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Every phase in time has had priority requirements. But none of the phases ever required atrocities, traumas, hatred, intolerance, greed, war mongering and enmity in the name of separatist “identities”.

We keep hearing that “satyug” will come back one day. And how well greed would be justified if we craved for satyug as of yesterday. True, this planet cannot take any more negativity. All the healers need to come together, connect and heal the planet and the gross misdeeds of human beings regularly. The way this world is churning today, the writing on the wall is very clearly visible.

Man is insatiable in seeking hell. Has lost all sense of wisdom. Lives in an illusory imagination of permanence and delusions of grandeur and Omni presence. The road leads to a “no man’s land”, darkness beyond the imaginable.

Let the light shine again. Let this planet know peace and joy, the brotherhood of man and man again. And let peace, harmony and prosperity reign. It is long overdue.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Very often, we seem to have little or no control over our thoughts. They keep coming almost like a cyclone and shake up the very core of an individual. Very few have the awareness and capacity to stop them when required, observe them and change them if and when necessary.

Sometimes, out of nowhere, some thoughts connected with old wounds surface suddenly. And then we understand that the healing is still pending. We will not get over these thoughts unless we heal them. Through understanding, love and forgiveness. What damages healing is also the intensity of negative feelings. The more intense, the less the ability to let go and more the pain and resentment.

Often, we are also so helpless with thoughts coming in. We actually believe that thoughts just come in. But from where? And do we have the power to regulate them or not? Do we KNOW we create them AND have the power to let them go, bring them in, transform the negative ones at will and by choosing the direction we want them to take? Perhaps not.

People say they tried but no resolution was found. Again, let us ask “why”. Because we insist on playing and replaying the same old “hurt” tape in our mind.

Again and again and again. We want a salutary action, a re-conciliatory action from the person who has hurt us. Right? We are unwilling to let go till this is done.

We don’t realize that WE can sort this out ourselves. Why do we need the crutch or a dependency to feel better? Or even to forgive and forget? Come on! Resolve the hurt yourself. Because you CHOSE to get hurt. Right? So, why expect someone else to solve YOUR issue, created by YOU?

We need to get out of the mode of “approval seeking” and emotional dependence. We want to belong somewhere, lean on someone because we don’t know how to live with people AND be independent. We keep loaning or giving away our precious energy to them.

The help we expect from others can be easily done through self counseling because at the end of the day, it is OUR ego that initiates the hurt. So, with counseling the ego, it is possible to heal it and even smile at what we realize now, was utter foolishness on our part.

Simple, my dear Watson! How can anyone hurt me if I don’t WANT to get hurt?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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In “satsang” and from spiritual orators and books, we often hear about practicing detachment. While being human, it is extremely difficult. But there are ways of reducing the attachment. Just because, then, decisions would be more correct and more balanced.

Simply put, if we can just be clinical in our assessment of situations, putting behind our personal feelings, this can be achieved.

You know, watching the world go by? Just don’t get embroiled in the lives of those you recognize on the way. Easier said than done? Sure! But at least peace reigns in the lives of such people.

Once you get into the habit of expecting from people the kind of consideration and compassion YOU gave them, you are in for trouble, depression and sleepless nights. Specially if they are “family”. Expectations from the family are natural. But, people just grow up differently. Even siblings. They are products of their own journey. This is the bottom line and the most clinical one, too. It is always good to remember. So that we can immediately let go of any personal expectations and understand that there is a reason why people do what they do. And these may not coincide with your thoughts, values, sensibilities or ways. But that is really not an issue. It is alright. The only thing that is enduring is that which comes from the heart. And to listen to the heart, sometimes, you have to lessen the impact of the brain.

So, the ideal formula is love genuinely, keep a respectful line of control between and live and let live. The only people you can bear influence on are kids… and I am not even sure of that! The rest of the time should be spent on personal evolution.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When we go out to a restaurant, there is a huge menu we choose from. These are items we love and want to indulge in. But they are not necessarily good for our health. We still bypass that thought and make the choice. We tell ourselves, it is only for that meal. So, we end up eating that food and develop indigestion or food poisoning.

Now, similarly, when damaging feelings enter us, we again must choose either to let them in and adopt them as ours or let them go immediately as being wrong for us. Knowing that this may start a pattern, we still accept these feelings because we want to retaliate.

The main cause is that we have not been able to separate ourselves from our egos. So, who gets hurt? Who wants to retaliate? It is the ego. If we learn to make a choice against the ego and in favor of ourselves, we can avert any illness of the mind.

If you want freedom from the ego, the most effective way is to simply acknowledge the undesirable thoughts and emotions that came in and the actions they set off. To say, “I was wrong” is really liberating. To say, “I am sorry” and MEAN it is even more liberating. It just clears the air within us and between two people also. Not that you mean to, but this rattles the opposite person and generally forces him or her to introspect.

Ultimately, our purpose is to work with love, not anger, resentment, feared or hatred isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Situations


We don’t often understand that often, we are acting out of a habit that has become a repeated pattern. We don’t know how to change our responses to similar situations. Just think…if someone said something really unpleasant meant to hurt us and we smiled or even laughed, how would it feel? Wouldn’t it free us?

But we won’t do that. We will automatically choose to feel hurt, giving people power over us and unable to make a right choice for ourselves. Sometimes, it is good to surprise ourselves by doing something unusual…it can feel very good.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Quality of emotion


People say it is good to take people and things at face value ….hmm…really? But what is the end result of taking such an attitude? Evidently, something like taking everything with a pinch of salt! So, that makes for a lot of salt in the system! And salt retains water in the body. Water, you know, is a symbol of emotions. Which means, if you are taking that attitude, you are doing it superficially and suppressing a lot of emotion in the bargain?

Otherwise, how come people who appear to be breezy, nonchalant and least affected are afflicted with serious ailments? Strokes! Heart attacks! Lung diseases! These reflect an inability to breathe in life positively.

Excess emotion can be a big killer. So, it is always better to accept the quality of emotion you are feeling, run through it and cleanse it immediately. We can pretend before others. Can we run away from ourselves?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Wisdom


Adults who have psychological issues need to look at their growing up years. Parenting comes very hard to some parents. It is very common, especially in India for family and friends to foist their expectations and opinions on each other.

Hardly a year goes by for the newly married couple when people start wondering if everything is alright in their marriage. Why? Because they haven’t announced that they are on their way to becoming parents. ..Children are therefore, often the desired “objects” that make couples feel “normal”. And of course, if the “object” is a boy, then the parents hold exalted images. But they may not have been ready for parenting, or wise for that matter.

As a result, many children are mal nourished emotionally because the parents are not mature themselves. And they grow up minus the wisdom that should accompany the love, caring and attention. So, some children become lonely. Some become recluses. Some become overburdened with expectations. Some become attention seeking….and some try to draw attention though anything sensational, even killing.

Parents really have to be very careful about exercising wisdom in their own lives and lives of their children.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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