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No man is an island and everyone needs someone. In good times and bad times, a good support system makes life easier and more soul friendly. You don’t need many around you. But one should be like three; that caring that desirous of being there for you, as you must be for them as well.

Innocent and sincere friendships are heartwarming. When you see an evidence, your smile also is genuine and your heart happy.

When I hear people say, “but I care so much ” in words more than action, this spells a lack of spontaneity , maybe a kind of getting stuck in a comfort zone and not willing to walk the extra miles. Whatever else the reason!

A support group of friends and family is a total necessity at any time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Every phase has its own brand of joy. There is nowhere to go, just on the path of experience. As kids, we were joyful, period. There didn’t have to be a reason. We just were because nothing affected us.

Growing up, joy was when we had the freedom to experience what WE wished to. And depression when we were forced to do what our heart did not want.

Later, joy meant realizing our dreams. Depression when we couldn’t. And later still, it was comfort and a settled family so that we set ourselves free.

So, joy has always been linked with a sense of freedom of spirit which is completely natural.

As Jean Jacques Rousseau said, “man is born free but everywhere, he is in chains”. Joy is emancipation from such bondage. Most of the times, we tie ourselves up.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Why is it that quiet people are generally ignored? Just because they don’t indulge in constant chatter even if it is trivial or meaningless, just to make their presence felt? I have also noticed that they are not given credit for much brain either. Almost as if, being quiet is being dumb.

The quality of being judgmental is our birthright, you see. So, how can one let it go? How will we form opinions then? They are generally formed on this very premise and such premises, on others and their lifestyles and personalities.

One should always look beyond the facade. Very often, quiet people have much depth of learning and understanding. It is also a fact that those who elevate spiritually find their minds quietening and so do their speech levels. It is true that they don’t feel the need to talk and comment incessantly on something or another. One should never judge them hastily. They could be thinkers who don’t need validation from external sources.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The “Ardhanareeshwar ” concept is again coming back into discussion . The symbolism of half man and half woman is the essence of a human being. Both the male and the female are within each of us and it is necessary to balance the two sides for happy living.

Actually, our conditioning is just the opposite. Separate perceptions and therefore, upbringing also. The imbalance is created very early in life from which many do not surface at all. Families and Societies become troubled and in conflict because the role play of people itself is faulty.

I hope the new generations will understand how to raise their children with better knowledge.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you are depressed, you need someone to talk to; someone who’s kind and understanding words are all it takes to make you feel less toxic. More so, if the environment you live in is a toxic one, an impersonal one, a non- caring one.

Someone asked me, which life is a better one, the one of compromise or the one of loneliness? But aren’t we all lonely in some way? And don’t we all live a life if compromise in one way or another? How would you quantify or qualify either?

But if you are compromising because you don’t want to feel lonely, then you are in trouble. People can be like quicksands, and those that are solid too, have to go away one day.

How much mental strength and understanding of life must one have then, to absorb experiences in the right way and decide what would work and what would not and yet having solutions do not necessarily translate into action. There could be many, many obstacles on the way and one must have the time, will and energy to overcome them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Generally, people have many different perspectives in life. Views on similar matters differ and widely sometimes. Each one of us values our way of thinking until it changes could be due to inner learning or external education.

Today, the main problem in society is the basic non acceptance of other viewpoints. Rather, intolerance to viewpoints other than our own.

Do we ever debate on why we don’t look like clones of each other? We know and accept external appearances but can’t do the same in any other manner. So, if color and case unite, they also divide. The same goes for everything else. Money, fame, values, culture, sophistication etc.

We worry more about the appearance of a glass rather than whether the water we are drinking from it is pure. Glass divides but water unites similarly religion. The belief in different gods or spiritual heads divides though the blood in the veins is the same in all and unites all mankind. Correction! SHOULD unite mankind.

Then what stupidity are we up to , and actually propagating that stupidity of divisions in every sphere ? The question is, do we see it that way? Never have we preferred to think we are right and everyone else is wrong. And we take along all those who think like us, whether our thinking is beneficial or destructive.

Unfortunately, that’s how more and more individualistic groups form, each distancing from the other on account of lack of affinity. This extends beyond boundaries and intolerance rules the world. Peace is therefore, in pieces.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Fickle mindedness and unreliability are two extremely undesirable traits in a human being. Many allied vices stem from these. Firstly, these people are not true to anyone, not even themselves. Their pretence levels are very high. Probably masters of the game. Secondly, they evidently live for themselves, whimsical and undependable. Lacking depth, maybe, and living on the surface. Changing their minds like they would change clothes, but very sweet spoken and could fool anyone except those discerning few.

I often hear people say such people are happier because they don’t succumb easily to feelings of sadness, helplessness, frustration etc. Possible, if they think only of themselves most of the time, but happier? I don’t know about that.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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