every so often. And they run away.

This does make me wonder whether we, as humans, with a natural tendency to be free, to feel free, are unable to sustain that inner spirit of equilibrium and an equanimous state of being. Which means our responses to external stimuli change with both people and places? Which again means, we get affected and that’s not such a good thing because we are not in our control.

This means there is a lot of work to be done. Life is an eternal project in motion. It stops or slows down here and there. And when it does, we need to kick start it again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The world is going haywire in search of happiness. Yes, the most elusive goal anyone can have. I am wondering now, is it a realistic goal ? We know that we live in a black and white world. A world therefore, of dualities. The most practical way to live then is to build up a strong coping mechanism for what life unfolds before us. The moral strength and courage to assimilate all experiences . And if this ends up in the feeling of happiness, that would be super and a definite bonus. Can only happiness be a goal then ? In our Puranik tales, we have seen even sages and kings getting angry . Who is considered ” happy” ? The tic, the famous, the educated, the lazy, the restless, the businessman, the home makers, movie stars , professionals, the married, the unmarried ????

In pursuit of happiness, we have to deal with day to day challenges and that is our reality. So, actually, ” don’t worry, be happy” seems to be a bit of a mindless saying. Are we actually forgetting to live in the quest for happiness ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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When you develop an understanding of people and can muster up a kind of X-ray vision into their thoughts and predictable reactions or responses, life becomes very interesting . More than that, you begin to see it all as if you were watching a movie. You know what is going on and what is coming next.

What I discovered about this is that it kind of stops affecting your life after a while. You tend to get a little detached from what is unfolding before you.

I have stopped asking myself, “ what if ? Could I have ? Should I have ? “ etc etc. Because I can’t avoid the outcome. I think I could have done it this way or that way. But could I really have ?

So, getting immune is the best way to go.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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How beautifully we humans have been created. Every part has a role , never mind that we are so clever we abuse it again and again.

We have two ears , one to listen and one to remove the filth we hear very often. Same with our mind. Thoughts should come and go. But what happens is the opposite. They stay and then starts a reaction and this habit lasts lifelong very often. The eyes , the windows of the soul, become myopic because they can’t see clearly into the soul. The senses, which are given to us to experience all facets of life choose to act jointly with the ego and destroy the feeling of joy. Just to describe a few.

So, we are our own worst enemies in every way. All the academic excellence is on one side and life on the other. I can’t see negative emotions ever as a wise choice if it feeds the ego. If we go through life without learning the useful lessons, we could certainly end up being truly scholastic but still without the experience that makes the actual difference.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, when you think deeply about the theory of karma, it seems to clash with the theory that the universe is turning in its own way and by its own rules. And everything is like pieces in a kaleidoscope. Each time you move it, the pieces form a brilliant new design, very attractive and beautiful to look at. Some look at the shapes, some at the colors but the whole design is very pleasing.

Life is just like that but for many, it becomes dull, colorless, boring, depressing etc. There is no doubt that if life moves like that, then we are the ones who don’t see the colors. Our vision is defective. We may call it a karmic defect, for past memories cloud the capacity for clear vision.

But who sees or does not see? NOT the body. Not the soul. It is our thoughts, emotions and ego. We are “chidananda roop, shivoham Shivoham.”

So, if there is no thought, there is no emotion and no desire, therefore no ego. That’s when the kaleidoscope makes absolute sense.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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In the good old days, there was a saying, “there is no smoke without fire”. Today, the smoke is as fabricated as the fire. Distorted, even baseless versions of reality are making rounds, being magnified and creating chaos. There may not be an iota of truth but it still becomes a popular story, the more “spicy”, and the better.

Why? For one, people are empty within and like vultures outside. Sorry! These prey on dead bodies. Humans prey on live ones. Fanning fires, twisting facts, igniting conflicts based on caste, creed, religion, stopping at nothing to satisfy greed… this has become the world of the predator, the most dangerous trait among people today. You would never guess from the outside demeanor who was out to destroy you.

Your reputation can be torn into shreds in a minute through “evidence” completely fabricated and you couldn’t defend yourself without proof. Not a modicum of either ethics or remorse. So, what smoke and what fire? Truth went up in smoke and flames long ago.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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