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Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.

We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the “why” of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.

This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.

The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.

Surekha Kothari

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Perfection! This word has evolved and taken different dimensions …when your child is born, you think it is a perfect creation of God. But, when it grows up, that perfection disappears in the very same eyes that beheld the perfection. When you have a love marriage, things can’t be more perfect! But where is that perception of perfection after some time?

You buy a perfect outfit for an occasion and look perfect from top to toe with a perfect make over. Yet, one small error in a look or a word or an expression, and the perfect grooming is perfect no more. Similarly, there are many “perfects”…perfect behavior, perfect nature, perfect adjustments ….etc etc. You want a perfect party, perfect display…

What is it? Perfect is as perfect can be in the extent of our imagination. Perfect can be pretty obsessive. Perfect can be very limited in its rigidities. Because with “perfection” where is the scope to grow further? So, if you don’t want someone to evolve, keep telling them they are perfect. Jokes apart, where there is constant opportunity for change, the perfect can also change, become a better perfect than the earlier one, and continue this way…

If you are a musician, you know this. Every time you perform, you experience perfection or the lack of it. The standards, self determined and other determined, tend to fluctuate. It is the journey itself, this search for perfection. It is the striving to better ourselves that leads us towards an imaginary goal called “perfection”, as elusive as the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow.

So, let us not obsess about looking for perfection. Let us try and manifest it as we see it in every phase of our lives. Because each one’s vision of “perfection” is different.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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“I can’t see” or ” I can’t breathe” said often are not to be taken lightly. There are those who actually cannot breathe in life and are steeped in depression and have many energy blocks.

Similarly, those who complain of not being able to see are like those who are drowning in the sea of life. Critical conditions may be close.

The stereotypes must be attended to. There can also be a lack of self love here leading to various mental and emotional aberrations. And not everyone has the awareness or the wisdom to know they should seek help. Their families sometimes have even less awareness and, in ignorance, do generate more harm.

So, when you see these tendencies in people around you, please get wise and seek help for them.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Presumptions and misunderstandings have a close relationship. If you understand something or someone, you will make assumptions on the fact that you know and understand and can therefore, predict to an extent.

But when you misunderstand, that can be based on your expectations of people, people you could sometimes be colored and prejudiced about. Actions in this case may be misunderstood and hence, incorrect presumptions made, guillotining someone who may be more innocent than guilty.

We often mete out undue injustice in this way and should train ourselves to observe rather than involve in emotional leanings that might prevent clear thinking and damage relationships. We all live and learn. To correct faulty patterns is not impossible.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Kindness! It is more important than love. When you are kind to one another, you build up a reservoir of positive energy between you which can be then used towards those who find it difficult to be kind…people who have faced much unkindness and have become hard and hardened.

I have understood that you can be kind to everyone without engaging your emotions to judge them. That’s when you fail to be kind…when you sit in judgment.

It requires a certain acceptance of habits or ways that you may not find palatable by your standards (which is understandable). But it is not necessary that people should be like you. It IS essential to view them in their own context of their upbringing, disappointments, thought patterns, experiences etc and understand why they are who they are. Once this happens, kindness may come more easily.

We feel being kind takes away something from us because we are constantly looking for gratitude, acknowledgement of the kindness and more. We often feel people have to be beholden to us. That is really not the way it is. Gratitude is the business of the receiver and not the giver of kindness. So, let us not reverse the formula by giving and then also expecting. This takes away from the giver.

Let the receiver evolve through the right practice of gratitude for it is his on us in the spiritual order.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Destined! I used to believe for a long time that we can do ANYTHING we want to. Life proved otherwise. But with a corollary not everything we want can be achieved. But when that understanding dawns and we are able to accept and let go of that desire, miraculously, other opportunities begin to shine before us. And those often are what our inner calling is. 

The question is, at what stage do we become sensitive to this awareness?
And how do we remain untainted by the pollution of our desires which may not be in sync with what the Universe has chosen for us? It is very possible if we learn to understand the symbolic language in which the Universe speaks
to us.

Many of us have had the experience that during a questioning phase, you open a book and suddenly, your answer is there. Or, someone around you will say something which is just the reply you are looking for. This is the supporting language of the Universe. If you go deeper and start observing everything with a microscopic awareness, each minute will become very profound in its information and knowledge.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Stereotypes and mindsets! We live with them all the time… in fact; some of us do not know how to live without them…because if we don’t believe them, we are lost. Our whole foundation of survival is based on them.

Change, therefore, becomes a generator of fear…fear of the unknown.
Like, I am holding my mom’s finger for security…what will I do if I let go of it?

The mind has no existence unless we fill it with thoughts and emotions according to our perceptions, prejudices and thought processes. When fear rules, we try to find solace in stereotypes, because they have been tried and tested and provide a certain comfort level.

 But these will never encourage growth. On the contrary, they can limit us to a point where we begin to live with closed minds which can breed all the negativity in the world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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