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Every phase has its own brand of joy. There is nowhere to go, just on the path of experience. As kids, we were joyful, period. There didn’t have to be a reason. We just were because nothing affected us.

Growing up, joy was when we had the freedom to experience what WE wished to. And depression when we were forced to do what our heart did not want.

Later, joy meant realizing our dreams. Depression when we couldn’t. And later still, it was comfort and a settled family so that we set ourselves free.

So, joy has always been linked with a sense of freedom of spirit which is completely natural.

As Jean Jacques Rousseau said, “man is born free but everywhere, he is in chains”. Joy is emancipation from such bondage. Most of the times, we tie ourselves up.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Something to think about, I read today that intuition is nothing but a synthesis of feeling and intellect. Most of the time, we feel but don’t understand. Or, understand but don’t feel. It should not be like that. Generally, we are closer to our feelings more than understanding. We ARE our feelings. But understanding needs to sink into it. And this will happen with introspection.

So, if we feel we are separate, everything appears as separate. And this generates a different kind of activity within us as compared to when we feel one with our feeling and intellect. And we realize that there IS no separation. It is a mere illusion.

A thought and its quality, therefore, dictate and give character to our actions. This introspection should be done minute to minute as a priority, wherever we are and whatever we are doing. Only then does it become YOU. And then there is no dichotomy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A strong message that we need to give people is that of recognizing the aspect of victimhood within themselves and shedding it at the earliest. When you compare yourself with others and find yourself lacking in a few things, you feel life hasn’t been fair to you. Victim of life!

When people don’t treat you well, you feel you are not wanted, Victim again; without realizing that THEY may be struggling to get out of their victimhood moments which stretch into years for many. Similarly, you see relationships falling prey. One dominant the other victim, the power play! Sensitive people often go under very quickly. And the game never stops, because one of the two is living a victim’s character.

Victimhood may be the result of many things. Low self worth, inability to derive moral and spiritual strength, depending on others for love and caring, not able to live with themselves and many more. But the bottom line is, if you sink into victimhood, you sink period. It is very difficult to come out of it. So, please don’t let anyone push you into that corner, not even your near and dear ones.

Stay wholesome people. And emerge stronger each time you face any situation. After all, who is going to accompany you out of this world? Certainly not those who were instrumental in your receding into that mode.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I just read somewhere that people try their best to expose what is wrong with you because they can’t handle what is right with you. I find this to be a little unnecessary. Fault finding is an aberration of the mind which tells you that you are not good enough. From your perspective, you might feel good but believe me, it is temporary and the aftermath of feeling guilty and not so good is uncomfortable.

In society, it is normal to speak behind the back of a person because you don’t want people to know that you are capable of slander. But slander it is, however much you might try to cloak it. It is your negativity that gets aired and people are quick to sense this as well, although they may not say it to your face.

Many people say that they are just giving tit for tat. But that doesn’t stop you from also being in the wrong.

Life is meant to move from strength to strength, to become better and better, more and more compassionate and generous. Instead of pointing out the wrong because you can’t handle the right, you can appreciate the right of another and correct the wrong within you. And this applies to all of us.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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On a scale of 0 to 10, how much are you driven by fear of losing the people you love? We all need to really think about this because much of our life IS ruled by this fear.

The thought of being rejected or shunned torments and transforms into depression in many cases. And then, you can ask for references of names of psychologists/ psychiatrists / healers to tackle your depression.

First of all, fear itself is avoidable. What can be the value of fear between two people who are close? Only desperation to remain close can trigger fear. The insecurity can trigger fear.

To make people indispensable in your life can be a source of fear. They can rule your heart by all means. Love does not need reciprocity. You love because you love. It is your choice and no one can take it away. But if people you love choose to leave or create a distance, you should still be able to love them and pray for their happiness. Love is not a trade off although this is the way it works in this world.

You scratch my back and I scratch yours, and let us both bleed to death in the name of love, curtain close applause. Now, let us go home. This is the world we live in.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A motivational, beautiful story I heard recently. A man’s donkey fell into a deep pit from where there was no way out. The man was very sad and wanted to bury the donkey before it languished to its death. So, he began pouring soil on the donkey. Each time he did that, the donkey shook it off and stood up. The man kept doing this and the donkey kept shaking every load off. The man did not realize that the pit was filling up and soon, the donkey was able to walk out of the pit.

This is so close to life. People try to bury you for various reasons but you need to have the courage and creativity of the donkey and snake off any “loads” being poured over you. Develop the survival instinct like the donkey. Otherwise, to get buried is the easiest thing in the world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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This is the era of knowledge predominance, so much technology, Brilliance etc. But we have not emerged from our decadent mindsets yet. Look at the kind of “education” our entertainment industry provides us. We talk about equality, rights of women, leveling out the society, going back to “family”, respecting women (huge one, this!)

Women, even today, are depicted in the worst ways. Watch an Indian or Pakistani drama (similar people in both countries) and the most prominent theme is women bashing, subservience and ill treatment of women, woman against woman (as in mother in law and sister in law), intrigue, attempt by the family to destroy the daughter in law because of dowry (sick!) or the obsessive tendencies of the mother in law and sisters in law to control the “son” of the family…COME ON!

And we talk of changing our world by making it progressive. We know that generations after generations internalize these situations, machinations, dangerous and vicious intrigue and vicarious pleasure at the downfall of others. So much so that we copy reel life and paste it in real life.

In real life, we may not have women characters retiring for the night in their finest heavy saris and jewelry but we do have the masses enjoying all the politics and deviousness in families on television and don’t necessarily forget about them to go into loving and caring ways with the family, friends and society.

The thinkers say it is their choice to see what appeals to them and that you can’t dictate what should be produced and aired. But the appeal of exposure to and specially the enjoyment of such dramas/ serials can be vital to the health of family, community and country, because they create regressive attitudes and “license to kill” with self indulgence of every kind. These are people who specialize in herd mentality and don’t have opinions of their own. AND, they idolize actors and juxtapose their roles in their own lives, the erosion of values, Eve teasing, violations of women, these gain momentum. But we don’t have any forum to exorcise our people of thinking and behavioral patterns, including a corrupt judiciary and police.

What all are we going to and HOW are we going to clean up these to add to the “swachh Bharat” endeavor? If insides are rotting, what cleanliness can we see outside? We will have understood the wholesome and vast implications of “swachh” first.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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