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Disappointments are a part of life. Especially when you set your heart on something, strive passionately to achieve your goal and either fail or achieve it only partially, certainly not to your satisfaction.

“Satisfaction” is the key word. At what level is there a feeling of satisfaction? And what gives that satisfaction? Is it personal recognition? Being a celebrity? Having plenty of money and power? Or touching the lives of people? To name just a few, and there are so many more.

Someone gave me a wonderful perspective on why we don’t reach high points of success despite efforts. Or why there would be a break in career patterns, for example.

The soul comes with an agenda which does not necessarily include demands of a worldly ego. So, you are presented with episodes which are there as your lessons for this life. What YOU yourself have chosen to come and learn on this earth. When the soul is satisfied or saturated, it does not need for you to continue the effort towards what was really not meant to last beyond its time. You therefore, drop old activities naturally and new things and new opportunities start to happen to you.

So, disappointments are odious. It is the ego identity which creates a negative impact on a positive outcome. Everything is positive, if you understand the soul as being your core, not the body.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There comes a time when you are absolutely saturated by all that goes around . Which you were a part of earlier in life. But somewhere along the way, the falseness, the meaninglessness of all conflict, all separatist tendencies, all pettiness, all self absorption, all cruelty , sadism, merciless killing and destruction… becomes so over the top that the mind just wants to switch off. And words fail.

Finally , this time, silence dawns . There is just no speech that can describe any of it.No opinions need be given. No judgemental statements may be spouted. Everything is just an ego battle. What’s the point ?

Silence is the best policy. Watch the world go by. Remain sane by stepping aside.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you go through something major in life, like a trauma, a sudden episode where the presence of God really hits you, there occurs a major change in your life, in your priorities. What used to matter so much seems trivial, even laughable? The first thing that hits you is, what was the point of giving less importance to yourself, your health and more to external factors  and more important, the unimportant factors.

Most of us make this mistake. Yes, I do call it a mistake because often, you lose awareness of your own body, mind and soul in catering to outside circumstances and people. Definitely not worth it in the long run, is it? You need people when you are unwell and there is no guarantee they will be there. Instead, just be well. Look after yourself first. Wear your oxygen mask first. And then, use the milk of human kindness to help others.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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All our lives, we are told we must be balanced, balanced and more balanced. While we were kids on the see saw, the fun was exactly the opposite that is one side being up and the other side swinging up in seconds. Then we had the swing on which soaring higher and higher, one hardly knew what balance meant.

We read and preach a lot of theory. But actually, where is the balance? You love like crazy, like there is no tomorrow. You hate, waiting for tomorrow to avenge some deed or another. You eat the food you like until your tummy groans. You see serials like one addicted, forgetting day and night. You are constantly on whatsapp, face book and calls for hours. If you are a golfer, you never heard of the word “balance”.

Today, I am a spoilt child of my parents. Tomorrow, I will want to do exactly what I feel like. Later, I will want much name, fame and money. And so on…. so much for balance! What is that saying that says…

Love as if you never loved before

Laugh as if you will never laugh again

Cry your heart out when it is in pain

Enjoy with every cell in your body….

So much for balance right!

I always think that balance means certain contentment, a satiation level. And this can spell a saturation for which you have to really be ready and would have to have arrived at that point.

How many of us have?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is the nature of humans to oscillate between happiness and stress. We speak of increasing hours of happiness through external sources and resources when actually, isn’t it really a state of mind? Ah! The MIND! The monkey that jumps from tree to tree! With a super speed unmatched by anything else in the human being, to steady it is a challenge.

But the question is how to make happiness a state of mind? We try to keep away from people and situations that affect us adversely in order to get happiness. Which means, we ARE affected and are in denial? Pushing away issues under the carpet may give us a superficial impression of happiness but there are definitely unhealed issues festering within.

As we know, many of us kill the child within us at some point. Believe me, if you don’t carry the forgetting and loving innocence of that child as an adult, all you will do is live your life cloaking your real emotions, hiding hurt from the world and blaming something or someone most times and also trying to become successful so that THAT becomes your benchmark for happiness. Hmmm! Let’s not forget that THAT is an external benchmark designed to ARRIVE at happiness. Whereas, happiness is not something to be arrived at.

Actually, without the shining light of simplicity, innocence and forgiving, can there be real happiness? I have yet to see it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The “Ardhanareeshwar ” concept is again coming back into discussion . The symbolism of half man and half woman is the essence of a human being. Both the male and the female are within each of us and it is necessary to balance the two sides for happy living.

Actually, our conditioning is just the opposite. Separate perceptions and therefore, upbringing also. The imbalance is created very early in life from which many do not surface at all. Families and Societies become troubled and in conflict because the role play of people itself is faulty.

I hope the new generations will understand how to raise their children with better knowledge.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Really speaking, more and more I realise that harmony is within . Being a singer, I notice that when I sing a raga of “gambhir prakriti ” or in other words, of a serious nature, the mind calms down and you get transported onto another level. As if you are floating. And there is peace and nothing matters.

We actually let the world come in to disturb us. We are the ones who open the door indiscriminately. Why ? Because our desires don’t leave us. We are not strong enough to tell them they are not needed in our life. And that life will happen anyways. If we let it flow through us.

The more spiritual exercises you do daily, the more the clarity will come.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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