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The current debate…conversions! We are so hung up on religious identities and intolerance of other religions that there are dedicated groups actively engaged in conversions. To what gain? Power? Controlling minds?

Isn’t it strange that no one thinks of conversion of their thoughts, destructive emotions, speech and actions? Even if we gloss over the conversion part, I don’t understand what kind of believers of a religion would want to convert others. Because enlightened people would live and let live.

Recently, there has been a picture of a temple in Dubai making rounds on whatsapp which shows a Hindu priest conducting a pooja and a Sheikh holding the pooja tray next to him. How beautiful and truly spiritual is this!

Conversions are so superficial. The soul has no religion. We just need reasons to ignite fires to control the masses. If you really mean business, why don’t you convert yourself, first from prejudices and hatred and second, from any kind of emotional negativity?

If this happens, conversions will be a thing of the past.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Compassion


If you look back at your life events, you will always find some people that you have had issues with. Some you forgive and from some you seek forgiveness. And you also forgive yourself for hurting people and mistakes made.

However, I wish it were that simple! Actually, it IS that simple to my mind. But not so to other people. In everyone’s life, there are some people who refuse to forgive. Hmmm… out of our control, right? But how do we react to this non forgiveness? Arrogantly? Humbly? Aggressively? With compassion and understanding?

You might say, “But it is not about me”. But really speaking, it IS about you, too, because you were a party to the interaction.

It is interesting to see how such incidents confront you and how you need to make peace with them, at least from your side. You are not responsible for the emotions or decisions of others. You can only clean up your slate. And that’s what should be done. When things and people stop affecting you is when you are on your way to real freedom.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life makes us change by force if we don’t do it willingly and with understanding. We resist and resist and resist….we agonize, agonize, agonize…we defy, defy, defy…we live in conflict, combat the world day after day….

And what happens finally? Nothing but exhaustion! More and more exhaustion. Till we want to drop.

When do we call it a day? When do we start looking for a little bit of heaven? A little bit of peace?

A tortoise withdraws into its shell to keep safe during an adverse climate. Not so the human…sometimes, two people are too many! And the shell is merely a nonexistent illusion. The desire to have your will prevail at all costs blinds a human to all else. After all, aren’t the free will a gift of God? While we move slowly but surely towards exhaustion, we lose out on life itself…and then nothing matters anymore.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I find the fuss about genders very shallow. I mean, so… there are women and there are men. I may as well be saying, there are lions and deer’s, or roses and lilies. All creations of the Almighty.

Don’t you think all this fuss is that of just being unable to accept that creation is made up of various forms, humans, animals and birds, nature, the flora fauna? We fail to see the unified field behind the various forms. Our main but invisible link. Unfortunately, we are very focused merely on the apparent and visible differences of forms. Like, when we are so engrossed in a movie, we fail to see the steady and unmoving screen on which the movie is being projected. Without which there would be no movie at all.

The actual consciousness of being a particular gender or the obsession with this has a very valid reason. We don’t remember but we have had different gender roles in our past lives and the memory of this resides in our subconscious. Sometime or other, our personalities may come alive within us when triggers happen. The truth is, we are both female and male inside us. But we deny it while role playing. We are not comfortable in our skin perhaps. Coupled with this is our mind conditioning, of playing gender based roles.

It’s only when we connect on the level of faith and love and equality that we can start respecting all life on this earth. Instead of being intolerant and separatist based on personal preferences. Only then will the social evils that we see in our society today will be a thing of the past.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Vital knowledge


To have and to hold! This capsule has five words but meaning on many levels. To have what? A soul, a life, a mind, an intellect, a free will, relationships, education, feelings, values, ego, attachments, hatreds, fears….many , many more. We as humans, fashioned in the image of God, have everything that God has.

But…

To hold is another story. What do we hold onto? Or do we hold onto anything? What is the ultimate realization?

Do we vibrate on the same level and connect with HIM? It is indeed difficult to have around us, everything that we don’t need and must not want. And then we have to actually know this, separate the two and make choices. Sounds complicated, right? And that’s why “to hold” becomes a journey of trials and errors. First, to understand what we have, what is of value in our lives from what we have, and to explore the hidden aspects of what we have to understand their meaning in our lives.

Next, to realize which items from what we have must be held on to. Holding on can be very illusory at times. Like, when you spot a monkey and a baby monkey clutching on to each other ( or so it appears), can you tell whether it is the baby clutching on or the mother ?

In life, we also feel that people hold on to us, places and events draw us..but the fact is, it is we who hold on to these things because of our fears, insecurities and a lack of awareness of our own spirituality, of who we actually are and where we come from and go to.

Once we have this vital knowledge, we can easily go onto making the right choices. It is only the right knowledge and enlightened knowledge that will bring maturity and growth, which, in turn will make “to have and to hold” a meaningful reality.

For this, how many souls are ready to work, is the moot question.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you felt that in times of sadness, angels hover around you? These are people in your life who watch over you, worry about your well being and often try to illuminate your path when they see you passing through a dark patch.

Sometimes, their value is felt only after they are gone. Because while they are around, we tend to take them for granted. Not often are we in a mood to give them a listening ear.

A matter of karma, I guess. I still remember the gujrati saying which means, wisdom comes only from others, not your own people. Like you prefer the food in someone else’s home. Taking home food for granted and bored with the same flavor. I guess people also come with the same old flavor which goes out of taste.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is not easy to deal with a desire for perfection in everything. You invariably deal with people who are anything but that. To deal with people when you are trying to achieve perfection and a certain standard in everything you do, you had better not rely on them completely unless you want to get stressed out and even fall ill.

Perfectionists have little patience with mediocrity. But to expect your standard of work from others is also foolish. In fact, it is wiser to bring down your standards a peg or two. Otherwise, you are likely to get into serious conflict with such people. To move forward, you might have to deal with less than efficient people and work.

Unfortunately, there are paid officials in many places who do not have the interest or ambition to grow and learn. Because they do not observe. And because they have no pride in their work.

And this gives rise to much frustration in perfectionists. I have seen people leave jobs, sack employees because of this. But they suffer for it.

So, simply put, be protective about your health, chill and relax a little. Everything will get done in time. I am often told that life should also be enjoyed. And I agree….so, learn to grin and bear in general.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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