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For many, blaming comes easy, easier than to take responsibility or ownership for your thoughts and actions. It begins with blaming parents, could be for the decisions made for you because you either told them to or could not make any yourself. Finally, when these decisions don’t result in what you want, what else but blame the decision makers?

I didn’t think right for a long time. But then, I realized that even parents were little ones at one time and became products of their own conditioning and upbringing. What is important to understand is that their growing years shaped much of their thinking. And they, with all the love they had, could only do what they knew to be the best at the time. It was your karma that you had to experience that you did not recognize as your lesson.

After 18 years and with education behind you and always in front of you in the school of life, if you don’t learn compassion and understanding of people you live with or are close to, all the riches and popularity in the world are of no use. The whole world can applaud you for your worldly success. But what about that spirit that resides within you whom has a different yardstick for approving of you?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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There is a strange feeling of confidence in us as we plan our life. It is called faith. That keeps us going. Otherwise, if you really think about it, do we really know that we will live for the days we have planned activities for?

We only begin to think of our mortality as we grow older, and especially when health begins to fail. Then we review our lives, check out our mistakes and want to atone for many of them. We start fearing that our actions might boomerang on us. Our Karma may come back to us… etc.

But faith is that key which makes life into a journey of adventure. And it is faith only which makes us trust the Divine and accept our life experiences.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Generally, people have many different perspectives in life. Views on similar matters differ and widely sometimes. Each one of us values our way of thinking until it changes could be due to inner learning or external education.

Today, the main problem in society is the basic non acceptance of other viewpoints. Rather, intolerance to viewpoints other than our own.

Do we ever debate on why we don’t look like clones of each other? We know and accept external appearances but can’t do the same in any other manner. So, if color and case unite, they also divide. The same goes for everything else. Money, fame, values, culture, sophistication etc.

We worry more about the appearance of a glass rather than whether the water we are drinking from it is pure. Glass divides but water unites similarly religion. The belief in different gods or spiritual heads divides though the blood in the veins is the same in all and unites all mankind. Correction! SHOULD unite mankind.

Then what stupidity are we up to , and actually propagating that stupidity of divisions in every sphere ? The question is, do we see it that way? Never have we preferred to think we are right and everyone else is wrong. And we take along all those who think like us, whether our thinking is beneficial or destructive.

Unfortunately, that’s how more and more individualistic groups form, each distancing from the other on account of lack of affinity. This extends beyond boundaries and intolerance rules the world. Peace is therefore, in pieces.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Isn’t it amazing, this zest for life and will to live? Despite lives ending around us and all kinds of ailments plaguing humanity, we still carry on. Philosophies of life emerge every day. Some listen. Some listen and practice. Some don’t listen. Some don’t want to know and are happy in their world. Seasons come and go. Wrinkles start to show, last on the face and limbs. Those on the mind are older but when they manifest outwardly, we begin to take notice.

We are humans. We will regress some, progress some, cry some, laugh some, and carry on; Living life with all that we have, good, bad and indifferent. Who is anyone to say what these mean anyway? Because they mean so many different things to so many different people that you get exhausted from trying to fathom and analyze. It’s like you roam all over the world and then finally, come back and rest only in your home.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We know ourselves more by the independent choices we make. Compromised choices often are reluctant choices that sometimes leave a trace of anger. “Why did I agree to make that choice? I don’t like that feeling very much. I don’t feel good”, especially when the results might not be palatable.

Well, it is normal to feel this way. We are all free spirits who , by nature, don’t want controls. And yet, we have them everywhere ever since we are born. In childhood, they are thrust on us because we don’t know any better. And soon, this becomes routine until you start asking “why”.

When you make your own choices, you take ownership of those choices, whether they work out for you or not. That is the right learning process. There is no chance of throwing the blanket at anyone else here because you were solely responsible for the choice. And actually, it’s good because that’s how we grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The worst thing is when something happens to you and you don’t know why it is happening. Like an ailment or a behavioral pattern from someone which you consider unnecessary or surprised by because there is no apparent cause. We often agonize over these things.

If it concerns our wellbeing, sure, it is important to learn why. But it is also wise to understand what constitutes our well being and then let go of those things which we have understood as our well being but we are not really dependent on for our well being.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Wearing your attitude is an old saying. Actually, the difference is in its quality. An attitude is or should be an expression of who we are. Cultivated attitudes for presentation to the world are suspect, because that’s not who we are.

At the end of the day, we have to live with ourselves. So, if somewhere within us, we feel the need to enact an attitude superficially, we may not be confident that we will be liked for ourselves. Which means, deep down, that we don’t like ourselves too much?

The one we need to impress is ourselves, not others. As they say, we always talk about loving this one and that one, but how about loving ourselves so that our attitude may have genuineness to it?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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