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The human mind can be really fickle if we don’t watch out! Its likes and dislikes oscillate much more than the changing seasons. Maybe, in current times, the seasons are also becoming as unpredictable as people.

We must really ask ourselves why we are so lacking in consistency and why should our will prevail each time? This seems to be a huge reason for our inconsistency. “I”…”Mine”…Yes sir! We salute you. It is and has to be only you and you… amazing! And this would also be fine if there were no frequent variations in what came out of that “I” and “mine”. But the inconsistencies within short term consistencies which I am calling “fickle” here seem to be endless.

Especially when in a group. Group behavior, if you notice, is a typical example. A few days back, I wrote about insecurities. Frequently changing parameters of emotions are directly linked to the very same insecurities.

Often, we misinterpret, and sometimes, wantonly misinterpret the words or acts of people we are not too fond of or are even envious of. Where is the core issue? Of course, within us. We actually don’t have the courage to be ourselves and fall short in our own eyes.

So, fickleness leads to oscillations, and this soon becomes a chain. Like riding a bike downhill without a break. We don’t know how and where we are going to end up. Because the bike is driven by “I” and “mine” whereas the consistency is due to the ability to control the brakes .These are the “we” which we fail to activate.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Regressive


A very positive way to look at life and its unfolding. The dice turns regularly even in a dice game. But the two situations are so different!

The dice game is happening for a while only and on the outside. Externally. Life situations have each of us at the core. It is very difficult to externalize situations as if they are happening to someone else. We can smile sportingly if we lose a game like Ludo or Snakes & Ladders and move on. But can we equally smile away losing in real life circumstances? Failure becomes the repeated theme of our minds. And moving on a completely unavailable option to the mind at that point.

What this post says is to understand that every throw of the dice in life, whether “1” or “6” is designed to teach something. And a lesson learnt is certainly a step forward.

When people talk of being “regressive”, it only means lessons are unlearnt and repeated negative patterns established.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life works very logically. When you want something, it keeps you in want. When you feel abundant, abundance comes to you. Strange? Not really.

See…we are all about memories. Unpleasant and pleasant. Negative and positive. So, when we live within those negative memories and are not happy, we feel a lack, and we cut our cord with the completeness which is the Divine. Of which we are a part. It is like saying, I am born in my family but I am not a part of it. So, I will not do what they do.

So… a lack cannot be filled up unless you recognize that you don’t have any lack actually. The Divine, your source, is complete. You CANNOT have a lack. It is only a perception.

In the second scenario, you feel abundance. Because you understand the truth about who you are and where you belong. So, nothing transient should be able to take away your abundance. However much you try and empty an ocean with a cup, you can’t. It will always be complete. And when you don’t react to the world, you live in a perpetual state of abundance.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life makes us change by force if we don’t do it willingly and with understanding. We resist and resist and resist….we agonize, agonize, agonize…we defy, defy, defy…we live in conflict, combat the world day after day….

And what happens finally? Nothing but exhaustion! More and more exhaustion. Till we want to drop.

When do we call it a day? When do we start looking for a little bit of heaven? A little bit of peace?

A tortoise withdraws into its shell to keep safe during an adverse climate. Not so the human…sometimes, two people are too many! And the shell is merely a nonexistent illusion. The desire to have your will prevail at all costs blinds a human to all else. After all, aren’t the free will a gift of God? While we move slowly but surely towards exhaustion, we lose out on life itself…and then nothing matters anymore.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Constant habit


When we are depressed and angry with the world, we tend to go from bad to worse in our mental condition. Anger only dissipates your energy up to a level where you lose your ability to think straight, let alone heal yourself. And in this mode, you tend to become your own worst enemy.

This situation requires the ability to analyze the core issue of the anger because, as I have experienced it, anger is always self directed…for what could have happened but didn’t, for the wrong choices made, for lost opportunities, for a lack of love, for loneliness, for feeling rejection, depression…and more.

It is not easy to turn inwards. The mind only wants to blame and blame everyone and everything but the self.

And then, we seek recourse to prayer. Even after, we often wait for a change to HAPPEN rather than MAKE it happen. We need help.

A wonderful way to overcome this mode : just ask yourself..

Why am I angry?

Who am I angry with?

Why am I angry with that person or situation?

Did I contribute to it in any way?

Answer all these questions truthfully to yourself and you will find that most of the time, you failed to look within to find the actual issue. That you had the power to understand and let go but you held on.

Making a constant habit of this kind of clinical analysis can help you in cultivating a calm persona.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have you felt that in times of sadness, angels hover around you? These are people in your life who watch over you, worry about your well being and often try to illuminate your path when they see you passing through a dark patch.

Sometimes, their value is felt only after they are gone. Because while they are around, we tend to take them for granted. Not often are we in a mood to give them a listening ear.

A matter of karma, I guess. I still remember the gujrati saying which means, wisdom comes only from others, not your own people. Like you prefer the food in someone else’s home. Taking home food for granted and bored with the same flavor. I guess people also come with the same old flavor which goes out of taste.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is not easy to deal with a desire for perfection in everything. You invariably deal with people who are anything but that. To deal with people when you are trying to achieve perfection and a certain standard in everything you do, you had better not rely on them completely unless you want to get stressed out and even fall ill.

Perfectionists have little patience with mediocrity. But to expect your standard of work from others is also foolish. In fact, it is wiser to bring down your standards a peg or two. Otherwise, you are likely to get into serious conflict with such people. To move forward, you might have to deal with less than efficient people and work.

Unfortunately, there are paid officials in many places who do not have the interest or ambition to grow and learn. Because they do not observe. And because they have no pride in their work.

And this gives rise to much frustration in perfectionists. I have seen people leave jobs, sack employees because of this. But they suffer for it.

So, simply put, be protective about your health, chill and relax a little. Everything will get done in time. I am often told that life should also be enjoyed. And I agree….so, learn to grin and bear in general.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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