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When you criticize someone, sometimes, you envy because you want to be like them. But at the same time, you don’t want to emulate them. A bit contradictory for sure. But looking deeper, it means there is some originality of spirit waiting to illuminate itself. There is so much substance within us, we don’t know it ourselves.

Often, in mere defiance of others telling you this, you turn the other way either out of sheer laziness to explore within or disbelief of the self. “Just couldn’t be bothered” would be another reason. And the current comfort zone would be a huge one.

We end up wasting much of our special gifts. But ironically, what we don’t know of, we don’t miss.

So, don’t worry. Be happy. At the end of the day, this matters.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Intellectualization of meditation is not possible, because meditation is going beyond the realm of reason and therefore, beyond the conscious mind. This is why intellectuals often fail in hypnotherapy sessions.

You have to let go the rational mind at least for a while if you want to explore the hidden crevices of your sub conscious mind. Rather, buried files in this part of the mind which has many answers to your life.

Hypnosis is a state of mind we all visit frequently and can make productive use of it by erasing what is not required in our lives, with new intentions to erase and rebuild.

We all know what is worth holding and what is worth letting go of. It is a matter of good sense and will.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is the truth that things will go to ruin only if WE let them. People and events will get the better of us if we let them. The ball is always in our court even if it was thrown by someone else. And if we don’t want it, WE have to make the effort to send it back.

So, there is really no scope for hopelessness at all. Between the creative and logical parts of the brain lie all ideas , ways to accomplish what we want to and all processing of thoughts and information and then …the challenge to make it all work and NOT get intimidated by anyone or anything. This the last but lethal stop where everything can reach a dead end.

Shying away from life for whatever reason may well is termed as defensive living. It could mean accepting the dent in the quality of life which could otherwise be enhanced with personal effort.

Because it is true that life will be what WE make of it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of “enough?”

Mostly, we set our own limits, don’t we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.

You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that “space” is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.

Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The “enough” may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed “enough”, Math between people. “I didn’t get enough”. But I probably also didn’t GIVE enough…

But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We are very quick to brand life as unfair when things don’t go our way. As if life were a person giving us a hard time! Sounds funny, right? But we do this all the time. And then people get linked to the unfairness of life.

When something good happens, we take it as entitlement and forget it so quickly. We always feel we deserve the best of everything and not a moment of the opposite.

But who said so? Who developed a foolproof package to be delivered to the “deserving?” No answer! Whatever good that comes our way as freebies or good luck is a bonus for the hard work we may have put in. Nothing is a coincidence.

But what we call “adverse” is also what we deserve at that moment. Surprise tests! As we had in school, we always had to be prepared.

Hmmm. Time to draw parallels in our lives!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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