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Hankering after what cannot be is just not wise. Everything has to come within the realm of possibilities first, in order to materialise. And anything CAN come within the realm of the possible , the condition being that there is some amount of realisation.

Sometimes, I think it can be as simple as realising the need for a warm shower. But there is a condition here again, that you feel dirty enough to have one. This feeling is what brings the shower within the realm of the possible.

Likewise, one will have to keep peace until there is a trigger , winds change and something different and desirable happens. Realisation doesn’t dawn in people at your time. Only at the right time for them.

Surekha Kothari

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Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

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What is the nature of happiness? Someone called it an idea the other day and I was intrigued. It was quite a thought. Is it merely an idea then? So, does one make a difference between being happy and feeling happy? Are they the same thing or not?

If happiness is an idea, then it disappears if and when the idea disappears. If I feel happy, feelings can be transient and that status can therefore, change anytime.

Being happy seems to be a longer lasting concept. The “being” happy is a state of being that is not dependent on external factors. You just ARE happy. No one and nothing was responsible for that state of happiness. Evidently then, it comes from within. And that is the coveted state which all humans search for but in the wrong way.

If happiness were on sale, people would buy it in a heartbeat. But if they were offered just being happy, for no reason, the price would be too heavy to pay because it requires some difficult measures that might spill over to many lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Acceptance


I have found that things just happen even if you don’t interfere with your personal desires and efforts. Something will happen in your life. But people are not willing to take this for an answer. “But what about what I want ? And what if things don’t happen that way ?”

We tend to push away things that might have happened had we let them happen. Just by looking the other way.

The soul is here to interact with this world for the relevant experiences. So often, we say, “my heart is not in it anymore “. But after so many years of pursuing an activity ? Why now ? Because the soul is satisfied and wants to move on but we don’t want to let go. To make our peace with the fact that something is over and something else is coming up that we need to go through. The cognisance is lacking when the soul connection is weak. So, the answer is :

Accept. Accept. Accept. Don’t expect , expect and keep on expecting. Believe me, some amazing things start to happen at that stage if acceptance because acceptance is a way of surrendering.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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A frequent thought: what do you do when you ask for forgiveness but are not given it? When we are taught forgiveness, we don’t think that someone may not be in a mood to forgive and is holding on to past grudges, memories and even pain. Pointless! But it is not easy to preach at that point and say things like, it was not meant to be etc. That would be disastrous!

But truly, what is forgiveness? You basically let go of your negative reactions with an understanding that there is no need to internalize anything. Each one can let it go. The next step then would be easier. Just shake hands seriously, forgiving is merely not keeping anything in the mind. The alert is sounded only when things are repeated again and again.

People tell me, oh! I forgive easily but I never forget and this sounds ominous because you have not forgiven in such cases sometimes. Not always.

You know, I equate this with water sliding off your back when you shower. Just as water is energy, our thoughts and feelings are also nothing but energy. We need to let all of it slide off us. And there will be perennial peace in our inner world. You might say, aha Easy to talk but hard to do maybe, for some; maybe not so hard for others. You will have to try it out.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Arguments


Arguments are only for winning or losing a point of view. It becomes a personal issue to be proven right. Never mind the logicality or authenticity of the point of view.

On the other hand, if you discuss, you may arrive at what is really the right view. The former is ego driven. The latter, based on maturity. Because it is all about what is right.

It would be interesting to observe how many arguments one has had vis a vis how many discussions, nothing like a little introspection here.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Pile up


Right from the time we become adults, we accumulate and hoard. Then, in the sunset years, we need to declutter and give away. Similarly, we build larger homes and then shrink them into apartments. We know that everything has to be downsized ultimately. Yet, we keep accumulating more than we actually need.

I believe that the bigger the space you create the more clutter you will pile up. Every empty wall needs to be filled up.

Yet, our heart has huge spaces in it. We call it a void. Because
ironically we downsize the heart very early in life, which we are not supposed to. No clutter there. Whereas, the more full it is, the more abundance there would be; a completely opposite reality the main difference between the physical world and the non physical world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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