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Grow through what you go through. It is amazing how one sentence can be like an ocean of teaching. Living through the experience is the only way to grow. A personal experience is more profound than any words. Remember how we were as parents, always sheltering our kids instead of allowing them to have their own share of experiences? And what happened to these children? Many of them could not create and grow into their own spaces. But some parents chose to teach them how to reason and think and experience and grow. For example, children must be allowed to fall and get up, rather than being prevented from falling.

At every stage from the toddler stage to adulthood, the importance of our own experience cannot be underestimated. Once we experience, we learn from it. Mere words cannot change us unless we imbibe teachings sincerely and allow them to sink in deeply. But we never forget a lesson when we have lived the episode.

Surekha Kothari

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On a scale of 0 to 10, how much are you driven by fear of losing the people you love? We all need to really think about this because much of our life IS ruled by this fear.

The thought of being rejected or shunned torments and transforms into depression in many cases. And then, you can ask for references of names of psychologists/ psychiatrists / healers to tackle your depression.

First of all, fear itself is avoidable. What can be the value of fear between two people who are close? Only desperation to remain close can trigger fear. The insecurity can trigger fear.

To make people indispensable in your life can be a source of fear. They can rule your heart by all means. Love does not need reciprocity. You love because you love. It is your choice and no one can take it away. But if people you love choose to leave or create a distance, you should still be able to love them and pray for their happiness. Love is not a trade off although this is the way it works in this world.

You scratch my back and I scratch yours, and let us both bleed to death in the name of love, curtain close applause. Now, let us go home. This is the world we live in.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Emotion


Regret is the worst emotion for any of us. Crying over spilt milk, without examining and analysing┬áthe how’s and whys. It IS important to do so. The root cause of regret may be very small.

Aren’t there many things we have wanted but unable to get them ? Or achieve them ? Even if I take up a career successfully today, there may be other aspects which I could not nurture due to time constraints and whatever else.

Circumstances, inabilities of different kinds and for different reasons… it’s ok , because one did other things . That is the satisfaction one seeks. It is important to find enjoyment in what we do, not regret what we did not or could not do. The bottom line !

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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I have realized that in the name of close relationships, we give compassion but forget to reserve some of it for ourselves. And when that happens, what comes to us is criticism. Criticism from others turns into self criticism and soon, you start feeling you are not good enough. You allow people to do this to you. Because the more you give, the more they take and the more you get taken for granted.

Someone said to me that you must be more clinical in life instead of going overboard for anyone. I would have argued a few years ago. Today, I see the wisdom of the statement.

Be calm, clinical and clever; the 3 c’s which must rule relationships today.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consistency of anything is an absolutely essential path to excellence. Like a rough diamond that is polished and polished yet again until it is perfect.

Speaking specially of god given talents, it would be a pity to just let them languish in favor of idleness or frivolous activity. Indeed, one has to devote full time to hone a talent and therein lays the problem with many… too many sacrifices of “good times”. But there can never be a substitute for the joy of reaching the heights of soul activities like music, dance, fine arts…

We only have to look at the Reality Shows to see the enormous amount of talent inherent within us. And the dedication with which these youngsters are working with parental backing. Thank the lord , parents are emerging from their narrow cocoon like minds to come out in full support of whatever it takes to see their children among the “stars”.

As one young girl proudly said of her parents…” they are my super powers”. How wonderful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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No two cases are identical though there may be similarities. We tend to assess people and situations based on our experiences. Sure, that’s normal. We form certain belief systems based on these experiences.

What we forget is, others don’t necessarily have to have the same or similar beliefs. Just because their conditioning, their thinking patterns may be different.

And that’s why in society and even families, tolerating and accepting people of other belief systems is vital to harmony and peace in the world. And that is what plagues us: the lack of what we should have in abundance.

Why is it so difficult to understand that if I am different from others and expect to be liked for whom I am, then others also expect to be liked as they are. It is a healthy attitude and one which inspires more learning. Because we learn more from those we like, accept and respect.

This is not for closed minds though. You have to be very open to critical, objective evaluation of yourself and the performance of surgery of the blocked energies or trapped energies to accomplish a free flow of transforming energy.

So much to learn and so much time wasted!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The evidence of a close relationship is the flow of energy towards the ones you love. You can’t force this flow. Mostly, it is reciprocity that binds people together. Funny how life takes turns and people you thought you knew, you never really knew. And you thought you knew yourself but again, you never knew the future “you”. This is why emotions are futile to hold onto. If it comes, let it.

If it goes, let it.

Surekha Kothari

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