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When we think negative, we tend to think and see the worst in everything. We also tend to be more pessimistic during such phases. It can turn into a vicious cycle of thinking the worst, losing hope and again, thinking the worst because we lose hope. This pattern goes into a loop.

But I have also seen such patterns replaced by some very remarkable positive ones. The trick is to always visualize a candle in the darkness. And that flame can expand and expand until there is no darkness. After all, darkness is just an absence of light, isn’t it?

The power of thought and of constant positive visualization is irreplaceable. If only humans knew how to channelize their higher self which is a powerhouse?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Probability


Sometimes, we reach a deadlock within ourselves. Which way to go? What to do? These are times when probably we don’t want to do a trade off to make choice. We want it all.

I think it would be great at such times, as someone said, to write a letter to your future self. Great idea! To visualize your future self and then make choices, how do I want to be in future? What kind of a person? Accordingly, you make your decisions today. There is less probability of going wrong. And we will learn to take corrective measures more easily.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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At some stage, you realize that life is to be lived like a game. That’s why they say, sports builds up character. This now winning no, now losing syndrome has to bring in the ability to take both in your stride. Isn’t it?

And that’s what we go through in life, now being successful and now, not much. As a young girl, I asked Mr. Vijay Merchant to write in my autograph book. And he wrote:

“It is not about how you win or lose

It is how you play the game”.

And this always stayed in my mind. Truly, it is how each one of us chooses to conduct our lives that are the single most important thing. There may have been several pitfalls looking back, but you also see how you handled those and how much you learnt along the way and how far you have come. And nothing is a waste of time. Life is the largest educational Institution. You can give exams as many times as you want but hopefully, each time, the preparation will be better and better.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Choices


How much we suppress ourselves because the people around us get used to a set image of us! It is really incredible, isn’t it? And you automatically match that image because it is “expected” of you. But YOU may not get the same from others. When you conform, you have to continue to conform, or run the risk of heavy criticism and build a steel armor for yourself for it.

I had to share this post because I do believe we shy away from growing because it means change and too many boats can get rocked. The choice may not be easy, but to grow is the purpose of the soul and why it has come here in the first place. Actually, therefore, there IS no choice.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Challenges


Every age has its challenges. As kids as teenagers as adults in various phases of growth, mental, emotional and spiritual; the one benchmark of maturity is becoming non judgmental. And this means truly so, not just superficially so as not to displease.

Actually, to be judgmental really means that we need to look at what others are mirroring in us. Why do I need to judge anyone at all? Because there are similar memories that trigger in us; if there weren’t those memories, we would not find it in our hearts to judge.

It is also a matter of feeling holier than thou feeling superior. That is a game that the ego plays. We don’t need to play into its hands. We are fine being our own selves, with our own journey and our own challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning constantly and continuously along the way.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Every age has its challenges. As kids as teenagers as adults in various phases of growth, mental, emotional and spiritual; the one benchmark of maturity is becoming non judgmental. And this means truly so, not just superficially so as not to displease.

Actually, to be judgmental really means that we need to look at what others are mirroring in us. Why do I need to judge anyone at all? Because there are similar memories that trigger in us; if there weren’t those memories, we would not find it in our hearts to judge.

It is also a matter of feeling holier than thou feeling superior. That is a game that the ego plays. We don’t need to play into its hands. We are fine being our own selves, with our own journey and our own challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning constantly and continuously along the way.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Every age has its challenges. As kids as teenagers as adults in various phases of growth, mental, emotional and spiritual; the one benchmark of maturity is becoming non judgmental. And this means truly so, not just superficially so as not to displease.

Actually, to be judgmental really means that we need to look at what others are mirroring in us. Why do I need to judge anyone at all? Because there are similar memories that trigger in us; if there weren’t those memories, we would not find it in our hearts to judge.

It is also a matter of feeling holier than thou feeling superior. That is a game that the ego plays. We don’t need to play into its hands. We are fine being our own selves, with our own journey and our own challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning constantly and continuously along the way.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Every age has its challenges. As kids as teenagers as adults in various phases of growth, mental, emotional and spiritual; the one benchmark of maturity is becoming non judgmental. And this means truly so, not just superficially so as not to displease.

Actually, to be judgmental really means that we need to look at what others are mirroring in us. Why do I need to judge anyone at all? Because there are similar memories that trigger in us; if there weren’t those memories, we would not find it in our hearts to judge.

It is also a matter of feeling holier than thou feeling superior. That is a game that the ego plays. We don’t need to play into its hands. We are fine being our own selves, with our own journey and our own challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning constantly and continuously along the way.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Every age has its challenges. As kids as teenagers as adults in various phases of growth, mental, emotional and spiritual; the one benchmark of maturity is becoming non judgmental. And this means truly so, not just superficially so as not to displease.

Actually, to be judgmental really means that we need to look at what others are mirroring in us. Why do I need to judge anyone at all? Because there are similar memories that trigger in us; if there weren’t those memories, we would not find it in our hearts to judge.

It is also a matter of feeling holier than thou feeling superior. That is a game that the ego plays. We don’t need to play into its hands. We are fine being our own selves, with our own journey and our own challenges, learning, unlearning and relearning constantly and continuously along the way.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Today, a lot of families are scattered all over the world and due to sheer logistics, distances do not always foster closeness. Inevitably, a certain formality creeps in sometimes. We get used to living without proximity with them.

But, the flip side is true also, and ties are fostered in many ways. True, that little change in personality can be a revelation when you meet family members after sometime. But by the same token, changes in us must also be embraced and adapted too. We often forget that this IS two way traffic.

Nevertheless, generally, it has become easier to keep connected today, what with Skype, Face Time, whatsapp calls etc. But, as they say, if hearts don’t connect, all this connectivity is only designed towards wanting to keep in touch from afar at a comfortable distance.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Humans have been known to forge great bonds, just as strong as hatreds sometimes. A brother could donate his kidney to his brother. A sister could conceive a child just to give it to a sister or sister in law who can’t bear children. Commendable and nothing less than a sacrifice. Yet another sister could decide to marry her own brother in law after her deceased sister, just to be a mother to their kids. Emotional moments and acts.

Physical pain is so much better understood than emotional pain. When pain is compounded many times over, its increasing depth becomes unfathomable to someone else. That is natural, I guess. They haven’t gone through the experience. Yet, they might easily sit in judgement over something despite NOT experiencing it. Whereas, some would think it prudent to cut and delete such things from their lives.

Seeking understanding from people is not always productive. In fact,quite the contrary. No blame necessary. Everyone functions from different levels including us. Life is made up of all hues, like people. People just forget that life has many hues.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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