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Self image


One of the biggest fears we humans seem to have is to be proven wrong. We go to any lengths to give excuses, explanations and justify ourselves. It is a malady! We are humans after all, and what is wrong in saying, “I was wrong?” It clears the air between two people if you admit the truth, that of being wrong.

But no! We will severe the connection itself if we have to, but will not confess. To say “I am wrong” requires guts and courage. You feel people will judge you and think negatively about you. But on the contrary, you will be respected for stating your truth because very rarely do people come out with simple, straight forward admissions of this kind.

If you lie to yourself, try to do a cover up of your mistake, people know what you are doing. I had a teacher in school who, if she didn’t know an answer to a student’s question, simply said that she didn’t know but would find out the answer and tell him. She was one of the most highly respected teachers, for her honesty and simplicity.

It is such a burden to carry and such a false self image! What’s the point? It can only cause stress. And you find yourself shying away from people for not having the courage to look at them in the eye. Not a single winning point there, right then why?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Vibrations


Old souls returning to the earth to help raise the vibrations! The kids today are remarkable in their maturity. You just can’t treat those babies and kutchi koo with them like you did with the earlier generations. If you do that, you get a strange feeling like they are looking at you and thinking, “isn’t this aunty silly?” An amusing thought but you will see how mature their eyes are.

The one wonderful trait they exhibit is inclusiveness. If there are ten adults sitting in a group, they will address each one. Something even adults don’t do. In fact, adults are often more exclusive than inclusive due to having developed strong likes and dislikes.

Inclusiveness should be emphasized in schools to take this kind trait forward. Especially amongst the kids in general because, very often, parents are heard complaining about some kids being bullies, being mean etc. Sadly, this also depends on the parents who are care takers at home and need to provide love and security to their kids.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Forget Safety, live where you fear to live, destroy your reputation, be notorious”- Rumi

People find Rumi too drastic sometimes. I love him. He eggs you on to live a full life, deeply philosophical on one hand and seeking freedom for each one of us who have bound ourselves hand and feet in the self created web of meaningless wants pure insecurity.

Thoughts such as, what will happen to me if I do this or that? The “ME “which we don’t know ourselves. Which one is the “me?” There are so many “me”s , each with their own demands, their beliefs, their prejudices , etc.

This is what Rumi tells us to free ourselves from. Wants bring fear of non achievement. Wants attach us to the desired result and there is grief if that result does not materialize. We are actually a vortex of desires and to aspire to achieve them, a bundle of expectations also, because at every step, we would need people.

A life without fear is a life well lived. Fear of loss. Fear of death. Fear of not being loved. Fear of non acceptance of rejection and of loneliness, even if not being able to survive and so much more.

We can’t even imagine how much time is being wasted on so many unnecessary activities which actually increase our fear quotient and reduce our freedom to languishing within boundaries made by us and none other.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We do many things out of being misguided. One of the most tragic ones is living through your children. Life often fails to give you what you want. That is sad. But for you to force your children to take the path you wanted to is definitely an injustice to them. Ambitions cannot be imposed upon anyone externally. Besides, that was your life. This is theirs.

Ironically, we repeat what our parents did to us that are, not letting the kids have the freedom to choose, to make independent but informed decisions.

Children who are bulldozed into deviating from their desired goals are often angry and frustrated later in life, likewise with children trying to wreak vengeance on behalf of their parents or loved ones.

It is our duty to guide our kids alright, but not coerce them and on no account, to make them into anything but wholesome individuals.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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At some stage, you realize that life is to be lived like a game. That’s why they say, sports builds up character. This now winning no, now losing syndrome has to bring in the ability to take both in your stride. Isn’t it?

And that’s what we go through in life, now being successful and now, not much. As a young girl, I asked Mr. Vijay Merchant to write in my autograph book. And he wrote:

“It is not about how you win or lose

It is how you play the game”.

And this always stayed in my mind. Truly, it is how each one of us chooses to conduct our lives that are the single most important thing. There may have been several pitfalls looking back, but you also see how you handled those and how much you learnt along the way and how far you have come. And nothing is a waste of time. Life is the largest educational Institution. You can give exams as many times as you want but hopefully, each time, the preparation will be better and better.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Divine spirit


Every night, you acknowledge that the Divine spirit guides and protects your life. You also say a prayer in gratitude, for health, safety, love and support given by the universe. When things go right, we forget that they need not have time for gratitude.

Many a time, we have a close shave, a near mishap on the road. But we are safe time for gratitude.

So many similar situations have come into our lives as potential dangers, but, only potential time for gratitude.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There are wonderful people all over the world. You meet them at various points in your life and they become a source of joy. You don’t look for wealth in people. It is the love and caring that even money cannot buy, that makes life beautiful. Imagine how much beauty you miss if you only connect with people when you need them for your benefit.

Upbringing, grace, natural inner beauty are the shining ingredients in humans. Living for yourself is nothing great. When your being responds to those you love, you actually justify your birth as a human being. Because human beings are the highest intelligence on earth. And also have been gifted with a heart.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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