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I have realized how many little things we take for granted. Is there a guarantee we will wake up the next morning? Do we know for sure that our day is going to unfold as planned? Are we sure that the domestic staff will turn up tomorrow? Is it possible that you have an urgent meeting and the vehicle stops half way? To mention just a few.

Gratitude, therefore, is most important. The person who cleans your restrooms and your home. The one who drives your car, cooks your food. A friend who sits up with you when you are sick. Anyone passing you on the road who smiles at you or saves you from a near accident. Or blesses you without even knowing you….

The bottom line is, NO ONE HAS TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU…and if they do it, regardless of their motives, we have to thank them as messengers of God. The universe works relentlessly and lovingly. We need to understand the significance and read the language minute to minute.

Surekha Kothari

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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in . But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly , when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt ? Who wants to retaliate ? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger , resentment, fear or hatred, isn’t it ? 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Compulsions


How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils. To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually want at that point.

There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.

But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are comfortable there.

I have realized this fact. And each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the bargain.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If you have the blessings and teachings of a Satguru, you are indeed blessed. My guru who is staying with us for a few days is one who lights my path and shows me a direction that is so illuminating and enlightening that I feel very lucky to have met him on the path that he walks.

For the non believers and for those who live mostly within the external framework of this world, I can only say, once you receive and experience the nectar of spiritual wisdom, your transformation will not find adequate words which will succeed in describing that experience.

Of course, we need to work in our external environment, too, while on this earth. What we end up doing is working more here and less within our inner world. Symbolically, the stories of our gods and goddesses also show us the path of balance between these two aspects of us.

So, you see different aspects of Krishna: as a householder, warrior, loyal friend and a “paramatma” at the same time. There are messages at every step for us if we can decode them, of being multi faceted and being aware of our alignment with the collective consciousness. The journey is very exciting, with a new lesson through a new perspective of an already learnt lesson or new knowledge, acquired this moment , illuminating every minute of our lives…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Authenticity


From the news channels and especially the constant current update on the national scenario, there is one major life lesson to learn. News is news only till a bigger one breaks. People make milestones out of molehills until untraversed mountains appear before them…

There are micro issues and then there is a whole spectrum of macro issues. At any point, when we think this is the limit, the myth explodes and something much larger is revealed.

So, sometimes, making light of situations helps and at other times, situations may have larger implications when we make light of them.

Ultimately, it is only an honest and complete scrutiny of any news establishes its authenticity and the extent of its magnitude.

Today, when surgical strikes rule every channel, we are suddenly jolted by the duplicity of the spineless opposition…and yet, we thought there can be no bigger news than our victory…amazing!

The biggest current news is that while India is finally regaining lost ground with courage, boldness and righteousness, there is a set of politicians that need to be exiled to Pakistan. Why do we tolerate them when they don’t care about the honor, safety and pride of either the army or the nation?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is so interesting to listen to people’s conversations and observe the attitudes and emotional patterns which shine through.

Trivial and apparently casual conversations are not so ordinary because an aspect of the personality becomes evident to the onlooker.

For example, being secretive! I would prefer the word “privacy”. That has a valid connotation for me. The word “secrecy” somehow demonstrates the darker side …and above all, the kind of things that people feel the need to be secretive about surprises me.

If you are invited to someone’s home for a meal, the statement is, “I am OUT for lunch”, “OUT” being the catch word here. If you are going for a holiday with “friends”. No names mentioned! You might know them. AND feel bad you were not invited two brothers, sisters or sisters in law don’t have any desire to share friends. Too close for comfort!

WHY? All this in the name of “healthy” trends or the reverse?

Can one call this a malfunctioning of society, this opacity and this compulsion to control people and environment?

If you really analyze this, the root cause is mostly the perception of a reduction of attention and importance, or let’s say, sharing the person and risking their walk over to the other side. Or maybe, a tiny voice from within that might whisper, “Maybe, the other person will outshine me”. It is the fear of loss, a loss of many things under the apparent, superficial reason. Definitely an avoidable emotion! It just causes inner as well as outer conflict. But it is a very real issue today. Gone are the days of togetherness and large heartedness.

I know there can never be unanimity in such views. But the basic fact remains that these attitudes exhibit a deep sense of low confidence levels and self esteem. Of course, one can carry on living in this state all of one’s life. And people DO, too.

On the deeper level, these are also separatist attitudes where people are making choices of people and taking sides, sometimes being forced into taking sides, just because there are two sides…an undesirable polarization in perceptions!

Spiritual science teaches us oneness, the complete opposite.

But everything ultimately boils down to our self image. It is important to keep updating it through constant work and experience. Not be a big fish in a small pond and getting inflated but a small fish who is lively and courageous and swims along, exploring the furthest corners of the huge universal ocean so as never to be intimated by anyone or anything and taking on everything with a personality adaptable , mature and confident.

The canvas is so vast that the minds cannot afford to be small. This is a gross mismatch.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The most difficult thing to do is KNOW the motives of people around you, SEE them trying to harm you and yet smile it off without getting affected. In fact, even meting out affection in return. There has to be so much confidence and faith that anything that affects you has only been your choice.

I have seen angry, even vicious people crumble under such cool attitudes. It’s also called killing with kindness.

These people are like mountains, “chattans” as they say in Hindi. Unshakeable to the core! Yes, the core! When your core is anchored to the Divine, it becomes truly irrelevant what kinds of webs of negativity might be woven around you. It is like breaking your head against a wall…you will not succeed in affecting such people.

What a wonderful and Divine gift!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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