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Regressive


A very positive way to look at life and its unfolding. The dice turns regularly even in a dice game. But the two situations are so different!

The dice game is happening for a while only and on the outside. Externally. Life situations have each of us at the core. It is very difficult to externalize situations as if they are happening to someone else. We can smile sportingly if we lose a game like Ludo or Snakes & Ladders and move on. But can we equally smile away losing in real life circumstances? Failure becomes the repeated theme of our minds. And moving on a completely unavailable option to the mind at that point.

What this post says is to understand that every throw of the dice in life, whether “1” or “6” is designed to teach something. And a lesson learnt is certainly a step forward.

When people talk of being “regressive”, it only means lessons are unlearnt and repeated negative patterns established.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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All our lives we try and try and try…to grow and grow and grow…

We run to every opportunity there is…for healing. Different methods, a rehash of similar methods, meditation camps, workshops, tarot cards, astrology, angels, pranayama, pranic healing, reiki, hypnotherapy…etc….

And once you have been everywhere, you realize that nothing really changes if you don’t change yourself through self practice. At that stage, you feel you have read enough, listened enough, imbibed enough. And now it is time to experience. This is perhaps the starting point for change. And this is what is the most significant landmark in your life. Whatever else you may do with your life on the physical level.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life does not give prior warnings. There are no re tests. There is no fast forward or rewind. We just have to make sense of what works for us with a bit of trial and error. But that is the fun of life as well…an adventure into the unknown…

It can also be a source of stress if not treated as an adventure. But come on… what is there to lose ultimately? Only what WE hold on to, right? If we just dropped things that we carried, it would be great. And we would experience freedom.

I have found that things I was so stuck on for a long time were actually trivial, though, as per current perceptions. But that’s fine. This is what moving on means.

I believe that so much is changing in the external environment today because somewhere, humans are beginning to raise their vibrations. They have been creatures of low energy so far, their energies constantly being depleted and sacrificed to petty thoughts….not adhering to the universal principles or the spiritual ways of living. We have paid a heavy price. No more.

There is a new phase opening up. A better and hopefully, higher way of life. If you notice, several spiritual groups are meditating for world peace all over the world. The good news is, youngsters are joining in. The kids being born today are reflecting the phenomenon of the elevating vibrations of young parents. These kids are incredible.

We are gradually and surely moving into a new world where there is a sense of excitement, a hope and a proactive projection into the future. Where nothing less than merit, ethics and honesty shall prevail.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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To deserve what you get! How far is this true? Does everyone get what they deserve? “Deserving” is such a debatable word. We all feel at one time or another that we didn’t get what we deserved. It is an imaginary yardstick we have for ourselves that makes or breaks us.

Who is really to say what we should have or not have in terms of anything ? Or, deserve it for that matter.

How many times we set goals, work towards them but fail to achieve them. Did we not deserve them then?

Likewise, we get pulled into a tunnel of success in something we never even hankered after. Did we deserve that when we did not ever work for it ? Was it luck? Or karma?

So, deserving is something it is better not to focus on too much. You want to achieve something, go at it with full steam. Try your best. Don’t judge at all, whether you achieve your goals or not. Because, this is a most positive way you can live your life. Circumstances may change while you toil. You may also decide to change course along the way. Who knows? So, why care or wonder about deserving at all? You had what you had. You have what you have. You will have what you will have in the future. A perfect attitude for contentment.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I wish we could “see” ourselves growing up. And stop ourselves each time we were getting conditioned by thoughts and ideologies that would never work later in life…so much of what we imbibe along the way is not our own. We have been indoctrinated with belief systems that are not personally experience based. So, they may not fit the bill. As grownups, therefore, we end up unlearning some, relearning some and creating some new ones.

The mistake we make is not stopping to re examine our thought processes often enough. We carry on living according to our obsolete thinking and wonder why we are not feeling light and happy.

So, recreate yourself time and time again to feel the pulse of life. Live life to the fullest. Release yourself from old pains, and go forward light hearted and adventurous into the exciting unknown.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we make attempts with another human being to let bygones be bygones but receive no reply from there, what does it mean? And I am not referring to crimes, just small, ego driven differences..

Growing up, I was always taught that whatever the business with another person, it is never over until it is over: forgiveness from both sides.

I feel differently now. During your journey, it is only you who can work on yourself. Only you can forgive and forget, and become immune and neutral for your own sake. Of course, if both people can understand and forgive, nothing like it! But, you are not responsible for anyone’s growth but your own. Cleansing your own energies is your priority. Your choices and freedom of will are confined only to you. You cannot bring any change in anyone else unless they do so out of their own free will.

So many belief systems…so many wrong patterns of thinking! And we don’t learn any better. We wait for the other person to change….just a case of our ignorant ego that doesn’t allow sense to dawn.

So, there is just one, simple mantra if you have tried but not succeeded in building the bridge: LET GO….from thoughts because thoughts form memories and we store memories instead of letting go.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I am unable to visualize someone who is consumed by hatred. It shakes me up. It is not an intrinsic quality of the soul. I think we all know that.

We could link hatred with karma. We could also link it to a thorough discomfort of being in your own skin which results in comparisons..and we invariably find a lack within. There could be a possibility of extreme jealousy, of feeling small and worthless in comparison with “better” people. More successful people. More passionate and driven people. More popular people.

But the lengths humans can go to, to appease themselves and calm their hatred inspired rage and vendetta can be very unsettling and disturbing.

It would be far too simplistic to say that everything in life should be “hunky dory” and harmonious all the time. If that were the case, we would be a group of saints on the earth.

We are here definitely to experience the positivity’s and negativities, the pluses and minuses of life. And learn from them. But nothing is worth causing self destruction through the kind of negativity that can be created by hatred. It is the fire that burns and destroys like nothing else does.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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