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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Because we are a part of a huge revolution in a knowledge based world and economy, all old paradigms have shifted into not one, but many new gears along with automatic cars. With regard to children therefore, this shift becomes very valid since they are products of today.

But the in between generation that was brought up within the earlier pre revolution phase and who are suddenly experiencing the rapidly shifting paradigms in almost all aspects, may be struggling to balance what they know from back then to what they know now. I see parents of this generation also struggling with their own equation with these children who are adults and parents themselves now.

There may be certain resentment in what they might see as deprivation, in what their parents did not teach them or expose them to. But some of it was not available then.

The overall view may be that parents might have been old fashioned or not excessively bright or intelligent and therefore, less respected. They did not have the knowledge of the current technology as a part of their DNA.  😊and whatever they knew came from their parents and the general environment at that time.

Anyways, it is so commendable that many in that generation of parents still painstakingly attempt to use technology, if nothing, for communicating with their children who life has taken away to distant lands and because of which the parents reside in special housing meant for senior citizens, but hopefully, also in the hearts of their children.

If only I Pads and Internet could bridge the emotional divide!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Understanding people! How often do we actually understand what is going on in the lives of people? Or, even attempt to ? Most of the time, we end up reacting to every look, every word….every gesture…

When we are in public, we expect a certain kind of behavior from people. But we forget, as we don our masks, others do, too. But a mask is a mask after all. It can slip with an unexpected trigger. And when the facade drops momentarily and the hurt and pain are revealed, we never stop to think of the reasons why that person may have accidently become transparent. Instead, we react immediately.

Understanding people is nothing short of personal healing. When you attribute a genuine reason to a person’s slipped mask, you will feel a sense of well being for yourself for having been compassionate. For having gone into the depth of a person’s psyche to recognize the soul within. What can be more elevating?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Banking and karma are very similar. You open an account. You make certain investments, including FDs. Sometimes, when investments are bad ones, they give you losses. And good ones, dividends.

Once our karma account is opened, we should try to make good investments. Otherwise, we will find our account of good karma depleting very fast and then we are left with very little balance.

There is always a tussle between the need to create good karma and the blocks we create with our ego. We need to work on understanding this big time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Depression should not be allowed to step close to us. It has many, many repercussions. If you examine the reasons, one of the foremost ones would be the pain of unfulfilled expectations, especially of unrequited love.

As we know, no man is an island. But in developing relationships, there comes a tipping point which turns the relationship into one of dependency, into a need of a crutch. Automatically then, this is the start of the end of the relationship. Healthy bonds work differently. They can work on mutual dependency better than one stronger and one weaker link.

There is every need to strengthen our backbone to stand upright, even if to walk alone. Inner strength compensates for the presence or perception of many lacks. And it would be within the preview of wisdom to be aware that we journey alone from life to life. So, holding onto to any form of crutch is going to be nothing short of meaningless. Then why the depression?

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Some days are like a light, happy breeze blowing …everything just flows without effort. Kind of raises our expectations for the future…when suddenly, you wake up to events not really to your liking and the stress begins. And with that, we start to magnify the small issues on that particular day. For some, the stress and the bad mood can persist beyond just one day, too.

In Hindi, there is a saying “sab din hote na ek samaan”. How true! All the days in our life cannot be the same. And that’s exactly why we are told all the time that we can only change our responses to events. 

I am not saying we should be like saints, though enlightenment can and should be the ultimate goal. We have to really work at it, gradually and with focus.

But on a daily basis, we do have to come back to the merit of accepting what confronts us before looking at what can be done about it
or whether ANYTHING can be done at all. There is always a sense of wisdom in letting sleeping dogs lay sometimes but not always. That is perhaps the key to improving our days.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We have several layers of negativity piled up within us, stemming from the many lives we have lived plus the current one. To cleanse these, we have to be aware first. Then we need to have the intention to cleanse. It is not easy to do self surgery. You have to bare your soul to yourself. And that is a very painful process.

 It can take many lifetimes if you have not reached that point.

To work with angels (the 72 layers of consciousness and distortions within us) is a beautiful way to begin the cleansing process. …provided we do it with faith and consistency. Generally, people do not have enough patience to see this process through. Or any process for that matter.

I don’t think I can ever overstate the importance of cleansing and purifying to arrive at a point where universal love becomes a way of life.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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