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No man is an island and everyone needs someone. In good times and bad times, a good support system makes life easier and more soul friendly. You don’t need many around you. But one should be like three; that caring that desirous of being there for you, as you must be for them as well.

Innocent and sincere friendships are heartwarming. When you see an evidence, your smile also is genuine and your heart happy.

When I hear people say, “but I care so much ” in words more than action, this spells a lack of spontaneity , maybe a kind of getting stuck in a comfort zone and not willing to walk the extra miles. Whatever else the reason!

A support group of friends and family is a total necessity at any time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked a question the other day. If you are close to two people and they fall out with each other over an issue, whose side would you take? A loaded question for sure. A tough one, too ideally, everyone would like to maintain both relationships. And why not, since you were never the involved party. Why do you have to be torn between the two anyway, right?

But there it is. Sometimes, there WILL be a tug of war and then? If you gave the courage, you should be on the side of what is right, and not the person involved.

But, right might be what appears to each person as a different perspective. When both people think they are right, what happens then? We invariably become fence sitters in the name of tact and diplomacy. The thought being,” I don’t want to spoil my relationships. Let them work

It’s out. It may not always be that simple when people are expecting you to take sides.

In life, there will be cases such as these or some others, where people may go away from you. And prefer to stay away for no fault of yours. It is okay. It doesn’t matter. It is not your business to worry about the why’s and how’s. A clear conscience is the only yardstick we should use. And after that, let people stay if they will and let go if they won’t. There will always be a soul connection.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Many of us either don’t learn from our mistakes or don’t really care; Just blundering through life with a lack of awareness. Like a child that refuses to learn. I wonder what makes some of us like that.

They say new souks are somewhat like this because they lack memories of the experience of old souls. Makes sense to me. A new soul would be childlike for sure; adventurous, loving, aggressive and rising with every fall; until life happens and reactions to good and bad memories take over thoughts and action.

We don’t even realize how much creatures of our past we are. How predictable our actions could be for someone who has seen us evolve.

If you see people with lower back aches, they are storing memories which need to heal. They would be older souls because they have so much to store.

The task of cleansing these memories forms a large part of the reasons of our many births.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There is a strange feeling of confidence in us as we plan our life. It is called faith. That keeps us going. Otherwise, if you really think about it, do we really know that we will live for the days we have planned activities for?

We only begin to think of our mortality as we grow older, and especially when health begins to fail. Then we review our lives, check out our mistakes and want to atone for many of them. We start fearing that our actions might boomerang on us. Our Karma may come back to us… etc.

But faith is that key which makes life into a journey of adventure. And it is faith only which makes us trust the Divine and accept our life experiences.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Generally, people have many different perspectives in life. Views on similar matters differ and widely sometimes. Each one of us values our way of thinking until it changes could be due to inner learning or external education.

Today, the main problem in society is the basic non acceptance of other viewpoints. Rather, intolerance to viewpoints other than our own.

Do we ever debate on why we don’t look like clones of each other? We know and accept external appearances but can’t do the same in any other manner. So, if color and case unite, they also divide. The same goes for everything else. Money, fame, values, culture, sophistication etc.

We worry more about the appearance of a glass rather than whether the water we are drinking from it is pure. Glass divides but water unites similarly religion. The belief in different gods or spiritual heads divides though the blood in the veins is the same in all and unites all mankind. Correction! SHOULD unite mankind.

Then what stupidity are we up to , and actually propagating that stupidity of divisions in every sphere ? The question is, do we see it that way? Never have we preferred to think we are right and everyone else is wrong. And we take along all those who think like us, whether our thinking is beneficial or destructive.

Unfortunately, that’s how more and more individualistic groups form, each distancing from the other on account of lack of affinity. This extends beyond boundaries and intolerance rules the world. Peace is therefore, in pieces.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Isn’t it amazing, this zest for life and will to live? Despite lives ending around us and all kinds of ailments plaguing humanity, we still carry on. Philosophies of life emerge every day. Some listen. Some listen and practice. Some don’t listen. Some don’t want to know and are happy in their world. Seasons come and go. Wrinkles start to show, last on the face and limbs. Those on the mind are older but when they manifest outwardly, we begin to take notice.

We are humans. We will regress some, progress some, cry some, laugh some, and carry on; Living life with all that we have, good, bad and indifferent. Who is anyone to say what these mean anyway? Because they mean so many different things to so many different people that you get exhausted from trying to fathom and analyze. It’s like you roam all over the world and then finally, come back and rest only in your home.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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