Emotion

Warm Hearts for cold storage!

Very late in the day have I discovered the reasons why people prefer to be superficial and sweet tongued. While outlooks have been changing rapidly and hearts are not being understood anymore, it would be fatal for relationships to be looked at naively or taken for granted!

No words that express the feelings in your heart are worth expressing actually. You know the saying, what you say (with feeling) and what the others understand don’t match. While you are saying something, with underlying feelings, it is being understood in a completely different manner, often, creating distances which were never meant to be. Keep the heart for yourself and “art” for the world.

You have just got to develop the art of saying what people want to hear. Period. It does not matter if you are family, growing up together, or friends/acquaintances. You must know how to use your words clinically so that they cannot be remotely misunderstood! Even as I say this, is that even possible?

We seldom succeed in connecting emotionally. It is mostly about “me” and “I”. And of course, about keeping in touch with people as per our needs. Very few exceptions can be seen.

It boils down to being simple but clever in the ways of the world. Managing/ manipulating or whatever works! But no expectations on anyone really understanding you.

So, better know yourself to see how words affect you and admit that you can also feel the in pact of words, not to mention tone of voice!

Even the voiceless WhatsApp can be lethal because there are only words there! We could be missing someone and saying this may boomerang badly! It may be seen as pushing someone who cannot see the love inherent in the missing. So, you see, sometimes, there is no winning here!

People withdrawing from people for such reasons is rampant! Who has the time today, to listen to heartbeats?

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

We humans are strange! We are quick to acknowledge our good deeds and love praise. But when we are wrong, we shy away from admitting it. And if we do reach that stage, why?

Human tendencies work both ways, for the right and wrong. And so, we have a choice. always. And the only time we should exercise an unpalatable choice, it is for the larger good. Not for self-interest.

It is not difficult to keep away from wrongdoing, something we cannot be proud of! Yet, we keep doing it.

Why does it at all???

Puzzles me! Because it is visible to most! And has consequences too.

Cleaning up our act is the best way to go. This way, you appease your conscience. Nothing else should matter.

Surekha Kothari

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Relationships

When we tie a knot the wrong way, we have actually made just one small mistake in the method. But that one mistake carries out the whole process incorrectly. And to unknot it takes quite a while.

I find relationships start getting complicated also with just that one misunderstanding. And if not immediately sorted out, becomes a complicated entanglement of more misunderstandings, more emotions and more bad blood.

And in such cases, unknotting is not quite that simple! Because humans have their egos, a sense of self-respect etc. so, a straight forward, simple act of wanting to untie the knots is not so simple.

At the end of the day, you have to really know intentions, everyone’s and your own. This is not simple anymore because people are not simple anymore. What you see is Not necessarily what you get.

There is no solution except your own ability to absorb the outcome. // Silence can be one solution but not a practical one. Besides, who says you can’t misread silences? Ensuring that WE act from pure intention is all we can do.

Surekha Kothari

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Creation

The ultimate reality is that all creation is one. All humans are therefore, one.

So, are we always going to be working from our ignorance and separating from each other through what appears to be but is an error of perception at best? And not what IS? Because we never focused on what IS!

We are so superficial that we only judge through our habits and cultural differences! So, wearing a certain garb gives an identity to one but is seen as different from what another wears … and merely on such outward appearances, we distance ourselves.

And religion does a lot of this. Little differences become huge and reasons to actually kill because of a complete intolerance of people who APPEAR different.

I wonder why we cannot focus on the inner similarities and find it in our hearts to love each other! Plenty of similarities….

The colour of blood

The body parts and organs

The mind

An intellect

Memories

Breath

Consciousness

Awareness

… and so much else!

So then, why are we so separatist in our thinking?

And we talk about it ad nauseum

But do nothing about it! Just some topic for conversation? And that’s it?

Why? Because each of us is wanting change outside first. Right?

Surekha Kothari

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Change

I have realized that you can change the responses of others to you without actually trying to do so. How? Simply by being yourself. Instead of changing colors according to what comes your way from people. There is no need to change YOUR energy for anyone.

Think of it this way. You can only project a moving film on a stationery screen. Similarly, people will, sooner or later; be in sync with you at some point because you have not moved from where you were easy to find you.

It’s like the question we ask: which watch is better, the one that stops or that which is slow. The one which has stopped will show you the right time at least once in the day. But the one running slow will never do so.

So, stay steady and the moving will be compelled to meet you.

Surekha Kothari

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Attitude

Someone asked me, why is there so much turbulence in life ? I thought .. hmmm.. Do we call it turbulence due to our responses to the unfolding of our karma ? Our perspective ? I always wonder ! Because i see some people calm in the face of storms while some get blown away.

A matter of attitude ? Maybe, a very strong core , an unshakeable faith in the Divine ? Maybe, an internalisation of the ultimate truth after which life becomes like a child’s play. So easy and so breezy !

… and much turbulence in the absence of some or all of the above ?

In any case, turbulence was never the desired intention ever for anyone. Yet, it was allowed by each one of us … as , who else is within us but we ourselves ?

Surekha Kothari

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Admiration

We were , as children, were brought up on the tonic, “ you do the right thing”. And as everyone knows, reactive is more the mode of humans than responsive and proactive. It was so normal to feel a little resentful about being the “bigger” person . Who wanted to be the bigger person when only injustice was on the mind.

But, today, when I count some traits of maturity, I am afraid, doing the right thing is way up there. I understand that it was primarily this trait that kept families together, for one. And to me, this is very important.

The Red Label Tea ad shot around the” kumbh mela “theme is completely demonstrative of the merits of doing the right thing. Somehow, we lose the battle due to our desires which don’t match what aught to be done. There is no point arguing with people who question the reasons for doing what is in the best interests of all, when only “my” interest is in focus for me. And that interest is not always aligned with the larger interest.

We speak of Buddha with admiration but don’t think ever of trying to emulate …. we never feel qualified and therein lies the problem. We fail to even try.

Surekha Kothari

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Divine energy

Prayer opens up our blockages with the vibrations of the chanting. Repetitions are required to put us into a state almost like hypnosis so that deep cleansing can happen. Karma can be washed away by the tide of feelings that prayer inspires. For a few seconds, we become connected to the Divine energy and the feeling of bliss. It is the most joyous, the most momentous experience.

Surekha Kothari

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Satisfaction

Disappointments are a part of life. Especially when you set your heart on something, strive passionately to achieve your goal and either fail or achieve it only partially, certainly not to your satisfaction.

“Satisfaction” is the key word. At what level is there a feeling of satisfaction? And what gives that satisfaction? Is it personal recognition? Being a celebrity? Having plenty of money and power? Or touching the lives of people? To name just a few, and there are so many more.

Someone gave me a wonderful perspective on why we don’t reach high points of success despite efforts. Or why there would be a break in career patterns, for example.

The soul comes with an agenda which does not necessarily include demands of a worldly ego. So, you are presented with episodes which are there as your lessons for this life. What YOU yourself have chosen to come and learn on this earth. When the soul is satisfied or saturated, it does not need for you to continue the effort towards what was really not meant to last beyond its time. You therefore, drop old activities naturally and new things and new opportunities start to happen to you.

So, disappointments are odious. It is the ego identity which creates a negative impact on a positive outcome. Everything is positive, if you understand the soul as being your core, not the body.

Surekha Kothari

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Contagious

The word “contagious” has been coming to mind often. A smile is obviously contagious. But then, a viral is also contagious. Is contagiousness an automatic response? Someone smiles at you and you automatically smile back.

But sadly, generosity is not. Charity is not. Kindness and compassion are not. Love , the divine energy, is always in short supply.

I would like to say that hatred and envy are not. But when I see the cut throats society today, I can’t help feeling that somewhere, some lethal virals like merciless pursuits of power and money became contagious and brought the ethical and moral values down, thus bringing society down. When we started living for ourselves, we forgot to be connected and so, did not respond to external stimuli. And without that, where is the question of anything being contagious ? We don’t possess the band width for it.

Surekha Kothari

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