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The blame game! We have done it ever since we can remember and still continue with it. I guess it is always easier to blame something else or someone else for the plight we find ourselves in. That “plight” we are in needs attention and analysis.

Once we accept that we make the choices for our lives, all arguments become meaningless. But that is being rational. You will find that people who are strong in energy make choices for themselves which is fine.

But rationality does not always prevail. On the flip side, there are others who are weak in energy, who will blame the earth if they fall, blame the family for a bad marriage and so on… everyone except themselves. Not only are miserable, they also make others around them miserable.

And it is so much depletion of energy all over. If only we learn to accept that we are largely responsible for what transpires in our lives, we can change things around for a total transformation in our lives. Because we can’t change the external environment or people. But we can work at our own attitudes and knowledge. When we are young, we go through conditioning. But as adults, with education, observation and analysis, we should be able to understand the futility of the blame game and the impact of taking responsibility for our lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Once a shopkeeper dropped some honey on the floor. He picked up whatever he could salvage from the upper layers, and left the rest on the floor. Immediately, some flies came down to lick the honey. Gradually, as they became greedy for more, they did not see that their wings were getting stuck in the honey. Other flies who came in also got stuck for the same reason. 

 When they had finished, they realized they could not fly. 

Moral:

It is always wise to keep your awareness around you and never lose your balance so that you never get stuck in life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

 

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It is lovely sitting around the fire on a cold evening. Just like it is lovely to sit around your children to warm your heart. Good comparison…but fire destroys, too. As a symbolic fire in relationships.

It is sad to see disorientation between new age kids and parents. I wonder why love is not enough. There is much imagery in relationships today…sometimes; children are even ashamed of their parents, their dressing, their behavior, their social etiquette, that they look and talk down to them.

When you get into your late 50’s and 60’s, and see people and loved ones leaving this world one after another, it seems unimaginable that anyone should disregard the value of their near ones . It is not their fault that they were from a different environment, growing up. That they only learnt what they were allowed to learn at that time. That the freedom today was not given then. And many other circumstances due to which they became what they are today.  

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is so amazing how we are born in one place but settle somewhere else. Actually, do you know that even land pulls us towards it? We have had several past lives and in the places that we have unfinished business, we also have a tenure of residence or a visit.

You get a deja vous in certain places you visit. I distinctly remember such situations in Rajasthan and in Chittoor in particular and all of us have these memories. Yes, land definitely calls out to us have these memories. Yes, land definitely calls out to us.

Sometimes we exhibit certain traits of the land we have lived in, like a deep interest in certain music or dance or even dressing styles.

Quite fascinating!                                              

Surekha Kothari                  

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady, she started screaming out of fear with a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group new, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond. The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought.

Do you have the ability to find a reason to laugh at yourself? It is a very liberating experience, believe me! So, one day, I was travelling by a share cab with my two grandkids and daughter in New York. These share cabs pick up people on the way if they want to travel the same route and provided there is space, of course. I was completely unaware of this.

So, while we were chattering away, suddenly the left side door opened to a young man. Before I could show my displeasure for unceremoniously stopping our cab, my daughter told me to move to the right. In bewilderment and completely not understanding what was happening, I quickly shifted to my right and fell with a thud on the floor of the cab.

I had not realized that, for some reason best known to the cabbie, half the back seat had been removed! After a few seconds of shocked silence in the cab, I broke into peals of laughter and my grandkids and daughter, very relieved at my reaction, joined in. At this moment, I realized how wonderful a feeling it is to laugh at myself. It freed me from being conscious in the presence of others.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was reading a quote which said, however good you are, there will always someone criticizing you. It took me a long time to finally understand that people don’t criticize you because they don’t like you. They criticize you either because they like you, though reluctantly and wish they could be like you… or because they resonate with the same negativity that they criticize you for.

This kind of understanding frees you from feeling a lack of self worth and there is no personal “beating up” due to what others says or thinks. Isn’t that wonderful?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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People are people, in various degrees of dark and light shades. Is it our acceptability which is suspect then? To brand family as negative smacks of a perspective where the only colors available are black and white…no gray, which is also a realistic color of life? 

When friends fall out with friends, and when family supports us, what will all our slogan be? “Thank God for family?”

Generalizations are odious! Branding people is even worse. If we have such colored perceptions, we need healing. Everyone is family to some and friend to some. When you grow up within a family set up, the familiarity aspect can curtail personal space.

When we turn away from generalizations only can we look at our belief system in a different way and consequently, learn to look at those around us minus built up prejudices. Once we are prejudiced, we build a wall around us and don’t often notice that people don’t always remain the same. They also change, whether they are family members or friends.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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