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Keep the pollution away. And I don’t mean only environmental pollution. That is an obvious fact. There are other forms. For example, what a polluted mind can do is not apparent even when our own mind does it. We should be so much aware, actually, that even if a polluted thought enters your mind, you ask for forgiveness immediately. Excessive? Not at all!

You will notice that we all have formulated very “artful” ways of overlooking the pollution in our minds. Take humor. One always knew of laughter being the best medicine, as avid Readers’ Digest readers believed laughter to be. But how much dislike and aversion can humor be laced with is something we all have seen many a time. Right? In fact, every night, at bedtime, if you recap every detailed thought, word and deed honestly to yourself, some pollution will be visible. Some negative thought about something, someone…even you. (You are equally important, if not more). Or, some emotions that lashed out uncontrollably because someone else was at fault and “did that to you”…when you know that no one can do anything to you unless you permit it…and some acts also that we try to palm off on some incident or people , acts that we are not really proud of.

One way to reduce this pollution is to keep the mind outside of you. Examine it minutely and see what thinks is and what it says to you. And take the positive in and keep the rest out. With a little practice, you will see a difference. Once you know you can do this successfully, you will want to do this exercise again and again like a child because you will start feeling so good about yourself that you will never want to regress to that pollution stage again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We seldom nurture our inner child. Since childhood, we are trained at the conscious mind level to share, to give, to do things for others. But never taught that it is equally important to love our inner child. Some children are also abused for their ways. These kids grow up to subdue or even kill their inner child because the signals they have received very early in life is that this inner child is non functional. That it is that part of the personality that is not required.

But this inner child is the core of love. A child is very loving and very spontaneous. Imagine, if this source is turned off, how this child would survive as an adult. On arid ground. Without water.

 I don’t think there is anything more detrimental than a lack of self love and the inability to get or feel that love from others. Love keeps the softness within us alive. Be sure that those who have a hardened exterior need love and frequent hugs more than others. Because they show a facade and suppress a lot. Just like those who love attention and a lot of limelight are deeply insecure.

There is no alternative but love, to love yourself, to care and have compassion for yourself first and then for others because they are fashioned in a similar way to you and have the same source of energy to draw from. And therefore, connected.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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To forgive and be forgiven is the most beautiful feeling. It removes many blocks within, cleanses our energies and gives us a new impetus to start over. It is often a difficult exercise. But if we look at every human being as a soul and all the layers as meaningless as the ones we pile up on ourselves, we might succeed in developing a sense of compassion.

To let go of grudges and resentments and to try and forgive completely is beautifully demonstrated by the “paryushan” week by the jain community. They ask for forgiveness within their family and friends and anyone else they have hurt. And this requires a subjugation of the ego, although temporary for many. Being human, we do tend to lapse. However, it does teach us and make us aware that we need to make it a part of our lives gradually and with practice.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Observation


If the only thing we did in life was to observe people and why they do what they do, we would actually live the saying “Life is the best school”. Not only that, we would also understand ourselves better. No puzzle here! It is simple! For every observation, examine the emotion within you and the importance you give it, and you will realize what it is that you need to work on.

What we also learn is what to do and what not to do. Learning history, geography etc. May fetch us a degree but if we can learn the right lessons in the school of life we can get our pedigree.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We don’t really realize what happens when we violate a universal law. The repercussions have long and far reaching effects. There is a snowball effect for everything. And once the consequences begin to spiral outwards, they complete their circle of movement. And to experience the consequences is inevitable.

Humans are naive enough to believe that if they disobey the universal laws surreptitiously, deviously and silently, they can get away with it. Think again! Like the proverbial fly on the wall, the Universe watches. Every second! But we do many things in ignorance and out of the preview of the parameters of wisdom…this has to change first.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Socialize


Why people do certain things! Do we understand why people do what they do? Take for instance, card games like rummy and bridge. Although they fulfill a similar purpose, one is a “white collar” game and other is not looked upon as one. No guesses here for which one!

 I see card rooms at clubs filled with people, especially the retired and older generation, who love to socialize over a card game. And I also see other club goers who turn up their noses at such groups. The only prejudice for this aversion seems to be that of playing with money. But gambling is another story…it can be indulged in different ways.

I see the other, lonely side of these people who are cut off from work and often, from their families as well. Time hangs and there is much loneliness which gives rise to depression and ennui towards the world in general. This can be a potentially dangerous situation.

There is a need for the older generation to keep their brains working and interest in life alive irrespective of whether it is playing cards, browsing the internet or anything else.

In fact, this may become true for all of us as we age. Card games keep the memory ticking, some social activity alive and enable these people to come out of whatever burdens they carry.

It is very sad to see people who lose their mobility and their youth, languishing for a lack of support. Indoor games are very good for them. In fact, many are now opting to be in special homes where they can be looked after and be with their own kind, rather than become isolated within their families.

So, there is always a larger perspective we fail to see in our conditional minds. What we criticize today may be a great pastime for us tomorrow. The idea is to stay well, with our mental, emotional and physical aspects intact and healthy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Worry, worry, worry! It is the most popular pastime. Sometimes, I think some people thrive on worry. What would they do if they didn’t have something to worry about? 

So, you worry about your children, your job, whether your staff is going to turn up for work the next day, how much influence you have on others, why you are not popular in a group…etc.

From the more serious to the lighter issues, we just like to worry.

Instead, if we start analyzing the reasons and the root causes of every worry, we may see some light at the end of the tunnel. There are tough karmic experiences that many go through, whether happily or unhappily. But underneath that knowledge is a more profound knowledge that of being protected and helped by the Universe provided we are on the wavelength to receive that help.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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