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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in. But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly, when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt? Who wants to retaliate? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger, resentment, feared or hatred isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Situations


We don’t often understand that often, we are acting out of a habit that has become a repeated pattern. We don’t know how to change our responses to similar situations. Just think…if someone said something really unpleasant meant to hurt us and we smiled or even laughed, how would it feel? Wouldn’t it free us?

But we won’t do that. We will automatically choose to feel hurt, giving people power over us and unable to make a right choice for ourselves. Sometimes, it is good to surprise ourselves by doing something unusual…it can feel very good.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Quality of emotion


People say it is good to take people and things at face value ….hmm…really? But what is the end result of taking such an attitude? Evidently, something like taking everything with a pinch of salt! So, that makes for a lot of salt in the system! And salt retains water in the body. Water, you know, is a symbol of emotions. Which means, if you are taking that attitude, you are doing it superficially and suppressing a lot of emotion in the bargain?

Otherwise, how come people who appear to be breezy, nonchalant and least affected are afflicted with serious ailments? Strokes! Heart attacks! Lung diseases! These reflect an inability to breathe in life positively.

Excess emotion can be a big killer. So, it is always better to accept the quality of emotion you are feeling, run through it and cleanse it immediately. We can pretend before others. Can we run away from ourselves?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Wisdom


Adults who have psychological issues need to look at their growing up years. Parenting comes very hard to some parents. It is very common, especially in India for family and friends to foist their expectations and opinions on each other.

Hardly a year goes by for the newly married couple when people start wondering if everything is alright in their marriage. Why? Because they haven’t announced that they are on their way to becoming parents. ..Children are therefore, often the desired “objects” that make couples feel “normal”. And of course, if the “object” is a boy, then the parents hold exalted images. But they may not have been ready for parenting, or wise for that matter.

As a result, many children are mal nourished emotionally because the parents are not mature themselves. And they grow up minus the wisdom that should accompany the love, caring and attention. So, some children become lonely. Some become recluses. Some become overburdened with expectations. Some become attention seeking….and some try to draw attention though anything sensational, even killing.

Parents really have to be very careful about exercising wisdom in their own lives and lives of their children.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked me a question on my blog “How do we learn our lessons?” A very good question, because we don’t often know what we need to learn, where to start.

Basically, we can learn either from other people’s mistakes or from our own. But again, what to learn either ways?

Sage Patanjali advocates the understanding of five human afflictions to start off the process of the right knowledge to apply to our learning.

  1. Avidya (ignorance). To obtain knowledge of our soul, our purpose, what hinders growth? This requires a realistic introspection. Avidya is believing we know when we don’t at all, or partially. About anything. We all know that when we think we know, there is always more to know.

  2. Asmita (ego, the “I” identity) which colors our mind and intellect, and hence, our understanding because it dominates, colors our perceptions and hence, creates an imbalance in the mind.

  3. Raga (attachment). It creates dualities of “mine” and “yours”, conflicting with the universal law of connectivity and of a universal consciousness.

  4. Dvesh (hatred). The opposite of attachment is shunning due to hatred, dislike. Also an imbalance because it has no place in the evolution of man.

  5. Abhinivesha (fear of death). This happens due to all the four mentioned above. We are attached to our physical bodies and to those of others. We are attached to our egos which is misleading us from the truth. The positives and negatives create an illusion of loss and gain, and we hold on to the world and our physical, emotional and mental reality as we know it. Actually, we need to let go and flow smoothly.

So, we must start working on our own cleansing of coloration through conditioning and imbibing wrong knowledge along the way. And then, with a new awareness, we will understand what we could have done better earlier and what we can do in the present and future for our journey and our evolution.

 

 

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We don’t really realize what happens when we violate a universal law. The repercussions have long and far reaching effects. There is a snowball effect for everything. And once the consequences begin to spiral outwards, they complete their circle of movement. And to experience the consequences is inevitable.

Humans are naive enough to believe that if they disobey the universal laws surreptitiously, deviously and silently, they can get away with it. Think again! Like the proverbial fly on the wall, the Universe watches. Every second! But we do many things in ignorance and out of the preview of the parameters of wisdom…this has to change first.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Generation


Every generation wishes it was born in the next generation. There are more doors of opportunity, more evolution every few years…

The minus here is that the earlier generation does not necessarily have the ability to adapt to changes, especially in the academic field. Of course, knowledge brings in many more changes, e.g., in sophistication, behavioral patterns and many personality aspects.

Today, when I see the elders keeping pace with trends, technology and the overall pace of life, I feel a deep sense of respect for them. At least, they try. The youth of today does not probably realize how challenging it has been for their parents’ generation to survive within the rapid growth of societies, waiting to be loved and wanted by their children who have moved into a bubble of contemporary life, with not enough compassion for the elders , many of who have not been as privileged.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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