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Thoughts


Have we ever thought that our thoughts are linked with our karma? If you notice, when we are weak and family members are negative around, success eludes at the best of times.

For example, a simple case of a child failing in exams! This soul, due to its past karma, takes negative decisions, wastes time and fail. Parents keep thinking that it is the child’s fault and keep saying that the child IS going to fail because of the digression of the child’s mind. This energy becomes the energy in the home and it actually makes the negative happen. So, in the family circle, this child is being sacrificed to negative energy. It is like igniting a fire.

Instead, the circle around the child should surround this child with positive energy and send only good thoughts to the child so that it can reform the thoughts and take the right decisions to channelize its energy towards work and pass the exams.

In any family or group environment, blaming, anger, admonishing a child and diminishing it shows the weakness of the parent, not the child. That it is imperative for the whole circle of people around to fill the environment with positivity to get positive results in good time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ….a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while…it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Energy flow


People you love pass away from this world as all of us must when the time comes. When people tell you to keep the GOOD memories, I know what they mean. The more hurtful memories we store, the more we harm ourselves. That is not wise. 

Besides, everyone does have a good side, even if you have amplified the dark side in your mind. So, if there are no positive memories you have with a particular person; let even the negative memories go…the past does not return unless you give it space in your mind.

Let the energy flow and never allow yourself to be dragged into any situation unless you have transcended your earlier colored perceptions. 

People change. Situations change. But we hold on to meaningless but harmful memories.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Living with individual consciousness is never enough. We have to learn to live in a collective consciousness too….as parts of a family, society and country. In fact, these are times for being International. The world has shrunk and we need to expand.

There is a fine balance that we struggle to achieve. Some don’t even try. The fact is, we are a sum total of so many unhealed memories that unless we cleanse them, we are not moving forward anytime soon into a significant spiritual space.

So, though we can have affluence, power and control over humans in our physical reality, we still remain insecure and lacking in totality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Simplicity


There is much merit in simplicity. Saying it as it is. Such relationships are heartwarming because there is no agenda. Like bright sunshine which streams in without being filtered or cloaked by clouds.

Wonderful are the bonds of such connectivity where you laugh uncontrollably and cry unabashedly together.

There are some bonds of this kind I have witnessed and they are just beautiful.

 Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Is there a right time for everything? Perhaps, yes…in relationships for sure. The closer you are and the more you have participated in the emotions of another, the more vigilant you should be. Nothing breaks as easily as a heart or trust.

I am not saying that one should be calculating and on edge all the time. Somehow, whatever you say about not keeping expectations, you do end up with a few. But there is always a difference between realistic and unrealistic ones. Now, what is realistic or otherwise would depend again on the closeness of the relationship. Ironic but true.

It is however; better to assimilate the hurt caused than to constantly be troubled about it. It can disturb not only your mind but your life if you don’t move on with acceptance of something you cannot change. Because you can be responsible only for yourself.

 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A 24 year old boy looking out from the window of a train shouted…

“Dad, look! the trees are running backwards!”

Dad smiled at a young couple sitting nearby who were looking at the childish behavior of the 24 year old with pity,

Suddenly, he exclaimed again…

“Dad, look! the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”

The old man smiled and said…

“I did. We are just coming from the hospital. My son was blind from birth. He just got his eyes today.”

I am sure the young couple must have been extremely embarrassed at their hasty judgment. It has been said oft and again that we cannot judge a book by its cover. Actually, we need to understand that every single person on the planet has a story. Very often, we assume a lot about someone we have interacted with only briefly. I am constantly amazed at the kind of statements I hear from people about people. I can’t help thinking whether these judgmental people need to look at themselves first to find out why they need to judge people so superficially.

 

Wisdom dictates that we don’t judge people before we truly know them. The actual truth may be very far from our imagination. But even after that, can anyone know anyone completely? It is important to be aware that we have several dormant aspects within us which may be revealed under exceptional conditions and circumstances. How can we gauge what a person is going through or has gone through?

 

Superficial judgments have a very deep underlying meaning for those who judge. The people who are within our orbit act as triggers for our own introspection. The very fact that we have come to a conclusion about someone speaks of our own ineptitude and limitations we have to overcome. Once we do that, our perceptions about the same people will undergo a change.

 

It is a fact that whatever we don’t like about someone is something we see in ourselves and have to work on. In the story, the couple who was looking at the boy with pity was so limited in mind and so pompous in their advice to the boy’s father evidently needed to know that their perceptions needed more awareness and more compassion.

 

I want to end with the question: is it necessary to judge people at all? In the deep sub conscious, does that judgment reflect within us as something about ourselves that we are not prepared to admit to ourselves or something we don’t like within ourselves? Conversely, in our judgementalism, are we looking for “approved” company (through our judgment) because we feel good about ourselves just by being in that company and hiding from the person we actually are?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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