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It takes a while for people to believe that we can heal ourselves in many ways. Because we are responsible for making ourselves ill in the first place, we have also been endowed with self healing powers. Some terminal cases have been healed , too. Two cases that I know of with terminal illnesses cured themselves just through a few hours of pranayama per day.

The fact of the matter is , our thoughts and emotions when starting to deeply embed within ourselves are what manifest later. Negative emotions arising out of negative thoughts are the core reason for a gradual

Deterioration in health.

People ask me how any “ normal” person can stop feeling hurt or sad or depressed or angry at some time and in some situations. Sure ! True. But it is one thing to feel it momentarily and another to let it fester. Instead, it is healthier to let it go. Any emotion that is doing harm instead of good cannot be acceptable.

If relationships you have valued get affected, if restlessness and guilt sets in, if peace eludes you and thoughts crowd you each second, you haven’t started walking towards the path of light.

Become aware of the patterns and stereotypes you live with and don’t hesitate in asking for forgiveness, forgiving yourself and erase any memories that are painful, knowing they are just your perceptions. Give the benefit of doubt . And let go , let go. How many times ? Well, all the time. Holding on will harm you. It will bring illnesses you don’t need anytime soon , in fact, not at all.

So, relax. Have a “char minar,” as the saying goes.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I know why people are known by the friends they keep. These days, when the influence of families is diluted, the friends constitute the “carefully chosen “family, a family where you can have all the freedom to take a path going straight to hell. (Metaphorically speaking, of course). As it is fashionably stated today, you can’t choose your natural family. You can only tolerate them and sometimes, not even that.

I see many “close” friends meeting many nights a week to celebrate their “friendship” with alcohol, weed, cocaine etc. “Carefully chosen family”, did I say? That’s right. I did say that.

But then, our generation grew up with family being friends, too. This two in one package was unbeatable. Having fun with family was going on picnics with parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles , doing train journeys with specially packed Tiffin boxes which was the most exciting meal ever , playing cards during the journey and generally having a whale of a time. Where we felt loved and protected. Where there was zero tolerance for any disrespect, disobedience or rudeness of any kind, and of any “friend” who taught you to stray from family norms into undesirable habits and addictions. Friends were supposed to be those who dragged you away from any dubious people and habits around you , in case you strayed. THAT was true friendship.

Different times, different perspectives! But, the consequences of lifestyles will be seen in similar patterns. That doesn’t change. It is not only what YOU feel but how others see you; too, that brings the consequences. Too much sun will burn your skin. Too much darkness and you won’t be able to bear the sun. Too much freedom and you might wish you had been balanced.

Life has to be lived with love, humility, and yes, sacrifice, too. This is true freedom for the soul because it comes into this world encased in a body. These are essential requirements.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The fragility of life eludes many. Every night, we go to sleep, we don’t really know whether we are going to get up, get up healthy or with an ailment. Every day, we are so preoccupied with ourselves that we don’t focus on the fact that there is a larger machinery at work and we are merely small cogs in the wheel of life.

A dot on a large canvas is just that: a dot. Not the canvas. And we need to remember that each minute that the dot can be erased any time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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That prayers bring results is really to be experienced because it is a fact. Genuine and pure intention is a brownie point in our favour. What we call genuine surrender just seems to bring a new hope, a new kind of calm and peace. These are not permanent though, and one requires a daily cleansing through prayer.

We are all past masters at desiring instant success in everything. But that’s not how it works. Consistency of purity and prayer cannot fail. What fails or falters is our faith.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Diversity


When your consciousness expands and extends beyond the self, it is a wonderful feeling. You see what you didn’t see before. You hear what you couldn’t before. The same environment seems different. What used to bother you earlier you only smile at now.

This happens when you focus on yourself and learn to consciously look beyond the visible. Of course, you might also see what you may not want to see. But one has to make peace with the diversity in this world without getting affected in whatever manner. This process begins with a higher awareness which becomes deeper and deeper as you go along.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was talking to a friend about how stress can pile up on you because of your vulnerability to some relationships. These people know which buttons to press to make you go a little crazy sometimes some contentious relationships which can’t be severed and can’t be tolerated. It is as if two people are just waiting with their fangs out, ready to pounce on each other. And even if this sounds funny, it is really not, when you are within the situation.

Change this and you can get the ownership of yourself back. Changing this means changing and transforming the feelings that induce and lead to the war like environment. Not allow anyone to take away your choice of response and turn it into an angry or frustrated rejoinder.

We can’t smoulder from within and keep a peaceful front for too long AND retain our health as well. So, either we have to completely get away from such people or decide that they are not getting anywhere with you. That you remain unaffected even amused.

The best way to change your energies is to challenge yourself to become immune and get your control back. And hope no one thinks that this is a minor task and can be accomplished with just a “hey presto! “

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Disappointments are a part of life. Especially when you set your heart on something, strive passionately to achieve your goal and either fail or achieve it only partially, certainly not to your satisfaction.

“Satisfaction” is the key word. At what level is there a feeling of satisfaction? And what gives that satisfaction? Is it personal recognition? Being a celebrity? Having plenty of money and power? Or touching the lives of people? To name just a few, and there are so many more.

Someone gave me a wonderful perspective on why we don’t reach high points of success despite efforts. Or why there would be a break in career patterns, for example.

The soul comes with an agenda which does not necessarily include demands of a worldly ego. So, you are presented with episodes which are there as your lessons for this life. What YOU yourself have chosen to come and learn on this earth. When the soul is satisfied or saturated, it does not need for you to continue the effort towards what was really not meant to last beyond its time. You therefore, drop old activities naturally and new things and new opportunities start to happen to you.

So, disappointments are odious. It is the ego identity which creates a negative impact on a positive outcome. Everything is positive, if you understand the soul as being your core, not the body.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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