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In the good old days, there was a saying, “there is no smoke without fire”. Today, the smoke is as fabricated as the fire. Distorted, even baseless versions of reality are making rounds, being magnified and creating chaos. There may not be an iota of truth but it still becomes a popular story, the more “spicy”, and the better.

Why? For one, people are empty within and like vultures outside. Sorry! These prey on dead bodies. Humans prey on live ones. Fanning fires, twisting facts, igniting conflicts based on caste, creed, religion, stopping at nothing to satisfy greed… this has become the world of the predator, the most dangerous trait among people today. You would never guess from the outside demeanor who was out to destroy you.

Your reputation can be torn into shreds in a minute through “evidence” completely fabricated and you couldn’t defend yourself without proof. Not a modicum of either ethics or remorse. So, what smoke and what fire? Truth went up in smoke and flames long ago.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Enough


How much is “enough”? Growing up, we determined its extent by the tone and body language of our parents. Even by the accent on particular letters of the word. Like, when they said, “enough!” the danger light flashed bright and we retreated to our rooms immediately. If they said, ” enough is enough now”, that was a warning signal not to stretch things too far.

We used to have to take our cues from them. There was strict discipline. Not only that, our elder siblings became unrecognizable when they donned the mantle of our parents while the parents were traveling. They turned Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde into nonfiction and a total reality.

Ah! Those were the days when even discipline did not keep us from smiling happily and basking in the love of family. Our parents were not friends as such. We had our siblings for that. But we ate together, sang and played bridge and card games together, holidayed together with our parents, every summer holiday without fail. Wherever we went, we distributed all the chores among us and it was the height of pleasure to do them amidst mischievous chatter only because we were all together.

On other holidays, it would be dormitory style living with cousins , climbing trees, plucking mangoes and tamarinds off the trees in the compound, playing hide and seek all day long with our elders running after us to get us to sit still for meals and snacks.

Rustic living but so, so beautiful and close to nature! There were no super expensive holidays to Europe and Switzerland. These were hardly any substitutes for the laughter and fun filled days, full of love and sharing. Our hearts were full, pity that this generation will never see such days. What it used to be, finding pleasure in the simple things of life.

Today, what is enough? Going to Europe and Switzerland is not enough. Having the best of cars and gadgets is not enough. Holidays with family are not enough. Being content with “enough” of everything is not “enough”. Because, what IS enough? Is your “enough” like mine or better than mine? Simpler than

Mine or more complicated than mine?

Can I say “enough” today and get away with it? Can I say, “enough is enough” and not is put into a dog house for a sizeable chunk of time?

And what IS enough? I always felt that like “good, better, best”, there ought to be categories of “enough”, too.

Like, enough, enougher and enoughest.

See! At least, you can smile. And that is enough.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Large heartedness is always the way to go. Humans are, by virtue of being a part of the Divine energy and hence, spiritual beings, are naturally expansive. This intrinsic quality must be retained to lead a higher quality of existence.

Ultimately, the micro IS the macro. But small mindedness is not productive. It is not natural. Servicing our needs which have already been built into the cosmic plan is therefore, is counterproductive. What we service is our wants, not our needs. And that’s where the difference is not recognized.

You will notice that the moments of the greatest happiness are always when you have extended yourself beyond yourself to others; Maybe, charity or a kind listening ear, “annadaan”, imparting education, and the like, even loving selflessly.

The day we recognize this, we will be well on our way to a truly happy state of being.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A strong message that we need to give people is that of recognizing the aspect of victimhood within themselves and shedding it at the earliest. When you compare yourself with others and find yourself lacking in a few things, you feel life hasn’t been fair to you. Victim of life!

When people don’t treat you well, you feel you are not wanted, Victim again; without realizing that THEY may be struggling to get out of their victimhood moments which stretch into years for many. Similarly, you see relationships falling prey. One dominant the other victim, the power play! Sensitive people often go under very quickly. And the game never stops, because one of the two is living a victim’s character.

Victimhood may be the result of many things. Low self worth, inability to derive moral and spiritual strength, depending on others for love and caring, not able to live with themselves and many more. But the bottom line is, if you sink into victimhood, you sink period. It is very difficult to come out of it. So, please don’t let anyone push you into that corner, not even your near and dear ones.

Stay wholesome people. And emerge stronger each time you face any situation. After all, who is going to accompany you out of this world? Certainly not those who were instrumental in your receding into that mode.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Wisdom says, listen to your body. It speaks to you. But not everyone is sensitive to their body. Even if they were, the knowledge about the working of the internal system may elude them. So much is constantly said about being positive and shunned BG negativity that they don’t even dwell on the possible repercussions.

The fact is, the message posted here is extremely important for our physical health. If our immune system is affected, our future can be pretty badly affected too. The quality of our life may be impaired. Because the cells have life and also respond constantly to our senses and feelings , as does our subtle body like the chakras and the aura.

It would be very simplistic to just advocate avoiding negativity. If it were that easy and simple, why would anyone suffer in any way at all ? However, neither should we stop trying to bring in some transformation with the required knowledge and our own instinct for self preservation and survival.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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