Solution

Overactive and emotionally disturbed ! Yes, the two can go hand in hand sometimes. If someone faces injustice, abuse and lack of love , emotional disturbance is a given. The point is, how to survive this feeling of being victimised for no fault of yours ? Simple ! The first choice is, DON’T accept victim-hood. I do not know if anyone who has not had people who have tried to break them down.

While some lacking courage might succumb, the fact is, to succumb to any form of injustice is as much a crime as practising it. On the other hand, those who have a distinctly defiant streak may go the other way by becoming so busy and active that they don’t focus on their emotions. But that is also a denial of a kind because whatever else you do, emotions ride with you. That is the issue.

So, being aware of this, it is better to accept and run through all the emotions one by one till they get exhausted and dissolved. Running away from them is not a permanent solution at all.

Surekha Kothari

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Memories

When we talk of memory, we perhaps refer to the mind in general. The soul memory actually gets transferred from one lifetime to another and is stored as cellular memory. If the memories are painful , they will manifest in the body sooner or later if something is not done to take away the pain . It is like a thorn in your foot which , if deep, gets septic and the pain radiates well beyond the location of the thorn .

It seems like a Herculean task if not an impossible one, to heal the cells by healing the memories. Because emotional pain also radiates out as compounded pain with one major negative emotion finding allied emotions joining in. Like, anger brings frustration and often , hopelessness with it.

One beautiful method is through breath. Breathing exercises are vital to health. Otherwise lungs can get effectively choked due to intense emotions. They can’t breathe in life under these conditions.

So, it pays to remember each time we practice negativity, where the memories are going to be stored and how important it is to clean up the toxicity before it attacks the mind body complex.

Surekha Kothari

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Emotion

Regret is the worst emotion for any of us. Crying over spilt milk, without examining and analysing the how’s and whys. It IS important to do so. The root cause of regret may be very small.

Aren’t there many things we have wanted but unable to get them ? Or achieve them ? Even if I take up a career successfully today, there may be other aspects which I could not nurture due to time constraints and whatever else.

Circumstances, inabilities of different kinds and for different reasons… it’s ok , because one did other things . That is the satisfaction one seeks. It is important to find enjoyment in what we do, not regret what we did not or could not do. The bottom line !

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Observation and Learning

When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

People say going to academic institutions makes a huge difference and those who say this would be right, too. Except for one thing. There is a deeper native intelligence , the When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

presence of which makes the extraordinary difference to an educated person. That discerning quality is more in some and less in others. Of course, it can be cultivated to an extent with basic common sense and lots of observation and learning.

The ability to separate wheat from the chaff catapults the level of the educated mind to another level. And to impart that quality in those who teach makes them extraordinary and learning an absorbing exercise. Otherwise, mugging is just an exercise for the memory and not the brain. It doesn’t teach you how to live life.

Surekha Kothari

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Decision-Making

For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

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Understanding of life

When you are depressed, you need someone to talk to; someone who’s kind and understanding words are all it takes to make you feel less toxic. More so, if the environment you live in is a toxic one, an impersonal one, a non- caring one.

Someone asked me, which life is a better one, the one of compromise or the one of loneliness? But aren’t we all lonely in some way? And don’t we all live a life if compromise in one way or another? How would you quantify or qualify either?

But if you are compromising because you don’t want to feel lonely, then you are in trouble. People can be like quicksands, and those that are solid too, have to go away one day.

How much mental strength and understanding of life must one have then, to absorb experiences in the right way and decide what would work and what would not and yet having solutions do not necessarily translate into action. There could be many, many obstacles on the way and one must have the time, will and energy to overcome them.

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Comparison

When you criticize, you want to feel better about yourself. Or, you feel you are in a better state and therefore, can criticize others. But it is not so. Because what you criticize is deep seated within you. You have been there and haven’t healed yourself. And without parts of you not being healed, there is no peace.

Comparing deprives you of peace because the very fact that you compare means you are not happy with yourself and your life as it is.

As far as complaining goes, it is evident that there is much chaos within you. You are unable to adjust to your environment and there is always some lack or the other. Where is there a question of peace ?

Peace will be within reach when you replace the three Cs with three As.

Awareness

Acceptance

Adjustment

Adapting to what is around you is the best way to go.

Surekha Kothari

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Virtual world

It certainly appears that the virtual world has created distances between people. Families and friends today prefer to SMS or whattsapp rather than pick up the phone. The need to hear a voice is diminished considerably. The old world dialogue, ” son, (or daughter) I haven’t heard your voice in such a long time” is an almost obsolete statement. If you want that personal touch, there is a solution. And that is, just stop wanting it.

Similarly, a decreasing of hard copies of books and newspapers in the wake of a kindle and online news still makes one yearn for the touch of paper , a turning of a page physically instead of a click .

The emotionally led generations will, by and large, have to take a back seat in the next few years. I am not complaining. Just stating facts and neither am I unhappy. Because, spiritually, this is a wonderful time to detach as much as possible before leaving this earth. There is always a grand plan if one can see it. What the sages advocated and was so difficult to practice, is now becoming easier. We have less to account for in the other world.

Surekha Kothari

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Encouragement

How many things in life can we laugh about? How many things do we take in our stride? And how many times do we get affected?

If you can laugh about things which hurt earlier, then you are more evolved because such people are lighter in energy and a little detached as well.

If you are taking things in your stride, then you have learnt to balance your emotions out. And you have learnt when and where to use them.

And if you get affected by things, then you have not learnt your lessons well. It is always in the moment of imbalance that we are dominated by our emotions. You are still too dependent on what is outside of you. And the external is not always dependable whereas you are looking for support and encouragement from there only. Shoulders may be taken away. Rugs can be pulled from under your feet.

In all this, you can only depend on yourself and your wisdom in living, dealing with people and situations. Just like no one can attend school as a proxy for you to attain the knowledge, no one can improve your life but yourself.

Men may come and men may go,

But “I” go on forever.

So, if “I” go on forever, where lies the need to lean on an impermanent, destructible world?

Surekha Kothari

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Intelligence

Why do we go into sometimes uncalled for and sometimes unnatural behavioral patterns? Especially with certain people? And you tell yourself that you don’t know where these patterns came from. But they have to have come from somewhere.

I find that old memories are the most common triggers.

Your old negative experiences about these people create an adverse reaction and even if you see them after a long time, you still assume that those old habits of that person would still be existing as you had experienced before and been thoroughly disenchanted with at the time.

Assumptions can be very real and dangerous at times. Because you haven’t given another chance and may be completely wrong and start something like a chain of causes and effects you never should have. Or never dreamt you would.

It is therefore, a good idea to forgive and erase those memories.

You would be human to ask, how many chances should one take and be given in any particular case of being burnt with past experiences. The reply lies with you and how intelligently you can handle the same people again, this time without labeling them black and by giving them and yourself another chance at creating a new equation.

Surekha Kothari

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