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Disentanglement vs detachment:

In these modern times, the one person who makes practical sense in terms of interpreting old values seems to be Sadguru. The important point to note is that everything comes back to each succeeding generation in a new package, with a certain twist.

One day, I was having a discussion on attachment with my guru and telling him how I wished to be detached like sadhus like him are. And he had smiled and said,” even sadhus have attachments. I was a little thrown by that statement, purely because of my own mindset which I had cultivated by reading old texts and listening to many lectures of spiritual orators. Sometimes, introspection on some statements can fall short and belief systems formed by half knowledge.

Sadguru explains very convincingly that if you think detachment is what you are here for, you can find ways of dying right now, because you are not here to learn detachment. If you are not attached, how would you experience life, the purpose for which you were born? The reason we suffer is not due to attachment but the mind getting entangled with people, situations, and emotions.

When that happens, you cannot extricate yourself from the experience whereas the idea is to experience and move on.

We can even call it living each moment completely. And living IN the moment each minute and moving ahead with a clean slate each time and from each experience. Somewhat like the magic white board which turns white every time, after being written on in many different colors.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, we make observations like, he or she talks too much. There are many reasons why there are some people who feel the need to talk… to fill in the long silences between people, awkward silences of discomfort. Some people try and fill up these silences to keep conversation going.

On the flip side, there are those who will just look at you but not speak. No reaction comes forth, as I mentioned this leading to the awkwardness. The psychology of the silent ones runs deep and can vary from insecurity to low self esteem to fear of saying the wrong thing; Even the fear of ostracisation self abnegation.

The good news is, public behavior and conversation is a learnt art. You can actually change your current personality to incorporate techniques which will put you in a safe zone, and, in fact, make you a confident and happy conversationalist.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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In the Indian discipline, fasting has many benefits. Many religions also advocate it as a cleanser of toxins. The benefits, however, are many if fasting extends in thought, word and deed.

Therefore, “mouna” or silence is very important. Silencing your thoughts, your speech and abstaining from toxic foods purifies the system. It purifies thoughts, exercises some measure of control over speech automatically and puts you in a placid and calm state of mind.

Children in schools should be initiated most definitely. A daily exercise of silence or chanting for a few minutes to start the day with can make a sizeable difference to those who are hyperactive. The younger generations of parents are incorporating this technique on a daily basis with positive results.

It really would be ideal to introduce parts of the earlier “Gurukul” system of holistic education to make the future generations ethically, morally, mentally, emotionally and physically strong and balanced.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is very easy to slip into an inertia mode if things don’t work out as you want in life, specially over a long period of time. When disappointments keep happening and hope ebbs away slowly and steadily. And ” what’s the point” becomes your theme song. And then, if you are able to pull yourself up and out of THIS frame of mind, you are truly admirable in spirit.

This is not to sit in judgement over those who find it difficult to overcome this situation. It takes a Herculean effort .

I feel that just as we look upon “annadaan”or feeding the needy as a divine service, bringing people out of their depressions is a major service. Suicides are a result of such hopeless depressions. Life is a gift but unfortunately, does not register as one to those afflicted with deep hopelessness.

If every member of a family understands the importance of this, and that if sharing and caring, this stage of depression can be averted. God’s work, for sure. And this also applies to caring for orphans and those who have strayed out of anger and frustration with life.   

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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No man is an island and everyone needs someone. In good times and bad times, a good support system makes life easier and more soul friendly. You don’t need many around you. But one should be like three; that caring that desirous of being there for you, as you must be for them as well.

Innocent and sincere friendships are heartwarming. When you see an evidence, your smile also is genuine and your heart happy.

When I hear people say, “but I care so much ” in words more than action, this spells a lack of spontaneity , maybe a kind of getting stuck in a comfort zone and not willing to walk the extra miles. Whatever else the reason!

A support group of friends and family is a total necessity at any time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Someone asked a question the other day. If you are close to two people and they fall out with each other over an issue, whose side would you take? A loaded question for sure. A tough one, too ideally, everyone would like to maintain both relationships. And why not, since you were never the involved party. Why do you have to be torn between the two anyway, right?

But there it is. Sometimes, there WILL be a tug of war and then? If you gave the courage, you should be on the side of what is right, and not the person involved.

But, right might be what appears to each person as a different perspective. When both people think they are right, what happens then? We invariably become fence sitters in the name of tact and diplomacy. The thought being,” I don’t want to spoil my relationships. Let them work

It’s out. It may not always be that simple when people are expecting you to take sides.

In life, there will be cases such as these or some others, where people may go away from you. And prefer to stay away for no fault of yours. It is okay. It doesn’t matter. It is not your business to worry about the why’s and how’s. A clear conscience is the only yardstick we should use. And after that, let people stay if they will and let go if they won’t. There will always be a soul connection.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Many of us either don’t learn from our mistakes or don’t really care; Just blundering through life with a lack of awareness. Like a child that refuses to learn. I wonder what makes some of us like that.

They say new souks are somewhat like this because they lack memories of the experience of old souls. Makes sense to me. A new soul would be childlike for sure; adventurous, loving, aggressive and rising with every fall; until life happens and reactions to good and bad memories take over thoughts and action.

We don’t even realize how much creatures of our past we are. How predictable our actions could be for someone who has seen us evolve.

If you see people with lower back aches, they are storing memories which need to heal. They would be older souls because they have so much to store.

The task of cleansing these memories forms a large part of the reasons of our many births.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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