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Getting to know someone up close and personal and getting to know that person through the eyes and experience of someone else are completely different pieces of knowledge. Often, we become judgmental with merely surface an impression which is not really fair. What we need to do is to spend time with someone one to one and then decide who they are or can be. You make an honest heart connection and ninety to one, they will show a side of them which is pleasant and even endearing. The question is, do we have the ability to extract the good side of people?

Surekha Kothari

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Intellectualization of meditation is not possible, because meditation is going beyond the realm of reason and therefore, beyond the conscious mind. This is why intellectuals often fail in hypnotherapy sessions.

You have to let go the rational mind at least for a while if you want to explore the hidden crevices of your sub conscious mind. Rather, buried files in this part of the mind which has many answers to your life.

Hypnosis is a state of mind we all visit frequently and can make productive use of it by erasing what is not required in our lives, with new intentions to erase and rebuild.

We all know what is worth holding and what is worth letting go of. It is a matter of good sense and will.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We humans are so brilliant at forcing things to happen. Actually, we don’t realize it but we are forcing the hand of God. Everything happens at the right time but patience is not a virtue at the best of times.

Remember the story of the cocoon that was forced open before time for the butterfly to emerge but it resulted only in its destruction.

Everything happens as preordained. The birth of a child, the ripening of fruit on the tree, the rise and set of the sun , the waxing and waning of the moon, a wedding of two people, dawn and dusk… even our destiny unfolding. It is such an egoistic illusion that we do anything.

Forcing something before time upsets the natural balance and the order of things. If we look back, we can remember several such incidents. The only way it works is watch as life unfolds and let it determine the direction of the flow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is not always necessary to retort, retaliate or have something to say every time. Sometimes, silence is more potent than words, especially that which is voiced with a deep hurt or accusation.

If you have noticed, words have a way of coming back at you. They have a license to be returned to you, if you know what I mean. But imagine, if you were silent and that silence was returned in a healing way! How very beautiful would that be!

When people have a mutual understanding, they just look at each other with a smile and in silence and all is said and understood. Silence sure has its own language and is more forceful than speech. Provided two people understand the language. Otherwise, meditation would not be a silent language with God.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A little enquiry at the right time goes a long way. Whether family, friends or good acquaintances, which little bit of concern in adverse times goes a long way in spreading warmth. I don’t think it is imperative to come forward only in a crisis. Of course, that is a must. But what people really want is a small doze of constant warmth and caring.

The issues get more aggravated than necessary very often because there are flimsy grounds for getting hurt today. Anything small can become a big and even lifelong issue unless two people want to sort things out. Principles and commitment being things of the past, we can seek a good time anywhere and everywhere. Under these conditions, the warmth may also be meted out to the people you need in your life. And sadly, they need not be the people you have grown up with or spent time with.

Such is life and we still need to find our own peace amidst the chaos and disturbances in life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You know, there is a need for each one of us to seek as much exposure to the various aspects of life as possible because only by observing the lives of others, different situations arising out of who you are and how much you earn and how honed a personality you have ended up becoming….

There are people who live in their own little world who just don’t develop themselves because they are just too myopic or fearful.

You can easily educate yourself on your own. Provided you want to. You just need interest, attitude and time, apart from being like a sponge and imbibing and imbibing more and more, internalizing the information and then making the necessary changes to your thinking and emotions.

We tend to look at people very superficially and tend to shun people who we don’t understand instead of trying to understand them and learning something we don’t know.


Surekha Kothari

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surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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