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Disappointments are a part of life. Especially when you set your heart on something, strive passionately to achieve your goal and either fail or achieve it only partially, certainly not to your satisfaction.

“Satisfaction” is the key word. At what level is there a feeling of satisfaction? And what gives that satisfaction? Is it personal recognition? Being a celebrity? Having plenty of money and power? Or touching the lives of people? To name just a few, and there are so many more.

Someone gave me a wonderful perspective on why we don’t reach high points of success despite efforts. Or why there would be a break in career patterns, for example.

The soul comes with an agenda which does not necessarily include demands of a worldly ego. So, you are presented with episodes which are there as your lessons for this life. What YOU yourself have chosen to come and learn on this earth. When the soul is satisfied or saturated, it does not need for you to continue the effort towards what was really not meant to last beyond its time. You therefore, drop old activities naturally and new things and new opportunities start to happen to you.

So, disappointments are odious. It is the ego identity which creates a negative impact on a positive outcome. Everything is positive, if you understand the soul as being your core, not the body.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Contagious


The word “contagious” has been coming to mind often. A smile is obviously contagious. But then, a viral is also contagious. Is contagiousness an automatic response? Someone smiles at you and you automatically smile back.

But sadly, generosity is not. Charity is not. Kindness and compassion are not. Love , the divine energy, is always in short supply.

I would like to say that hatred and envy are not. But when I see the cut throats society today, I can’t help feeling that somewhere, some lethal virals like merciless pursuits of power and money became contagious and brought the ethical and moral values down, thus bringing society down. When we started living for ourselves, we forgot to be connected and so, did not respond to external stimuli. And without that, where is the question of anything being contagious ? We don’t possess the band width for it.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I often find people asking that if the world is our mirror and we mirror each other, why is there so much conflict? Because each one would like to feel they are good people. So, why is goodness not mirrored in the opposite person? Good question.

I have seen that when we don’t accept the fact that we attract who we are, we are in trouble with our levels of understanding.

It is simple. If you want to see a clean face in the mirror, you will first have to clean the make up on it. You cannot possibly go into the mirror to cleanse your face, can you? So, for example, if you want to see love shining at you, you must mirror that quality of love within yourself first. How can it be mirrored otherwise?

We always want love, respect from others but when do we succeed in getting it? Only when we are full of love and respect ourselves.

But we do the contrary. We give only what we get. So, if we get hatred, we give it back. Whereas if love ruled us it would be mirrored in others as well.

The problem is, we lack the faith that this can and will happen.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Thoughts


Have we ever thought that our thoughts are linked with our karma? If you notice, when we are weak and family members are negative around, success eludes at the best of times.

For example, a simple case of a child failing in exams! This soul, due to its past karma, takes negative decisions, wastes time and fail. Parents keep thinking that it is the child’s fault and keep saying that the child IS going to fail because of the digression of the child’s mind. This energy becomes the energy in the home and it actually makes the negative happen. So, in the family circle, this child is being sacrificed to negative energy. It is like igniting a fire.

Instead, the circle around the child should surround this child with positive energy and send only good thoughts to the child so that it can reform the thoughts and take the right decisions to channelize its energy towards work and pass the exams.

In any family or group environment, blaming, anger, admonishing a child and diminishing it shows the weakness of the parent, not the child. That it is imperative for the whole circle of people around to fill the environment with positivity to get positive results in good time.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ….a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while…it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Energy flow


People you love pass away from this world as all of us must when the time comes. When people tell you to keep the GOOD memories, I know what they mean. The more hurtful memories we store, the more we harm ourselves. That is not wise. 

Besides, everyone does have a good side, even if you have amplified the dark side in your mind. So, if there are no positive memories you have with a particular person; let even the negative memories go…the past does not return unless you give it space in your mind.

Let the energy flow and never allow yourself to be dragged into any situation unless you have transcended your earlier colored perceptions. 

People change. Situations change. But we hold on to meaningless but harmful memories.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Living with individual consciousness is never enough. We have to learn to live in a collective consciousness too….as parts of a family, society and country. In fact, these are times for being International. The world has shrunk and we need to expand.

There is a fine balance that we struggle to achieve. Some don’t even try. The fact is, we are a sum total of so many unhealed memories that unless we cleanse them, we are not moving forward anytime soon into a significant spiritual space.

So, though we can have affluence, power and control over humans in our physical reality, we still remain insecure and lacking in totality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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