Growth

Something to think about! Every negative emotion can be used positively for personal growth. Every challenge facing us contributes to a certain fear / anxiety / doubts. whether we should take it up, whether we will succeed, whether to play safe and not take it up?

If you give up before you try, you have failed already. But if you face your fears and anxiety but take up the challenge anyways, you will find yourself becoming more aware of the process required for success. This very awareness of incorporating features that you require to accomplish a task is the major contributor to your growth.

So, if your goal is personal growth as it should be for us all, then your courage should kick in each time that you shirk a task because of self-doubt.

Surekha Kothari

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Happiness

I strongly believe that if you care for a relationship, never hold up your ego between yourselves. Many a time, it has happened that each ego front makes it more and more difficult to bridge the distances created. Especially when you realize you were wrong. Your feet become like lead and the same ego won’t allow you to throw down your defenses and acknowledge your mistakes. And there can be a point of no return coming up in valuable relationships.

I do believe that if someone cares, they should be able to indulge in frank speak without getting guillotined for it. Strong bonds will not break with this. In fact, they will be strengthened.

So, leave ego out and save relationships and enjoy the happiness that such bonds bring you.

Surekha Kothari

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Truth

We are always so close to healing ourselves, except for denial of our distortions. THIS acts like a thick veil between us and our healed selves.

We DON’T need to know about anyone else.

We need to know

WHAT angers us

WHAT inspires us into conflict

WHERE lie our imbalances

WHY we are unaccepting of our need to change certain thought processes within us

WHY we prefer to blame others but refuse to admit to our own weaknesses

WHY we feel envy, and pander to our insecurities etc.

What do any of these have to do with anyone else?

But, this is the way we want to continue to live. Never mind the miserable state of our minds!

Why are we living a life or pretence and getting comfortable with a lie rather than the truth?

It seems quite illogical, or SHOULD appear as illogical to an “educated” mind. Except that academic education is no guarantee …

Each of us forms a society and the standard of society is therefore, determined by each one of us. 

Change is an internal phenomenon, the triggers of which might lie in the external world. But it has to start within. And we have to feel enough discomfort when looking into our mirrors, to WANT to change our muddy reflections into clear ones.

Surekha Kothari

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Level of awareness

When you do the right thing by others, at whatever cost to yourself and your desires, there is an immediate raise in vibrations. You feel that your higher self has revealed itself. The joy is apparent. So, don’t do anything that directly or indirectly, has a detrimental repercussion on anyone. As a rule, this contaminates your energies. Don’t ever doubt this or defy this view, because there is enough evidence to prove this.

Contamination of energies attracts more contamination. The Universe sends you more of what you have because it only vibrates with what you ARE. It cannot discriminate, like humans can.

You are already with people and in places that you need to be with and in. No use fighting this . It is karmic. It is meant to be. AND, if you leave your prejudices aside, it is meant for your good. To learn to heal all the dark aspects that people in your life are there to show you. You may not have a memory of your karma but the people around you ably compensate for this. If only you venture in that direction , which is not often.

And also, if you stop hating and blaming, the truth is, you are always amidst your soul groups which are “ coercing , “irritating” you into

Understanding the reality, which you must be aware enough to understand.

Life acquires a different meaning once you reach that level of awareness.

Surekha Kothari

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Spiritual growth

Everything that we possess to go through our life’s journey is like a tool kit: our thoughts, emotions, our financial flexibility , our bonds .. everything. Yes, our relationships too… very much so.

The next realisation is how we accommodate all of these with love and gratitude. The “I” that has the tool kit is the one which now needs the wisdom to understand the blessings bestowed upon it.

There are always ways to live , using all that has been gifted to us. But , along with enjoying the journey, we need to see that the journey is not fraught with disappointments and depression. That strife spells out the wrong usage of the kit.

If you have financial flexibility, temper your entertainment desires with spiritual growth. Spend the finances in learning, going for retreats , cleansing , healing … or , just praying from wherever we are. Accelerating the pace of prayer really brings miraculous results because we are one with God and no third to dilute our concentrated energy.

Unfortunately, as long as these remain words and theory in people’s minds, there will not be any change . We actually have to take up a commitment to DO and to practice healing modalities for atleast a desired minimum time to observe their effects.

Many of us don’t turn towards this direction at all. Our choices are directed towards what seems to be , from the external world, a source of happiness . But, soon, that myth explodes. For, behind transient happiness lies its opposite: misery.

The sooner we realise that our real joy lies in developing our soul and witness consciousness, the sooner will we embark or continue on a journey of a God ordained path.

Money, name and fame cannot be our ultimate goals. If we have been misled into thinking that they are, life will teach us that it is not so. And harming God’s beings will definitely not result in any good. The physical world exists to help our consciousness and awareness develop a clean channel which reflects God within us. Nothing less. It depends on each of us as to when we arrive there… in how many lifetimes.

Because I AM THAT.

Surekha Kothari

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Knowledge

In this age of science and technology, the importance of information and knowledge can never be underestimated. Knowledge is power. Knowledge translates into self – esteem and motivation.

However, is that enough ? There is a third connected branch which completes the first two. And that is WISDOM. Without wisdom, knowledge is theory. Wisdom comes with learning from experiences.

This wisdom is what was derived from the Gurukul system of education where equal importance was given to learning through practice , becoming wholesome individuals and fit enough to take on the responsibilities of being a householder, a spouse, a parent, a respectful and dutiful son or daughter etc.

This was wisdom. Touching the feet of elders was wisdom because taking blessings always kept you humble. It was synergy with your family that each person played a perfect role to keep the unity and love intact.

All this was wisdom. Today, this third arm is kind of handicapped or out of use. The race is only for achievement through information and knowledge. So be it, but somewhere along the way, you will stumble and feel the need for wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

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Avatar of people

I think many of us have seen life and people at close quarters. And yet, sometimes we are shocked at the avatar of people we have somewhat known since many years.

Actually, we have to constantly watch our spiritual quotient so as to use the right way to reach the top. And remember that the “top” is an illusory place and very relative in any case.

A hunger for power may be described as being ambitious but the word “hunger” smacks of an imbalance which might override good sense, wisdom and ethics.

We always think men answer to such a description . But, today, usurping power , overruling or sweeping aside a majority is getting to be a common factor even with women. It is certainly not gender based. The field is wide open.

It is amazing to see that there is no concept of right or just when it comes to thirst for power.

This thirst percolates down the layers of society , so much so that someone who retires from the limelight is unable to bear anonymity. And it is even worse if power had been acquired unethically. Guilty kicks in and remorse becomes an “after the event “ syndrome.

Every thought , every deed is energy . It increases or depletes and creates our reality based on how our levels of balance are and how big a role dharma plays in our lives.

Success happens to a deserved level if we are righteous but if we aim too high, we may not be able to be righteous all the time and will sacrifice ethics at some point.

And that’s why contentment and dharma are very important.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

Let every experience polish your shine more and more. Detach yourself from it and you will see what that experience is trying to show you about yourself. Every such realization adds shine to your persona. Don’t get involved in the judgmental aspects of goodness and adversity of them. That is just your perspective. In reality, the implications are vast and consequences far reaching… much more than you know.

Surekha Kothari

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Abundance

It is amazing that many of us don’t know how to live in the moment right now! In the present moment either we are reminiscing about what has already happened or planning for what we will do next.

My feeling is, we are restless living within structures of brick and mortar or whatever the current advanced technology may be. The soul craves a natural habitat to become peaceful.

In order to feel connected, we need to be amongst nature. To feel the beauty of the present moment, we need to feel the green grass under our feet, a gentle breeze on our faces, the sun energizing our spirit and all the elements enveloping us in their embrace.

When we say things happen to us, it is true provided we are receptive to the Universe and egoless, in awe of the majesty of creation. How else would the Universe help?

We are strange creatures. We love to pray for abundance but block it ourselves. We want happiness but do everything in our power to become harbingers of unhappiness due to our own misdeeds.

And the crowning glory!!! If anyone points this out, God help that person!! We have amassed all the tools of disquieting our minds ourselves. We don’t have to look far.

Surekha Kothari

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Expectation

We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.

And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.

Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.

That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more

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