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Overactive and emotionally disturbed ! Yes, the two can go hand in hand sometimes. If someone faces injustice, abuse and lack of love , emotional disturbance is a given. The point is, how to survive this feeling of being victimised for no fault of yours ? Simple ! The first choice is, DON’T accept victim-hood. I do not know if anyone who has not had people who have tried to break them down.

While some lacking courage might succumb, the fact is, to succumb to any form of injustice is as much a crime as practising it. On the other hand, those who have a distinctly defiant streak may go the other way by becoming so busy and active that they don’t focus on their emotions. But that is also a denial of a kind because whatever else you do, emotions ride with you. That is the issue.

So, being aware of this, it is better to accept and run through all the emotions one by one till they get exhausted and dissolved. Running away from them is not a permanent solution at all.

Surekha Kothari

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When we talk of memory, we perhaps refer to the mind in general. The soul memory actually gets transferred from one lifetime to another and is stored as cellular memory. If the memories are painful , they will manifest in the body sooner or later if something is not done to take away the pain . It is like a thorn in your foot which , if deep, gets septic and the pain radiates well beyond the location of the thorn .

It seems like a Herculean task if not an impossible one, to heal the cells by healing the memories. Because emotional pain also radiates out as compounded pain with one major negative emotion finding allied emotions joining in. Like, anger brings frustration and often , hopelessness with it.

One beautiful method is through breath. Breathing exercises are vital to health. Otherwise lungs can get effectively choked due to intense emotions. They can’t breathe in life under these conditions.

So, it pays to remember each time we practice negativity, where the memories are going to be stored and how important it is to clean up the toxicity before it attacks the mind body complex.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Emotion


Regret is the worst emotion for any of us. Crying over spilt milk, without examining and analysing the how’s and whys. It IS important to do so. The root cause of regret may be very small.

Aren’t there many things we have wanted but unable to get them ? Or achieve them ? Even if I take up a career successfully today, there may be other aspects which I could not nurture due to time constraints and whatever else.

Circumstances, inabilities of different kinds and for different reasons… it’s ok , because one did other things . That is the satisfaction one seeks. It is important to find enjoyment in what we do, not regret what we did not or could not do. The bottom line !

Surekha Kothari

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When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

People say going to academic institutions makes a huge difference and those who say this would be right, too. Except for one thing. There is a deeper native intelligence , the When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

presence of which makes the extraordinary difference to an educated person. That discerning quality is more in some and less in others. Of course, it can be cultivated to an extent with basic common sense and lots of observation and learning.

The ability to separate wheat from the chaff catapults the level of the educated mind to another level. And to impart that quality in those who teach makes them extraordinary and learning an absorbing exercise. Otherwise, mugging is just an exercise for the memory and not the brain. It doesn’t teach you how to live life.

Surekha Kothari

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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

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When you are depressed, you need someone to talk to; someone who’s kind and understanding words are all it takes to make you feel less toxic. More so, if the environment you live in is a toxic one, an impersonal one, a non- caring one.

Someone asked me, which life is a better one, the one of compromise or the one of loneliness? But aren’t we all lonely in some way? And don’t we all live a life if compromise in one way or another? How would you quantify or qualify either?

But if you are compromising because you don’t want to feel lonely, then you are in trouble. People can be like quicksands, and those that are solid too, have to go away one day.

How much mental strength and understanding of life must one have then, to absorb experiences in the right way and decide what would work and what would not and yet having solutions do not necessarily translate into action. There could be many, many obstacles on the way and one must have the time, will and energy to overcome them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Comparison


When you criticize, you want to feel better about yourself. Or, you feel you are in a better state and therefore, can criticize others. But it is not so. Because what you criticize is deep seated within you. You have been there and haven’t healed yourself. And without parts of you not being healed, there is no peace.

Comparing deprives you of peace because the very fact that you compare means you are not happy with yourself and your life as it is.

As far as complaining goes, it is evident that there is much chaos within you. You are unable to adjust to your environment and there is always some lack or the other. Where is there a question of peace ?

Peace will be within reach when you replace the three Cs with three As.

Awareness

Acceptance

Adjustment

Adapting to what is around you is the best way to go.

Surekha Kothari

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