Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Archive for the ‘Career’ Category


The cause for much suffering is the realization that things could have been done differently. We see a heavy price being paid for our actions.

On the flip side is the dawn of knowledge that nothing COULD have been done differently until the dawn of knowledge, that there was karmic fallout to experience.

Only out of deep suffering comes the thirst for spiritual knowledge although the exposure to a spiritual environment may have been since very early in life.

Attachment is like a leech that does not get unstuck easily. In fact, sometimes never! Leading to hurts, anger, unfulfilled expectations and sometimes the shock of having a diametrically opposite life than envisaged for oneself.

The equations are warped. Simplicity and straightforwardness is equal to suffering. Suffering is due to not knowing any better, translating into ignorance. Wisdom eludes us until “ prarabdha” karma is around us. And vision starts clearing after a great deal of effort and working on oneself.

By the time the vision clears, there is a lot of damage done. But unless our minds extricate from the world, spiritual knowledge cannot be translated into actual practice. One needs to get into the eye of the storm to experience the aftermath of peace.

People say it is better to skim the surface of life rather than suffer. As if it is in the hands of humans! And is that a wise option anyway?

To cultivate wisdom and virtue can take many lifetimes. Avid students of Vedanta also find the worldly journey difficult. But one has to look ahead and bring in the light into our lives, however much darkness may envelope us. And be confident that the light is just beyond the darkness, even if the darkness seems like it is pitch black at the time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


When we face hardships, some of us become very hard. And some of us become very malleable and vulnerable. A hard shell gets not only rigid but very defensive. We don’t want people to look at us because we assume people will pity us.

This is not true as a general feeling. There are people who care genuinely, not pity. But we have a tendency to shun affection because we misunderstand even affectionate gestures as arising out of pity. Not only is this sad but a sign of ego. When we insist of returning every affectionate gesture with affection, it is beautiful. But when we fail to accept graciously as much as we expect others to accept graciously from us, THEN it is false pride and we must learn to understand the subtle difference. Relationships are delicate.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »

Dark and light


Dark and light is a natural process. Dark can be dispelled anytime if your inner light is accessible by you. Darkness can dominate only in the absence of light. And this happens when we don’t have the tools to access our own light. The opacity of a negative inner environment conceals the light and the opacity deprives access.

Dispelling darkness is the only choice . And the Lord said, “Let there be light”. And there was light.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »

Maturity


Why am I treating someone badly because the person deserves it according to you? Hmmm. Retaliation can never be a solution. Somewhere, retaliation means you are unwilling or unable to solve an issue amicably. Because you lack courage to understand that you are a part of the problem too.

Staying away from what you cannot handle debilitates you in the long run and your courage levels are naturally low. That is not really an ideal way to live. But sooner or later, life teaches and levels us out if we don’t do these ourselves, with understanding and maturity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


For all the complexes we develop, the seed is somewhere in our childhood. The need for love , comfort, warmth must be met in childhood. Sometimes, even if it IS met, in case of more than one sibling, the tendency to compare leaves some children in a “lack” mode. It is a mere perception. There is only one set of parents turning their worlds upside down to make every child feel loved and at the same time, giving attention where required . And herein lies one problem. Perceptions and comparisons often start here. To give an example, a weaker child takes away for attention naturally. But other children perceive this as “ less” for them. As favouritism .

And when these siblings grow up, the stories of wrongly perceived changing priorities of parents end up in children having complexes of being less wanted than the others. That insecurity and certainly a lack of maturity comes in the way of the parent sibling relationship and children who are now adults, choose to move away or blame parents based solely on perceptions.

There is something to be said about a natural tendency of trust of children in their parents. When a child can confidently say, “ my parents would never play favourites”. Lucky are those parents whose children learn to recognise such qualities in parents and learn to love them and their siblings as well.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


The importance of communication! Very close bonds have been broken, only due to a lack of communication, usually more by one person. Sometimes, by both the warmth of communicating have not many substitutes. Communication is that warm energy that keeps even the love flowing in relationships.

Isn’t it true that when we keep in touch regularly, it demonstrates a certain caring that says, “I am thinking of you”.

It is different in case of people who have lost touch with each other. But a distance does tend to develop if you don’t hear from someone for months and they don’t think it is a big issue. Sometimes, it just boils down to a one sided relationship where the efforts made are unequal, Of course having said that, the needs of people differ in this matter. This is where the role of understanding comes in. And this is where one must see the reasons for a particular status in bonds being close or being diluted or even severed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


We look back with sorrow. We look around with worry. We look up with faith. Wonderful thoughts I read the other day. If you close the chapter of the past and let bygones be bygones, there would be no sorrow. When our minds are engaged with what is happening around us, we are worried. And that is much of the time. But if you have faith, you look up to the Almighty. And then, there is no time or need to look around or look back. That faith is all pervasive. And if you notice, the English language also has no opposite of the word “faith”, because that is the ultimate. So, the opposite of belief is disbelief. Which means belief systems can change but faith? There is nothing beyond.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


How beautifully we humans have been created. Every part has a role , never mind that we are so clever we abuse it again and again.

We have two ears , one to listen and one to remove the filth we hear very often. Same with our mind. Thoughts should come and go. But what happens is the opposite. They stay and then starts a reaction and this habit lasts lifelong very often. The eyes , the windows of the soul, become myopic because they can’t see clearly into the soul. The senses, which are given to us to experience all facets of life choose to act jointly with the ego and destroy the feeling of joy. Just to describe a few.

So, we are our own worst enemies in every way. All the academic excellence is on one side and life on the other. I can’t see negative emotions ever as a wise choice if it feeds the ego. If we go through life without learning the useful lessons, we could certainly end up being truly scholastic but still without the experience that makes the actual difference.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


We know that we live in a world of dualities. So, some good , some not so good. Then, we learn that we should not look at the not so good as not so good. Everything is to be accepted . Change what you can and let go of what can’t be.

And then starts our work. On ourselves, folks. Not on others.

Likes waves hitting the shore and thrashing anything that is within it, we get carried by wave upon wave through the ocean of life. Not being uplifted, now hurled, now thrashed. But moving with the wave nonetheless. And moving sometimes alone and sometimes being thrown together with some souls whose journey is with us at that moment. But definitely “alone” as the persistent state.

Wisdom : learning to enjoy and making the most of the uplifted state. And trying to keep a balance when hurled and thrashed. To know that we will be uplifted again. And again and again if we lighten our burdens simultaneously….until, one day, we will learn how to ride the crest of the wave.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »

Older Posts »