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Immaturity


Immaturity can be a curse for those who seek happiness. I am sure that knowingly, no one would drive themselves towards unhappiness. It is the inability to see that one is on the wrong path and on a path that leads to grief and nowhere else.

What is immaturity? To my mind, it has many faces.

A tendency to be impulsive can be immaturity because it can tilt the balance between cause and effect, and balance in everything is the key.

Thinking only of your own comfort and disregarding the feelings of others is immaturity because true happiness is a derivative of the heart which works in two ways: give and take.

Living without morals and values is immaturity. Maturity is when you have your principles and responsibilities intact along with freedom.

Immaturity is when you don’t know who is sincere and who isn’t, when you get impressed by external facades instead of evaluating the inner core of people.

A lack of Ethics constitutes a big portion of immaturity, when you, out of your own unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your existing life, cause upheavals in the lives of others, when you let your petty ego mar beautiful relationships.

When you live in denial of your own weaknesses and refuse to be counseled. And sometimes, choose those to counsel you who have a hidden motive to come close, shunning those who love you and have wisdom to impart.

Carrying grouses over small issues and allowing this to distance you from people, without actually realizing that no one can be perfect and that only love makes imperfect perfect.

These are just a few. I am sure everyone will have points to add to these. And those who speculate on this subject will definitely be able resolve a lot of confusion in their minds.

Surekha Kothari

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There are people who, for some reason, do not trust or have faith in most people. They are suspicious. What happens then is that they close their mind and heart to even good advice because they don’t trust.

Observers can see many more traits clearly than the person who is experiencing negativity. They are heavily into the denial mode. The tragedy is that they also get distanced from people, sometimes from people they have been close to. Their vision gets clouded and they can’t discriminate the sincere from the insincere.

The bottom line being that we are responsible for our lives, we need to pull up our socks, however impossible it may seem to do so during that low phase. There are all kinds of solutions available and possible if we don’t start obsessively harping on just that one which is not a working solution. We just need to trust that things will get better if we know how to make them better and keep trying until they do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Trait


To be dependable is a great character trait. Can people do that with you? When you say something, you do it. When you commit something, you stand by it. You value your words as much as others do because you top them up with action, a great quality, indeed.

I see loose words hanging in the air a lot. You learn to understand who says things for effect and will never act on them. In the long run, you simply can’t depend on them. Not a good thing and not the best way to be or the best reputation to have. Because it demonstrates that you are not committed even to yourself.

I hear people say that they are committed to some and not to others. But then, don’t offer or promise to do things for people you are NOT feeling committed to. Then you are okay and would still be called a committed person. People have forgotten that words are energy and are to be valued.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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It is unrealistic to think we can do whatever we like and get away without a tag attached. Life is a trade off. God sneakily perhaps gave us free will while lining our path with karma at the same time so that we are often confused into taking turns which bring grief. And we have done this completely on our own, no one to blame but yourself. And the too, you can’t really blame yourself because you had to make the choice you did. The tag attached and the price to pay these is also karma inspired. Your mind will work in a certain way to make you experience the results of your actions.

Does it sound ominous? If it does, you need a change your attitude towards it. Grumble and bear Grin and bear or understand and bear. But bear you must.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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To speak freely is a human right. To live in fear and bottle up your opinions and thoughts is an injustice that societies must come together to combat, for good can only come out of a free and frank discussion followed by introspection.

Just as we stop in our tracks when a black cat crosses, (sheer superstition but we do it nevertheless), we need to stop in our tracks when our thoughts, speech and actions become black.

Black is a color which soaks in white to make a gray but what we need is pure white, the healing light and the light of clarity and purity.

There are so many tags attached to life… such as “difficult”, “unbearable”, “sad”, “exhausting” when we work with black.

What we need is radiant white in our lives. And white symbolizes “simple”, “honest”, “loving” and bright….

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Peace


Sometimes, we feel heavy and drained, Exhausted with having to do this and having to do that. Aren’t we the real culprits? We blame this and that but…. who ask us to pack in so much?

My favorite line these days is, why aim for being a perfectionist in an imperfect world? I mean, if something doesn’t get done today, it will be done tomorrow. I envy people who can be calm and completely chilled out about postponing work.

But, really speaking, nothing can replace peace and calm. Not even being eulogized about how perfectly a job was done and certainly not at the cost of mental health.

Hey, chill out! I really recommend peace rather than a piece of stress, definitely not worth it because perfection is generally to show to others. Each one of us is already a perfect part of perfection. And so, there is no action needed to become what we already are.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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When the mind is untouched by pollution, all human chatter fades into insignificance. When Jesus Christ can be nailed to the cross, this world is certainly not the right place to be in. We are all here to find peace in a cruel world, detachment in an illusory world and courage to eliminate the superficial layers in order to reach the soul.

People who embark on this journey seem to appear to artificial people like pretentious drama artists. But actually, stripping every layer of polluted skin, peeling away memories is painful to say the least but cannot be seen by those who struggle to survive on the strength of pleading that others approve of them. They have yet to discover their true spirituality.

“Avidya” or ignorance until it is seen and accepted as such, leads to illusory perceptions of being knowledgeable and often results in arrogance and scant respect even for the seniors in the family and society.

From “Ram Rajya” to this, the cycle continues. New scripts will be written in every phase when the old lose their interest quotient. New characters will come up to play the roles of “family” and “society”. And value judgments will be given each time. Many will continue to get affected and many will learn their lessons from experiencing their karma and move on to another world.

Remember, as the candle shortens, its flame burns brighter. Similarly, those who get smaller in spirituality speak the loudest , perhaps like empty vessels making much noise… in fact, much conflict and chaos.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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