Comparison

An excerpt from Kangana Ranaut’s interview : ” I think somewhere, women don’t have acceptance for themselves. Women don’t support women, and this matter should be brought to light ( through films). Though they share a bond, I still feel that we don’t support each other the way we should. Like, at the smallest of things, we see girls make fun of girls themselves, our nature and how we look at each other as the inferior sex. So, somewhere, this needs to be deactivated.”

I was mulling over this comment and finding some truth alright. Apart from this being a cut throat world, women have been losing out due to personality issues. Sure, there are many women’s organizations and travel groups but…..

They call it a man’s world because they unite for a cause and their solidarity does often overtake that of women. They also tend to move on faster than women without focusing too much on petty issues. Traditionally, women were not insecure. In the Vedic age, women were strong and wise and lived shoulder to shoulder with the men. But later in history, they came to be called a weaker lot, dependent on the male. More so, after the moghul invasion. And today, when women are coming out of their shell, they will probably have to go through a period of transition till they start supporting each other for a greater cause of connectivity and look for a connection in each other rather than comparison.

Surekha Kothari

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Exposure

There is a dire need for exposure of minds. Exposure to what is going on in the world, keeping abreast of events and understanding their connection with our inner worlds.

I see young adults who are caught up with either technology or TV /music shows and friends. There is a lot to be said about venturing out there and inviting the exposure, to listen to experienced voices, do a lot of reading, and participate in organizations and groups: all this for evolution.

Sometimes, you see closed minds and see them typically self absorbed. And you want to tell them that they are depriving themselves of beautiful experiences. But these are either not interested or unreasonably judgmental about staying within their space. Or maybe, it is reasonable in their book.

As someone said, it is their journey. Time is of no essence. The route you travel is meant for you until it changes or you yourself decide to change it.

Surekha Kothari

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Changes

Amidst all the change and transition that is happening, I am not surprised that those who have reached the pits of degeneration are gasping for breath and struggling to avoid getting completely choked by their own misdeeds. Evidently, they had been so drunk on their power since so many years that they had forgotten that there is nothing like permanence. It would be amusing if it were not so tragic to see some senior politicians who lay out a trap for others, getting caught in its them.

When will this stop? We are paying a price for the “free for all” environment that the people of this country have become used to. Now, when the degeneration is being curbed and reversed, and they are being reined in, they cry foul.

We must examine the intention behind the rules that are being resented.

In childhood, we were not allowed to do certain things. When we became adults, many went a little haywire and some more than just a little.

At any age, a crisis situation must be averted even if it requires drastic and unpalatable changes. If we had not done that under the leadership of Mahatma Gandhi, we would still have been a British colony. (But we have a short memory.) Of course, we would not have had a neighbor like Pakistan either.

So, what should our priority be? No contest here. It should be a spirit of nationalism and secularism, tolerance and peaceful existence with an equal opportunity for all. But between this goal and the current reality, there lies a great chasm that has to be filled with an indomitable, persistent will to work hard and achieve this goal. Can it happen in a day, a month or a year even? Not if we blame and criticize instead of contributing to the momentum of the visualized growth. We are so pathetic that we don’t even know how lucky we are that there is a dependable leader today. And there is hope. You can see this at every rally, the latest being Surat. Has the whole country gone crazy then, to support him? No. Not at all.

If the media was not so busy turning everything into a debate and controversy, we would be able to see the ground reality. As someone said, the PM is a visionary but the people around him should have faith and help in manifesting that vision. If India was minus the irresponsible and dangerous opposition leaders, evolution would move at breakneck speed. I guess, the “kundali” (astrological chart) of India must already be showing the impending ineffectiveness and the symbolic self immolation of this type of politician. These people are and will keep digging their own graves while India will move forward despite the formidable challenges of today.

Surekha Kothari

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Conversation

I think I understand why people don’t share heart to heart conversations anymore. Or rarely… it is not easy to understand the pain of others for the simple reason that each one’s intensity of feeling the pain and the reasons for the pain are distinctive to each person. What won’t touch me will probably scar someone else for life. And while I could be clinical , the other person could feel suffocated with an unimaginable tide of grief.

Ultimately, life is about how much you can reconcile yourself to. How much numbness you develop before you start to get into the kind of drug induced slumber that knocks off your brain for a few hours.

Count your blessings…one, two, three……calm down! You are alone with your pain. And you have to get your own power and control back. For one, stop giving importance to that feeling which is likely to drown you. Cleanse your energy before it breaks you and brings you to a point of no return. Create space around to build up the capacity for movement. The last thing you need is to stand still within the muddied swamp of pain which no one can pull you out of but yourself.

So, share your feelings with yourself, then expel them from your system and relax with a smile and a charminar!

Surekha Kothari

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