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When you go through something major in life, like a trauma, a sudden episode where the presence of God really hits you, there occurs a major change in your life, in your priorities. What used to matter so much seems trivial, even laughable? The first thing that hits you is, what was the point of giving less importance to yourself, your health and more to external factors  and more important, the unimportant factors.

Most of us make this mistake. Yes, I do call it a mistake because often, you lose awareness of your own body, mind and soul in catering to outside circumstances and people. Definitely not worth it in the long run, is it? You need people when you are unwell and there is no guarantee they will be there. Instead, just be well. Look after yourself first. Wear your oxygen mask first. And then, use the milk of human kindness to help others.

Surekha Kothari

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All our lives, we are told we must be balanced, balanced and more balanced. While we were kids on the see saw, the fun was exactly the opposite that is one side being up and the other side swinging up in seconds. Then we had the swing on which soaring higher and higher, one hardly knew what balance meant.

We read and preach a lot of theory. But actually, where is the balance? You love like crazy, like there is no tomorrow. You hate, waiting for tomorrow to avenge some deed or another. You eat the food you like until your tummy groans. You see serials like one addicted, forgetting day and night. You are constantly on whatsapp, face book and calls for hours. If you are a golfer, you never heard of the word “balance”.

Today, I am a spoilt child of my parents. Tomorrow, I will want to do exactly what I feel like. Later, I will want much name, fame and money. And so on…. so much for balance! What is that saying that says…

Love as if you never loved before

Laugh as if you will never laugh again

Cry your heart out when it is in pain

Enjoy with every cell in your body….

So much for balance right!

I always think that balance means certain contentment, a satiation level. And this can spell a saturation for which you have to really be ready and would have to have arrived at that point.

How many of us have?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It is the nature of humans to oscillate between happiness and stress. We speak of increasing hours of happiness through external sources and resources when actually, isn’t it really a state of mind? Ah! The MIND! The monkey that jumps from tree to tree! With a super speed unmatched by anything else in the human being, to steady it is a challenge.

But the question is how to make happiness a state of mind? We try to keep away from people and situations that affect us adversely in order to get happiness. Which means, we ARE affected and are in denial? Pushing away issues under the carpet may give us a superficial impression of happiness but there are definitely unhealed issues festering within.

As we know, many of us kill the child within us at some point. Believe me, if you don’t carry the forgetting and loving innocence of that child as an adult, all you will do is live your life cloaking your real emotions, hiding hurt from the world and blaming something or someone most times and also trying to become successful so that THAT becomes your benchmark for happiness. Hmmm! Let’s not forget that THAT is an external benchmark designed to ARRIVE at happiness. Whereas, happiness is not something to be arrived at.

Actually, without the shining light of simplicity, innocence and forgiving, can there be real happiness? I have yet to see it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The “Ardhanareeshwar ” concept is again coming back into discussion . The symbolism of half man and half woman is the essence of a human being. Both the male and the female are within each of us and it is necessary to balance the two sides for happy living.

Actually, our conditioning is just the opposite. Separate perceptions and therefore, upbringing also. The imbalance is created very early in life from which many do not surface at all. Families and Societies become troubled and in conflict because the role play of people itself is faulty.

I hope the new generations will understand how to raise their children with better knowledge.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Really speaking, more and more I realise that harmony is within . Being a singer, I notice that when I sing a raga of “gambhir prakriti ” or in other words, of a serious nature, the mind calms down and you get transported onto another level. As if you are floating. And there is peace and nothing matters.

We actually let the world come in to disturb us. We are the ones who open the door indiscriminately. Why ? Because our desires don’t leave us. We are not strong enough to tell them they are not needed in our life. And that life will happen anyways. If we let it flow through us.

The more spiritual exercises you do daily, the more the clarity will come.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Getting disturbed by anything that we don’t like and is actually happening is human nature. But everything we react negatively to is not bad for us. In fact, some of it is good for us. For example, if you are in a painful, unhappy relationship and it breaks naturally, it is, in fact, a release.

Conscious thinking keeps us abreast of such happenings and gives us the correct perspective and enables us to take a dispassionate view of every thought and happening. Conscious thought leads to conscious behavior which is more balanced than behavior dictated by the ego and defiance.

So, we look at the eye of the storm and then use our wisdom to determine its outcome that is relevant in our lives. And we will find that when storms blow over, often there is relief and peace in our lives. Every storm doesn’t have to leave us devastated.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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“Can love be measured by the hours in the day?” This line from the song from the movie “Love Story” is one of the most beautiful lines I have heard. Can love be measured, period? What is its measure, in any relationship?

Is it the amount of time spent together? Is it the number of gifts exchanged the quality of the gifts? Maybe, branded gifts as a measure of love? Or, daily calls? … I don’t know. All these seem to be very important today.

I wonder if empty hands but a heart full of love would suffice? Would it show in the warmth of affection in my eyes? In my smile that lights up my face? In my bear hug greeting in my travelling miles to be with someone on a special day. In the pain I feel ….or if my day starts and ends with someone.

I wonder at how people judge you and consider you fit for their friendship or love. What would be that criteria?

I wonder how people measure love in its many forms. How many forms do they see? How many are they able to see? And how do they interpret what they see.

I wonder…….all the time…. why there is no common benchmark for love which can sustain the peace and togetherness on this earth.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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