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Why am I treating someone badly because the person deserves it according to you? Hmmm. Retaliation can never be a solution. Somewhere, retaliation means you are unwilling or unable to solve an issue amicably. Because you lack courage to understand that you are a part of the problem too.

Staying away from what you cannot handle debilitates you in the long run and your courage levels are naturally low. That is not really an ideal way to live. But sooner or later, life teaches and levels us out if we don’t do these ourselves, with understanding and maturity.

Surekha Kothari

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For all the complexes we develop, the seed is somewhere in our childhood. The need for love , comfort, warmth must be met in childhood. Sometimes, even if it IS met, in case of more than one sibling, the tendency to compare leaves some children in a “lack” mode. It is a mere perception. There is only one set of parents turning their worlds upside down to make every child feel loved and at the same time, giving attention where required . And herein lies one problem. Perceptions and comparisons often start here. To give an example, a weaker child takes away for attention naturally. But other children perceive this as “ less” for them. As favouritism .

And when these siblings grow up, the stories of wrongly perceived changing priorities of parents end up in children having complexes of being less wanted than the others. That insecurity and certainly a lack of maturity comes in the way of the parent sibling relationship and children who are now adults, choose to move away or blame parents based solely on perceptions.

There is something to be said about a natural tendency of trust of children in their parents. When a child can confidently say, “ my parents would never play favourites”. Lucky are those parents whose children learn to recognise such qualities in parents and learn to love them and their siblings as well.

Surekha Kothari

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Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The importance of communication! Very close bonds have been broken, only due to a lack of communication, usually more by one person. Sometimes, by both the warmth of communicating have not many substitutes. Communication is that warm energy that keeps even the love flowing in relationships.

Isn’t it true that when we keep in touch regularly, it demonstrates a certain caring that says, “I am thinking of you”.

It is different in case of people who have lost touch with each other. But a distance does tend to develop if you don’t hear from someone for months and they don’t think it is a big issue. Sometimes, it just boils down to a one sided relationship where the efforts made are unequal, Of course having said that, the needs of people differ in this matter. This is where the role of understanding comes in. And this is where one must see the reasons for a particular status in bonds being close or being diluted or even severed.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We look back with sorrow. We look around with worry. We look up with faith. Wonderful thoughts I read the other day. If you close the chapter of the past and let bygones be bygones, there would be no sorrow. When our minds are engaged with what is happening around us, we are worried. And that is much of the time. But if you have faith, you look up to the Almighty. And then, there is no time or need to look around or look back. That faith is all pervasive. And if you notice, the English language also has no opposite of the word “faith”, because that is the ultimate. So, the opposite of belief is disbelief. Which means belief systems can change but faith? There is nothing beyond.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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How beautifully we humans have been created. Every part has a role , never mind that we are so clever we abuse it again and again.

We have two ears , one to listen and one to remove the filth we hear very often. Same with our mind. Thoughts should come and go. But what happens is the opposite. They stay and then starts a reaction and this habit lasts lifelong very often. The eyes , the windows of the soul, become myopic because they can’t see clearly into the soul. The senses, which are given to us to experience all facets of life choose to act jointly with the ego and destroy the feeling of joy. Just to describe a few.

So, we are our own worst enemies in every way. All the academic excellence is on one side and life on the other. I can’t see negative emotions ever as a wise choice if it feeds the ego. If we go through life without learning the useful lessons, we could certainly end up being truly scholastic but still without the experience that makes the actual difference.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We know that we live in a world of dualities. So, some good , some not so good. Then, we learn that we should not look at the not so good as not so good. Everything is to be accepted . Change what you can and let go of what can’t be.

And then starts our work. On ourselves, folks. Not on others.

Likes waves hitting the shore and thrashing anything that is within it, we get carried by wave upon wave through the ocean of life. Not being uplifted, now hurled, now thrashed. But moving with the wave nonetheless. And moving sometimes alone and sometimes being thrown together with some souls whose journey is with us at that moment. But definitely “alone” as the persistent state.

Wisdom : learning to enjoy and making the most of the uplifted state. And trying to keep a balance when hurled and thrashed. To know that we will be uplifted again. And again and again if we lighten our burdens simultaneously….until, one day, we will learn how to ride the crest of the wave.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Why is it that when we have been doing the same drill for 20 years, like climbing the same steps we can actually climb almost blindfolded, that in the 21st year, we fall on the very same staircase ? You get hurt for sure: your ego takes a knock as well. How did you do something so silly? You should have been used to it by now.

Well, folks, maybe, it is all about losing your awareness at that time.

Haven’t we seen again and again that it’s all about awareness in everything, As opposed to the fact that you can never take anything or anyone for granted; constantly to be within your awareness, watching yourself and others? To understand how to respond based on the conditions before you. How best you can act in the moment.

It is so strange that responses from the same people can be different. And so, presuming can land you into troubled waters. That’s why most people just cultivate the art of treading water.

So, lose your awareness and pay for the consequences.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Being true to ourselves! How many of us can honestly claim this about ourselves? This in current times is the singularly hardest thing to do. Because the consequences of this we humans cannot take.

We are constantly saying and doing things for the wrong reasons either to be accepted. Or not be isolated or for being popular. Could we ever have the courage to be true to ourselves? Yes, it requires lots of courage, to be different. To stand out among a group that encourages herd mentality. To face even dislike, criticism, ostracisation even, if I were to state extremities.

If I feel something, can I say it? If I am being compelled to be someone else, would I refuse? Be ABLE to refuse? Would I risk the wrath of the people who give me my identity?

Yes, it does take a large amount of courage and a large slice of confidence to go it alone, for it sometimes would mean the falling away of many who aren’t able to do the same and would therefore, not feel too good about themselves if they were in your company.

But, be true to yourself anyway.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It was predicted that a time will come when the sweetness of tongue will win many battles whereas the good, upright and honest will go unnoticed and / or misunderstood. And one, who shouts when the right thing is being pointed out, will also win because it will never suit them to admit that they are wrong.

But this also says a lot about people who make such people win. Who believe them and humiliate the ones that are actually in the right. What would you call them? Easily led away by superficiality? Not enough substance or courage to sift the right from wrong? I guess you have to be a true “kalyug” person and you had better be if you want to survive lies, treachery and core dishonesty.

The upsurge in spiritual search is a result of us having reached the pits. Of us valuing things and shunning people of the exhaustion of trying to prove oneself in a blind, deaf and dumb world. Futile! Completely futile!

If light has to survive in darkness, it has to shine brighter than ever. If goodness has to survive in a polluted world, it has to connect to the source, for looking on earth for a return is looking in the wrong direction and is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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