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The “Ardhanareeshwar ” concept is again coming back into discussion . The symbolism of half man and half woman is the essence of a human being. Both the male and the female are within each of us and it is necessary to balance the two sides for happy living.

Actually, our conditioning is just the opposite. Separate perceptions and therefore, upbringing also. The imbalance is created very early in life from which many do not surface at all. Families and Societies become troubled and in conflict because the role play of people itself is faulty.

I hope the new generations will understand how to raise their children with better knowledge.

Surekha Kothari

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Really speaking, more and more I realise that harmony is within . Being a singer, I notice that when I sing a raga of “gambhir prakriti ” or in other words, of a serious nature, the mind calms down and you get transported onto another level. As if you are floating. And there is peace and nothing matters.

We actually let the world come in to disturb us. We are the ones who open the door indiscriminately. Why ? Because our desires don’t leave us. We are not strong enough to tell them they are not needed in our life. And that life will happen anyways. If we let it flow through us.

The more spiritual exercises you do daily, the more the clarity will come.

Surekha Kothari

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Getting disturbed by anything that we don’t like and is actually happening is human nature. But everything we react negatively to is not bad for us. In fact, some of it is good for us. For example, if you are in a painful, unhappy relationship and it breaks naturally, it is, in fact, a release.

Conscious thinking keeps us abreast of such happenings and gives us the correct perspective and enables us to take a dispassionate view of every thought and happening. Conscious thought leads to conscious behavior which is more balanced than behavior dictated by the ego and defiance.

So, we look at the eye of the storm and then use our wisdom to determine its outcome that is relevant in our lives. And we will find that when storms blow over, often there is relief and peace in our lives. Every storm doesn’t have to leave us devastated.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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“Can love be measured by the hours in the day?” This line from the song from the movie “Love Story” is one of the most beautiful lines I have heard. Can love be measured, period? What is its measure, in any relationship?

Is it the amount of time spent together? Is it the number of gifts exchanged the quality of the gifts? Maybe, branded gifts as a measure of love? Or, daily calls? … I don’t know. All these seem to be very important today.

I wonder if empty hands but a heart full of love would suffice? Would it show in the warmth of affection in my eyes? In my smile that lights up my face? In my bear hug greeting in my travelling miles to be with someone on a special day. In the pain I feel ….or if my day starts and ends with someone.

I wonder at how people judge you and consider you fit for their friendship or love. What would be that criteria?

I wonder how people measure love in its many forms. How many forms do they see? How many are they able to see? And how do they interpret what they see.

I wonder…….all the time…. why there is no common benchmark for love which can sustain the peace and togetherness on this earth.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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At the end of the day, there is only one main question that leads towards peace. “Am I ready to accept?” Also, am I able to step aside to avoid catastrophe and collusion, conflict and strife?

Someone very fiery once told me this was no way out; Seemed perturbed that I could advocate this “cowardly” path. How can you accept everything?

I don’t think it is so much a question of accepting “everything” as of being unrealistic enough not to know what is within our control and what is not. You really have no choice but to accept what is beyond your control right?

Forget huge phenomena like birth and death, even some results of your efforts are out of your hands. But what makes a positive difference is how we feel instinctively about things. What makes us uncomfortable is to be avoided because generally, it is a premonition or a warning that it may not be the wise thing to do; Feeling it in our bones, as it were.

And in such cases, it is better to avert an incoming crisis and upheaval.

But I don’t want anyone to mistake inertia for peace either. Peace may definitely be given up if it is for obtaining justice for someone. But if inertia sets in, there is no effort made and you exist like a vegetable.

These decisions of creating your own peace are also choices you make. And one of them is in favor of peace that is, accepting what you cannot change. For a huge chunk of peace, not pieces of peaceful moments.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Facts of life


It is so important to understand a few basic facts of life. One of THE most important ones is that “I” may be extremely important to “ME” but not necessarily to others from where one is watching. So often, this ignorance becomes a cause of great emotional and mental suffering.

It is good to learn to say, “It is okay” and bless everyone. In a world of time and space, we tend to measure distances with our emotions. Emotions don’t know how to rationalize or see things clearly.

I have realized that distance and closeness are mere illusory concepts. Who is close and who is distant? And what is the measure? The measure is once more, nothing but our expectations. The other person may not even remotely be thinking of you while you agonize over how close or how distant or why close or why distant. Sounds a little foolish but we tend to do this a lot.

Whether family or friends or acquaintances, unless you need to measure the physical distance, and you can do that by adjusting your spectacles, all “distance” is in our heads.

We also feel that someone who has not communicated for a long time has “gone away” from us. Not true. Getting involved in your life doesn’t mean you don’t care or that others don’t care.

There are many ways of thinking and understanding. The one thing that works is living contentedly with you. People know you are there. You know people are there. You have your priorities. They have theirs. The heart is the biggest connection. If that continues, you are okay.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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On a scale of 0 to 10, how much are you driven by fear of losing the people you love? We all need to really think about this because much of our life IS ruled by this fear.

The thought of being rejected or shunned torments and transforms into depression in many cases. And then, you can ask for references of names of psychologists/ psychiatrists / healers to tackle your depression.

First of all, fear itself is avoidable. What can be the value of fear between two people who are close? Only desperation to remain close can trigger fear. The insecurity can trigger fear.

To make people indispensable in your life can be a source of fear. They can rule your heart by all means. Love does not need reciprocity. You love because you love. It is your choice and no one can take it away. But if people you love choose to leave or create a distance, you should still be able to love them and pray for their happiness. Love is not a trade off although this is the way it works in this world.

You scratch my back and I scratch yours, and let us both bleed to death in the name of love, curtain close applause. Now, let us go home. This is the world we live in.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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