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Perfect


No one is perfect. All that we can do is try to work towards getting better by the minute. It is not about how much we hurt. It is about how much we can heal that hurt…and better still, how we can avoid getting hurt. With the right understanding.

The more we identify with our body, our thoughts, emotions, the less we are aware that we are far beyond these.

So, it is first about knowing who we are not. Where is the hurt registering? Who is feeling that hurt? Why the hurt at all? We don’t dwell on these important questions. If we did, we would come to some understanding about ourselves. The confusions in our lives are very much connected here.

The basic fact is that we get involved in the emotions of the characters we play in the drama of life. And we forget that we are only playing a character. We take everyone and everything too seriously, getting caught in the illusory web of permanence.

Do we know that there is a little watchman within us called “Drashta” that watches every thought, every emotion, every action and reaction. And this drashta wants us to become an observer with it, to help understand all of these matters of our spiritual reality. A reality which can’t be perceived while we are in it, with all the burden of baggage that we carry.

Let us be free from all that. Let us not worry about being perfect. Let us just try to be better humans and better spirits. The rest will follow…

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Conflict! Such an oft used word but not examined properly. While creating conflict may be the goal once in a while, it is very often the result of thoughtless action emanating out of an imbalance of emotions originating from a colored thought.

Conflict can be deliberate. But we suffer more from our egos which dominate over our thoughts and this is what leads to improper and even unjustified action. Obviously, the result then would be conflict.

It is as simple as keeping things simple and honest. Covert actions and opacity are definite possibilities of conflict generation because they arouse suspicion and eliminate trust.

As we see nationally today, so, we also mirror within us. If the desire for conflict were to be eliminated from within each one of us, would there be conflict outside?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Acceptability (or lack of it) is at the root of many issues. I don’t know why we are unable to recognize the fact that we are all different in many ways but that does not matter. In fact, it is so interesting. Imagine if all of us were clones of each other! We would not need mirrors for one.

But jokes apart, why do we feel insecure if the people around us are so different from us? What is the psychology? So many sects have been formed around a few and so much intolerance has seeped into society. So many religions are at war, simply because each one claims to be THE road to Nirvana.

The saga of “I” and “mine” as superior to all others. “I” believe. So, all else is meaningless, is the attitude.

All this is the whole story. In the vast canvas of the Universe, the individual is so miniscule. But, the ego identity encompasses the whole Universe. And this is the major reason why we are unable to give the right to someone to be different. We expect to be accepted. But are unable to accept another because they are different. High time we dropped our double standards.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Spirituality is not a religion. Neither is it a chain of rituals to be performed. It is beyond anything man made. We can be practicing any religion but we are all spiritual. Our intrinsic quality is to be a spirit.

Yet, people don’t seem to understand this. They talk of anything spiritual like it is a phenomenon from another world.

Even if we teach the theory of spirituality, there will be a lacuna, because spirituality is to be recognized as a set of principles which have to be practiced and experienced. If you are spiritual, you have to follow a path which will be fraught with uncertainties and painful realizations. So, people don’t go there at all. Understandable, I guess, but ultimately, a deep loss.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life Span


Too much of anything is avoidable. The mind looks for a change when it cannot handle excesses. And why not? A heavy, saturated mind can cause many problems. Like everything in life, the mind needs some space and some rest.

Can you imagine if thoughts never ceased at all? For one, we could not sleep at all. For another, no thought would be complete. Without rest and sleep, we would surely reduce our life span or go crazy even.

As they say, “all work and no play…..” and this applies to all of us.

So, if you want to have a happy life, take breaks from everything frequently, even if short ones. Laugh every day. Change unhappy anything to happy. Before a maximum saturation sets in, shift gears ….and be a little wise, a little crazy, a little adventurous, a little determined, a little balanced but always happy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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In all my years of counseling and healing, I have known most families as dysfunctional. Today, if people are opting more for friends than family, unfortunately, things have evolved to this situation.

The tragedy is that over the years, economic and social differences crept in and comparisons corroded the fabric of closeness and unity. It is amazing how “family” members stake ownership without owning the responsibility aspects in the family. They feel “deprived” without working, wronged without adding value and demand without deserving.Not only are marriages in trouble but materialism has almost destroyed many families.

Another important aspect that has developed is the indiscipline of the youth and their insolence with elders, playing favorites, taking sides and open antagonism. It is disturbing to see that there are no controls on them and elders are so helpless. Or, in some cases, it is elders who encourage this due to their own prejudices. They don’t realize how they are damaging their own children in the long run.

We really need to introspect and change our priorities and revert back to some of the earlier values that kept families together. This can happen only if family members also became friends and practice the same modes of attitudes and behavior that they do with friends. Why unrealistic expectations with regard to family members?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Spiritual poverty! We seldom use the two words together but when we do, it turns into a very hard hitting thought. 

Spiritual poverty is the poverty of the soul. As long as we have money, cars, comforts and “riches”, the word “poor” is not generally used for us, right? 

But that is exactly what many “rich” people are. When our soul is poor and sick and we are immersed in matter, our salvation is far from coming. 

Name, fame and money can be very elevating…but only for the EGO. Not for the soul. Spiritual elevation is not connected with material “elevation”. The former does not need the latter. But the latter needs the former desperately. Because, the ego directed individual will, most likely, tend to develop an anti spiritual personality. 

It is often possible to find spiritually rich people in a hut and the spiritually poor people in palaces. 

To become your own person in every sense, you have to be prepared to be “burnt” (metaphorically) and stand isolated, if required. If there is no courage within the spiritual framework of a person, spiritual growth remains just a dream until further lessons are learnt.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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