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I want to urge people who are prone to deep depressions and disappointments in life, that swallowing pills to feel numb is temporary. I agree that certain issues are really difficult to handle.

There comes a time of hopelessness when no solutions come up and we are on the verge if defeat and acceptance of unpalatable truths.

Never mind. Keep faith. Just as seasons must change, so must the inner seasons of the mind. Agreed that we lose patience and cannot determine the exact point at which something snaps within us. Just don’t let it snap. Keep faith.

If we didn’t believe in goodness on earth, how could we survive? Keep faith and wait for the tide to turn. It will, if you keep faith.

Surekha Kothari

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Sometimes, the shocks life gives you leave you numb and speechless. But it is silly to react so emotionally. People can be callous and cruel. Are you going to give them more power, more energy by hurting? That would be foolish.

Wisdom lies in choosing when to take anyone seriously. Hopefully, never to take anyone seriously like they say, take it with a pinch of salt. Though why they give salt so much importance, I don’t know may be, because salt retains water in the body and similarly, egos bloat people.

So, take a chill pill and move in life like a free spirit. No encumbrances, especially when it comes to undeserving people around you. Not worth killing yourselves with numbness or shock.

Like my guru said, be a witness. No one belongs to you and you don’t belong to anyone. Nature is unfathomable. It is said that a baby scorpion kills its mother after its birth. Is it a surprise then to see what humans can do?

Surekha Kothari

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If we knew just how many personalities we carry within us, we would become mature about containing ourselves within a set of workable value system, workable in this life. It would not be correct to just lead a life which is not inclusive and which is completely stubborn about taking cognizance of the surrounding scenario and people especially if different parts of you are going to be in conflict.

This would happen when there are past life issues between souls , too. And even if this is just a guess, it is a liberating thought which helps in consolidating your emotions into a positive mode and helps you to move on.

And it would be good to remember that complexities are rooted in simplicity and the onus is only on you to break things down to simple thinking and living. Just with an understanding of the true nature of the self.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Anger has strange reactions. But if truth be told, if you hit your fist against a wall angrily, who will get hurt? Anger will make you inflict hurt on yourself all the time because it is self directed. At the choices you make, the mistakes you make, the people you choose to be around and get betrayed by … etc. it is always you, you and you.

Juxtaposing this on a family situation, if you choose to cause dissensions within your family for your own sins so to speak, you are taking away your own support system and weakening your own spine , that is, your family.

In a nutshell, anger is nothing if not self destructive. And adopting corrective measures is better than ruining a solid edifice of pillars that supports you.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Our generation, which was born around the freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from colonialism.

We were also taught to give more than take. We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we were.

Today, we are gradually beginning to realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion, thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.

It strikes a chord within my generation and sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier generation.

Surekha Kothari

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I find the reason why most of us are not always balanced in head and heart is, the heart combines with our attachment and feelings, not letting in enough intellect. After all, we feel we can’t love with our head. The heart is the Known organ of love.

But this does not work out well in practice many a time. Somewhere, in our love come the ideas, of space. And that is the intellect speaking. We can energetically cross over easily to the other people and invade their energy space. And then that love is no longer love but a bit of an obsession which we don’t always realize. But the people in question feel it, rightly or wrongly.

The solution is to refrain from extremities of emotions, in fact, any extremities. And painful as it may be because of your genuine feeling of love, one must withdraw into our own space until better times prevail.

Surekha Kothari                  

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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The fragility of life eludes many. Every night, we go to sleep, we don’t really know whether we are going to get up, get up healthy or with an ailment. Every day, we are so preoccupied with ourselves that we don’t focus on the fact that there is a larger machinery at work and we are merely small cogs in the wheel of life.

A dot on a large canvas is just that: a dot. Not the canvas. And we need to remember that each minute that the dot can be erased any time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Sometimes, one should sit down and face the various facets of oneself. You will at first, not be able to pinpoint very many and will draw a blank. But as you keep at it, you will be surprised at what you can find out about yourself. That is if we can accept each one of them and embrace them as a part of us. Yes, embrace them after acknowledging them. Because shunning them would mean shunning we and we wouldn’t want to do that. If you shun these, you will find a mirror effect in people. They will shun you. That’s the way life works. So, accept yourself and be accepted by others.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Today, a lot of families are scattered all over the world and due to sheer logistics, distances do not always foster closeness. Inevitably, a certain formality creeps in sometimes. We get used to living without proximity with them.

But, the flip side is true also, and ties are fostered in many ways. True, that little change in personality can be a revelation when you meet family members after sometime. But by the same token, changes in us must also be embraced and adapted too. We often forget that this IS two way traffic.

Nevertheless, generally, it has become easier to keep connected today, what with Skype, Face Time, whatsapp calls etc. But, as they say, if hearts don’t connect, all this connectivity is only designed towards wanting to keep in touch from afar at a comfortable distance.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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We know that we live in a world of dualities. So, some good , some not so good. Then, we learn that we should not look at the not so good as not so good. Everything is to be accepted . Change what you can and let go of what can’t be.

And then starts our work. On ourselves, folks. Not on others.

Likes waves hitting the shore and thrashing anything that is within it, we get carried by wave upon wave through the ocean of life. Not being uplifted, now hurled, now thrashed. But moving with the wave nonetheless. And moving sometimes alone and sometimes being thrown together with some souls whose journey is with us at that moment. But definitely “alone” as the persistent state.

Wisdom : learning to enjoy and making the most of the uplifted state. And trying to keep a balance when hurled and thrashed. To know that we will be uplifted again. And again and again if we lighten our burdens simultaneously….until, one day, we will learn how to ride the crest of the wave.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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