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There is great joy in recognizing that things happen just at the right time, not OUR right time but its own right time. When things happen, they happen like magic. If we stop expecting and suffering in anticipation.

Look back and think when this may have happened in your life. Your wish list has many items on hold. Not happening. And suddenly, without notice, one of them just fructifies and leaves you breathless and amazed!

If you want to keep your excitement in life, just keep working to fulfill as many items on your wish list as possible. And enjoy the ones that happen. Leave the rest without hankering after them.

I learnt this from my games apps that I play. I spend days and months to complete one level. And suddenly, a single try on one particular day and hey presto! I have done that level!!!

It is the excitement of the journey that will take you forward. You inevitably will go on to the next level and the same sense of fun starts all over again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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How to be a good loser! A great asset in life…to have the philosophy that someone has to win and someone has to lose. I just play my best. Sports teach you how to face the world and your circumstances minute to minute.

Life is like that opponent who swings his racquet to hit the ball but you don’t know how it has spun and where it is going to fall. You just have to be prepared to receive it, hit it with your best strategy back to life…no warning. No notice.

And this is why life becomes your best teacher….

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Showing our vulnerable chinks is often against our defense mechanism. It is not such a bad thing to be simple in emotions if they are honest. Somehow, we feel we have to hide emotions because it is looked upon as a sign of weakness. Actually, it can be a very refreshing quality in people.

It is a very human quality, for example, to cry when talking about a sad occurrence…

I think we expend such emotions a lot while watching movies also, but start wiping our eyes and break into teary smiles just before the lights come on.

An honest emotion can be relieving and cleansing rather than a put on one. Because we fool ourselves with the latter, not cleanse.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in. But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly, when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt? Who wants to retaliate? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger, resentment, feared or hatred isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was listening to an interview on criticism and being a critic. It is amazing that we never think of it as energy exchange. But it is.

When you criticize someone, you cause pain. But in doing so, you also go through pain. In fact, if you criticize with negative energy, it causes you more harm because the energy is deliberately emitted. The receiver can deal with this kind of energy in three ways.

  1. Either take it in, absorb and feel the pain.
  2. See that energy coming at you and return it. Someone criticizes you. You criticize them back. But the negative vibrations stay.
  3. Transform that energy. Understand that the person has negative vibrations and that you need not harm yourself by taking it in. This way, with understanding, you have transformed the negative energy.

I don’t think there can be any contest in which one a clear intellect would choose. But is it that simple? It can be, though.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Keep the pollution away. And I don’t mean only environmental pollution. That is an obvious fact. There are other forms. For example, what a polluted mind can do is not apparent even when our own mind does it. We should be so much aware, actually, that even if a polluted thought enters your mind, you ask for forgiveness immediately. Excessive? Not at all!

You will notice that we all have formulated very “artful” ways of overlooking the pollution in our minds. Take humor. One always knew of laughter being the best medicine, as avid Readers’ Digest readers believed laughter to be. But how much dislike and aversion can humor be laced with is something we all have seen many a time. Right? In fact, every night, at bedtime, if you recap every detailed thought, word and deed honestly to yourself, some pollution will be visible. Some negative thought about something, someone…even you. (You are equally important, if not more). Or, some emotions that lashed out uncontrollably because someone else was at fault and “did that to you”…when you know that no one can do anything to you unless you permit it…and some acts also that we try to palm off on some incident or people , acts that we are not really proud of.

One way to reduce this pollution is to keep the mind outside of you. Examine it minutely and see what thinks is and what it says to you. And take the positive in and keep the rest out. With a little practice, you will see a difference. Once you know you can do this successfully, you will want to do this exercise again and again like a child because you will start feeling so good about yourself that you will never want to regress to that pollution stage again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A beautiful story with a message. There was once a clever businessman who, while crossing a river, fell in. Not knowing how to swim, he started shouting for help. A traveller who was walking along the bridge thought he would help him. So, he bent down and extended his hand, saying “give me your hand”.

The drowning man said, “No, I won’t give you my hand”. The man who was trying to save him understood that he has never developed a habit of giving. So, he told him, “can you at least HOLD my hand?” the man said, “yes”, and was pulled to safety.

If we look at the attitude of both, we understand how important it is to give.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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