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I have realized that in the name of close relationships, we give compassion but forget to reserve some of it for ourselves. And when that happens, what comes to us is criticism. Criticism from others turns into self criticism and soon, you start feeling you are not good enough. You allow people to do this to you. Because the more you give, the more they take and the more you get taken for granted.

Someone said to me that you must be more clinical in life instead of going overboard for anyone. I would have argued a few years ago. Today, I see the wisdom of the statement.

Be calm, clinical and clever; the 3 c’s which must rule relationships today.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consistency of anything is an absolutely essential path to excellence. Like a rough diamond that is polished and polished yet again until it is perfect.

Speaking specially of god given talents, it would be a pity to just let them languish in favor of idleness or frivolous activity. Indeed, one has to devote full time to hone a talent and therein lays the problem with many… too many sacrifices of “good times”. But there can never be a substitute for the joy of reaching the heights of soul activities like music, dance, fine arts…

We only have to look at the Reality Shows to see the enormous amount of talent inherent within us. And the dedication with which these youngsters are working with parental backing. Thank the lord , parents are emerging from their narrow cocoon like minds to come out in full support of whatever it takes to see their children among the “stars”.

As one young girl proudly said of her parents…” they are my super powers”. How wonderful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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No two cases are identical though there may be similarities. We tend to assess people and situations based on our experiences. Sure, that’s normal. We form certain belief systems based on these experiences.

What we forget is, others don’t necessarily have to have the same or similar beliefs. Just because their conditioning, their thinking patterns may be different.

And that’s why in society and even families, tolerating and accepting people of other belief systems is vital to harmony and peace in the world. And that is what plagues us: the lack of what we should have in abundance.

Why is it so difficult to understand that if I am different from others and expect to be liked for whom I am, then others also expect to be liked as they are. It is a healthy attitude and one which inspires more learning. Because we learn more from those we like, accept and respect.

This is not for closed minds though. You have to be very open to critical, objective evaluation of yourself and the performance of surgery of the blocked energies or trapped energies to accomplish a free flow of transforming energy.

So much to learn and so much time wasted!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The evidence of a close relationship is the flow of energy towards the ones you love. You can’t force this flow. Mostly, it is reciprocity that binds people together. Funny how life takes turns and people you thought you knew, you never really knew. And you thought you knew yourself but again, you never knew the future “you”. This is why emotions are futile to hold onto. If it comes, let it.

If it goes, let it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The world today is conspiring to bring fear into everyone’s hearts. The greatest of them is fear of people. We don’t feel safe anywhere. We are unable to trust anyone. Whether family or friends or strangers, there is a whole lot of uncertainty? The dishonesty and decadence around humans has reached its peak.

Then, there are also environmental concerns. Fear of the kind of world we are leaving for the next generations.

Fear of death is huge. Fear of losing wealth, affluence, success. Losing the limelight…fear, fear, fear…

Fear psychosis rules under the beautifully masked people. Is there any point in continuing this way? Does it help anyone and anything? We are unhappy and others are unhappy. Waste of a life if we can’t turn our lives around!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Have we ever thought that if we never accepted the dishonorable intentions of people, how untouched by negativity we would be! Imagine, if someone wanted to deliberately humiliate you, for example, but you just didn’t react to the intention and instead, continued to maintain your politeness and dignity, how foolish that person might end up feeling?

Try it, not once, but again and again, through life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When you criticize someone, sometimes, you envy because you want to be like them. But at the same time, you don’t want to emulate them. A bit contradictory for sure. But looking deeper, it means there is some originality of spirit waiting to illuminate itself. There is so much substance within us, we don’t know it ourselves.

Often, in mere defiance of others telling you this, you turn the other way either out of sheer laziness to explore within or disbelief of the self. “Just couldn’t be bothered” would be another reason. And the current comfort zone would be a huge one.

We end up wasting much of our special gifts. But ironically, what we don’t know of, we don’t miss.

So, don’t worry. Be happy. At the end of the day, this matters.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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