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Hankering after what cannot be is just not wise. Everything has to come within the realm of possibilities first, in order to materialise. And anything CAN come within the realm of the possible , the condition being that there is some amount of realisation.

Sometimes, I think it can be as simple as realising the need for a warm shower. But there is a condition here again, that you feel dirty enough to have one. This feeling is what brings the shower within the realm of the possible.

Likewise, one will have to keep peace until there is a trigger , winds change and something different and desirable happens. Realisation doesn’t dawn in people at your time. Only at the right time for them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Belief systems


Phrases like “generally speaking” and “by and large” should be generally avoided. These are such a severe conditioning that anything out of these lists can be pretty hard to take.

From a young age, our minds are indoctrinated with these completely impractical generalities unwritten norms which don’t work for everyone. There is no “one size fits all” in life. And we have and continue to see this. Writing verse and facing life are two different things. Idealism and reality don’t even come close sometimes. And yet, our belief systems, even our pattern of loving people is often based on a “should” that comes out of a generality.

“I should do this because he is my dad or she is my mom”. Should? Why? Who wrote the rules book? “Should” doesn’t come from the heart. It is inspired by a motive.

…but still, we carry on and end up confusing others and ourselves. Simple answer! Do what comes straight from your heart individually not generally. And if the heart itself is blocked, see a therapist. But don’t teach too many generalities, because they don’t apply in many cases because people are different. Their thought processes ate different. Their responses are different.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Prime Importance


It is really important to know why we do certain things. Why we think in a certain way. Why we react in a particular manner. Is any of this coming under the justification category ? Or is it our lopsided view of the world, people or even ourselves ?

I find there are people who are out to attack you for simple , unintentional and caring ways. They need to look deep down within themselves to see exactly WHAT plagues them. There are conflict areas in everyone’s lives. But to know who to trust and even what to trust is of prime importance.

It is so much easier to preach than to practice. Because the awareness may be only externally oriented.

The ones that go in to their own dark corners will see light sooner than those who block their inner light but continue to work for external value. Of course, value there will be for the world to see. But inner growth ? That comes with inner virtues which are honed painstakingly and from within, ripping apart the thick layers on the mind that create a continuous cloud over the light. But it is for each one of us to realise that. Ironically, this doesn’t come through even “Satsang” . Feeling good momentarily is different from feeling good in the moment and in every moment. And that happens only when we become simple , pure and transparent like glass. Like channels through which God can work.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Vibrations


Old souls returning to the earth to help raise the vibrations! The kids today are remarkable in their maturity. You just can’t treat those babies and kutchi koo with them like you did with the earlier generations. If you do that, you get a strange feeling like they are looking at you and thinking, “isn’t this aunty silly?” An amusing thought but you will see how mature their eyes are.

The one wonderful trait they exhibit is inclusiveness. If there are ten adults sitting in a group, they will address each one. Something even adults don’t do. In fact, adults are often more exclusive than inclusive due to having developed strong likes and dislikes.

Inclusiveness should be emphasized in schools to take this kind trait forward. Especially amongst the kids in general because, very often, parents are heard complaining about some kids being bullies, being mean etc. Sadly, this also depends on the parents who are care takers at home and need to provide love and security to their kids.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Universal energy


Sometimes, we get disappointed with people who present a pleasant exterior most times. It is probably true of everyone at one time or another.

You are suddenly and often taken unawares by the outbursts of the actual fires burning inside someone.

One if the greatest frustrations within people are the eagerness to win in life … all the time. Whether in gambling or in a word slinging match, people have a deep craving to win. This burning can eat away your insides if you are not careful.

We really need an inner fire extinguisher for the sake of our mental and emotional health or we can get into deep trouble.

Some rules to douse fires:

  1. Never misunderstand when you can understand.
  2. There will always be someone more successful and someone less successful than you. Learn to be content.
  3. You can never go wrong if you follow some basic but important values that you were taught, growing up.
  4. Earn respect for yourself in your own eyes first.
  5. Love is a universal energy which we need to share much more than we do.
  6. Clean up your own mess first.
  7. Forgive yourself and then others.
  8. Be simple
  9. Let your own choices dictate your life
  10. Live life as if you own it all but passes on as if nothing was ever yours.

Cheers!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When our heart knows something is about to end, we still don’t want to accept it. We want to prolong the experience, sometimes for the wrong reasons. The natural outcome of whatever is meant to be will happen only when “I” get out of the way, so to speak “I”, meaning my “wrong reasons” like guilt, pity, dependence, inability to take hard decisions and so on.

People are always talking about practical living but I don’t really know the extent of the meaning. What constitutes the “impractical” part? It might be different for different people.

However, the one valuable experience I can share is, if you desire something don’t look at it in the face. Turn away and it will come to you when you least expect it and when the time is right. And if it doesn’t, then maybe, it was never meant to be. And in all this thought process, l am keeping myself as merely an observer, an analyst. “I” am not there.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

People say going to academic institutions makes a huge difference and those who say this would be right, too. Except for one thing. There is a deeper native intelligence , the When do you believe in everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and what to discard.

presence of which makes the extraordinary difference to an educated person. That discerning quality is more in some and less in others. Of course, it can be cultivated to an extent with basic common sense and lots of observation and learning.

The ability to separate wheat from the chaff catapults the level of the educated mind to another level. And to impart that quality in those who teach makes them extraordinary and learning an absorbing exercise. Otherwise, mugging is just an exercise for the memory and not the brain. It doesn’t teach you how to live life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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